Pharom House: Guys Education

Lesson Objectives
Target Audience: Teenagers aged 18-20+
Pharom House Education, as it has been so called, focuses on educating the youth and
challenging their own perspectives on the topics of love and responsibility. As the topics
that are intended to be discussed are very sensitive, two important considerations must be
made: 1) The disabilities that many of the boys have, and 2) The starkly different
perspectives that Cambodia have on these topics. As such, students have to be mindful of
these special circumstances when they engage the Cambodians on the topics.
The lesson objectives at the end of this phase of the discussion comprises:

Leaving the Cambodian teenagers with a challenged mindset about sexuality and
moral responsibility
Approaching their perspectives and concepts of love (loving others and being loved)
Providing and highlighting the differences in perspectives of girls and guys
Bringing awareness about the consequences of their actions
STDs
Psychological consequences
Emotional consequences
Broaching the subject of having urges and controlling them

Lesson Outline
Previous Activity: Who do I love? Group Activity
Possible Scenarios
1)
2)
3)
4)
5)

Family misses him, no money, only one in the city

Loves his friends, have fun together, plays games together
Mother, do not spend much time with her, father left them
Younger brother, spend his entire life with brother, weird without brother
Parents, help them in the field

Considerations
1) The varied meaning of the word love
2) Should we have girls and boys together?

Time

Activity
Description

5 min

10 min

Content

Prompting
Questions

Considerations

The discussion
Bringing the
should begin with a
activity into
preliminary followfocus
up to the activity
Highlighting the
fact that they are
part of this loving
relationship
Two important
considerations:
Be aware of the
other parties in
this
relationship
Feel the love
they encounter
in their lives

Do you agree with

the activity?
What is your
favourite sharing?
Do you have a
girlfriend?
Personal Sharing

Have directed
questions
Do you have a
girlfriend? -> how
did you meet her? > what do you like
about her? -> why?

The concepts of
love (loving others
and being loved)
will be started to be
discussed

What does love

mean?
What does loving
someone mean?
What does being
loved mean?
Personal Sharing

Have directed
questions again:
Do you think love
is a feeling?
What do you do for
your friends?

Open-ended
discussion
Possible areas of
discussion:
1. Love being a
feeling
2. Love being
actions
3. Love being sex
4. Feeling hurt
5. Feeling good

If stuck: bring up
what their
parents do for
them/your own
family dynamics
What is love?
(Possible answers)
1) Expensive
things?
2) Kissing/holding
hands
3) Mother making
breakfast
4) Willing to do
anything
5) Spending time
together

5 min

Highlighting the
different
perspectives (guys
vs. girls)

Bottom line:
Guys - physically
gratification

Girls - emotional
satisfaction

What do you think

girls feel after sex?
What do you feel
like after sex?

Change
perspectives
Ask them directly:
what do you think
they feel?

Time

Activity
Description

Content

Prompting
Questions

7 min

Raising awareness
about the various
consequences

STDs

What can you do

about these
consequences?
Are you willing to
do something
about these
consequences?

HIV/AIDS
Chlamydia
Gonorrhoea
Syphillis

Consequences as a
direct result of the
different
perspectives (guys
vs. girls)
Emotional
struggles
5 min

Dealing with urges

Troubleshooting/Potential Problems
Unresponsiveness
Unable to understand
Awkwardness

What do you feel?

Personal Sharing

Considerations