Understanding the Father’s Love©

Part 2
Freedom From Fear

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear….

1 John 4:18a (NKJV)

In last month’s article, I talked about how I came to see and believe that I was a “Daddy’s
Girl.” That realization was the beginning of a journey in understanding my Heavenly
Father’s love for me. One day, last summer, I was studying Ephesians and ran across the
following passage.

“I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together
with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of
Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to
the measure of all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:17b-19 (NIV)

I had heard that passage many times in my life but honestly never thought it possible for
me to know that kind of love. In fact, I found it puzzling that anybody could grasp or
know something that surpasses knowledge. How can you comprehend what is beyond
comprehension? As I meditated on it, however, I found myself longing to know that kind
of love…longing to be filled to the fullness of God. So, I said a very simple prayer that
day, asking God to help me to know—really-know—Christ’s love in all dimensions. For
I knew that the level to which I understood Christ’s love would also be the degree to
which I would know my Father’s love for me. (John 14)

I have discovered that when I ask God for something that is laid out in His Word, He
always gives me what I ask for. This request was no exception. God began to open the
eyes and ears of my heart to see and hear things from His Word in a brand new way. I
began to grasp the greatness of Christ’s love demonstrated in His laying down His own
life for mine. (John 15:13; 1 John 3:16).
As I thought of Christ hanging on the cross, His outstretched arms represented the width
of His love…arms spread to reach out as an invitation for every person from every corner
of the earth to receive His love gift of eternal life. (John 3:16; Romans 1:16; Romans
3:29).

I began to understand the length of His love by realizing that His love is forever and
ever. His time here on earth had a beginning and an end but His love never ends. His
death may have been a one-time event, but the benefits of His death (salvation from sin
and abundant life) are for eternity. His death wasn’t simply for those living in the days
that He walked the earth…it was for everybody who will ever live and will receive His
love gift. (2 Corinthians 5:14-15; Hebrews 2:9)

I meditated on the depth of His love in that He willingly left His Father in heaven and
came to earth to suffer for sinful man. During His 33 years on earth, He suffered ridicule,
rejection, humiliation, abuse…He suffered every form of suffering possible so that He
could identify with us—and we with Him—in our sufferings. (Hebrews 2:10,18; 5:8;
13:12) More than that, this man, who was God—perfect and without sin—took upon
Himself my sin (and the sin of every person ever to live), and then He descended to the
depths of the earth. (Ephesians 4:8-10; Matthew 12:40)

The exciting thing is that Christ’s love doesn’t stop with His death on the cross; it doesn’t
end with Him going to the deepest of deeps for me. Christ rose from the depths of hell
and the grave and then He ascended to the highest of highs to prepare a place in heaven
for me. (John 14:23) The height of Christ’s love is demonstrated in the fact that all of us
have the opportunity to join Him in heaven one day.

I spent months reflecting on Christ’s love for me and discovered that it truly is impossible
to separate Christ’s love from the love of our Father. After all, Jesus tells us in John
10:30 that He and His Father are one. Furthermore, it was because of God’s love for us
that Christ came to earth, suffered, died and rose again. “For God so loved the world
that He gave His only Son…” (John 3:16). “But God demonstrates His own love toward
us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8). “But because of
his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we
were dead in transgressions…” (Ephesians 2:4-5). “This is how God showed his love
among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.”
(1 John 4:9). “But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us,
not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us
through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us
generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace,
we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.” (Titus 3:4-7)

As I thought about the far-reaching, never-ending, deep love of God demonstrated in

sending His son for me, one thing began to really pierce my heart. When Christ took the
sins of the world upon Himself—becoming sin itself—He was, at that moment in time,
separated from His Father. (2 Corinthians 5:21; Matthew 27:46) God—because He is
God and cannot look upon sin—had to turn His back on His own Son, whom He deeply
loved. (Habakkuk 1:13) I love my children immensely and cannot fathom turning my
back on any of them for any reason, especially not for other wretched, sinful people. That
God would do that very thing is, to me, the greatest demonstration of love. Even as I
write this, I am filled with such emotion, knowing that God loves me that much.

You may be thinking “okay, this is great but what does it have to do with freedom from
fear?” Well, we’re getting there.

As I began to grasp just how much God loves me—enough that he would send His son
AND turn His back on Him while He took my sins upon Himself—I began to realize that
I had no reason to fear anything. A God whose love for me is that long, wide, high and
deep is not going to allow anything to happen to me that is not for my good. His plans
for me are for good and not harm…they are plans for hope and a future. (Jeremiah
29:11).

If I find myself in the midst of the fire or flood, I have no reason to fear (Isaiah 43:1-2)
because I know that God is always with me; (Isaiah 41:10; 43:2); He will indeed work
everything out for my good (Romans 8:28); and I can overcome anything through His
love (Romans 8:37). I know, without a doubt, that nothing—not even life, death, angels,
demons, my current circumstances, or things to come in the future—absolutely nothing
will ever separate me from the love of God. (Romans 8:38-39). Even when God
chastises me, I do not fear because I know that God’s discipline comes from a heart of a
Father who dearly loves me, His child. (Proverbs 3:11-12; Hebrews 12:5-11; Revelation
3:19; Deuteronomy 8:5.

I had lived in fear for most of my life. However, as I began to grasp the full dimensions
of God’s love for me, all of my fear disappeared. His perfect love truly cast out all the
fear that was inside me (1 John 4:18). It is hard to put into words the freedom I have
now…a freedom that goes far beyond anything I could ask for or imagine (Ephesians
3:20-21)

When fear tries to work its way back into my heart, I immediately remind myself of just
how much God loves me and the fear dissipates and is replaced with total peace. The
following are just a few Scriptures (along with those I’ve referenced throughout this
article) that I use to remind me of God’s unfathomable, perfect, matchless love. I
encourage you to read (out loud, when possible) and meditate on these verses. Pick one
(or more) of them to personalize and memorize as a constant reminder of God’s love for
you…especially during those times when fear tries to creep into your heart.

Zephaniah 3:17 (NIV)

The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you,
he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing."

Isaiah 49:15-16 (NIV)

"Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has
borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! See, I have engraved you on the
palms of my hands; your walls are ever before me.

1 John 3:1 (NIV)

How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of
God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not
know him.

1 John 4:16 (NIV)

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love
lives in God, and God in him.

Ephesians 5:2 (MSG)

Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with Him and learn a life of love.
Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn't love in
order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.

Exodus 15:13 (NIV)

"In your unfailing love you will lead the people you have redeemed. In your strength you
will guide them to your holy dwelling.

Deuteronomy 7:9 ESV

Know therefore that the Lord your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and
steadfast love with those who love him and keep his commandments, to a thousand
generations,

Psalms 36:7 NIV

How priceless is your unfailing love! Both high and low among men find refuge in the
shadow of your wings.

Jeremiah 31:3
…I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.