On Female Sexuality

by Miriam Levenson

Preface:
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Council of the Grandmothers and the books by Sharon McErlane. The
Grandmothers are asking this message to travel the world around so all
women, and all men, can be healed by it. You hereby have my permission
to share it, along with my blessings for healing and more love and
peaceful power than most of us can currently imagine.

MY VISION ABOUT SEXUALITY
I cant write about male sexuality because I am not a man. I could write
about the ways that men have hurt women and girls and boys with their
sexuality, but that story has already come to light. Now the time has come
to talk about the highest expression of womens sexuality; I hope a man
will feel the call to do so from the male perspective.

This article owes its existence to The Grandmothers Speak by Sharon
McErlane. Much of this article is inspired by the book of the same name
and other material written by Sharon McErlane, and most of these ideas
come directly from the Great Council of the Grandmothers themselves.
Tremendous healing is now taking place on Earth. Grandmothers, I thank
from the bottom of my heart for being able to take part in your work and
share it with the world.
This story started in September 2011 during a gathering of women and a
few men who follow the teachings of The Grandmothers. One member of
the group led us in a movement/dance experience of yin and yang. She
led us in an overt, yet playful, exploration of sexual and sensual
movement. She was publicly enjoying her sexuality, and she was
encouraging us to do the same.
Normally I have a great time moving, dancing, being sensual while dancing
and approaching sexuality in a playful way. But this day was different. The
more I watched the leader of our dance-experience and her beautiful and
powerfully erotic way of moving, the more uncomfortable I started to
feel. The discomfort mounted until I thought my head would explode and
I finally left the room.
I went outside, fighting the tears, and found a quiet place to meditate. I
found myself sitting in front of a statue that reminded me of Maria. In
meditation, I went to the Grandmothers circle and desperately asked
them to heal the pain I was feeling. I didnt understand it and I wanted
their help. From the serious and earnest look on their faces, I knew that
this was A Big Deal. This is about all women, they said. How the yin-
power of all women has been damaged.
They then showed me a series of images of a woman who represented
Woman. Woman has responded to this damage by surrounding herself
with an armored breast-plate. This armor covers her breasts, her most
prominent womanly feature. The armored breast-plate does function to
keep intrusive men away, but covering her breasts with steel cuts her off
from her yin-power. This cut-off state also leads Woman to use her sexual
power to manipulate men. The yang use of womanly power perverts the
yin energy and ultimately disempowers the woman by separating her
from the Divine.
The Grandmothers then showed Woman with her breast-plate removed.
Under the armor, a mass of black-and-white-striped caterpillars were
swarming in her chest. I looked for a long time at this gruesome sight,
forcing myself to stay present with the images they gave me, and trusting
that something would happen if I just waited. I realized that the squirming
caterpillars were eating rotten flesh. Suddenly, the caterpillars turned into
butterflies and flew off. When they flew away, they revealed a large
golden heart surrounded by space.
Woman then stood up and received a scepter and a golden crown. She
was very regal: the archetype of the Queen. She then put a different kind
of protection over her chest a transparent shield that revealed her heart
and protected her at the same time.
This Queen remains in control of her sexuality. She can stimulate her own
arousal or ask a man to share it with her. She knows when she wants sex,
with whom, and why. The Queens sexuality is not selfish; it is holy. Many
men were waiting to be chosen by the Queen. When she chose one and
he joined with her, the Grandmothers showed me a round puzzle-box
embossed with the yin and yang symbols. The yin-yang box twisted and
locked together, a symbol of the couples joining. This holy union sent
rays of golden energy out of the womans head into the universe and
connected her more powerfully to the Divine. And the man thought it was
fun too! That was the only information given about the mans experience;
this vision was given exclusively from the womans perspective. She was
clearly in charge of her own sexual experience.
I thanked the Grandmothers for this clear message and opened my eyes. I
looked at the Maria statue and I asked Maria if she had a message for me.
The statue appeared to move before me, and she said Enjoy your
sexuality. Enjoy your sexuality. I didnt realize at the time how hilarious it
was to be receiving that message from the Virgin herself. There is surely
more to the Maria story than what the church has told.
