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5. Use silence appropriately. Conversations that don't use silence are hard work, and
endless drivel is not always the best response. For example, some things are so subtle or
important or shocking that the most appropriate response can only be an appreciative or
understanding silence. Silence also shows acceptance and creates intimacy. As the writer
Aldous Huxley once put it, 'After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the
inexpressible is music'.
The 5 rules of good talking
1. Convey messages in a clear and effective manner. This should go without saying. If you
are going to say anything at all, then it should be as clear and as concise as possible. If
people get the feeling that you or your message are confused or that you are just using
small talk to fill up time and/or embarrassment, they may switch off. They may also label
you as a time-waster and shun your company. The key here is to make sure that you've
actually got something to say before you open your mouth. If not, just make jokes or, if
British, speak in irony.
2. Use clear and unambiguous language. Avoid long, complex, or jargon-filled sentences,
and keep your message as clear, simple, and to the point as possible. For example, empty
expressions such as 'best practice', 'core competencies', 'evidence-based', and 'moving
forward' are as pretentious as they are annoying, and almost designed to make you
appear like a soulless corporate monkey.
3. Use non-verbal methods of communication. Think laterally. Think creatively. Support
and enhance your message with non-verbal tools such as a diagram, prop, powerpoint
presentation, or video. It is far more effective to pass a message through several media, in
this case sight as well as hearing.
4. Use repetition. If provided with a list, people best remember the first item (primacy
effect) and the last item (recency effect) on the list. Therefore, if something is particularly
important, say it twice: once at the beginning and once at the end. If a concept is
particularly difficult or unwelcome, it may be worth building up to it over a period of time,
and then to repeat it until it has been both understood andcruciallyaccepted.
5. Check understanding.
Yes, again. After going through a complex or difficult concept, make sure that the concept
has been understood before you move on or leave. By getting your interlocutor(s) to
grapple with the concept and translate it into their own words, you are not only checking
understanding but also reinforcing learning and memorization.