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The Positive and Negative Effects of An Early Marriage Vs

Marriage in Old Age


Let's define our terms first: I consider an early marriage one that takes
place when both partners are under 30 years old and over 18 years old. And I
consider an old marriage one that takes place when both partners are over
30 years old. Let me further describe a successful marriage as one in which
each partner feels that the other party helps fulfill their life goals. This is of
course a vague description but it describes best what I consider an important
ingrediant to a successful marriage: achieving our life goals. Of course this is
an arbitrary classification by age and life goals. I will admit that there are
many young people in an early marriage, who because of their life
experience are engaged in a successful marriage.
But in an early marriage, partners very often have not clarified their
life goals. There is an advantage and disadvantage to all that. Very often it
will be possible to formulate your life goal in an early marriage and have
your partner participate in reaching them. This is the positive side. But never
forget that in an early marriage, when one partner's life goals contradict
those of the partner, the marriage can quickly fall apart.
Marriage is a moral safeguard as well as a social building block that
covenant between two individuals, man and woman. Through marriage,
families are established and the family is considered to be the fundamental
unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only valid or lawful way to
indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman. Human heart is not a
static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can
change with time and love may wither and fade away. The marital bond
might weaken if not properly cared for. So, happiness in marriage cannot be
taken for granted, it must be continuous happiness that will requires
constant giving from both sides. Therefore, to protect our heart from doing
forbidden things such as fornication, it is better for teenagers especially
students to marriage at the early age.
People say that a marriage is a complete life of a person. A marriage
would be the happiest moment of ones life as after lots of turbulence, both
of the couples finally tie knot. Some also say that one plus one is equals to a
family. This eventually is true because it will expand the number of family
members. From a different point of view, there are positive and negative
effects of an early marriage. The high divorce rate is one of the effects.
Couples getting married tend to end their relationships earlier. The low

maturity level of a person accounts to the divorce rate. A quarrel between


the couple may end up when one suddenly suggested to divorce. Couples
might also have financial problems if they get married early. Children can be
a burden to the couple as bringing up a child is costly. Moreover, lack of time
management between the husband and wife on who to take care of the kids
would result in divorce. Couples who concentrate more on their career tends
to neglect children that may result in a broken family.
Early marriage also forced a person to be responsible. A person who is
fresh graduate and just started their life in the working society is more
responsible towards their family once they got married. He/she would also
take care of a family more and be more caring towards their family. A family
man would eventually have a good time management on the time spent at
workplace and at home. They could also manage their work pressure better.
For example, they would not bring incomplete work back to home. Couples
will also tend to put aside their work pressure in order to give a warm family
condition

to

kids.

In conclusion, there are positive and negative effects of an early marriage. It


could bring us happiness and also bitterness to a family. Therefore, it is how
we look into the matter of an early marriage.
Interestingly, marriage in old age, though understudied, appears to be
quite different from the stereotypes noted above and more closely resembles
the image conveyed in the Browning quotation that opens this chapter. On
average, older couples are happier than younger couples. Even selfdescribed unhappily married older couples state they are happier than they
were when they were younger. Older married couples say that they argue
less and have fewer marital conflicts than their younger counterparts. Older
married couples also take more pleasure in many areas of married life, citing
adult children, conversation, and recreational activities as distinct sources of
happiness. Old married couples do report that erotic bonds are less central in
their lives; friendship instead appears to be the cardinal feature of their lives.
Gendered roles subside