The Grandmothers told me to share their message about sexuality with
the group. I thought they meant our small discussion groups, but it soon
became clear that I needed to share this with all 200 participants. So I did,
and many women spontaneously came up to me afterward to thank me
for saying what I did. They all recognized themselves in the
Grandmothers message.
The Grandmothers also added a post-script to the vision. They said, This
power of yin the ability to connect to so powerfully with God has been
hijacked, oppressed, distrusted, abused, and feared. It is a fearsome
power and it should be treated with respect.
Women, dont give it away or underestimate it. Men, treat it with the awe
and respect due to the Divine, because womens sexuality is a path to the
Divine. When free, it will be a force to be reckoned with.
After I told my story to the group, one man shared that he didnt
appreciate the humorous way I treated the mans experience when
recounting my vision to the group. He said that he felt pain about how he,
and other men, want to be the King. They are also seeking a pathway to
the Divine and they also feel pain about the suffering that women have
undergone. I again said that the message I received was given for the
women present and was given from the womans perspective. Later he
suggested to the group that the men present get together separately.
That surely needs to happen. Some work we can do together and some
we must do separately.
W.S VISION
Later, a woman came to me and said she had almost fainted while I was
sharing about my vision because she had had a nearly identical vision two
weeks earlier. W. describes her vision in her own words:
I have been experiencing serious and uncomfortable symptoms in my
hand, arm and shoulder a frozen, stiff and poisoned feeling in my arm.
In addition to regular medical care and diagnosis, I went to the osteopath
for help. As part of the treatment he asked me about any traumas that I
had experienced. When I told him about how my daughter was raped 20
years ago, he noticed that my body reacted by freezing. I immediately
felt an enormous grief and I cried a bucketful.
That evening, I journeyed to the Grandmothers to ask help about this
subject. I see myself with a metal breastplate that covers the affected side
of my chest, goes over my shoulder, and also covers my back, but only on
the affected side. It is a steel plate like a knights armor. A large white
seagull flies up to me and starts picking away the armor. Very intense.
Under the armor is another, more flexible layer, and another layer under
that. The seagull keeps on picking until it reveals a squirming pile of
brown-and-black worms or caterpillars eating rotten and bloody meat. I
am especially shocked by the blood. I stop that image because it is
enough.
Then I see several caterpillar-like beings hanging on a sort of string, like a
pupa (they are pupating). The scenes were so revolting that I didnt pay
attention for a moment. How did those pupae come into the picture?
In any case, I stop the vision there and that is good. (After this experience
I have an overpowering desire to make love and fortunately I can!
Wonderful!)
The next day something completely unexpected happens: my daughter
suddenly starts, after 20 years, to talk about having been raped and we
can discuss it openly. The words and feelings finally start to flow after
years of having been stuck.
That evening I asked if I may make another journey and I had the
following experience. I swim in the sea, with Seagull floating next to me.
The sea is pitch black. But suddenly I have a kind of overview of the scene
and I see that the part of the sea in which Im swimming is black because
a dark cloud is hanging over it. Beyond the cloud is light and I swim
toward it. Im swimming in the path made by the setting sun. I swim into
the sun and in that blinding light, I see the figure of a woman. I kneel
before her. She offers me a scepter, puts a golden crown on my head and
covers me with a blue mantel.
She gestures around her and I get a sort of view over the earth. But
where is the king? I ask. She picks up a stone, touches a tree, a lake, a
frog, a branch.... There is the king, she says. I lie down in the moss and I
sink into the earth. I see all of the layers, until I reach the fire, the center
of the Earth. I lose consciousness. When I come to, I rise, coughing, in a
pond of water. The woman is standing on the side and she helps me out.
Happiness, joy! It worked! I jump for joy.
I have wings now and Seagull and I do stunts in the air. When we land
back in the dunes, I want to thank him, but he keeps his distance and flies
away. Seagulls dont hug, he says, but I know that he is very pleased.
A few days later, I meet the Grandmothers again. They are very serious
and say to me, Your illness, your symptoms, are not just a message for
yourself but also reflect something bigger that is happening on Earth.
Your personal transformation is part of helping to transform the entire
planet.
