CommunicatingwithCompassion

Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan

Meditation:InterlockingEgoandProjection
July4,1986

Lifeisjustamatterofconsciousness;itisnotsomethingwhichyouandIcando.Sojustrememberonethingin
yourlifeandbecarefulaboutit:Itistheworstrisknottotakeariskforthegoodofothers.Ifyoucannottakea
riskforthegoodofothers,youarenothuman.YouareworsethanananimalbecausetheotherlifeisGodin
selflessness.Whenyouintervenetopromote,toexcel,tosavethatlifethatiswhenyouenjoydivinity.
Whateverpoweryouachieveforyourself,whateveryougainforyourownself,howeverneartoGodyou
become,itisstillaselfishachievement.Doyouunderstandthat?

Thatswhyallpoweristhroughlife,allpoweristhroughlove,allpoweristhroughconsciousness
throughwhichwecanserveothers.Andjustremember:whenyoulovesomethingnowbewithme;thisis
verytechnical,scientificthingIamtellingyouwhenyoulovesomething,thefirstsignwillbethatyouliketo
promoteit.Ifyouhaveagoodstone,youliketoshowsomebody.Ifyouhavenicejewelry,youliketoshowit
off.YouunderstandwhatIamsaying?Itisthenatureofman,whenhelovessomething,hewantsittobe
excellent,hewantsittobepromoted;hewantsittobethisorthat;itshisnature.Butwhatyouarepromoting,
sometimes,cannottakeitandthereactioncanbehate.Itiscalleddemonitoringthegift.
Lifeisagift.Thelifeyouworkforisagift.Theclassificationoflove,thewayoflovewhichyoubelieveis
loving,actuallyisnt.Itisthepsychological,physiologicalandbiologicalcommunicationofemotionsandthe
entertainmentoffeelings.Youcancallitlove;butloveisasilent,rationalfoundation,doubtlesslywithoutdoubt
andprecisely,preciselyaccepted.Love,whichisnotpreciselyacceptedinafoundationofcommunicationand
goodwill,hasnotyetestablishedthetrust,themerger.Now,whetheryouareWesternorEastern,whetheryou
areNorthernorSouthern,whetheryouaregray,black,blue,orpink;ithasnothingtodowiththerealityofthe
phenomenonoflove,whichisatotalartinitself.Youliketocommunicatewithsomethingyoulove.Letmegive
youanexample:Youhaveachildoftwomonthsold.Hoursandhoursyoutalk.Hoursandhoursyoulove.Hours
andhoursyouwish.Hoursandhoursyouplay.Doeshetellyoustories?Doesherespondtoyou?Sometimes
withasmile,sometimeswithagiggle,sometimeswithsilence,finallythechildgetstiredandsleeps.Andstill,
youticklehimanddoallkindofthingslikethat;notbecauseyouarelookingforaresponse.No,youarelooking
forreceptivitythatfundamentalelectromagneticrealitywhateveryousaywillbereceivedwithoutquestion.
Haveyoueverthoughtofthat?Thatscalledlove.
Accordingtoyourscience,emotionsarelove,commotionsarelove,feelings,richness,andvastnessare
love.No,nottrue.Therearemanypeoplewhoarevasterthanyou,richerthanyou,biggerthanyou,butthere
areveryfewpeoplethatarecommittedlikeyou,cleanlikeyou,purechannelslikeyou,dealslikeyou.One
womanoncetoldme,IloveSikhDharma,shesaid.Everyteachingisperfect.ButIcanttieaturban.Isaid,
Youlovetobeaqueen,butyoudontwanttoputonacrown?No,no,no,sitdownwithme,please.Sir,tell
mewhatisinaturban?

