April 23rd - Heart Shaped Box On Google

Copy and paste the following into google:

5 + (-sqrt(1-x^2-(y-abs(x))^2))*sin(100*((10-x^2-(y-abs(x))^2))), x is from -1 to 1, y is from -1
to 1.5, z is from 1 to 6

The great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
Walter Bagehot
Only those who attempt the absurd will achieve the impossible.
M. C. Escher
It's kind of fun to do the impossible.
Walt Disney
Over the years, I have learned that every significant invention has several characteristics. By definition it
must be startling, unexpected, and must come into a world that is not prepared for it. If the world were
prepared for it, it would not be much of an invention.
A Talk with Polaroid's Dr. Edwin Land
Most large industrial concerns are limited by policy to special directions of expansion within the wellestablished field of the company. On the other hand, most small companies do not have the resources or

the facilities to support "scientific prospecting." Thus the young man leaving the university with a proposal
for a new kind of activity is frequently not able to find a matrix for the development of his ideas in any
established industrial organization.
Dr. Edwin Land
So-called 'peer-review' is an oxymoron: if an idea is actually new, then the existence of peers is
obviously impossible, which is why almost all of the truly valuable ideas and inventions have come from
people who were totally outside the scientific community, people like Edison, Tesla, the Wright Brothers
and a long list of others.
Arthur Jones
If you can't be unconventional, be obtuse. Be deliberately obtuse, because there are 5 billion people out
there thinking in train tracks, and thinking what they have been taught to think.
James Dyson
I employ brilliant young graduates with no experience at all. I want free-thinkers who can take the
company forward, and have revolutionary ideas.
James Dyson
The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than
those who think differently.
Friedrich Nietzsche
The thing about smart people is that they seem like crazy people to dumb people.
Anonymous

When I asked Tom if he had any advice against becoming complacent, he responded,
Well, you heard what the man (M. Morse) said, dont go to jail. It is not a fun place
I dont want to live a career in fear and anxiety about going to jail. Neither do I want to become
complacent, prideful, arrogant, incompetent, or outright nasty. How does one deal? Where is the line?

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn
Nobel & Pulitzer Prize Winner, Spent 8 Yrs in USSR Gulag
And how we burned in the camps later, thinking: What would things have been like if every Security
operative, when he went out at night to make an arrest, had been uncertain whether he would return
alive and had to say good-bye to his family?
Or if, during periods of mass arrests, as for example in Leningrad, when they arrested a quarter of the
entire city, people had not simply sat there in their lairs, paling with terror at every bang of the
downstairs door and at every step on the staircase, but had understood they had nothing left to lose
and had boldly set up in the downstairs hall an ambush of half a dozen people with axes, hammers,
pokers, or whatever else was at hand?...
The Organs would very quickly have suffered a shortage of officers and transport and, notwithstanding
all of Stalin's thirst, the cursed machine would have ground to a halt!
If...if...We didn't love freedom enough. And even more we had no awareness of the real situation....
We purely and simply deserved everything that happened afterward.

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The Dalai Lama's 18 Rules For Living

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
2. When you lose, dont lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: -Respect for self -Respect for others -Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Dont let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realize you have made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but dont let go of your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, youll be able to enjoy it a
second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Dont bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. Its a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you have never been before.
17. Remember that the best
relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

I've done expert many times and demo is one of my best mvm classes so here's what I know to be true.
Everything here is knowledge from and for expert.
The best loadout:
Booties/bootlegger
Stock sticky
Eyelander
You should only use the sticky, so why not get an extra 25 health from the booties?
I've only seen 1 person, an mvm friend of mine who likes the scottish, come close to a merely good
sticky demo. He doesn't even compare to a great one. The SR's only advantage is prewave, after that its
slow bomb arm time is a hindrance. Think of it this way: while you're setting sticky traps way ahead of
the bots, I've already used my stock sticky to toss out and detonate just as many if not more stickies. If
you should die or the bots change path, you've done no damage.
The eyelander is for more advanced demos, so play using the bottle for awhile until you get the general

hang of demo first. no put upgrades into it, though once you've gotten a lot better putting crit on kill
then switching to stickies can be fun.

General upgrade path for decoy and coal:

Always start with 1 point into firing speed and 1 point into health on kill. Wave 2 max your reload speed.
Wave 3 put 2 points into firing speed, and damage is a good choice.
By the end my demo is similar to how I upgrade on mannworks, except I've got 3-4 points into damage
by the last wave. I also never buy blast resist here, but 1-2 points of bullet resist on decoy, and 2 points
on coal.
On decoy it's the demo's job to kill the snipers, but so few have the skill to do it.
General upgrade path for mannworks:
You should probably go no upgrade heavy for the first wave due to lack of damage on all the tough
enemies. Next wave mimic what you do on wave 2 in coal//decoy, and spend the remaining 250 on
ammo capacity assuming you got A+. If no A+ I would actually recommend forgoing the 1 point into
firing speed so you can get ammo capacity. Wave 3 get at least 3 points into firing speed, and the rest
into move speed. Wave 4 I've got clip capacity, max firing speed if not already, and another point into
ammo capacity. Wave 5 I've got max move speed, 1 point into blast resist if we've had several A+'s, 3 crit
canteens, and I save the rest for more canteens.
No I don't buy damage on mannworks because you get so little money, and in my testing the other
upgrades you can get with the money saved are much more useful.
1. Tell us a little bit about yourselves!