During the Grandmothers Gathering, W. and I did a healing session
together. She then shared that her mother had been the victim of
tremendous abuse that had never been talked about. The only reason W.
knew her mother had even been abused was because her mother, as an
old woman, was delirious from a high fever and during her delirium she
talked about certain experiences from her childhood. Ws mother had
even tried to kill her own father (Ws grandfather) at one point. Alcohol
played a starring role in that family, along with a whip that hung above
the front door that her father used when he came home drunk. The rest
of the story can only be filled in by the imagination.
During the Gathering, W. made spiritual contact with her mothers
ancestral line during meditations with the Ancestors. This was the first
time she had ever experienced any form of connection with that side of
the family and she was able to see her grandfather up to then only
known as the bad guy as a person, and she was even able to forgive
him for his actions. When W. and I were working together to heal her
arm, she had the feeling of being surrounded by 4 women (W. and I were
alone in the room). At one point, she could make no distinction between
the touch of my hands and the touch of the women surrounding her and
helping with the healing. She and I are clearly meant to bring this story of
sexuality and healing together into the world. Her story is my story, my
mothers story, my sisters story. Healing this pain on an individual level is
healing all the women of the world.
SEX IN ITS HIGHEST FORM RECREATES GOD
Sex between men and women makes babies, but womens sexuality leads
to pregnancy. This reality is the physical expression of the essential
difference between Man and Woman. The physical creation of new life is
impossible without the vital impulse of male seed and male energy. In the
union of male and female, physically and energetically, life starts. The act
of sex reflects the essence of the energies of yin and yang. Yin is the
container, the one who accepts, yields and opens; yang is linear, angular
and thrusting. Woman envelops, man penetrates. In the act of sexual
intercourse, the woman is much more vulnerable. Accepting someone
inside your body requires trust in a way that penetrating someone elses
body never can.
This union in its highest form recreates God. We each represent half of
the image of God, and in sexual ecstasy we lose our minds and reunite
with the Divine. God the Mother, God the Grand-Mother, evokes very
different images and feelings than God the Father. God the Father is
loving but strict and punishing, powerful and fearsome, the holder of
conditions on the love being shared. God the Grand-Mother is soft,
restful, loving the ultimate safe haven. In truth, God contains both of
these principles: the deep feminine energy and the highest expression of
the masculine.
Not only does this union recreate God in the instant of sexual ecstasy, it
leads to the creation of new life: the spirit of God in a new body. The
sexual act in its highest form is an expression of human love and Divine
Love, from which all life springs. Women, the carriers of life, have another
opportunity to exercise their yin power by accepting the obvious
consequence of the sexual act: babies.
The woman has the honor and responsibility for creating and nurturing
new life. The man can be here one day and gone the next, and often is,
but growing a baby during 9 months creates a sense of obligation,
connection, bondedness, duty. Pregnancy and motherhood open the
heart. A baby is and always will be connected to its mother energetically
and vice versa. This cannot be otherwise. Those energetic bonds are
strengthened and awakened by the process of caring for a baby, knowing
that baby, and seeing God through its eyes.
WOMENS SEXUALITY IS ABOUT CONNECTING
The purpose of a womans life is to be here in connection with others.
Womens highest calling is to love, to nurture, and to care.
Misunderstanding what love is, and having that love be abused, leads to
grave mistakes. Women and girls often mistake sex for love. Many men
are capable of having sex as an experience disconnected from the heart.
To be sure, some men experience that as empty and unsatisfying and
some women have superficial sex, but the trends in one direction or the
other cannot be denied.
In every area of their lives, women seek love, connection, and
connectedness. They are drawn to helping professions; they like to talk
about feelings and relationships. Even in stressful situations, womens
need for connectedness trumps the so-called fight or flight response.
Shelley Taylor, a psychology researcher, discovered that women and
females of most species have a more complex and nuanced response to
danger. The fight/flight response exists in females, but when faced with
stressful situations their levels of the hormone oxytocin increase (the
hormone released during breastfeeding), they show more nurturing
behavior toward their young, and they increase social behavior with other
females. Taylors team coined this female alternative stress response as
tend and befriend.