Isaid,Eachlayeryouputaroundyourhead,youtotallywindup,inyourownconsciousness,inyour
owncommitment,andinyourownidentity,yourownspecialuniqueness.Itgivesyouoneglance.Itgivesyou
justoneglance;andwithinthatoneglance,thepersonknowsyouaresomethingthathehastodealwith.Later
onyoumaybetotallybogus.Youmaybetotallyapieceofcake,acupoficecream,adonutorwhatever,butat
thatglance,thatfirstglance,thepersonisadmittedlyawarethatyouaresomethingplus;youareawoman
plusandhehastodealwiththatplus.Isthatplusenoughformanyofyou?No.Foryouthebiggestplusisthat
allpeoplelooklikeyouandyoulooklikethem.Youarelost.Buttoachievethatplus,youhavetopullout.
Pullingoutforthatplushasaresponsibility.Youknowwhatitis?Youhavetodropyourownnegativity,andyou
havetobesuperpositivethatisthekeytohappiness.Thekeytohappinessisnotinyourpower.Thekeyto
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happinessisnotyourgame.Thekeytohappinessisnotinyourwealthoryourreachoryourfriends.Anything
andeverythingyoumayputononesideofthescale,ontheothersideyouputyourownselfidentity;youare
stillwinningwithselfidentity.Nobodywinswithothertoolsormeansotherthanselfidentity.Toupholdyour
selfidentityisaclassicreality;itisanartandascience;itisSelf.

Nowoman,likenomoon.Ifeverthemoondoesntcometothefullmoon,thenthereisnomoon.Each
womanhastocometothatfullbiorhythmicselfidentity,andshehastoacknowledgeit.Notasajoke.Norasa
ritual.Yourlifecannotbeareaction.Itwillalwaysbringyoutrouble.Yourlifehastobealwaysinaction.Men
react.Whydontyougoforthemedicalchangeandmakeyourselfamale?Ifreactionisyourconcept,bea
male.Menreact.Itistheirnature.TheGodgiveninstinctinawomanisnottoreact,buttoact:onestepahead
ofaman.Awomanwhoisnotonestepaheadofaman,andmanwhoisnotonestepaheadoftimearefailures.
Theproblemwithyouisthatyouwanttocontrolyourmaninsteadofcontrollingyourself.Withtheenergythat
youuseintryingtocontroltheman,withthatsameenergy,ifyoucontrolyourself,manwillgoaroundyoulike
aclock.Therealexpressionofyouthatyouarethebetterhalfwillfitinrightthere.Itisnotagoodhalf.Itis
thebetterhalf.Whatisbestforyou,intherealityofscience,iswhenyoucanexcel,whenyouaresacred,you
aretrustworthy,andyouareyouwhenyouarethatplus,inidentity.

SometimesIcommunicate,andsomepeoplesay,Well,Ihavetriedmybest.Ihavedoneeverythingin
theworldIknowtodo.Icannever(pause),nothingworks.AndIhearit.Iwantyoutoexchangewithmeone
dayoflife.Justoneday.Callmeanytime.Figureitout.Writeitdown.Typeit.Shorthandit.Dowhatever.But
thisabsolutelynegativeSelfofyours,justgivemesevenminutes.Illcutinonyousometimesandsay,Butstop
here.No,stop.Stop.Stop.Breathe.(YogiBhajantakesadeepbreath.)Areyouallright?

Yes.

Canyoubreathe?

Yes.

Thatisenough.

Theideaisnottobuyyogurt.Theideaisputadropofyogurtintheentirenegativityofthemilkand
makeityogurt,sothatwecanhavethebutter,thebetterhalf.Lifehasasolution:woman.Womanhasa
solutionwithinherself.Iflifehasasolutionwithinthewoman,andwomanwithinthewomanhasasolution,
andwomanwithintheenvironmenthasasolution,thenwomanwitharealityhasasolution,andwomanwith
identityhasasolution.Womanistheonlysolution!LookingforasolutionoutsideyourSelfisnothingbut
madness,craziness.Itdoesntmeanathing.Youcanneverachievewhatyouwereborntoachieve,the
experienceofthisbeautifullife.Youwillalwaysfeelhandicapped.
Justunderstand,inyourconsciousnessthereisapower.Inyourintelligence,thereisasciencetodeal
withit.Andlikemeornot(Iamnotaskingyoutototallylikemeorbelieveme),youhavetodevelopyour
personalitysothatyourpresenceworks.SometimesIwonderwhenpeopledropremarksaboutyou,Oh,that
dumbgirl.Well,thatstheimagination.No,thatisaconstantbehaviorimpression.Constantbehaviorcreates
animpression;andaconstantimpressioncreatesreputation;andreputationtravelsfasterthanyou.Sodont
indulgeinyourowncyclesandcircles.Watchout!Emotions,commotions,feelings;youcanplayMonopoly;you
canplayagame.Butinreality,inapracticalway,youhavetofacetheday.

