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23 Things Men Wished You Knew But Would Never Tell You To
Your Face By Anna Wilson

Have you ever wondered why some men fall in love and stay in love, while others lose
interest in women they once loved?

Have you ever wondered why some men are just not interested in you, while they fall in
love with women who you know you are a better catch than?

The thing is, the male mind doesnt work the same way our female brains do

Youll discover that from reading about the first secret coming up soon, but first I
wanted to let you know about how this report came about, so you know that the
information is real and worth listening to!

It all started a couple of years ago when my best friend Michelle got dumped by her
husband of 4 years. She was still relatively young at 36, but didnt have children yet, so
the clock was ticking so to speak.

She had never felt so alone and let down by him and was utterly devastated.

For starters he had taken about 7 years of dating before they got married, and even after
they were married he stalled and stalled before having children. And then he ended up
leaving her, and very shortly after met another woman!

As you might imagine, her self-esteem was shot to pieces, and her trust for men was at
an all-time low.

Being a relationships coach, I wanted to help her but being my sister, she only wanted
me to give her a hug and support She didnt want my advice.

But I managed to convince her that it would at least be a great idea to hear what MEN
themselves have to say.

So we devised a comprehensive survey, full of questions that probed men to find out
what they REALLY want in a woman, and what makes them stay in love, and why some
men lose interest in a woman, and so forth.

We managed to get this filled out by 360 men, which we thought was quite an effort and
it seemed to be a great number as there were a lot of patterns and recurring themes
throughout the answers.

Michelle thought she was going to start hating men after the survey as she was
expecting some chauvinistic answers, but she was pleasantly surprised and almightily
enlightened.

She discovered men, good ones at least, were as vulnerable and wanting to meet Mrs
Right as women wanted to meet and be with Mr Right

Most men didnt want one night stands and short term flings after all, that wasnt the
issue at all. But men sure did want different things and after analyzing the findings, and
doing other research on male psychology, we distilled our findings down to

The 23 Laws of Success with Men

While success with men depends on a myriad of factors, there are certain basic tenets,
or laws, that can be hugely instrumental in helping you attain the kind of successful
relationship you would love to have.

Not only can these laws of success with men help you attain a good relationship with a
great guy, but if you take a little time to familiarize yourself with them and put some
thought into each one and how it can be applied to your own love life, these 23 laws can
also help you retain a good relationship once you have it.

This is important because it seems to be a problem for many women---keeping a man
interested and committed to her once the initial attraction and honeymoon phase of the
relationship has come and gone. Not being able to hold on to a mans affections for any
length of time is a common theme among women from every walk of life. In many cases,
you are able to attract men that might be ideal life partners, but you cant keep them
from losing interest and fading out of your life after a while.

These laws of success with men can provide help in that area, too.

You can discover ways to keep your man interested and committed to being with
you..unlock the mysteries of how some women manage to find and hold the men they
want..and learn things about yourself that are key to being successful with men.

Here are the 23 Secrets to Success with Men---read and learn!

Secret # 1 R-E-S-P-E-C-T

If men revealed one of the primary things they want and need from a relationship, they
might sing you a few lyrics of a tune that amazing songstress, soul sister Aretha
Franklin, once belted out: R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me!

Respect.

If you want to be successful with men, it is absolutely essential to show a man that you
respect him. You may feel that respect but take it for granted that he knows how you feel
without expressing it and chances are---he doesnt.


Study after study and tons of research on what men want from women have consistently
shown that high on the Wish List for most men is respect. This is crucial to a relationship
of any kind and even more so when you are in a romantic relationship. In his book Love
and Respect, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs says this: Women need love. Men need respect.
Its as simple and as complicated as that.

He goes on to reveal findings from his study of 400 males in which 74% said that if they
had to choose, they would rather feel alone and unloved than disrespected and
inadequate. That should be an eye opener for you if you had any lingering doubts about
how strongly men feel about being respected in a relationship. Love and respect seem to
be completely intertwined to men.

What this boils down to is that if a man feels that he isnt respected, he will feel unloved,
as well.

Why is respect such a critical issue with the majority of men?

It has been theorized that this begins in childhood, when the emphasis for boy children
and girl children is on different things as far as interaction with their peers. Boys want to
win respect and admiration by excelling at sports or other manly type activities, while
girls tend to seek love and affection from their playmates.

This trend continues through life as men strive to stay on top of their game at the work
place and at home. Most males want to be seen as problem solvers, the strong
masculine presence that can step in and fix whatever the problem may be. If you treat a
man with a lack of respect, you diminish his manhood. This is a state of affairs that will
almost definitely have serious and grim repercussions for you eventually, because many
men will not stay in a relationship with a woman who emasculates them in any way. Nor
should they.

In a recent survey of 360 men that asked them to list the top five traits most desired in
their ideal woman, respect was alluded to in a high number of responses. Here are a few
of the typical comments made by the survey participants:

..She has to respect and love me for who I am.

She has to respect what I do for a living and the career I want to have, without
wanting to control me or put me on a different path.

..She has to be a person who respects me as I do her.

..Loyalty and respect.

..Respects me, and knows how to ask nicely and pleasantly when she wants
something from me.


Time after time, when reading the top things these men surveyed want from women,
respect was included in the list. So, it seems crystal clear that if you want to make a man
feel loved and keep him committed to you and the relationship, it would behoove you to
show him the respect he craves. If you have to pretend respect for a man because you
dont truly feel any---you dont need to be involved with him anyway. Move on.

It is important to realize that telling a man you respect him is not going to cut much ice
with him if you dont show it. For example, you could tell a man in words that you have
the utmost respect for him, but if you behave toward him in disrespectful ways; that is
the message that will come through loud and clear and have the biggest impact. How
could you show disrespect to a man?

Here is a scenario in which you would announce your disrespect:

Your husband or significant other has given the children an order to go to bed at a
certain time. You countermand this order and tell them they can stay up past that time.
You might not have verbally asserted your lack of respect, but your actions spoke louder
than words, didnt they?

Men have a need to be respected. Women who are savvy enough to show that respect
will have a much better chance of success with men. It might take a little practice, but
showing a man respect is a small thing that will reap big rewards for you!

Secret # 2: Develop a Healthy Self Confidence

In order to attract the right kind of men, you must have a healthy amount of self
confidence.

If you are self confident and feel good about yourself and what you have to bring to the
table in a relationship, men who are also emotionally healthy are attracted to this quality.
Well rounded, psychologically healthy, self confident men value these traits in a woman
and shy away from females who show an obvious lack of self esteem with little or no
confidence in themselves.

They are astute enough to realize that women with low self esteem are going to be
needy.emotional bottomless pits that can never receive enough reassurance from a
man no matter how much he expresses his love and devotion. These women will drain
the life from a relationship and make their fear of being unworthy of a mans love a self
fulfilling prophecy. Why? Because eventually almost any man will grow weary of
endlessly trying to shore up someone elses feelings of self worth. When that happens,
the man usually ends the relationship.