Connecting is also the focus of sex for a woman. Women experience
sexual passion but its slower and deeper than male arousal. For them,
the connection comes first and then the sexual fire, while for men, this
order is often reversed. For the same reason, women and girls get
confused between he thinks Im pretty and he wants to CONNECT with
me.
Womans sexuality is like her very yoni: it is deep and round. Her arousal
is sometimes fast, sometimes slow, but is always deeply connected to her
emotions and the state of her soul. For her, sex is a way to both reflect
her connectedness and to deepen her connection - to her partner, to the
deepest layers of her psyche, and to the Divine. Female sexual ecstasy
reflects the communion of the woman with all of Life, with Mother Earth,
and with the Divine.
For a woman to be fully present sexually, she needs to clear her mind and
re-establish a heart connection. Women tend to have trouble with
intrusive thoughts during sex much more frequently than men. This can
also be explained by the need to care for children womens attention is
broad and multidimensional, as they need to function on many levels at
the same time. The movement of yang, in contrast, is linear, simple, one-
dimensional. Men engaged in sexual activity do it with a single-
mindedness that most mothers would envy.
Female sex in its highest expression is an expression of what is, not a
seeking of what could be. Sex can be fun and light and playful, but in its
highest expression, the ground is first set through relationship, a heart
connection, and a spiritual connection. Then the body and the soul rejoice
and are safe to lose control. Only then can the woman freely express the
flow of joy, power and energy surging through her body.
WOMANS SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA HAS BEEN DAMAGED
Women and girls want to be pretty. But why? Why do women and girls
spend so much time and money and energy just trying to be beautiful?
Biologically, being beautiful is about attracting men to have sex and
procreate. But there is more to beauty than biology alone.
Womans solar plexus chakra - the collective female ego - has been
damaged. This energetic ego-center governs how she comes out into the
world. The damage to Womans solar plexus chakra explains why women
seek external validation for their beauty especially from men but also
from other women.
The Great Council of the Grandmothers say, Women know instinctively
that beauty and power go together. They strive to be beautiful to get the
power that they are seeking. But beauty without power will always be
abused, either by others or by the individual him- or herself. You seek
external beautyand you seek external power. Its a shame that none of
that will give you the release you are seeking and you will always be
disappointed and seeking. Dont waste any time looking outside of
yourself for what you think you need. Instead, go inside to the source of
power inside yourself. We promise that if you start looking for this inside
yourself, you will indeed find that beauty and power are one and the
same. (The Grandmothers Speak, p. 40)
The Grandmothers explain that when a woman is in her yin-power, she is
irresistible because she represents the mothership. Woman is the place
where the little boats go to refuel before going back out into the world.
Children understand the need to refuel at the mothership; they ask to just
sit on their mothers lap for a while before going off to play again. Men
naturally do not carry as much yin energy within their bodies and thus
need to get it from outside of themselves (usually from a woman, but also
from nature or other yin sources). This explains Mans love of fishing and
hunting these are yin activities with a yang goal-orientation. Men need
to refuel at the mothership. This is part of what keeps them sane and
balanced. They instinctively want to go back to the womb they crave
connection with the Divine Mother, they crave the comfort of yin, and
they get desperate and try to steal it from women when they dont know
how else to access it.
A womans capacity to help others refuel is the essence of what makes
women attractive, but we have all forgotten this and have therefore
become very confused. Men crave this connection with the female body
without understanding why. They worship the stereotypical female form
and in doing so turn women into sexual objects. Women accept this and
even stimulate it because they are equally damaged and confused.
Women carry generations of abuse of this essential yin-power in their
very DNA. Sex is not the only way for a man to refuel at the mothership,
however. Once men understand their need to refuel and learn other ways
to top up their own portion of yin energy, they will be able to wait for
sex and remain calm and balanced whether they choose to have sex or
not.
Women, in their ignorance and disconnection from their yin power and
from their true selves, abuse their own sexuality in the same way men
abuse it. They manipulate and use the power of their sexuality to
imprison men, to make them stay, to get men to buy them things and
otherwise support them economically, to confuse men, to mislead them,
and to keep them off-balance and disempowered. Women unfamiliar with
yin-power try to borrow male power by misusing their own sexuality, not
knowing that the power inside of each woman is one of the most
powerful energies on the planet.