Now!Youexpectamantocooperate.Isthattrue?Littlebitmore,littlebithere,littlebitthere,right?I
cangiveittoyouinwriting:youcantexpectitanditllneverhappen.Mencannotcooperateconstantlyand
consistently;itisnotintheirnature;itsnotintheirhormones.Itdoesntworkthatway.Youretryingtoexpect
whatdoesnotexist.Amanwhosveryinconsistentwithyouiscallingforhelp.Amanwhoisverysteadywith
youiscallingforyoursilence.Andamanwhoisverysuperiorinbehaviortoyouisaskingyoutoexcel.Thisis
thewaymendeal.Thereisanothercategorythatyoudontlikeeither:menwhodontdoathingandaskyouto
supportthem.Theyreaskingforyourcompassion.Theyreseekingwhattheirmothernevergavethemthrough
you.Theyrenotarrogantorignorantoridiots.Notatall.

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Inyourwholelife,youveneverunderstoodonething:Manhasnevergrownenoughtodeliverababy.
Hecannotgetpregnant.Doesntmatterwhichwayyoutry.Theveryfactthatmancannotbepregnantmeans
mancannotholdanythingotherthanhimself.Andbarringfewconditions,everywomancanholdanotherSelf,
andoftenmany,manytimesmore.Sometimeseven,whatdotheycallthem?Quadrupletsorevensixoreight.
Godknows,inoneshotthefamilyistenpeople.Isawthatonce;eightkidscameoutofonewoman:one,two,
three,four,five,six,seven,eight.Canyoufindonemanwhocandoit?Sowhatareyoutryingtoaskofthe
man?Togiveyouababy?Areyouaskingthat?

Beyondthefactthatthemanisaseeder,thereisnootherreality.Beyondthefactthatthemancan
play,mancaninitiate.Rememberonethinginlife:Mancaninitiateaconversation,butifyoucompleteit,you
willhavehiminthepalmofyourhand.Youcomplete.Youcarry.Hewillinitiate.Thatistherelationship,folks.if
youdontlikeit,dontlikeit.Findsomebodywhoisequalyoucant.Youdonthavethat.Andifyoudonot
pushyourmantowardconsistenthigherconsciousness,youareconsistentlypushinghimtowardtroublewith
you.

Howmanyofyou,raiseyourhand,wanttoavoidafightwithyourman?Raiseyourhand.Almosta
majorityofyou,right?HowmanyofyouhavemadeyourmanreadatleastJapjieveryday?Well,allthosewho
havedonethiswillbesaferthanthosewhohavenot.ManintuitivelydeniesGod.Sorrytotellyouthat.But
whatcanIsay?Thisisafact;becausemanwantstoplayGod.Ihavenotyetmetonemanwhodoesntwantto
playGod.Andinthescripturesallhavedonethesamething.

GuruGobindSinghevensaid,When,asRishiDushtDaman,IhadatalkwithGod,hesaid,IsentRam;
hegothimselfworshipped.IsentKrishna;hegotworshipped.IsentMohammed;hegotworshipped.Nowyou
goandletMebeworshippedforachange.