2. What inspired you guys to start this venture?

3. Could you describe the house music scene in the PNW at current?

4. Where do you see Build It records contributing to the aforementioned scene?

5. What exciting new things shall we expect to see from Build It in the near future? :D

Short and sweet guys! Im flexible on questions. Feel free to write in any manner of questions and
answers you want. Pretty much we want to give you guys a great start PR and footing in the music
media world. Ill work closely with you to make sure its the image and vibe you want to convey. Our
audience loves real, honest people doing selfless work. Those themes resonate a lot with our readers.
Glen Sears
29 mins

I'd like to tell you a story, Team. It's a story about our future and Greek mythology.
Zeus had many children, and each of them was the personification of a philosophical concept. His
final child, Caerus, was the personification of opportunity, luck and favorable moments. He was
always depicted with one lock of hair on the front of his face. He could be seized by it as he
approached, but once he was passed there was no seizing him as he was bald - the neglected
moment, his passage, was lost.
Caerus (k-ehr-US) is a due measure that achieves an aim. He was a young and beautiful god, as
opportunity never ages and agelessness is beautiful. He represented the beautiful moments when
favorable circumstances were seized and effort was rewarded by opportunity.
Caerus, fittingly, will be the codename for our new website and the subdomain address
(caerus.dancemusicnw.com). We're at a crucial moment in time, and we'll be seizing our opportunity
to claim our throne together once and for all. Because of the tireless efforts of all of you and the
beautifully opportune circumstances of our moment - this is our time now.
Everyone will be able to watch the progress unfold at that address, and share in this story. I will likely
vanish for periods of time, but I want to be less Man Behind The Curtain and more visible this
development cycle. I'll need all your help to fill in the spaces when I do vanish, and I'm looking
forward to each of you being a part of this with us. Consider us officially on the path to 3.0!

lazy
[ley-zee] Show IPA
adjective, lazier, laziest.

1.
averse or disinclined to work, activity, or exertion; indolent.
2.
causing idleness or indolence: a hot, lazy afternoon.
3.
slow-moving; sluggish: a lazy stream.
4.
(of a livestock brand) placed on its side instead of upright.
verb (used without object), lazied, lazying.

5.
to laze.

Want Success? Surround

Yourself With People Who
Challenge Your Thinking
BY KEVIN DAUM @AWESOMEROAR

Are you feeling uninspired and stuck? Perhaps it's the people
around you. Here are five ways to get people to challenge and
inspire you to success.
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It's nice to have people around who support you and are of like mind. Agreeable people boost your
confidence and allow a certain level of relaxation. Most of us develop a stable of people with

whom we like to work. We know their styles, and they know ours. It's comfortable and expedient.
It is easy to find a rhythm, and it works. Unfortunately, that level of comfort can stall the very
learning and innovation that can expand your company and your career.
It's nice to have people agree, but you need healthy conflict and differing perspectives to dig out
the truth from a group-think and ideation. If everyone in the group has a similar point of view, your
work will suffer from confirmation bias, rarely breaking boundaries and creating often unnecessary
failure.
Take a look at your own network. Are your contacts the same ones you've had for years? Are they
all in the same industry? Do they share your point of view on most subjects? It's time to shake
things up and get uncomfortable. As a leader, it can be challenging to create an environment in
which people will freely dissent and argue, but as my good friend and colleague Amilya
Antonetti says: "From confrontation comes brilliance."
Here are five tips for engaging people who will expand your perspective and increase your success.
1. Identify where you are stale. Actively seeking conflict is not an easy thing for most people.
Many spend their lives trying to avoid arguments and heightened discourse. There's no need to go
out and find people you hate, but you need to do some self-assessment to determine where you
have become stale in your thinking and approach. You may need to start by encouraging your
current network to help you identify your blind spots. Additionally, make a list of the five people
who have made you most uncomfortable in your life and list the reasons why. Then use the list to
create a picture of the ideal opponent for your way of thinking.
2. Go where the battles are. As people get more confident in their abilities, they often create
habits that limit the way they source ideas and information. Fox News and MSNBC bank on this
philosophy. Seek out social networks and groups that are outside your normal way of thinking. Use
LinkedIn groups to find diverse perspectives. Pursue the writers of posts that make you react
strongly. Find the people who make you uncomfortable and invite them into your conversation.
3. Engage in friendly debate. Passionate, energetic debate does not require anger and hard
feelings to be effective. But it does require strength and assertion. Once you have worthy
opponents, set some ground rules so everyone understands responsibilities and boundaries.
Establish structure to your discourse so people can feel safe. If people are worried about negative
repercussions, they will hold back or, worse, disengage completely, and then you'll be back to the
same stale environment. Remember, the objective of this game of debate is not to win but to get to
the truth that will allow you to move faster, farther, and better. When that happens, everyone wins.
4. Check in regularly. Fierce debating can get emotionally brutal, particularly when strong
personalities are involved. It doesn't take insults and name calling to make people feel small and

upset. Make sure you check in with your adversarial colleagues to make sure they are not carrying
the emotion of the battles beyond the battlefield. Break the tension with smiles and humor to
reinforce that this is friendly discourse and that all are working toward communal success. A good
way to reinforce the objectivity is to actually switch sides in the debate. It's hard to take it
personally when you can argue on behalf of your opponent.
5. Share rewards and gratitude. The purpose of all this hot and stressful discourse is to achieve
success for everyone. Make sure that all that are involved in the debate are amply rewarded when
the goals are reached. Let your sparring partners know how much you appreciate them for being
fierce and vulnerable. The more appreciated you make them feel, the more they'll be willing to get
into the ring next time.
April 23rd - Heart Shaped Box On Google