Heads up: Most men want a woman who is self confident!

In a survey of 347 men aged 15 to 65 and older, when asked about the traits that
attracted them to a woman and contributed to their falling in love with a particular female,

many respondents stated self confidence and high self esteem as being very important
to them in these areas.

Here are some typical comments from men who participated in the survey:

..Confidence. Independent.

..Likes herself for who she is.

..Someone who values herself instead of always putting herself down.

..Confidence about herself.

..Confidence, good self-image.

..She should have a great life going for herself.

Over and over and over again, men listed confidence, self confidence and self esteem
as among the five most important traits they look for in a woman. They see such
confidence as attractive and when you stop and think about it, this makes perfect sense.
If you value yourself, others are more apt to value you, as well.

This door swings both ways. For instance, if you attract emotionally stable, healthy men
by having self confidence yourself, what type of men do you think you are liable to attract
if the opposite is true and you have zero or little self confidence coupled with feelings of
low self worth?

Exactly.

You will either attract men who:

(a) Are also emotional cripples and therefore incapable of a healthy relationship since
two people with low self esteem dont add up to one healthy couple, or

(b) Bottom feeders with all sorts of issues that deliberately seek out women who have
self esteem problems because they are more easily manipulated and taken advantage
of.

Yes, unfortunately, there are those types of men out there and they can wreak havoc
with women who had little self confidence going into the relationship. The good news is
that, if youre self confident and self assured, these men will avoid you like the plague.
The last thing they want is an emotionally stable female because they wouldnt be able
to play the little mind games, systematic degradation and ill treatment they enjoy with
women who have low self esteem. In fact, theyre cunning enough to realize that an
emotionally healthy woman wouldnt give them the time of day, so they dont even
approach them.

The lesson here is that to attract the sort of men that would be suitable for a viable
relationship, you must be self confident and possess enough self esteem to signal that
you are a person of value in your own right.

Secret # 3: Independence is a Virtue

Ladies, every day should be Independence Day for you!

You should glory in your independence.cultivate it.make being independent a top
priority.

What kind of independence? Every kind. Financial independence is always nice, of
course. But, you should strive to be emotionally independent, too. Now, dont make the
mistake of confusing the term independent for being hard to get along with,
argumentative or just plain old contrary. These are not attractive personality traits in
either gender.

Being independent means that you have your own life, your own routine, your own
income and are not likely to be emotionally or financially dependent on a man. This is
important to many men, maybe even most men, when all is said and done. While men
appreciate being perceived as strong and manly, that doesnt necessarily equate to a
desire to have to prop someone else up in every way.

In a recent survey of 279 men, when asked what was the one trait they would change
about the woman in their lives, if they could; a high number of men responded that they
would like for their women to be more independent, or less dependent, which amounts to
the same thing.

Here are some of the answers from the survey about what the respondents wished they
could change about their women that illustrates how vital a role independence can play
in a relationship:

..more emotionally secure and able to live a life with me, not make me her life.

..An independent mind.

..I wish she had been more independent.

..She should have a great life going for herself.

..Independence, doesn't need me for everything.

..Dont like dependency on men/using men.


This was a recurring theme over and over again in the survey.

A normal male does not want the role of the be-all and end-all of your entire existence.
This puts a lot more pressure on a man than many are prepared to live with. If your guy
knows that you have interests of your own, he is less likely to feel pressured to be your
everything and then resent you for it. Independent women are perceived as strong and
secure, which is a plus with men who are strong and secure. And really---would you
want any other kind of man?

Probably not.

As far as being financially independent, this goes a long way toward maintaining the
equilibrium in a relationship. Lets face it, if you are completely dependent on a man for
every facet of your life right down to the food you eat and the clothes you wear.can
you really feel like an equal or be perceived as one by your partner?

Even if you marry your dream boat and stay home being a full time mommy, you still
need to have some financial independence. It might be just pin money as our
grandmothers called it back in the day, to cover small personal expenses; but it is
important to have some money of your own. With the advent of the internet, there are
scads of opportunities for stay at home mothers to earn an income online, working the
schedule that best suits their lifestyle.

If you are still looking for that special someone, your chances of finding and keeping him
when he comes along will be much higher if you work at maintaining your independence.

Secret # 4: Learn to Be Happy Alone

If you want to be happy with somebody else, you must first learn to be happy alone.

Too many women feel restless, unfulfilled and unhappy without a man. Although it is
perfectly natural to want a partner for life and romantic love, it isnt natural to be
miserably unhappy without them.

One thing you must understand before you can ever expect to be happy in a relationship
is that nobody can make you happy.

The only person on this earth that can make you happy is YOU.

Happiness comes from within. Its a state of mind.a place you reach inside
yourself.a plateau of contentment and sense of well being that cannot be found in any
outside source, including a man. The right man will add to your happiness, but you cant
expect any man---no matter how wonderful he may be---to transform you from miserable
to happy in one fell swoop. It isnt going to happen.

You need to learn to be happy on your own so that when an ideal man does come along,

you bring that happiness into the relationship instead of dragging along a load of misery
and expecting him to fix it. Besides being a nonrealistic expectation, this puts a huge
amount of pressure on any man, more than most of them are prepared to bear and you
will probably find yourself alone again sooner or later.

Being happy by yourself is not an impossible dream, but it might take some attitude
adjustments. When all is said and done, being happy is a choice. You can either choose
to be happy---or unhappy. Life is so much easier, and better, when you choose to be
happy!

One of the main lessons about being happy alone is that you must learn to be your own
best friend. You must learn to nurture yourself, to give yourself a metaphorical pat on the
back for a job well done and console yourself when something in your life goes awry. If
you practice being your own support system and best friend, you will soon realize that
although it would be nice to have a significant other to do those things along with you; it
isnt necessary for your sense of happiness and well being.

Dont be afraid of your own company. If youre the type who rushes frantically around
helter skelter, going somewhere---anywhere---to avoid being alone, STOP. Slow down,
take a deep breath, and start learning how to be alone without being lonely. Once you
have mastered that life lesson, you will have so much more to bring to a relationship.

When you are happy alone, you are more apt to attract stable, confident men. Your inner
happiness is a magnet to men, theyre drawn to it and want to share it with you. Who
wants to be around a Debbie Downer? There is an old saying that misery loves company
and it aptly applies to the type of man you attract if you are miserable. If you are
unhappy because you arent in a relationship, you are bound to attract unhappy men.
Two unhappy people that team up arent going to magically morph into two happy
people. If anything, each persons misery will be magnified and multiplied by the addition
of the others unhappiness.