Youknowwhatmenenjoy?Theyenjoytellingyouthattheyaregreatandyouaresmall.No,no,no,no.
Thereisatrickinit.Trytounderstandthescienceofit.Whenamandoesthat,whenhesaysthatheisgreat
andyouaresmall,youknowwhatheisactuallyaskingyou?Cananybodytellme?

Student:Elevatehim.

YogiBhajan:No.Heisaskingyoutoproveit;provethatyouaregreater.Andifyoumissthat
opportunity?Youcanexpectoneweekofabuses,cursing,breakingplates,everythingelse.Takeitforgranted.

Itisthenatureofamalescapacitytoaskafemaletoreflectthehigherimageoftheman.Theydont
wantanythingelse.Theywillnevercompromise;doesntmatterwhatyoudo.Thisisthewaytheyaremade.Its
amanufacturingdefect.

Therewasonceasage,amanIknew,andhewasmarriedtoaverybeautifulwoman.Theyhada
beautifulhome.Theyaskedmetojustcounseltheminonewayortheother.Isaid,Whatsthematter?

Hesaid,Iamimpotent,andIwantachild.Butmywifedoesnt,Imean,eitherway,itisallrightwith
her.

Lookingatthewholescene,everything,Isaid,Well,youareimpotent.Agreed.Howisyourpersonal
life?

Hesaid,Farout.

Isaid,Supposeyougetaveryyounggirlwithtenmilliondollarsinatrustfundandveryeducatedand
capableofhavingachildandallthat?Wouldyoudivorceyourpresentwifeandgoforit?

Hesaid,No.

Isaid,Anythingdoubleofthat?

Hesaid,No.

Isaid,Tentimesthat?

Hesaid,No.

Isaid,Whatisit?

Hesaid,Iamimpotent.Shehasneverletmefeel,foroneminute,inallmymarriagethatIam

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impotent.AndshehasmademetobelievethatIamthemostpotentmanonthisearth.

Isaid,Howdoesshedoit?

Hesaid,Idontknowhowshedoesit,butsomewherealongtheline,shedoesit.

Isaid,Doyoufeelembarrassed?

Hesaid,Noway.

Doyoufeelhandicapped?

Hesaid,Noway.

Doyoufeelinferior?

Noway.

Doyouhaveanyregret?

Hesaid,Noway.

Isaid,Iwouldliketoknowwhatshedoes.Whatsthebottomline?

Hesaid,Bottomline?Whenshelooksatme,Ilooktowardthesky,andIalwaysaskher,Whatareyou
lookingat?

Shesays,IamlookingathowtheGodhascometoEarth.
Isaid,Well,Iwouldliketomeetsuchaperson.Icouldntmeetpersonally,butIhadatelephone
conversationwithher.Believemeornot,Ihaveyettomeetapersonwhocanconversewithyoulikethat.

Shetoldmeshehadreadmybooks;shehadreadmylectures;shehadlistenedtomytapes;andshe
likestheultimatepositive.ShesaidnowwatchthisUltimatepositive,whichIsay,andshewishedthatI
shouldstartwiththepositive.

Andthenshesaid,IdounderstandyourpatiencewithmeismorethantheHimalayas,becauseyou
belongtoIndia,andyourcharactercannotbesupermatchedsothatpeoplecanunderstandyouatcertainlevel.
ButIfeelveryinspired.

IwasveryrelievedwhenIfinishedtheconversationbecauseIwasstartingtofallinlovewithher.Itwas
themostcozyconversation,upliftingandexcellent,withabsoluteetiquetteandmanners.Andwithout
recognizingherfaceorknowingher,Icouldseeontheothersideofthephonetherewasaverywellfeatured,
wellestablishedandveryselfreliantwomanandthatiscalleddelivery.YouhavetodeliveryourSelf.You
alwayshavetodeliverababy;yourealwayspregnantwithpositivityoneplus.