WOMENS SEXUALITY IS AN AWESOME POWER.
Womens sexuality is essential to their power. Their sexuality is a
fundamental expression of the creative power of God. God creates life,
again and again, and nurtures the life created. Womens bodies are made
to do the very same thing to create life, again and again, and to nurture
the life that they create. This capacity to create life, to love as only a
mother can love, is an earthly reflection of the love that the Divine has
for all people.
A womans power is directly related to her connection to the Divine and
to her connection to Mother Earth. The cycles of a womans body are
connected to the cycles of nature. Her body knows and moves according
to daily cycles, the monthly cycle, and the seasonal cycles of nature.
Women are traditionally responsible for making food at regular times
throughout the day and washing things when they get dirty, over and over
again. Women traditionally organize the recurring holidays throughout
the year. In most religions, they are the ones to mark the recurring
anniversaries and memorials. Not only are women present at the birth of
their own children, they help other women give birth. Women are
responsible for nursing the sick back to health until the next bout of
illness occurs. Women care for the dying and prepare the dead for burial.
Womens work is circular and recurring; women also think non-linearly
and, when possible, prefer to organize their social and power structures in
a non-hierarchical manner.
Womens bodies give them a head start when it comes to knowing God. A
womans body is created to connect both with Mother Earth and with
God the Mother. The Grandmothers have told me that the vibration of
the Earth and the vibration of the Divine are the same tone but that the
earthly vibration is the bass note and the Divine vibration is the overtone.
Together they are much more interesting to listen to than just one note
alone. Those who can discern one tone can also discern the other, even
though they may not be able to name or identify it. A womans physical
connection to the earthly cycles supports her special way of knowing
called womens intuition.
When a womans sexuality is healed and free to flow, all of her power is
unleashed and she grows bigger and more powerful than she could ever
imagine. This power is awesome, but it need not be feared, for it is the
very power of Love and as such will always create, nurture and support
life.
IT IS AN HONOR TO CONNECT SEXUALLY WITH A WOMAN.
Womens sexuality is a direct line to the Divine. Sexual connection with a
woman elevates a mans experience of the Divine and enhances, deepens,
and reinforces the womans connection to the Divine. Both partners are
lifted up.
Freely flowing sexual energy does not mean having sex with just anyone
for just any reason. On the contrary, that sort of unconscious and
confused behavior disappears as the womans sexuality heals. Sex, like
the eyes, are a window to the soul. The color of those eyes - the liveliness,
the life-ful-ness - has been drained out of modern Western sexuality.
When Womans sexuality is healed, choice returns and compulsion
disappears. The woman is free to either manifest the flow of her sexual
energy on the physical level or she can use it simply to enhance the
enjoyment and intensity of her daily activities. The choice to engage in sex
then comes from a deep knowing, not from a superficial desire.
Good sex - sex in its highest expression - dissolves those boundaries and
reunites us in God. Low-level sex feels so bad because, instead of
dissolving those boundaries, it ignores their existence and crashes
through them, damaging the integrity of the people involved.
WOMEN IN THEIR POWER ARE PROTECTED BY THEIR VERY WAY OF BEING
When a woman is fully in her power, she is surrounded by a protective
shield that also guarantees that the essence of her sexuality remains
unscathed.
When Peace Pilgrim walked across the US in the 1970s, sleeping wherever
she could lay her head, she was surrounded by danger. One day a man
approached her with the intention of doing her harm (what sort of harm
can be inferred from the story). When he came close to her, something
transformed in him and he could no longer harm her. Instead, he became
one of her most fervent followers.
In Lakota tradition, White Buffalo Calf Woman appeared to two male
scouts. One approached her with evil intent (again, what sort of intent
is left to the imagination but we can guess what he wanted). When he
came close to her, they were enveloped in a cloud. When the cloud
cleared, the scout had been reduced to ashes.
Women in their power can protect themselves just by BEING in their
power. Most women alive today have no idea what that would look or
feel like. The Grandmothers have come to rectify that situation and in
doing so, preserve, nurture and lift up all life on Earth.
BOUNDARIES AND BOUNDLESS GIVING
How often do we women say yes when our heart says no? How often do
we say no when we really want to say yes?
