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WHY YOULL NEVER GET WHAT YOU WANT

UNLESS YOU DO THIS

Sounds harsh? Maybe. But it is the truth.

It doesnt matter what you want. Whether you want to be more confident, make
more money, get the body of your dreams, meet the love of your life
There is a common denominator you will need to master if you really want to
succeed.

Because in order to change your life, you must change your mind first.

If you are not happy with any aspect of your life right now, its because of things
that you have or havent been doing.
Are you interested in having the quality of your life be better?
Then you have to realize that doing the same thing over and over again and
thinking the same way you have been thinking will only get you more of what
you already have.
Every day I listen to my clients say things like this fear has completely taken over
me, or the voices in my head just wont stop or my fear is holding me back

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People talk about their thoughts like they are living things. Even though often
they dont make any sense at all, people take these thoughts as the truth, and
believe them.
You have to be careful about what you believe!
Your beliefs about yourself and about the world will determine your
behavior in life, which in turn will determine the results you get.
See, we always tend to look for evidence to prove what we believe in.
A person who believes in fairies will swear to you he/she sees and speaks to
them.
Someone who believes they are ugly will go to great lengths to convince you of
what they believe, whether this is true or not.
There are people out there who submit themselves to multiple life threatening
plastic surgeries because of this.
Do you know anyone who thinks they are fat, even though they may be of
average size, or even slim? They look in the mirror and they see fat, they will
point out to you fat areas that dont exist.
Many people will be forever miserable because of the limiting beliefs they
choose to hold on to.
These limiting beliefs drain your body and your mind off precious energy.
Energy you are going to need to get what you want!

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The thing is, if we are going to make up stuff

about ourselves, and if we are going to direct
crazy movies in our heads
Wouldnt it be a better idea to cast ourselves as
the heroes of an absolutely amazing movie in
which a bunch of wonderful things happen to
us?
After all, weve all daydreamed about being a
hero or heroine (not the drug!) at some stage
in our lives, right?
Since you are the main character in the movie of your life, what kind of
character do you want to play?

You have to begin to understand that your mind does not rule you.
YOU rule your mind, and your thoughts.
There is no one and nothing in your mind, except the thoughts that you allow
yourself to think and believe.
It is time you begin to discover the secrets to using your brain in a more useful
and effective way that is going to work for you. Not against you.
But how can you do this?

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As I tell all my clients, you have to change your internal dialogue.

Your internal dialogue is the conversation you have with yourself about things.
It is either supporting you, and making you feel great, or it is making you feel
like crap.
Either way, its a conversation YOU allow yourself to have.
So, if you are really interested in enhancing the quality of your life, it is up you
to make sure you tell yourself nice things that make you feel great for as long as
possible.
A friend of mine once told me every morning he looks in the mirror and tells
himself Look at you, you look amazing today! Wow, you are the man! Go have
yourself a brilliant day now!
You might be thinking what a weirdo! but, you must admit, what a great way to
start the day, hey?
What will happen when you start to talk yourself up from now on, in a way that
makes you feel good about yourself, more confident and happier?
All you need to do is stop the crappy dialogue and substitute it for a brilliant
one.
How do you stop the crappy dialogue?
You simply tell yourself to SHUT THE F**K UP!

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Yes, really. And please, please, dont get offended my language. Words are just
things we humans made up and use to communicate effectively.
If you tell yourself to shut up and it works for you, then by all means go tell
yourself that.
For me, and for most people I coach, shut up simply doesnt have the powerful
effect that shut the fuck up has.
And, if you choose to get offended by two little words, then what else do you
allow yourself to get offended by?
NLP is about freedom. If you really want to be happy, avoid letting words enslave
you. Instead, you can use them to enhance your life.
I am telling you. It really needs to be a strong command like this so it has the
necessary powerful effect.
You tell yourself to Shut The F**k Up, as loud and as many times as you have to,
until you do just that.
Be careful, if there are people around, I suggest you keep quiet and say it
internally!
So, the next time you catch yourself thinking crappy thoughts, what are you
going to do?

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Once you have stopped the crappy dialogue, you must start a new more useful
dialogue straight away.
For example, some of my clients say things like I am not confident enough.
So I get them to turn this into more useful questions such as: how would I look,
talk, dress, move and feel like at my most confident? , or what can I do that will
make me come across to people as confident?, or what do I need to learn so I can
be more confident?.
By answering these questions they are creating the possibility for change.
This is no airy-fairy stuff. This is not about forcing yourself to think positive
thoughts that you dont believe. This is about thinking in a more useful way.

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Thinking more usefully will make you feel better and behave differently, and
therefore you will get different results. Better results.
A client of mine hated her job. She told me she had hated it for years but had
never done anything about it. She had been trying to be positive by telling
herself that she was lucky to have a job and that she was financially ok and that
that should be enough.
But at the same time she often cried when she got home from work. She had
been lying to herself for a long time and that had made her very unhappy.
So, I got her to start asking some useful questions:
What type of job would I really enjoy?
What do I have to do in order to get a job like that?
What skills/ people/ things do I need in order for me to be able to get this job?
By asking more useful questions, a mindset shift occurred, and suddenly she was
motivated to take action for the first time in years!