Alotofpeoplewilltellyouwhatyoucanbe;allImtellingyouiswhatyouare,inreality.Ineverhave
saidwhatyoucanbe.Youhavetorationalizethisfact:youarethebest.Notwithegoandpride,orwitha
commissiontoplunderyourselfandbehaughty,becauseyouhavenocapacityasafemaletobeafemaleand
thenreact.Yourbestchoiceistobesophisticated.Comeoutwithyourdecency.Comeoutwithyour
commitment;comeoutwithyourHigherSelf.Andcomeouteachtimeasthoughyouareapieceofart;butjust
remember,youreasignedpieceofartandyouhaveadestinytoliveupto.Itisthatdestinywhichshouldnot
betakenawaybyfate.Andyouarethedecidingmasterofthatfact.Nobodycandecideforyou.

Historywillbekindtothosewhoarekindtohistory.Justrememberthesefewlines,whichyousing:
Whenthingsaredownanddarkest,thatswhenwestandtallest.Andthesecondlineis,Wediebefore
we...

Students:Fall.

YogiBhajan:Thatsall.Allright,justremembercertainthings.NowIwouldliketogiveyoualittle
runaroundforafewminutesandjustmakeyoupracticeandjustfeelhowyoufeel.Okay?

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Meditation:InterlockingEgoandProjectionBegins
Seecompletewriteupattheendofthelecture.

(AffirmationExercise)Withyourrighthand,takethefingerofcommunicationlikethisandputyour
threefingersup,likethis.Withyourlefthand,takethesunfingerhereandputotherthreefingersup.Justsee?
Thissimplething.Connectthisway,okay?Closeyoureyesandjustcallonyourself:Ifeelbetter,Iambetter
andthatismybase.Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.
Justsimple,talktoyourself.Talktoyourself.Repeatthisaffirmationtoyourself:Ifeelbetter,Iambetterand
thatismybase.Letmehearit.

Students:Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.I
feelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.

YogiBhajan:Okay.NowthereisanexerciseIwouldlikeyoutodo.

Thisyourrighthand.Right?Thisyourlefthand.Justjoinithere.Interlockthe,whatdoyoucallit,
thumb?

Students:Thumb.

YogiBhajan:Interlockthethumb;onehandwillbetallerandonewillbeshorter.Looktotheside;look
straightandputthehandsouttotheside,straight.

Nowwearestretchingthesciaticaandinterlockingtheego.Mostlypeoplecandoit;somecant.This,
theirego(thumb),issostiffthatitdoesntbendatall.Theyareverydifficulttodealwith.Godmadethemthat
way;Icanthelpit.Butnormallyitisjustlikethat.Andpullitthisway;andlookstraight.Lookstraight.Lookjust
straight.Handsononeside.

Youareprojectingenergyontheothersideandlookstraight.Closeyoureyes;closeyoureyes.Andas
therecordisplayed,chant.ThisistheworkoftheFifthChakra.Projectyourenergyouttothesideandseewhat
yourbodygoesthrough.Watchit.Dontproclaimanything.

(SinghKaursRakherakhanhaarplays.)

ConcentrateonNavelPoint.Youallhavetolookateachotherandthedirection.Hold.Nowwhatyou
havetodoiswhenyousingJissimaratsukhhoesagaledookhjahithelasttime(thesecondtime),makea
circle,likethis,andgobackagain.Understand?

Students:Yes,sir.

YogiBhajan:Okay.Now,last.Now.Now.Hold.Hold,hold,hold.Howdoyoufeel?Nowforthesefew
minutesnowwewilljustdoitsay,five,five,ten,elevenminutesarelefttodoit.Justdoitcorrectly.Imjust
tryingtopinpointthesituation.Justdoitcorrectlyandseewhatitdoestoyou.Imean,justunderstandwhat
theshabd,whatthenaadandwhattheyoga;whenthesethreethingsareputtogether,whattheycancreatein
you.Thatswhatwearedoingrightnow.Okay?

(Musiccontinues.)

Correct!Interlockthethumbs.Thankyou.Relax.Feelitforyourself.