Copy and paste the following into google:

5 + (-sqrt(1-x^2-(y-abs(x))^2))*sin(100*((10-x^2-(y-abs(x))^2))), x is from -1 to 1, y is from -1
to 1.5, z is from 1 to 6

April 25th 2014 - A show of support and an opinion are not the same
Glen had us vote on a new series of Dance Music NW logos. I gave him my opinion on the better of the
two. It was the second one, and coincidently the one less preferred. He reminded me about it on open
forum I responded with an Inc. article on Success? Be with those who challenged your thinking or
whatnot.
It was not right for me to do that. Sharing ones opinion should be an intimate thing- that what do you
think post was in the collective- outside Glen and Is circle within the network. I should have counseled
with him, and perhaps taken more time to really look the two over. In the end, the double green
beginning was bleh. The colours stand out that much more when it goes from darker to lighter. All those
people are creative geniuses. I have a lot to learn.
MAY 7

If You Do This, Your Emails Might Be Rude

Written by Adam Grant
When we walk up to introduce ourselves to strangers, we intuitively follow basic cultural
rules of politeness. Dont launch into a monologue about yourself. Dont look over their
shoulder to see if someone more important is nearby. Dont invade personal space, or youll
be branded as a close talker.
On email, though, its the Wild West. The internet and social media have made it effortless to contact
strangers: even many influential people are just a click away. When I speak with influencers, they are
often shocked by the everyday rudeness in emails from strangers. What does it take to avoid
alienating the very people with whom were hoping to connect? Here are nine rules for polite email
outreach:
Dont ask strangers to
1. Acknowledge that they received your email
Electronic return receipts are a thing of the past, and I know many people who interpret
them as a sign that you (a) are paranoid, (b) have an inflated sense of your own worth, or
(c) have just emerged from a 20-year coma and are unaware of mailer-daemons and
delivery status notifications. If your message goes unanswered, you can always resend it a
couple weeks later.
2. Share your content on social media
What if they dont like your material? An explicit request to circulate puts people in an
awkward position: they can say no and look rude, or drop the ball and look disorganized. Its
more polite to just send them your content along with a sentence about why its up their
alley, and end it there. If they like it enough, theyll share itand theyll do it more
enthusiastically, because its based on intrinsic motivation rather than obligation.
3. Provide feedback on something youve created
If youre seeking input on a product, service, technology, document, or idea, its an awful lot
to ask a stranger to engage with your work and comment on it. Whereas feedback requires
a lot of effort, advice can be much less time-consuming. Try asking for guidance on a
specific question or dilemma that youre facing, and youll be more likely to get a response.
4. Jump on a call today or tomorrow
If youre asking the favor, the onus is on you to be flexible. Ask if they might be willing to talk
sometime in the next month or two, and let them suggest some times.
5. Name some times for a meeting

Its a red flag when people feel entitled to a face-to-face conversation. A friendlier option is
to ask strangers if theyre willing to meet, or if theres a more convenient way for them to
communicate with you.
6. Introduce you to specific people in their networks
Its not fair to ask people to put their relationships on the line for someone they dont know.
Instead, ask if they know anyone who might be a good source of insight on a particular
topic, and they may suggest a person who they feel comfortable connecting.
After strangers respond to your initial message, dont
7. Email them every dayor even every week
Stalker alert! People sometimes interpret a polite reply from a stranger as an offering of
friendship. If youre tempted to reach out too regularly, try saving your points in a draft
email, and then prune at the end of the month. Intermittent reinforcement can be a powerful
thing.
8. Immediately introduce them to someone else
This can come across as using your newfound access to gain status or influence with the
third party. The safe bet here is to simply ask for permission first: I thought you two might
enjoy a chat for the following reason. Are you interested in connecting?"
9. Invite them to collaborate
You just proposed marriage on the second date. Try having a dialogue first, and explore
whether working together might prove mutually beneficial.
All I Ask Of You
Thanks for reading this postI just have a few requests. Will you please like it so I know you read it,
and share it on all of your social media platforms? I await your comments on the best parts of this
post and how I could have improved it; lets discuss by phone today.
Ill drop by your office Monday for lunch. That will be the perfect time for you to introduce me to
your bosss boss.
To firm up the plans, Ill check in with you again tomorrow. In the meantime, Ive sent an email
introducing you to my dentist. He's great, and I know youll be very interested in his work, so I gave
him your cellphone number. Oh, and we should totally write togetheryoull learn a lot from me.
Finally, please rate my wife on www.hotornot.com.
***
Adam is a Wharton professor and the author of Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our
Success. His Twitter handle is @AdamMGrant, his free newsletter is atwww.giveandtake.com,
and his dentist is Michael Smith, DDS.