Owen Fitzpatrick, co-founder of The Irish Institute of NLP and personal mentor
says:
You are not what you do. You are everything you can become at your very
best

In the past you did what you could with what you had. But your past does not
have to equal your future. You can change, and you can do this quickly and more
easily than you once may have thought.

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There is a misconception that change takes hard work and a long time. I agree
with the hard work bit, but I believe that change can be attained fairly quickly.
Because once you are in the right frame of mind, amazing things start to
happen

Cyclist Lance Armstrongs career was slowed down to a halt very early on due to
cancer. After recovering from the disease, he went on to win Le Tour De France
not just one but a whooping 7 times.
After a humble childhood in Mississippi and a troubled adolescence when she was
sexually abused, Oprah Winfrey went onto work in radio and television. Now,
famous for The Oprah Winfrey Show, she is one of the richest and most powerful
women in the world.
Richard Branson, a famous dyslexic school dropout, started as a mail order record
retailer. Now, he is owner of The Virgin Group, with more than 200 companies in
leisure, travel, mobile, TV in over 30 countries.

The main difference between these people and you is not genetics, or
intelligence, or opportunities, or money. It is their mindset.
Want a closer to home example?
I spent my childhood in quite a negative home environment. Even though I was
an A student, I was regularly told I was good for nothing and that I was stupid. I
must have believed it cause even though I studied five languages at college, I
dropped out just before my final exams.

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I thought, whats the point, I am good for nothing anyway.

My boyfriend at the time psychologically abused me and I felt that the only thing
I had control over in my life was what I put in my mouth. I decided to stop
eating.
At one point I was so exhausted mentally and physically. The internal fight in
my mind between what I thought I could do and what I was being told I couldnt
do was killing me, literally.
One night, I couldnt sleep. My heart was beating really fast and strong. I was
very thin and it felt like it was going to jump out of my body. I got scared. For a
moment I thought I was going to die that night.
I told myself: What am I doing??? This is ridiculous!
By morning, I had made up my mind.
At twenty two years of age, I left my family, my boyfriend and Spain to come to
Ireland on my own, with three hundred euro in my pocket.
I spent most of my twenties jumping from job to job, and relationship to
relationship, not giving anyone enough time to realize that I was not good
enough
Until a weekend course with the Irish Institute of NLP made me realize I had to
take responsibility for myself and my life.
I learned to reprogram my mind so I could become the person I wanted to be.

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Now, over 12 years later, I work doing something I absolutely love and I know I
am good at. I am super healthy, happily married and working hard at getting
what I want in life.

Have you heard of self fulfilling prophecies?

One client of mine was overweight. He told
me he wanted to be healthy and slim.
He had been constantly fighting against his
weight but nothing ever changed much. He
thought of food as his enemy and exercise
as a struggle. He told me he tried every trick
in the book and nothing worked.
In reality, he had given up too soon, before
results started to show, just to make sure he
stayed fat a little longer
Sometimes he succeeded at slimming down for a while, only to put all the weight
and some more back on.
He had been unconsciously sabotaging himself.
This happened because deep inside he believed he was a fat person. He had
never been able to imagine himself or think of himself as a healthy and slim
person.

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The thing is, when you are able to vividly see yourself as a healthy and slim
person, do what you do as a healthy and slim person, hear what you hear, and
feel the feelings true health now, energy, flexibility and lightness, and allow
yourself to notice your posture, the way you move, the expression in your face,
the light in your eyes
It is much easier to start to make the right choices for yourself now.
When I went through the right nlp techniques with this client, his beliefs
changed in an instant, and so, results started to happen, as if by a miracle.
Today, he is healthier and slimmer than ever. And he is delighted with himself!

Unless you change the limiting beliefs that are holding you back, things will
most likely stay the same for you.
Because what you have to do in order to get what you want, will clash with the
type of person you believe yourself to be.
This is why it is extremely important you start to believe, not only that you can
change, but that you already are the type of person you want to be.

When this shift has occurred, you will start to behave differently more naturally.
And the more you keep up the new behavior, the more strongly you will feel
about your beliefs.
You have created a new loop of beliefs, feelings, and actions, necessary for your
success.

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NLP coaching, can help you discover the mind skills necessary for you to be able
to do this, and anything else you need, so you can create the type of life you want
and deserve.
You can get rid of old beliefs and substitute them for new more useful ones.
You can find out how to get more motivated, if that is what you want, or more
focused, or more determined or whatever state of mind is most useful for you
to be in, so the process of getting what you want will be greatly accelerated.

When you discover these mind strategies, and put them into practice, you can
get what you want, in record time!

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please tell others who you think may benefit too.

Best thoughts and talk to you soon!

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