Itisaveryspecialday;todayistheFourthofJuly.Illaskyouonethinginparticular.Inwhichever
humblewayyouknowtopray,makeaprayersothatwemaysurvivethisperiod.Eightyfourtoeightyeightis
theperiodoftestandtrialandthestrengthoftriumph.Triumphwillonlycome,avictorywillonlycome,with
thepowerofprayer.Nothingelsecanhelp.Asyouareallbeingattackedinyourbelief,inyourexistence,andin
youridentity,therefore,youneedtoshare.
Illplaymypart;andwithyourstrengthandwithyourprayerandwithmyprayertotheGurutokeep
ourhonorafloat.Butjustremember,itisnotwealone;itisourcominggenerationsandourchildren,
grandchildrenandgreatgrandchildrenwhohavetofollowus,theymustnotfeelthatwehavefailedinprayer

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andthatwehavefallen.ThatswhyIlikeyoutoparticipatewithyourheartandheadbowedinprayer,in
strength,inthemanneryouknowbest.Thankyouverymuch.

Maythelongtimesunshineuponyou,
alllovesurroundyou
andthepurelightwithinyou,
guideyourwayon.
SatNam.

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InterlockingEgoandProjection
Kundalini Yoga as taught by Yogi Bhajan

July4,1986

PartOne
AffirmationExercise:WithyourrighthandinBuddhiMudra,thumbandpinkie
fingertogether,andwithyourlefthandinSuryaMudra,thumbandringfinger
together,bringbothhandsinfrontoftheshoulders,palmout.Theotherthree
fingersofeachhandarestraightandpointingdirectlyup.Closeyoureyesand
justcallonyourself:Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.
Talktoyourself.Repeatthisaffirmationaloud;repeatitseveraltimes.Practice
for23Minutes:Ifeelbetter,Iambetterandthatismybase.

PartTwo
Bringthepalmstogetherwiththethumbsinterlockedlikehorns,
stickingstraightup,withtheleftthumbpressingbackintotheright
thumb;thefingersofthelefthandextendbeyondthefingersofthe
right.Thearmsareextendedoutinfrontofyouandthenstretched
stronglytoyourleft.Theheadandtorsoremainpointingstraight
ahead.ClosetheeyesandchantfromtheNavelPointandprojectyour
energyouttotheside.RakheRakhanhaarbySinghKaur.6Minutes.
Rakhayrakhanhaaraapubaarian
Gurkeepaireepaaehkaajsavaarian
Hoaaaapdayaalmanhonavisaarian
Saadhjanaakaisangbhavjaltaarian
Saakatnindakdushtkhinmaaehbidaarian
Tissaahibkeetaayknaanakmanaimaaeh
Jissimratsukhhoehsaglaydookhjaaeh
Jissimratsukhhoehsaglaydookhjaaeh

GodHimselfislookingoutforus,
givesusthelight,andtakescareofouraffairs.
Godismerciful,andneverforgetsus.
Godguidesus,givingusgoodpeopletohelpus.
Goddoesnotallowhurttocometous.
ItakecomfortinthethoughtofGod.
WhenIrememberGod,Ifeelpeacefulandhappy
andallmypaindeparts.(continued)

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2.Stayintheposture,butonthesecondrepetitionofthefinallineofthe
mantra,JisSimratSukhHoaSagalayDukhJai,separatethehandsand
circlethearmsupwardandaroundonce,inalargearccomingbacktothe
posture.6Minutes.

ToEnd:Inhale,exhaleandrelax.

Comments:ThisistheworkoftheFifthChakra.Projectyourenergyouttothesideandseewhatyour
bodygoesthrough.Watchit.Dontproclaimanything.ConcentrateonNavelPoint.Imjusttryingto
pinpointthesituation.Justdoitcorrectlyandseewhatitdoestoyou.Imean,justunderstandwhat
theshabd,whatthenaadandwhattheyoga;whenthesethreethingsareputtogether,whattheycan
createinyou.Thatswhatwearedoingrightnow.
Yogi Bhajan

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