So, learn to be happy alone and once youve reached that plateau of inner joy.you can
start attracting the kind of men that would be good candidates for a life partner.

Secret # 5: Get in Touch with Your Feminine Side

Most men are drawn to feminine women.

This is not to say that clingy, needy women are attractive to men because in most
cases.they arent.

But, the majority of men glory in the subtle differences between the sexes and
appreciate a truly feminine female. Being feminine doesnt mean that you cant be
independent, self assertive when necessary and able to hold your own in male company.
It simply means that you allow your soft, feminine side to show in ways that men find
attractive and appealing.

If you let your gentleness and femininity show, it often brings out the best in a man.
Chivalry is not dead and modern men still bask in the glow of being a knight in shining
armor for a Lady Fair. While it is important to be a friend to a man, this will only take you
so far unless that is all you ever want to be. Men are not attracted in a romantic way to
their homies. So, if you want to be perceived as feminine, dont try to be the same type
of pal as a mans male friends.

When asked to name the five traits they look for in a dream woman, a large proportion of
the 360 men surveyed listed being feminine, either directly or in so many words. Here
are some comments from the survey:

..Feminine.

..Tender and nurturing.

..Good homemaker.

..Great cook.

..Good with children.

..Feminine charm.

..Sweet and feminine.

..Femininity.

..Be feminine.

We can probably interpret the traits of sweetness, being a good cook, homemaker and
mother as equaling femininity to a lot of men.

Men value independence, but they dont want a competitor. They want a womanly,
feminine female for a romantic relationship. There are various ways you can exhibit your
feminine side without coming across as too dependent. For example, allow your date to
open doors for you. Let him change your flat tire if he wants to, instead of calling
roadside assistance. Dont be afraid to show your softness and tenderness in feminine
ways.

When you show your feminine traits, this tends to make a man feel more masculine and
manly, which is good for both of you.

Get in touch with your feminine side. Let it shine through when appropriate and you will
find that most men will respond very favorably to it.


Secret # 6: Dont Be a Control Freak

Are you a control freak?

Do you feel that you must exert a tight control over every area of your life, including your
relationships with the opposite sex? Does it seem likely to you that if you relinquish
complete control in a relationship, your male partner will make a mess of things?

If you answered yes to any or all of those questions, you will need to overcome your
controlling nature if you hope to attract and hold the man of your dreams!

Honestly, most men simply do not like a controlling woman. It is a turn-off to the
average, red blooded male and a character trait that most dont feel inclined to overlook.
There are multiple reasons for this. First and foremost might be that if a woman strives to
control every facet of the relationship and the couples life together, it sends the
message that she doesnt consider the man intelligent or capable enough to run any part
of the show on his own.

Hardly flattering, is it?

This sort of control is a put down to the other person in a relationship. It implies that they
are stupid, incompetent, ineffectual.the whole enchilada of negative attributes. It
shouldnt come as a surprise to learn that men dont like being perceived this way, and
who could blame them?

But, when you insist on controlling everything down to the last little detail.that is
basically the message youre sending a man.

If you are a control freak, all is not lost. You werent born that way. It was learned
behavior and it can be un-learned. If you really want to be successful with men, it would
definitely behoove you to start the process of relinquishing control NOW.

To illustrate the point that the majority of men dont like controlling women, lets look at
some of the results of a survey that asked 360 men what frustrated them most about
women they had been in a relationship with or married to. Of the 340 who responded,
more than a few commented on being frustrated by a woman who was too controlling.
Here are just a few of the responses:

..Controlling.

..Feeling forced or coerced to doing something or behaving in certain way.

..Too dependent and controlling.

..J ust trying to have everything their way or no way.


..They want to control the man.

..The need to control and to ' sit on top of me ' when I just need my own space.

Obviously, this is a big issue with men and in many cases, is almost certainly a deal
breaker.

So, take an honest look at yourself and determine whether or not you are a control freak.
If you are, start overcoming those tendencies to rule everything with an iron hand or face
a future minus a man for a healthy relationship.

Secret # 7: Be a Good Listener

If you want a man to listen to you and what you have to say, you need to first learn to
listen to him and really hear what he has to say.

All too often, we have a tendency to talk at someone instead of with them. This can be
the Kiss of Death to a romantic relationship. Nobody, male or female, wants to feel as
though theyre talking into a void. Yet, if you are so busy trying to wow a man by
babbling on and on about yourself, to the extent that the poor guy cant get a word in
edgewise and youre so busy thinking about what youre going to say next that his words
dont even register..he will feel as though you have tuned him out.

Which you have.

This is so not the way to win friends and influence people and not the way to attract Mr.
Right and keep him interested in you. If you want to be interesting to a man, you must be
interested in him. Its just that simple.

Practice your listening skills and fine tune them. The next time you are out on a date, or
talking to a man you would like to go out with, do a little less talking and a lot more
listening. If you are genuinely interested in him, show it by truly listening to what he has
to say.

If you arent genuinely interested in what he has to say, then cut things off right then and
there without wasting any more of your time or his! Dont try to fake interest, either. Few
people have such a lack of perception that they dont pick up on whether someones
interest in them is real or feigned.

In a survey that asked 279 men that were currently in a relationship what they would
change about their partner, being a good listener came up time and again. This is a trait
that is important to most men and a wise woman would be well advised to sit up and
take notice of some of the responses from the men surveyed:

..Attentiveness.


..Excellent Understanding & Communicator.

..Talk less and listen more.

..Talking 'at me' NOT 'with me' Why ... because it means she is not listening or not
interested in my views or observations.

And more in this vein.

If you are not currently top notch in the listening department, the situation isnt hopeless.
You can learn to be a good listener at any age. Sometimes, men and women alike may
chatter out of nervousness. Do you fall into this category? When you are having a
conversation with a man you are attracted to, do you sometimes catch yourself rattling
on with barely a break to catch your breath, out of nervousness?

This, too, can be corrected. When you next find yourself in this scenario, make a
conscious effort to control your nervous gabbing and allow the man to speak. When he
does---really listen!

You will find that being a good listener will greatly enhance your attraction for the
opposite sex.

Secret # 8: Keep It Real

Sometimes, women want to find the perfect man so badly that they overlook glaring
deficiencies or bad character traits in men, hoping that in spite of evidence to the
contrary, this flawed individual will miraculously be transformed into someone for a good
relationship.

In extreme cases, a woman may ignore every red flag the man throws up, literally
denying the existence of what is right before her eyes because she so desperately wants
a relationship.

This is a recipe for disaster and has led to disaster countless times.

There is an old saying among country folk: You cant make a silk purse out of a sows
ear. Colorful, but true nonetheless. No matter how much you long to find the one ideal
man, you cant whip him up out of thin air by crediting someone with qualities he doesnt
possess just because you want him to have them.