23 Things Great Leaders

Always Do
BY BILL MURPHY JR. @BILLMURPHYJR

In honor of the Army's 239th birthday, here are some of

the top leadership lessons I learned from serving in and
reporting on the United States Army.
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No organization talks more about leadership and trying to teach its people to become excellent
leaders than the U.S. Army. Having both served in the Army and reported on it, I've known
more military leaders than I could possibly count. Most were admirable professionals. Some,
unfortunately, didn't live up to the standards we have a right to expect. However, there were quite a

few others who were truly amazing. These are the leaders who pass what I call the kid brother
test: If your kid brother or sister had to go to war, you'd feel a little better knowing that these were
the people in charge. In honor of the Army Birthday--the 239th anniversary of the date on
which the Continental Congress first authorized the recruitment of troops--here are 23 things great
leaders always do (most of which are taught in the U.S. Army).
1. Identify objectives
Rule No. 1 in leadership is to settle on a worthy goal. Nothing is more disheartening than doing
hard, dirty, dangerous work in support of fuzzy objectives that nobody can even articulate. In the
military, leaders don't always get to choose their objectives, but they should advocate vehemently
for objectives that are worth their soldiers' efforts and risks.
2. Gather intelligence
Most military units have a person or a unit in charge of collecting and collating intelligence. In
business, we might think of this as market research and competitive analysis; in athletics, we might
think of scouting the competition. Regardless, a great leader works to find out what challenges his
or her people will face before sending them into action.
3. Plan a course of action
Good planning starts with the objective and works backward to where you are now. It's easy to
articulate but can be very difficult to do, which might be why so few would-be leaders actually do
it. Instead, they pursue interesting or promising strategies without truly considering how or
whether any particular action will lead to their ultimate goals.
4. Scrounge for resources
If you have every necessary asset to accomplish a goal when you first set out, either you're
incredibly fortunate or you haven't set your sights high enough. Truly great leaders know
that pursuing worthy goals means pushing teams beyond their abilities and assets. It's why we say
that true entrepreneurship is "the pursuit of opportunity without regard to resources currently
controlled."
5. Step to the front
Your team needs to know that you're even more committed to the objective than it is. That means
standing up for it and being visible--literally in front of team members at times. Optics can be most
important. You're the leader. Act like it.

6. Encourage your team

Optimism is a force multiplier. A team won't believe it succeed unless its leader believes it. So,
acknowledge challenges and setbacks, but keep them in perspective. Unless you're convinced that
your goal is now unattainable, don't let discouragement reign. (If you do become convinced that
your goal is no longer attainable or worthwhile, go back to Rule No. 1!)
7. Correct when wrong
Leadership isn't about being liked. It's about acting in a way that engenders respect, which also
means holding your team accountable. When individual team members fall short, it's up to you as a
great leader to correct them. Doing so in a constructive manner sends the message that you care
about both your mission and your people.
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8. Build esprit de corps

You want your people to feel that their team is more than the sum of its parts. (That's part of why
most soldiers I know like the Army's current recruiting slogan, "Army Strong," more than the
previous one, "An Army of One.") People also want to know that you'll have their backs even if
they fall short, simply because they are part of the team.
9. Mentor your people
Being a true leader means thinking long term and committing to your people even after they're no
longer part of your effort. That means offering mentorship and opportunities for them to grow.
10. Exercise body and mind
If you haven't served in the military, you've at least seen the Hollywood version--soldiers working
out together, running in formation, calling out cadences. Routine military workouts aren't going to
turn people into superstar athletes, but they do set the tone. It's hard to be a great leader if you don't
take care of your mind and body.
11. Communicate effectively
As a leader, your words are among your most important tools, so if you're not communicating,
you're failing. If your team doesn't know its ultimate goal, or if it doesn't have a good
understanding of the plan to get there, or if it doesn't appreciate how its personal contributions are
vital, you're probably doing something wrong as a leader.

12. Sacrifice as necessary

When it's cold or wet or dangerous, soldiers want to know that their leader isn't asking them to do
anything he or she won't do himself or herself. This is a universal leadership principle. If you're
telling your team members that they have to work weekends or tightening your department's
budget, you'd better be willing to share the pain.
13. Review and adapt
As a leader, you don't just set a goal, devise a plan, give an order, and sit back. Instead, it's up to
you to check progress continually. If things aren't working, figure out why, and make a change.
You've probably heard the Albert Einstein quote: Insanity is "doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results." So don't do that!
14. Admit mistakes
If your team makes a mistake, as a leader it's your mistake. The buck stops with you. Take
responsibility, and embrace it.
15. Check small things
You can't possibly check everything, so instead, create a culture that suggests you could wind up
checking just about anything. Your team members--whether they are soldiers or the staff of a
marketing department--will take their cues from you. You need to be able to rely on them to follow
up and to ensure that the things they can see are working correctly.
16. Find reasons to praise
It's remarkable how just a few good words from someone you respect can inspire you to work
harder and achieve more. Great leaders know this, so they're always on the lookout for
opportunities to offer words of praise and encouragement. The caveat is that these have to be
sincere remarks, which in turn means you have to know your people well and care about them.
17. Take time away
This came home to me when I was in Iraq as a reporter, and I wanted to interview a high-ranking
officer, only to be told that he had gone home on leave--basically the military word
for vacation. I'm sorry, a general on vacation in the middle of a war? The theory was that if the top
commanders didn't take leave, then nobody below them would, either. You need time away from
your work and your team in order to see things clearly and lead better.
18. Thank and appreciate
Thanking people is different from simply offering encouragement. It means pointing out the
connection between their individual effort and how it affects the ultimate objective. It's a basic