Women are connected to the love of God. That love is the love that loves,
regardless. That love is God-the-Mother love.
Women know this divine love; women feel at home in that Love. For this
reason, they find it difficult to create the seeming separation of no or
not now. Women want to swim in the One Love and hate conflict
because that seems to create disconnection. But what happens when a
womans truth does not match someone elses desires? How can a
woman say no or yes and be met with manipulation, cajoling,
resistance, force, anger, disappointment, even risk her very life as is
common in many countries, and still stay clear in her NO or YES?
That clarity comes with knowing her power, from letting it stream through
her body, from feeling the excitement and the power of her sexuality, and
having total control over the manifestation of that power.
When we speak of power, we only have a yang model. Men know how to
do power; they know how to do limits. In this time of out-of-control
yang energy, boundaries are often set in a seemingly uncaring and often
unnecessarily harsh way, often even to the point of being violent. Yin
energy does not feel at home in this yang expression of setting a
boundary. Women mistakenly think that being nice or loving means
that they are not allowed to assert themselves, set boundaries, or refuse
to give of themselves when that is requested. But compassion and
empathy do not equate being a doormat. A woman in her power can
lovingly speak her truth, even when faced with disagreement.
When women give and give out of their personal energy and in a state of
disconnection from the Divine, they overdraw their bio-energetic bank
account. This weakens and disempowers them. Resentment and passive
aggression become the order of the day. This energetic imbalance forces
women to borrow energy from another person from their children,
from their partners, from their parents, even from total
strangersanyone will do. Women who give too much never feel satisfied
and are never secure, because as soon as the power comes in, they spend
it on someone else. This is not Womans highest expression.
And yet a womans very body knows where the boundaries are. Women
and girls know how it feels yucky to be leered at or touched with lewd
intent. Womens bodies also know how to set a very firm boundary
starting from the birth of their first baby. If you think that women arent
strong enough to set boundaries, imagine this. After 9 months of watery,
nurturing acceptance of a growing baby, a woman becomes so rude as to
kick her baby out of its warm nest, squeeze it through a vice, and expel it
into a cold, hard, loud environment. As if that wasnt bad enough, the
child then needs to hear no again and again in many forms as it learns
how to navigate life on Earth. Are mothers just mean, harsh and nasty? Or
is there another way of looking at those nos?
The Grandmothers point out that many adult men alive today, particularly
those in power, are moys boys in a mans body. These moys are the
ones who protest when they dont get the sex they think they are entitled
to; it is a womans job to educate them about the true nature of womans
sexuality just as they would educate their teenage son about how to
relate to his future partners.
Many women, along with devoted, loving men, want to know how it is
possible to embody Divine Love and simultaneously set firm boundaries,
even to the point of disappointing someone or God forbid - excluding
someone?
How can a woman who feels most at home in the vast ocean of Divine
Love also say no? How can she look at someone who has a burning
need, and say no, I cant or wont help you? How can the yin-vat
that accepts and encompasses everything without judgment also decide
to apparently throw something or someone out of that vat of love?
The answer is knowing truth. Truth can channel the Ocean of Love into
a vertical geyser (a yang movement) when necessary.
Even Divine Love, which encompasses and accepts everything without
criticism and with total acceptance, does not allow things to happen when
they are not appropriate. Sometimes a situation was acceptable for a time
but can no longer be tolerated, such as the long-term imbalance of yin
and yang that is now being rectified. This imbalance is threatening to
destroy all life on our planet, and as such, it can no longer be tolerated.
The Grandmothers tell us to be big to experience our Divine selves
and see life from the Divine perspective. From that point of view, we are
all One. In that knowledge of our unity, it is easy to hold someone in the
unity of Love and to simultaneously say no to actions that do not
support life. There is just one problem: we dont live in the sky with the
Grandmothers. We live on Planet Earth.
Life on Earth happens in a dimension where space, time, and matter come
together. Embodied life happens inside a skin. Earthly reality means living
in a world of boundaries and separation, starting with the harsh
experience of birth. Without boundaries, our earthly bodies are
endangered. Think of a small child running into the street in front of a car.