If a man isnt kind, caring or compassionate, you cant imagine him into being any other
way. He is what he is and all of your wishing wont change that. For example, you are
out with a man and see him kick a friendly little dog that merely approached him in a
non-threatening way.

If you are desperate enough for a relationship and determined to find a way to make this

man someone you could love, you might try to gloss over the incident or conjure up
some explanation for why the man was cruel. Maybe he was bitten by a dog when he
was a child, you tell yourself, and so is irrationally terrified of canines as an adult and
lashed out at the dog out of fear instead of inhumane cruelty. Maybe he was afraid the
dog would bite you and kicked it away out of some misbegotten effort to be your
protector.

If you catch yourself making excuses for a mans bad behavior...watch out!

In many cases, a man will tell a woman everything she needs to know about the
inadvisability of trying to hook up with him long term. He might say, for instance, that he
doesnt like or want children, or that he doesnt intend to get married, or that he isnt able
to be faithful to any one woman.

Instead of taking this information for what it is---the cold, hard truth---some women who
intensely want him to be their soul mate in the face of all evidence to the contrary will
refuse to heed his all too revealing words. They either tune them out completely, or they
spin little fantasies to the effect that even though the man said he didnt want children or
to get married, they could change his mind.

It doesnt work that way, as many women in denial have learned the hard way.

If a man tells you he isnt the faithful type---believe him. If he says that he will never get
married---take it to the bank. If he has a bad attitude toward woman and is disrespectful,
contemptuous or even abusive---dont ignore it and try to convince yourself he doesnt
mean it. He does mean it.

When those warning flags wave, keep it real and move on.

Secret # 9: Look Your Best

Men are visual. Once you recognize this incontrovertible fact, you will understand that
smart women work at looking their best in order to be attractive to men.

Before getting more deeply into this topic, lets clarify something: Looking your best and
being attractive to men does not mean that you have to be a raving beauty. Not by a
long shot. Some of the most legendary women in history, those that had men at their
feet, were not considered great beauties. But, these women were fascinating to men
because of other qualities.

Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Even though men are very visual, who
do you think most of them would prefer for a serious, long term relationship:

(a) A beautiful woman who was cold, controlling, manipulating, greedy and all sorts of
other unappetizing things, or


(b) A woman who made the most of her looks and although not beautiful, kept herself
looking nice and was warm, caring, compassionate, undemanding and other things that
men value in a female?

Right!

Beauty alone wont get you too far with men in the long run. Still, you should always do
your best to look your best. This means good hygiene, clean, shiny hair, neat and
attractive clothing, etc. A warm, genuine, infectious smile is perhaps one of the most
attractive things about anyone and you can count on being attractive to men if you have
this kind of radiant smile, regardless of how much physical beauty you possess or dont
possess.

A survey that asked men to list the top five traits their dream woman would possess
showed how important it is to most males that a woman keep up her appearance. Here
are some of the replies:

..Takes care of herself as in hygiene and appearance.

..Taking care of herself.

..Attractive.

..Neat and inviting at all times.

..Attractive - takes care of herself.

..Neatness.

Of the 66 men surveyed, a large percentage of them alluded to neatness, personal
hygiene and generally taking care of herself and her appearance as extremely important
to them.

It seems apparent that if you want to attract and hold a man, you should make every
effort to keep yourself clean, neat and well groomed. A conventionally beautiful face and
body might attract a man in the first place, but these things wouldnt be enough to keep
him around by themselves.

In the final analysis, simply keeping up your appearance is what matters the most.

Contrary to that old axiom.love isnt blind!

Secret # 10: Try a Little Tenderness

Males have long been leery of allowing their more tender feelings to show, believing this
is less macho and makes them seem like wimps. By the same token, they are often

loath to ask for tenderness from a woman.

But, that doesnt mean that they dont want it and wont appreciate tenderness if they get
it.

When it gets right down to the nitty gritty, men usually like being shown some
tenderness and will respond well to it. Sometimes, when a woman treats a man with
tenderness, this opens the door for him to reciprocate, which creates a win-win situation
for both parties.

Although no one would argue that there arent many fundamental, inherent differences
between men and women, at the end of the day we are all human beings with a lot of the
same emotional wants and needs.

Think about an occasion when someone treated you with tenderness. Didnt it give you a
warm, good feeling? Didnt you feel kindly toward the person dispensing the tenderness
and view them in a positive light?

The average man will react and respond the same way.

This doesnt mean that you should go all misty eyed and syrupy sweet every time youre
with a man. It means that at the appropriate times, when a little tenderness and caring
would probably make him feel better if he has had a bad experience or a loss of some
sort, you show him some tenderness. You might be surprised at the benefits this will
reap for your relationship.

When you show tenderness to a man, you are showing him that you genuinely care and
empathize with him in whatever it is hes going through. During hard times, we all like to
feel that someone is in our corner.someone that cares for us and is truly sorry for our
pain, sadness or whatever other negative emotions are at work with us.

Men are no different.

If you want to maintain a close, loving relationship with a man, try a little tenderness!

Secret # 11: Communicate

Did you know that communication---or the lack thereof---is one of the top frustrations
many men experience in their relationships with women?

The importance of learning to be a good communicator cannot be stressed enough. It
plays a major role in your ability to attract the man of your dreams and keep him by your
side; in love with you. Great communication can elevate a so-so relationship to a great
relationship and in some cases, save a relationship that is on the rocks.

Have you ever felt hurt and frustrated because you felt that a man failed to understand

what you wanted or needed from him? Did you ever throw up your hands in defeat and
walk away from a relationship when your partner just didnt get you, despite what you
considered your best efforts? This is a fairly frequent occurrence in any interaction
between the sexes for both men and women alike.

Why is communication between men and women often such a problem?

There is scientific data and a great deal of research to show that the greatest barrier to
good communication between men and women is that they communicate differently.

This begins during childhood, when girls tend to choose other girls as playmates and
boys gravitate toward other boys. Girls and boys develop different communication styles.
Girls will usually have fewer playmates than boys and will talk more, confiding in their
friends, telling secrets and sharing feelings. Boys, on the other hand, are more likely to
play in larger groups of other boys and use language to show their status by the
demonstration of their abilities or skills, as well as challenging other boys.

So, as time goes on, these two very different methods of communication carry on into
adulthood and what do you have then?

You have females who are apt to talk more than males and be more open about their
feelings, and males who are more action oriented and likely to show rather than tell how
they feel.

Obviously, this is not conducive to a harmonious relationship. But, it can be vastly
improved if you take some time to work on understanding how most men communicate
and adapt your own communication style just a bit, to accommodate these differences
and facilitate understanding between the two of you. It will be well worth the effort!

To give you an idea of just what a hot spot communication is with men when dealing with
women, look at some of these responses from a survey that asked men what they would
change about their women if they could:

..Communication.