human need to want to do good work that means something. Show people that you see their
work and value it.
19. Exercise judgment
At a basic level, your good judgment is one of the only things you have to offer your team
members. They need to know that you're weighing the cost of their efforts against the impact on
the final objective--and whether the final objective remains worth it. If you're asking them to do
something, you'd better believe it's worthwhile and will work.
20. Show compassion
Your mission is important (otherwise it shouldn't be your mission). However, it's not the only thing
going on in your people's lives. More than that, people screw up--and you will screw up, too (see
Rule No. 14). So, although you want to hold people to high standards, you also want to embrace
your humanity. People aren't machines; they need to be treated like people.
21. Recommit to the life
Smart leaders know that external rewards are rare and often unsatisfactory. Medals and thanks are
simply not enough to justify the horrors of war. Similarly, money alone is rarely enough to make
people happy after working hard in business in entrepreneurship. Thus, if your work is not its own
reward, you will probably never be truly happy. Ask yourself often whether you truly believe in
what you're doing. If the answer is no, then find a way to change it.
22. Go to sleep content
Lack of sleep will ruin your life. Worse than that, it will make you a less effective leader. So,
recognize that sometimes the secret to being a more effective leader isn't always to work harder; it
can sometimes require you to get away, get some rest, and get recharged. If you're committed to
what you're doing and fulfilled by it, you'll sleep better and be more effective.
23. Leap out of bed
See Rule No. 21 and Rule No. 22. If you don't leap out of bed each morning eager to get to work
and lead your team, it probably deserves a better leader. Want to read more, make suggestions, or
even be featured in a future column? Contact me and sign up for my weekly email.

DURING MOMENTS OF REGRET, NO MATTER HOW

DIFFICULT, BE INTIMATE WITH THE LESSON AT
HAND SO YOU NEVER HAVE TO LEARN IT AGAIN

How to Detect Lies

Become a Human Lie Detector (Part 1)
Warning: sometimes ignorance is bliss. After gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when
it is obvious that someone is lying to you. The following deception detection techniques are
used by police, forensic psychologists, security experts and other investigators.

Introduction to Detecting Lies:

This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday
situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of
fraud/scams and other deceptions.
This is just a basic run down of physical (body language) gestures and verbal cues that may
indicate someone is being untruthful. Remember: these signs don't indicate someone is
lying, just that they are more likely to be lying.
If you got here from somewhere else, be sure to check out our Lie Detection index page for
more info including new research in the field of forensic psychology. Last update: April 10th,
2013.

Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:

Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand,
arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind
their ear.Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction

Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions

are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed,
stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and
words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a
gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then
at the same time the statement is made.
Gestures/expressions dont match the verbal statement,
such as frowning when saying I love you.
Expressions are limited to mouth movements when
someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe,
)instead of the whole face. For example; when someone
smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek
movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.
Also see our article on micro expressions & lying.
Interactions and Reactions

A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will

often go on the offensive.
A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and
may turn his head or body away.
A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup,
etc.) between themselves and you.
Verbal Context and Content

A liar will use your words to make answer a question.

When asked, Did you eat the last cookie? The liar answers,
No, I did not eat the last cookie.
A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: I didn't do it instead of I
did not do it

Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers
instead of denying something directly.
The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince
you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.
A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful
statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words
in a statement.

 Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.
The use of distancing language.
Also see our article on Statement Analysis for a more in-depth look at word
analysis techniques used by interrogators.
Other signs of a lie:

If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar
follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an
innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to
the previous subject.
Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a
liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior
whenever possible.
Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues must
be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie.

Eye Movement and Direction & How it Can Reveal Truth or Lies
This is a continuation of our previous article Detecting Lies. Many comments by our visitors
asked about how eye direction can indicate the presence of a lie.
Can the direction a person's eyes reveal whether or not they are making a truthful
statement? Short answer: sort of. But, it isn't as simple as some recent television shows or
movies make it seem.
In these shows a detective will deduce if a person is being untruthful simply because they
looked to the left or right while making a statement.
In reality, it would be foolish to make such a snap judgment without further
investigation... but the technique does have some merit.
So, here it is... read, ponder and test it on your friends and family to see how reliable it is
for yourself.

Visual Accessing Cues - "Lying Eyes"

The first time "Visual Accessing Cues" were discussed (at least to my knowledge), was by
Richard Bandler and John Grinder in their book "Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic
Programming (NLP) " From their experiments this is what they found.

When asked a question a "normally organized" right-handed person looks (from

your viewpoint, looking at them):

Up and to the Left

Indicates: Visually Constructed Images (Vc)
If you asked someone to "Imagine a purple buffalo", this would be the
direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as
they "Visually Constructed" a purple buffalo in their mind.

Up and to the Right

Indicates: Visually Remembered Images (Vr)
If you asked someone to "What color was the first house you lived in?", this would be the
direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they "Visually
Remembered" the color of their childhood home.

To the Left
Indicates: Auditory Constructed (Ac)
If you asked someone to "Try and create the highest the sound of the
pitch possible in your head", this would be the direction their eyes
moved in while thinking about the question as they "Auditorily
Constructed" this this sound that they have never heard of.

To the Right
Indicates: Auditory Remembered (Ar)
If you asked someone to "Remember what their mother's voice sounds like ", this
would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about the question as they
"Auditorily Remembered " this sound.

Down and to the Left

Indicates: Feeling / Kinesthetic (F)
If you asked someone to "Can you remember the smell of a campfire?
", this would be the direction their eyes moved in while thinking about
the question as they used recalled a smell, feeling, or taste.

Down and To the Right

Indicates: Internal Dialog (Ai)
This is the direction of someone eyes as they "talk to themselves".

The Gist of it...

How this information is used to detect lies:

Example: Let's say your child asks you for a cookie, and you ask: "Well, what did your
mother say?" As they reply "Mom said... yes.", they look to the left. This would indicate a
made up answer as their eyes are showing a "constructed image or sound. Looking to the
right would indicated a "remembered" voice or image, and thus would be telling the truth.