That behavior cannot be tolerated or supported because it endangers the
childs life. The word no, together with rules, regulations, and
boundaries in all other forms are essential. They protect us from
ourselves, and they protect others from our dangerous or hurtful
behavior. We have bodies that need protecting and we need to operate in
time and space. Boundaries and limits are part of this game.
It is possible to say no on the skin-level and simultaneously stay in the
vast ocean of love on the Divine level. The vertical geyser-movement is
the no, while the no itself is part of the ocean of love. The geyser is
still a movement of love, a movement that supports life. Think of lovingly
divorcing someone, lovingly refusing sex when it doesnt feel right,
lovingly asking for something you need, lovingly inviting someone to
change, lovingly disciplining a child, or lovingly stating your unwillingness
to remain in the status quo.
When someone speaks her truth, the truth is just being spoken, nothing
more. It may be painful to hear because that truth may bring the listener
to contact a painful place within him or herself, or it may arouse some
erroneous thoughts in the listener. But when someone speaks her truth, it
is simply HER truth. It is not an attack, it is not damaging; it is simply a
fact. The listener will most likely have another truth, which often has little
or nothing to do with the other persons truth. Truth invites movement,
flow. Truth is an opportunity to grow.
When two or more people state their truths in a loving way, no one gets
damaged, and new, unforeseen possibilities can arise. Sometimes a
puzzling problem remains unresolved and stands like an unhewn statue in
the middle of the room. The parties involved are then left to figure out
what to do next, but this situation is not damaging. Its just life expressing
itself in a loving way.
Carrying out any intention in earthly reality requires setting boundaries in
space and time. We have senses and feelings, and if someone says that
music is so loud it hurts my ears, that the simple truth. A clear request -
Can you please turn down the music? - creates an opening for the other
person to respond with equal clarity. The response may be, Sure or No,
I cant or No, I dont want to and each of those can be the truth for
that person at that time. Then the one whose ears are hurting has several
choices: stay, leave, or try to persuade the other to change her mind.
This sort of problem-solving requires a great portion of yin-power: the
power to rest and sit with the situation without trying to change it, and at
the same time connecting with your own truth and Divine input into the
situation. Contrary to what many women believe about the nature of
Love, yin-power is not weak or passive. A new model of feminine behavior
is emerging: women who can be gentle, feminine, pretty, strong, and
clear all at the same time.
During the Grandmothers gathering in Holland in 2011, a very special soul
embodied in a Down-syndrome body was making loud noises during the
opening meditation on Friday evening. He and his mother were then
asked to move to the back of the room and the mother decided to leave.
Their leaving the room happened in a fairly dramatic way that involved
the whole group. In the upset that followed, Sharon explained that the
noises he was making were distracting from the meditative work that
formed the backbone of the workshop. This young man called Michael
was then given the opportunity to talk. He said, via his talking-board, I
am a teacher, and Im here to teach you about your anger.
Many of the women present had great difficulty with the clear decision to
exclude him from the workshop. They were confused about how we could
be sitting there, striving to express and embody Divine Love, and then ask
someone to leave the room against his mothers will. That seemed to be
at odds with the Grandmothers message. When one woman urgently
said, We havent put this to a vote! Sharon suddenly held up one hand
and said There will be no vote. We love Michael but we cant take the
noises.
Sharon told me later that she would probably have at least discussed the
matter to make everyone comfortable (as women are wont to do), but
the Grandmothers came through her and clearly said NO to his presence
because of the noises he made during the meditation. Suddenly, there
was no room for discussion, and no time would be devoted to the subject:
the work we were doing needed to go deep and the noises were
interfering with the groups ability to do that deep work. Period. The truth
of the moment was Our intention is X, and the presence of these noises
makes it impossible for that intention to be met. Ergo, the noises need to
leave the room. Michael was still included in the Grandmothers bath of
love and at the same time, his body and his voice were not allowed to be
in that room because they were at cross purposes to the very important,
and often very quiet, work that was being done that weekend.
Michael, bless your beautiful soul. Thank you for being our teacher. I
thank the Grandmothers for bringing these ideas to Earth and I thank all
of the people who present opportunities for all of us to clarify our
intention and develop our yin-power. We do indeed have a lot to learn.