..Lack of communication.

..Say what you mean and mean what you say.

..I cant read her mind.

..Not in a relationship (6 months) but it seems to always be the communication issue
for me.

..Very secretive and non-communicative about important issues.


..Want excellent understanding & communicator.

Communication, or the ability to be a good communicator, was also mentioned
numerous times in a survey that asked men to name the top five traits they wanted in a
dream woman.

There can be no doubt that learning how to be a good communicator with the opposite
sex is extremely instrumental in your success with men.

Secret # 12: Neediness Does Not Become You

Can we tell it like it is?

Neediness is a turn off, in either gender and in any relationship. When someone is too
needy, our instinct is usually to pull away and get some distance. Needy people, whether
they are friends, romantic partners or even coworkers, make most of us feel smothered
and frankly, annoyed.

To a lot of men, a needy woman is their worst nightmare. Most males, at some point or
another, have gotten involved with a needy woman and are exceedingly gun shy about
ever having to extricate themselves from this type of female again, avoiding them like
Typhoid Mary.

If you really want to be successful men, dont be needy!

When someone is needy, they come across as weak, insecure and with low self
confidence. They come across this way because they are this way. Strangely enough, a
woman might be terrifically strong and self confident in other areas of her life, such as
her career, but be a total mass of quivering neediness when involved in a romantic
relationship. There are undoubtedly tons of psychological reasons for this phenomenon.

However, if you are needy, for whatever reason---get over it! Neediness is unappealing
to the average man and if you display that lamentable trait, hes liable to disappear so
fast you wont even see him take off. As we talked about earlier, men like confident,
independent women. Few men are interested in a clinging vine and its a safe bet that
the ones who would prefer a needy woman are dysfunctional themselves.

First, make an honest assessment of your attachment style with men. Are you high
maintenance, requiring a lot of time and attention? Do you constantly feel the need for
reassurance and reaffirmations of the mans feelings for you? Would you love being able
to hang a GPS device on him and track his movements 24/7?

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions..you are needy. In order to attract
the right kind of men and hold their interest, you absolutely must conquer the worst of
your neediness.


The same survey mentioned earlier that asked 360 men about the top five traits they
looked for in their ideal woman had a litany of answers regarding NOT wanting a needy
female. Look at some of the typical comments:

..Not needy.

..Low maintenance.

..Independence (doesn't need me for everything)

..Isn't a drama queen and needy.

..Not so needy.

..Independent (not clingy)

It appears patently obvious that neediness is unattractive to men. So, it follows that if
you want to be attractive to men, you wont be needy.

Secret # 13: A Little Mystery is a Good Thing

If you think that in order for a romantic relationship to be successful each person should
be an open book---youre wrong.

The plain, unvarnished truth is that a little mystery is a good thing.

A woman who retains a touch of mystery is attractive to men. She has an aura of
mystique that often challenges a man to plumb her spiritual depths and learn more about
her. Its a challenge few men can resist!

If you have a compulsion to spill everything about yourself to a man as soon as possible,
resist it. Instead, be like a flower, opening one petal at a time.slowly.and never open
them all. Bear in mind that men and women both like a challenge and that nobody puts
as much value on something too easily come by.

As the legendary showman P.T. Barnum once said: Always leave them wanting more.

This rule is every bit as applicable to being successful with men as anything else in life.
It doesnt mean that you should try to play mind games with a man or tell deliberate
falsehoods. Being a little mysterious means letting him know that you have many layers
and that everything about you is not superficial.

Mysterious women are so attractive to men that songs have been written about them
and one of the worlds most famous paintings depicts a woman of mystery.the Mona
Lisa. How many have wondered what the enigmatic, ultra mysterious Mona Lisa is
smiling about?

As for songs, Bruce Springsteens hit recording Secret Garden is all about a
mysterious woman who keeps a part of herself to herself.

She'll lead you down a path
There'll be tenderness in the air
She'll let you come just far enough
So you know she's really there
Then she'll look at you and smile
And her eyes will say
She's got a secret garden
Where everything you want
Where everything you need
Will always stay
A million miles away

A hint of mystery is intriguing. Its attractive, challenging and last but not least---its sexy
in every way!

To attract a man and continue to hold his interest, retain some mystery. Hell love you for
it!

Secret # 14: Honesty is the Best Policy

When it comes to being successful with men, honesty really is the best policy!

As a matter of fact, most men who perceive a woman as being less than honest are
quite unhappy about this dishonesty and it can be a major issue in the relationship.
Enough so that some men will end the relationship if they dont believe they can rely on
a womans honesty in certain areas or every area.

Studies have shown that men value honesty in a relationship more than women do, or at
least place more emphasis on it.

Is total, uncompromising honesty always a good thing? Probably not. Most of us tell little
white lies from time to time to spare someones feelings. This happens in romantic
relationships, as well. For instance, if a man you were in a serious, committed
relationship asked whether or not your former boyfriend or significant other was a better
lover.what would you say?

If the man in your previous relationship really was a better lover---would you say so? Not
if you want to keep the man youre with or spare his feelings, you wouldnt. As the Arabs
say: It is good to know the truth, but it is better to speak of palm trees.

So there are times when it is better to fudge a little on the truth. On the other hand, there
are more times when honesty should be the order of the day and of the relationship in

general. Men put a premium on honesty and the sooner you understand that, the higher
your chances of keeping the man you want.

Looking again at one of the surveys mentioned earlier, about what top five traits men
look for in their ideal woman; honesty crops up over and over again. Check out some of
these responses:

..Honest.

..Honesty and trust.

..Honesty.

..Honest, straight forward.

..Honesty in her attitude to me.

And more in that vein. This was a repetitive refrain from the men who were surveyed.
They want a woman who is honest with them. Another survey, asking a group of men
from assorted age groups what frustrated them most about women, also received a high
number of responses centering around a lack of honesty.

..That they are not being honest.

..Dishonesty.

..LYING.

..Their honesty and not willing to be open about the issue.

..Frustration about women already dated is lack of honesty and commitment.

..NOT TELLING THE TRUTH.

..Lack of honesty.

Can there be any doubt that honesty is an important issue with men?

If you want to be successful with men, honesty is critical to the relationship. But, if they
ask you about their sexual prowess as compared to former lovers..speak of palm
trees!

Secret # 15: Fine Tune Your Flirting Skills

One of the things men find most attractive and appealing in a purely feminine way is a
woman who has mastered the art of flirting.

Fine tuning your flirting skills can play a huge part in attracting men and keeping them
interested once the initial attraction is a thing of the past. Men love to have a woman flirt
with them! Its flattering to their egos, it makes the woman seem more alluring and
attractive to them and they perceive a woman who knows how to flirt as sexy and worth
their time and attention.