Final Notes:
*** Looking straight ahead or with eyes that are defocused/unmoving is also considered a
sign of visual accessing.

*** A typical left-handed person would have the opposite meanings for their eye-directions.
*** As with other signs of lying, you should first establish and understand a persons basebehavior before concluding they are lying by the direction of their eyes.
*** Many critics believe the above is a bunch of bull***t. In my own experiments I have
found these techniques to be more true than not. But, why not find out for yourself? Make
up a list of questions that like the sample ones, and give them to your friends/family anyone
who would be your guinea pig, observe their eye movements and record the results.
*** This guide is hardly in-depth, I recommend getting the book "Frogs into Princes: Neuro
Linguistic Programming" by Richard Bandler and John Grinder for a more thorough
explanation if the subject interests you.

Micro Expressions, Subtle Body Language and Lying

Is the show "Lie to Me" for real?
I am not a police interrogator, scientist, or other expert... I am however a mother & people
watcher.
Years ago, when I wrote articles on How to Detect Lies & Eye Movement and
Lying -- I knew of the Micro expression theory, but had a difficult time researching the
subject well enough to relay it into an article.
Recently, I've come across tons of new research, websites, articles, videos, etc. about micro
expressions and believe anyone who reads my old articles about lying & body
language would benefit from micro expression research and theory.

What are Micro Expressions?

A micro expression is a momentary involuntary facial expression -- that people
unconsciously display when they are hiding an emotion. They are quick & intense
expressions of concealed emotion.
The main points to remember are that micro expressions are:
Brief - Micro-expressions can appear then disappear off the face in a fraction of a second.
In other words micro-expressions occur so quickly, that most people don't even notice
them.

Involuntary - A micro-expression is caused by

involuntary movements in facial muscles. (See the fake-smile illustration ). Most
people cannot control these involuntary muscles which are affected by their emotions.
Micro Expressions are generally grouped into seven universal emotions: anger, disgust,
fear, sadness, happiness, surprise, and contempt.

A Brief History of Micro Expression Theory

According to Wikipedia - Micro Expressions were first discovered by Haggard and Isaacs in
the 1960s. In 1966, Haggard and Isaacs outlined how they discovered these
"micromomentary" expressions published under the title: "Micromomentary facial
expressions as indicators of ego mechanisms in psychotherapy".

Although it is not included in most histories of micro

expressions; I would like to point out that Darwin's book "The Expression of the Emotions in
Man and Animals" published in 1872 deserves a mention.Darwin noted the universal
nature of facial expressions, the muscles used in facial expressions, etc. Check out
more illustrations from Darwin's book . Also worth noting is Guillaume
Duchenne and the Duchenne Smile.
Most websites I can find next list William Condon as a pioneer who studied hours of tapes in
the 1960s frame by frame to discover micro movements like micro expressions. I can find
little info on this research but there is some other interesting body language & verbal
expression / NLP research by a Dr. William S. Condon
(I'm 99% sure it's the same
dude - contact me if you have any info on the 1960s micro expression research by Condon
as cited on wikipedia). Others mentioned as pioneering researchers in the field include John
Gottman and Paul Eckman.

Dr. Paul Ekman's research (along with the work of Silvan Tomkins ) in the study of
emotions and their relation to facial expressions took Darwin's work to the next level
proving that facial expressions of emotion are not culturally determined, but biological in
origin and universal across human cultures. Eckman co-developed the Facial Action
Coding System (FACS) with Wallace V. Friesen in 1976. FACS is a system to
taxonomize human facial expressions, and still used today by psychologists, researchers
and animators.
Dr. Ekman has published many books on emotions, facial expressions and lie detection
includingUnmasking the Face: A Guide to Recognizing Emotions From Facial
Expressions and Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics,

and Marriage.
Micro-Expressions and Lying
Micro Expressions betray us when we lie. We can try to cover our feelings with fake smiles,
but involuntary face muscles reveal this hidden emotions. Seeing is easier, watch this short
video:
(More Micro Expression Video Links Below)
Paul Ekman and his research is the inspiration for the TV series "Lie

to Me"

Trained investigators, customs agents, etc. use micro expression recognition along with
other body language & speech cues (see distancing language for an example) to
determine truthfulness.
While most people can be trained to recognize micro expressions and other deceptive cues,
some folks are naturals. Ekman calls them "Truth Wizards" .

Latest Micro Expression Research & Training

Dr. Paul Ekman and Dr. David Matsumoto created METT, an online micro expression training
tool. METT and METT2 are being discontinued, but both Ekman and Matsumoto have
developed their own micro expression training software available on their respective sites.
(listed below).
Dr. Mark Frank, a former student of Ekman's, continues work on deception and micro facial
movement research. Frank identified specific and sometimes involuntary movements of the
44 human facial muscles linked to fear, distrust, stress and other emotions related to
deception. Frank's work is being tested for it's use in anti-terrorism investigations. (see
press release )
My Opinion

Another important thing to remember about micro-expressions is that they only show what
someone is feeling...not whether they lying per-se, and not what they are thinking. The
micro-expression only tells you their knee-jerk emotional state. (in my opinion).
I believe (with no proof or scientific basis) that micro-expressions can also reveal emotions
that are unconscious or only partially related to whatever is being talk about.

