Tips:

Welcome everyone.
Explain what is a Victory Group.
Introduce the new comers
Warm-Up: (choose one )
1. What good examples have you seen from your parents marriage?
2. Describe your father as a leader in your family and how does your mother support that leadership?
WORD:
Ephesians. 5:21-24
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the
wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should
submit to their husbands in everything. (As long as it is not contrary to Gods Word)
Mutual submission is the foundation of Marriage.
It means you will leave your life for others and that other is your spouse.
Marriages go down on a spiral when the husband
and the wife fail to assume their God given roles.
Common joke. Though the husband is the head but the wife is the neck that turns the head?
Wives live trustfully with the husband. Husbands should protect that trust and takes care of the wife as the head takes care of the body.
Ill: Insect bite? Head receives the stimuli and sends response signal to the body. Body scratches the itch. The Head is responsible for
the welfare of the body.
Sick body? Fever? Head feels warm. Doesnt ignore the body.
Wives should submit to their husbands because they are their head.
Husbands should love their wives because they are one.
Ephesians 5:28-29
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever
hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church
Ill: Hammer and finger. Will you try to hit your finger with this hammer?
HUSBAND AS A LEADER
Husbands as loving leaders should strengthen the following areas:
Partner - leading my wife by earning her trust
Provider - leading my wife by being sensitive to her needs
Protector - leading my wife by defending her and shielding her from danger and providing a safe and secure environment for her,
allowing failures and mistakes.
WIVES AS A SUPPORTIVE HELPMATE
Wives as a supportive and submissive helpmate yield to their husbands in the following areas
Decision-making - developing a plan together (not using bad decisions as a weapon. Trust!)
Peace-making - resolving conflicts together ( not using offense as a weapon. Forgive! )
Love-making - building intimacy together. Sex is a gift and is essential to build intimacy. Do not use sex as a weapon in times of conflict
(Outside de kulambo?)
MARRIAGE IS AT ITS BEST WHEN THE HUSBAND
LOVINGLY LEADS AND THE WIFE HUMBLY SUBMITS.
APPLICATION:
(Separate the wives from the husbands)
Application question for the husbands:
What did you learn? In what area of leadership do yoou need to improve on?
Application question for the wives:
What did you learn? In what area of submission do you need to improve on?
Prayer:
Find a partner and pray that you will grow in your God given role in your marriage.
Pray for your top on the list prayer request.
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