Unfortunately, flirting as a feminine art form has waned during the past few decades.
This might be due to the whole feminist movement and considered as too submissive
by some liberated women. But, as wise women know, flirting doesnt have to make you
appear weak or too eager to curry male favor. Almost every normal male will respond
favorably to a bit of well practiced flirtation.

To be effective in flirting, it must be done correctly. Like so many other things, there is a
right way and a wrong way to flirt and sometimes it may seem to be a fine line between
the two.

Generally speaking, you should flirt in a way that is noticeable enough to capture a
mans interest and attention, but not come on so strong that you seem to be promising
more than you are planning to deliver---right away, anyhow. A woman who does this is
often seen as a tease by men. This is not a good impression to make as most men dont
like a woman who is a sexual tease. So, you dont want to cross that line.

Your challenge, in flirting, is to get the point across that you find a man attractive and
might be interested in getting to know him better without being perceived as a slut or a
tease.

But, not to worry. You can do it!

Try casually brushing against his arm, making and holding eye contact long enough to
send a clear signal, lightly touching his shoulder or hand.along with many other
flirtatious techniques that would serve you well.

Dont save flirting for capturing a mans attention and then put it on the shelf once the
relationship is cemented. To be successful with men, consider flirting as something that
should be an ongoing thing and a way to keep your man wanting to be with you.

A word of caution: While most men enjoy female flirting, dont practice it on their friends
or other men while in their presence. They dont like that at all and why should they?
Some women believe that they can breathe fresh fire into a romance that has gone cold
by openly flirting with other men, thereby making the current man jealous of them. It
generally doesnt work that way. If anything, this type of behavior would make a man
who was wavering in his affections for you decide to leave you that much faster.

Practice and hone your flirting skills to increase your chances of success with men!


Secret # 16: Set Boundaries

If you want to be successful with men, you must learn how to set boundaries.

Boundary setting is not something you hear about every day and perhaps not something
you have ever given much thought to, but if you really want to be successful in a
relationship, it will benefit you to set personal boundaries.

What does it mean when you set boundaries?

Basically, you might think of it as drawing a line in the sand and then standing firm
behind it, with the implicit understanding that it is not to be crossed. If this sounds hostile
or confrontational to you, it isnt. Setting boundaries goes hand in hand with dignity and
respect in any relationship and is a simple matter of making sure you preserve those
things.

Before you begin to set boundaries, you must decide what your personal boundaries
really are in a romantic relationship.

For instance, if you are dating a man and he is late for no valid reason or stands you up,
will you continue to go out with him? Or will you set some boundaries and stick to them
about how much of this sort of thing you are willing to go along with? If a man is
chronically very late, throwing a monkey wrench into plans the two of you had made for
the evening, will you overlook it and accept it as business as usual? Or will you decide
that three strikes and hes out?

Boundary setting might apply to many areas in a relationship. Some things might be
more important to you than others. Maybe you can overlook certain things but not be
willing to turn a blind eye to others in order to maintain the relationship. Your boundaries
will be uniquely your own. Take some time to sit down and think about them, so that you
have a clear idea of what they are.

This way, when you meet a man and start dating him, you will have those boundaries
firmly in place and feel comfortable about them.

Knowing what boundaries are important to you is a matter of self awareness. You will
have to tune into your feelings to identify the types of things that make you most
uncomfortable, or feeling that the other person is violating your personal set of
boundaries.

Should you keep your boundaries to yourself?

No, although there is probably no need to mention particular boundaries if your romantic
partner hasnt encroached on them. But, if you are involved with someone who is
crossing the line in some way, you should say so. You dont have to be combative about
it, but be direct and firm. Let the person know that a certain behavior is not acceptable

and stick to your guns.

Men respect a woman who sets boundaries and doesnt allow herself to be treated badly
or have those boundaries ignored.

Setting boundaries is healthy and instrumental in being successful with men.

Secret # 17: You Arent His Mother

Women who want to be successful with men understand that even though most men
appreciate a feminine woman with a softer, nurturing side.they dont want to be
mothered.

You might think that this sounds like walking a tightrope and it may well be, to some
extent. But, if youre serious about wanting to attract and hold the man of your dreams,
this is an area you need to understand.

There are various reasons why coming across as motherly in a romantic relationship is a
bad idea.

First of all, many men perceive a woman as motherly when she constantly tells him what
to do, or punishes him in some way, or nags him about this and that, or other maternal
type behavior. You can get away with some of this and call it concern for his well being,
but only up to a point. If your motherly behavior goes past a certain point, you will
discover that your man is responding in a negative way.

Men dont appreciate being treated like children.

Besides feeling resentful about being mothered in a romantic relationship, this behavior
is very likely to sabotage a mans libido and sexual attraction toward you. After all, what
normal male perceives his mother as sexy?

So, when a man feels that you are being too motherly, it stirs up all sorts of feelings that
will have a bad effect on the relationship. He is likely to see you as being bossy and
controlling at the same time his sexual interest in you begins to go south. This is not the
way to maintain a relationship!

A recent survey asked a group of male respondents what made them lose interest in a
woman. A lot of the replies might be reasonably interpreted as their dislike for a woman
who acted in too motherly a fashion. Look at some of these comments and judge for
yourself:

..*Nagging*

..Bossy.


..Tries to tell me what to do.

If you find yourself sounding maternal, scolding your man like a little boy for not wiping
his feet when he comes through the front door, or chiding him because he didnt eat all
of his veggies, etc...STOP.

You are not his mother. He has, or at least had at some point, a mother and it isnt you.
He wants you to care for him and about him in a loving way, but not in a motherly way.

If you want to be successful with a man, dont act like his mother!

Secret #18: Dont Try a Makeover

Too many woman make the fatal mistake of trying to change a man after they have
entered into a relationship and learn to their sorrow that it doesnt work.

This is one of the most critical aspects of being successful with men. Dont try to change
them! If you have this irresistible urge to do a makeover on something, work on yourself
or your house, but not your man.

Men resent a woman trying to make them over and can you really blame them? Who
wants to feel that their love interest doesnt like them the way they are?

A lot of men wonder why, if a woman was attracted to them in the first place, she should
set in to change them as soon as possible. From that perspective, one can understand
why theyre puzzled. The thing for you to keep in mind, though, is that for whatever
reason you want to change and rearrange a man---it isnt going to work and all you will
succeed in doing is alienating him.

If you meet a man who seems almost perfect for you, but has a few quirks or traits or
habits that you dont much like, ask yourself if these little faults or foibles are things you
can live with long term. If not..move on.

Going full steam ahead with the relationship and keeping your true feelings about what
you perceive as his flaws to yourself with the intention of changing him once you are
married or at least living together in a committed relationship is a very bad idea. Women
who do this are setting themselves---and the relationship---up to fail.