In other words, just because someone says "that's awesome!" and flashes a brief microexpression of contempt ... doesn't necessarily mean they are lying about their feelings....
just that there is something about the subject that "bugs" them (and they may not even
know it bothers them).
So, you show your friend Sarah a picture of your new dog. She looks at you and says "wow,
really cute", but you catch a micro-expression glimpse of "disgust". I believe it would be
presumptuous to take this as a sign that Sarah thinks your puppy is ugly. She may have
been bit by a dog in the past, and that emotion briefly flashed across her face when she
looked at the pic of your dog.
( I'm just cautioning readers who can see micro-expressions from simplifying and
presuming too much -- human thoughts and emotions are complicated! )

Detecting Deception Using Statement Analysis

How People's Words Betray Them

By Mark McClish - StatementAnalysis.com

Introduction by Blifaloo: I am super excited to introduce my readers interested in lie
detection to "Statement Analysis" -- a technique used by police and other investigators to
determine the truthfulness of written or spoken words.
Guest author Mark McClish is a well-respected retired Deputy United States Marshal, and an
expert in interviewing techniques. You'll find more info & links about his research at the end
of this article.

Intro to Statement Analysis

Statement Analysis is the process of analyzing a persons words to determine if the subject
is being truthful or deceptive. The reason these techniques work is because peoples words
will betray them.
There are usually several ways you can phrase a statement. People will always word their
statement based on all their knowledge. Therefore, their statement may include information
they did not intend to share.
It is nearly impossible to give a lengthy deceptive statement without revealing it is a lie.
The Statement Analysis techniques are very accurate because they are based on the English
language specifically word definitions and the rules of grammar. For example, when a
person states, I am trying to be honest he is telling us he is not being honest. The word
tried means he is only attempting to be truthful. When a rape victim uses the pronoun
we in her statement she is revealing she is being deceptive. The pronoun we not only
shows plurality but it also means a partnership was formed. We would not expect a rape
victim to partner up with her attacker. When a person uses phrases such as later on or
afterwards he has withheld some information by skipping over something in his story.
An example of utilizing the rules of grammar would be to analyze the verb tenses in a
statement. When a person is telling us what happened, he is required to speak in the past
tense. Therefore, if present tense language appears in his statement, this is a sign he is
making up the story. Consider the following statement:
I was sitting in my car when a man opened my door,
pointed a gun at me and tells me to get out.
While the person starts out using past tense language, he switches to present tense
language with the word tells. The present tense language is an indication he is not
drawing his story from memory.
Another example of using the rules of grammar to detect deception is how a person uses
articles within his statement. When we introduce someone or something that is unknown,
we are required to use the indefinite articles a or an. Once the introduction has been
made, we then use the definite article the. We see this in the following statement:
A man approached me and pointed a gun at me.
He stuck the gun in my ribs and forced me into the car.
In the first sentence, the victim properly refers to the attacker and the weapon as a man
and a gun. Having identified the gun, he then correctly refers to it as the gun in the

second sentence. A problem arises when he refers to the vehicle as the car. Since this is
the first time he mentions the vehicle, he should have called it a car. Using the article
the tells us the victim either recognized the car or he is making up the story.
Many times the truth goes unnoticed because people like to interpret what a person has
said. However, you should never interpret. First, one cannot read someone elses mind.
Secondly, people mean exactly what they are saying.
We see a good example of this with O.J. Simpsons so called suicide letter. This was the
letter that was discovered when Simpson failed to turn himself into the police. The letter
starts out saying, First everyone understand, I had nothing to do with Nicoles murder.
That is how you heard it read on television. That is how you saw it printed in the
newspapers and magazines. The problem is that is not what Simpson wrote. In his letter, he
crossed out the words I had. His letter actually reads, First everyone understand, nothing
to do with Nicoles murder.
He took himself out of the denial.
So, why do most people include the words I had? Most likely because they believe this is
what Simpson meant. However, people mean exactly what they say or in this case write.
Simpson meant to cross out those words.
By using the Statement Analysis techniques, you can determine exactly what people are
telling you. This allows you to obtain additional information that sometimes goes unnoticed.
These techniques will also show you if they are lying or telling the truth.
Detect lies in emails, letters, as well live and recorded dialogue:

Lie Detection, Statement Analysis & Interrogation Resources, Links & Books
Blifaloo's note: This is just a basic introduction to statement / discourse analysis, for more
information on detecting deception with statement analysis see Mark McClish's (this article's
author) website: StatementAnalysis.com

Real men dont talk about their sexual conquests or call a woman out of
her name. My father once told me, No matter if a woman is sinner or a
saint when you lay with her you become her equal. So

no matter
what you feel about them, its also a reflection of
yourself.

Meg Jay: Why 30 is not the new 20

TED2013 Filmed February 2013
Transcript:
When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client. I was a Ph.D. student in clinical
psychology at Berkeley. She was a 26-year-old woman named Alex. Now Alex walked into her first
session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and
kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. Now when I heard this, I
was so relieved. My classmate got an arsonist for her first client. (Laughter) And I got a
twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. This I thought I could handle.
0:54But I didn't handle it. With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session, it was easy for me
just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. "Thirty's the new 20," Alex would
say, and as far as I could tell, she was right. Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids
happened later, even death happened later. Twentysomethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.
1:19But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life. I pushed back.
1:26I said, "Sure, she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's going
to marry the guy."
1:35And then my supervisor said, "Not yet, but she might marry the next one. Besides, the best time
to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one."
1:49That's what psychologists call an "Aha!" moment. That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the
new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a
developmental downtime. That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting
there blowing it. That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it
had real consequences,not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the
futures of twentysomethings everywhere.
2:26There are 50 million twentysomethings in the United States right now. We're talking about 15
percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no one's getting through
adulthood without going through their 20s first.

2:42Raise your hand if you're in your 20s. I really want to see some twentysomethings here. Oh,
yay! Y'all's awesome. If you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, you're losing
sleep over twentysomethings, I want to see Okay. Awesome, twentysomethings really matter.
2:59So I specialize in twentysomethings because I believe that every single one of those 50 million
twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility
specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative,
things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe even for the world.
3:27This is not my opinion. These are the facts. We know that 80 percent of life's most defining
momentstake place by age 35. That means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and
"Aha!" moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. People who are
over 40, don't panic. This crowd is going to be fine, I think. We know that the first 10 years of a
career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn. We know that more
than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. We know
that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for
adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to
change it. We know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and
we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. So your 20s are the
time to educate yourself about your body and your options.
4:43So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical
period for language and attachment in the brain. It's a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has
an inordinate impact on who you will become. But what we hear less about is that there's such a
thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.
5:10But this isn't what twentysomethings are hearing. Newspapers talk about the changing timetable
of adulthood. Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. Journalists coin silly nicknames
for twentysomethings like "twixters" and "kidults." It's true. As a culture, we have trivialized what is
actuallythe defining decade of adulthood.
5:38Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough
time. Isn't that true? So what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head
and you say,"You have 10 extra years to start your life"? Nothing happens. You have robbed that
person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.
6:03And then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and
daughters come into my office and say things like this: "I know my boyfriend's no good for me, but
this relationship doesn't count. I'm just killing time." Or they say, "Everybody says as long as I get
started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine."

6:28But then it starts to sound like this: "My 20s are almost over, and I have nothing to show for
myself. I had a better rsum the day after I graduated from college."
6:40And then it starts to sound like this: "Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs. Everybody was
running around and having fun, but then sometime around 30 it was like the music turned off and
everybody started sitting down. I didn't want to be the only one left standing up, so sometimes I think
I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30."
7:02Where are the twentysomethings here? Do not do that.
7:08Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high. When a lot
has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous thirtysomething pressure to jump-start a career,
pick a city, partner up, and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time. Many of these
things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show, simply harder and more stressful to
do all at once in our 30s.
7:37The post-millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car. It's realizing you can't have that
career you now want. It's realizing you can't have that child you now want, or you can't give your
child a sibling. Too many thirtysomethings and fortysomethings look at themselves, and at me,
sitting across the room, and say about their 20s, "What was I doing? What was I thinking?"
8:08I want to change what twentysomethings are doing and thinking.
8:12Here's a story about how that can go. It's a story about a woman named Emma. At 25, Emma
came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis. She said she thought
she might like to work in art or entertainment, but she hadn't decided yet, so she'd spent the last few
years waiting tables instead. Because it was cheaper, she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his
temper more than his ambition. And as hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even
harder. She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, "You can't pick your
family, but you can pick your friends."
8:56Well one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she sobbed for most of
the hour.She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning filling in her many
contacts, but then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words "In case of
emergency, please call ... ." She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, "Who's
going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck? Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?"
9:28Now in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, "I will." But what Emma needed wasn't
some therapist who really, really cared. Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her

chance. I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining
decade went parading by.
9:52So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every twentysomething, male
or female, deserves to hear.
10:02First, I told Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. By get
identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an
investment in who you might want to be next. I didn't know the future of Emma's career, and no one
knows the future of work, but I do know this: Identity capital begets identity capital. So now is the
time for that cross-country job, that internship, that startup you want to try. I'm not discounting
twentysomething exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to
count, which, by the way, is not exploration. That's procrastination. I told Emma to explore work and
make it count.
10:57Second, I told Emma that the urban tribe is overrated. Best friends are great for giving rides to
the airport, but twentysomethings who huddle together with like-minded peers limit who they
know, what they know, how they think, how they speak, and where they work. That new piece of
capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle. New things come
from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends. So yes, half of twentysomethings
are un- or under-employed. But half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that
group. Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get
that un-posted job. It's not cheating. It's the science of how information spreads.
11:52Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your
friends. Now this was true for her growing up, but as a twentysomething, soon Emma would pick her
family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own. I told Emma the time to
start picking your family is now. Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle
down than 20, or even 25, and I agree with you. But grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping
with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress. The best time to
work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you
are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than
just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.
12:52So what happened to Emma? Well, we went through that address book, and she found an old
roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state. That weak tie helped her get a
job there. That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live-in boyfriend. Now, five years later,
she's a special events planner for museums. She's married to a man she mindfully chose. She loves
her new career, she loves her new family, and she sent me a card that said, "Now the emergency
contact blanks don't seem big enough."

13:28Now Emma's story made that sound easy, but that's what I love about working with
twentysomethings.They are so easy to help. Twentysomethings are like airplanes just leaving
LAX, bound for somewhere west. Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference
between landing in Alaska or Fiji.Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good
break, one good TED Talk, can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to
come.
14:06So here's an idea worth spreading to every twentysomething you know. It's as simple as what I
learned to say to Alex. It's what I now have the privilege of saying to twentysomethings like Emma
every single day: Thirty is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use
your weak ties,pick your family. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're
deciding your life right now. Thank you. (Applause)

Character is who you are when nobody is looking