What you should understand is that nobody is perfect. You either accept his little
idiosyncrasies or not. If you pretend to accept them and then, at a later date, start
chipping away at him in an effort to make him different in some way, he will be doubly
resentful because you concealed your true feelings for him for an indeterminate length of
time. In effect, you will be attempting to make your problems with something about him
his problems.

He will not like this.

A group of men were surveyed and asked what had ever made them lose interest in a
woman. Quite a few mentioned that they lost interest when a woman tried to change
them. Check out a few of the responses:

..Wants to change me, can't accept me for who/what I am.

..Too much criticism of me.

..Very picky, demanding and overly critical.

..Became less approving and accepting of me.

These comments and many more clearly show that the majority of men dont take too
kindly to a woman trying to change them.

If you really want to be successful with men.accept the incontrovertible fact that a man
is what he is and trying to make him over into a different version of himself is an exercise
in futility, besides being certain doom for the relationship.

That femme fatale of the Silver Screen, the legendary Mae West, may have summed up
the whole issue about trying to change a man: Don't marry a man to reform him -- that's
what reform schools are for.

Secret # 19: Compliments Work Wonders

A wise woman who understands human nature realizes that all of us want admiration
and approval.

When it comes to men, flattery may not get you everywhere, but it will take you a lot
further than being critical or withholding words of praise or compliments. This doesnt
mean that you should shower a man with saccharine sweet words of praise you dont
really feel, because he will spot your insincerity and feel insulted or demeaned by it. At
the very least, he will lose respect for you.

So, dont fawn and flatter in a cloying manner, but do bestow sincere, heartfelt
compliments and praise where appropriate.

Many women expect a man to be complimentary to them.telling them that they look
great in a certain dress or that their hair is pretty and more along those lines. But, these
same women sometimes fail to take into account that men like to receive compliments
and verbal affirmations of their good qualities, too. The truth is that men need a pat on
the head every now and then just the same as women!

Is your date wearing an especially nice shirt? Tell him! Does he have a sexy voice? Say

so! Do you admire his driving skills or something he else he does well? Let him know!
Everyone has an innate need to feel valuable, appreciated and receive warm words of
commendation from others; especially a romantic partner whose opinion of us often
rates just a bit higher than the average friend or coworker. When you are attracted to a
man, isnt it nice when he lets you know that he finds you pleasing in some way?

Of course, it is! Men have that need for approval, too, and if you fulfill that need; it will
reap benefits for you in the relationship. Dont think of this as manipulative behavior,
because it really isnt.

When you offer genuine words of praise or pay someone a bona fide compliment, it isnt
manipulation. If, on the other hand, you heap praise on someone and pay them
compliments you dont mean in an attempt to curry favor.that is manipulative behavior.

Surely, if you are attracted to a man, you can find things to compliment him on. If you
cant manage to dredge up at least a few words of honest flattery for things you admire
or approve of about him.you dont need to be with the man, anyway.

If you want to be successful with men, be generous in your compliments and approval!

Secret # 20: Be Trusting and Trustworthy

Dont get the idea that because this law is further down the list it isnt as important as
others, because it most emphatically is!

Trust is one of the most sensitive issues with the majority of men. They want to be able
to trust you and they want you to trust them. It is a hot button issue and one that comes
up with regularity in surveys given to men about their relationships with women.

When asked in the aforementioned survey what five traits they would want in their ideal
woman, being able to trust and be trusted popped up in a high percentage of answers
from the male participants, in one form or another. Check out some of these responses
and you can get an idea as to just how very important the whole area of trust is in all
respects.

..She's loyal.

..Loyalty.

..Faithful.

..Trust.

..Fidelity.

..TRUSTFUL.

..Trustworthiness.

..Faithfulness.

When asked in different surveys what caused them to end a relationship or lose interest
in a woman, look at some of the answers the male respondents gave:

..Unfaithful.

..Cheated on me.

..Having affairs.

..Non monogamous.

..J ealousy.

..Infidelity.

..Untrusting.

..Cheating or having other relationship apart from me.

..A little jealousy is very nice, but extremes get old really quickly.

Can there be any doubt that trust is a huge deal with men?

There are psychologists who theorize that the whole thing with trust and men goes back
to the dawn of civilization and up through the ages when men were away from hearth
and home for extended periods of time, either fighting enemies or hunting for food.
Women were left alone, untended, during these absences and men may have needed to
feel that their women were 100% trustworthy to ensure paternity of offspring.

This seems logical. There can be no doubts about maternity, since a female is the sex
that carries the child and gives birth to it. Paternity, though, is a horse of a different color.

Before the time of DNA tests, men had no way of being completely certain a child born
to their woman was really theirs. Short of keeping a woman under lock and key during
any time they were away from her, there was no way of guaranteeing her faithfulness.
This was why chastity belts were invented and we probably dont have to wonder
whether they were a male or female invention, do we?

There have been notable tales of warriors and knights who left a trusty comrade to
watch over a wife that might be tempted to stray, only to discover upon their return that it

was a case of setting a fox to guard the hen house because the watcher and watched
had developed amorous feelings for each other in the interim.

King Arthur, for instance, left Sir Lancelot to guard his queen, Guinivere, and they fell in
love with each other almost before the king had ridden over the drawbridge, away from
the castle.

So, we can understand the origins of mens need to trust their women. Of course, this is
not only a male issue, women need to feel that they can trust their men, as well.

But, to be successful with men, you must understand just how serious a matter trust is to
them and work at being trustworthy. Men want you to trust them, too, but quite honestly
this doesnt seem to be as critical as their trust in you.

If you want to maintain a great relationship with a man, be sure to make him feel secure
in trusting you.

Secret # 21: Respect His Space

You have probably heard some of the talk about men needing space. It isnt just so
much psycho babble. Its true.

Men need space and women do, too. We all have a need for a small, private and
inviolate place where we can retreat within ourselves if the urge strikes us. An inner
sanctum, a safe haven for the mind and spirit where we can be completely alone. The
long held theory that males have a greater need for space than females has been
largely debunked during the past few years after studies have shown that married men,
at least, actually need less space than their spouses.

In his book Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus, author J ohn Gray espoused
the belief that men require considerably more space than women and many of us have
been operating on that basis.

Whether it is entirely true or not, the fact is that men do need space from time to time,
just as you do.

When a man retreats into his cave and makes it obvious he has gone there to be alone
and work some things out for himself or merely for a breather from the relationship, you
should respect this and not hassle him about it.

This is not easy for the average female. When a man vanishes into his cave, for
whatever reason, your first instinct might be to poke him with a sharp stick and make him
come out.

You must resist this impulse!


Leave him alone. Give him the space he needs. In all probability, he will emerge in a
good frame of mind, ready to throw himself back into the relationship. Having said that, if
a man retreats into his own space too often, you might have a problem.

While needing personal space occasionally is natural and normal, a man who does this
a lot might not be someone you will be able to sustain a relatiosnhip with as he may
have too many personal problems to allow any real intimacy. In this case, you should
take a realistic look at his forays into the cave and decide whether or not his excessive
need for space is something you can live with.or not.

A survey we referred to earlier that asked men what frustrated them the most about
women had a goodly number of responses dealing with not being given enough space in
a relationship.

Here are some of the responses that you might find enlightening:

..Being clingy, wanting to spend every day with me.

..Monopolize my time.

..Too needy wont let me have any me time.

All in all, the need for more space wasnt all that big an issue with the 340 males who
took part in the survey, which might bear out other recent research. Still, this is a human
need and you can expect a man to need some space occasionally.

If you want to be successful with men, give them space when they need it and if this
need is excessive..walk away!

Secret # 22: Cultivate a Sense of Humor

It is true that finding the love of your life is a serious matter, but dont be too awfully grim
if you want to be successful with men.

The fact is that almost all men want a woman with a good sense of humor.

They want a woman who laughs easily and often, who laughs with them but not at them,
who is able to find the humor in less than perfect situations and make them a bit easier
to bear. Laughter, as they say, really is the best medicine.

There are more than a few health benefits associated with laughter, including lowered
blood pressure, reduced stress hormones, protection from illness and disease,
increased cancer fighting, enhanced memory, alertness, creativity and more.

In relationships, humor is exceedingly beneficial. The late Victor Borge, comedian and
musician affectionately nicknamed The Clown Prince of Denmark, may have hit the nail

on the head with his assessment of laughter: Laughter is the shortest distance between
two people.

Laughter is a shared social communication between two people that binds them together
in a similar emotion. It builds intimacy, strengthens the bonds of the relationship and
creates an immediate atmosphere of happiness and good will that lingers on to make
wonderful memories as a couple.

Would you be surprised to learn that of the 360 men who participated in the survey
asking them to name the top five traits they wished for in a dream woman, a very high
percentage listed a sense of humor? The ability to laugh, smile and generally be happy
was right up there.

It seems that the average man sets great store by a sense of humor.

Here are some of the typical comments from that survey:

..Good sense of humor, able to laugh at herself and at me.

..Sense of humour.

..Funny.

...Humor, can tell a good joke, and get my jokes.

..J oyful.

..Sense of humor and ability to tease me in a fun way.

..And most importantly must have a sense of humour.

..Needs to be able to laugh at life.

This same trait was referred to time and again by the male survey takers who ranged in
age from 15 all the way up to 65 years old and older. It appeared in an estimated 70% of
responses about what these men considered at the top of the list as far as a womans
traits.

Clearly, having a sense of humor will help you attract and hold men!

Secret # 23: Make Him Feel Desirable

Ladies, if there was one theme that dominated the surveys referred to here that were
given to men about what they look for in an ideal woman, or what frustrates them about
women, or why they might have been unfaithful to or even left a woman..it is sex.

Sex is a huge, huge issue with most men, based on the survey answers.

Are men more sexual than women? Wellthey might be. Research has consistently
shown that men think about sex more than women and want to have sex more often
than the average woman. Roy Baumeister, a psychologist at Florida State University,
conducted an in-depth survey of various studies centered around male and female sex
drives.

What did he find?

The surveys revealed that men under age 60 thought about sex a minimum of once a
day. How often did the women surveyed report thinking about sex? About 75% less than
the men. As men get older, they have fewer sexual thoughts and fantasies, but still
about twice as much as women.

As a general rule, men want more sex than women at all ages. A womans libido is
usually more influenced by cultural and social factors than men, and they tend to be
more fluid in what arouses them. Men seem to have fairly fixed ideas about what turns
them on and are far less likely to be influenced by their environment than women.

What accounts for this marked difference in the sex drives of men and women?

One prevailing theory is that women are much more hard wired to be choosy about who
they have sex with due to the possibility of becoming pregnant, which on some very
basic level may be influenced by the desire to have their progeny sired by a male with
good genetic makeup. This makes sense!

Also, women might be predisposed to want a closer, more committed relationship with a
man they choose to have sex with because they instinctively want a man who will be
around to help provide for and protect a child should pregnancy occur.

Women are naturally more geared toward having these sexual standards than men,
since they are the ones who bear children.

Having established that most men are more sexual in nature than most women, it should
be easy to understand why any woman who wants to be successful with men should
take this into account. If you want to attract and keep a man, you must not lose sight of
his interest in sex and his need to feel that you desire him sexually.

We will go back once again to the survey of 360 men who listed the most important traits
they wanted in their dream woman. An interest in sex, being sexy, a willingness to
experiment sexually..this was included in many, many responses.

Sex is important to men.


Take a look at some of the responses in the survey, which are typical of more than half
of the participants:

..Sexy.

..Enjoys lovemaking.

..Wants to have sex with me often.

..Willing to have sex in unusual places.

..Very sexual.

..Has an active interest in sex.

..Enjoys sex and intimacy.

..Good in bed.

..Likes sex.

..Sexual nature.

And so on and so on..sex was mentioned again and again as a top trait for a dream
woman.

There is an opinion shared by some psychologists that men express their love and
tenderness for a woman by the act of having sex with her. This is not to say that a man
wont ever have sex with a woman he isnt in love with, but perhaps you should put some
thought into this theory and realize that there may be times when your partner wants to
have sex to connect with you on a romantic and spiritual level.

If you want to be successful with men, you dont have to pant after a man in a parody of
lust to keep him happy and committed to you. But, you really do need to understand how
important sex is to your man and do your best to accommodate him.

In Conclusion

I hope youve gained great value from discovering these 23 secrets, and I want you to
know that this is just the tip of the iceberg!

Theres so much more to know and understand about men and how to be the one
woman he loves forever.

Some women believe in working hard on their careers, their weight, and other things
But when it comes to their love lives, they believe that it should all just happen naturally

and that the right man should just turn up and love them as they are.

Thats certainly true in a sense, you should have to change who you are, but you sure
can grow to understand men a LOT better so that you can MAKE him love you, and so
that he can actually SEE and LOVE your best qualities

So Where to next?

Heres what I recommend

After reading this report, I highl y recommend that you watch
the following videos:

How to Use 1 Simple Skill To Make Him Love You Forever:
www.meetyoursweet.com/go/useoneskill

In this revealing presentation youll discover how to talk to men in such a way that hell
naturally want to open up to you, and so that hell naturally feel excited about spending
time with you. Dont miss this.

How to Make Him Become Addicted To You:
www.meetyoursweet.com/go/addictedtoyou

This for women only video will show you how to make him crave you and want to be
more romantic towards you. Youll discover some things about male psychology, that
most women will never know.


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