10 Things That The People Who Love Their Lives Are

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WELLNESS PAUL HUDSON MAY 16, 2014 - 12:55PM

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Surprise, surprise happy people live their lives differently. They dont have different lives. They just do a
better job at living them than those who are unhappy.
Happiness is the result of subjective interpretation of perception. Of course, what we perceive isnt always
done so by choice life does throw things our way.
However, most of the time, we find ourselves in the situations we are in because of actions we took and
decisions we made. Its the way that you live your life that largely decides whether or not you will live happily.

They dont bother trying to make others like them mainly because
they dont care if theyre liked.
They like themselves and they are the only people they ever answer to. You could like them. You could hate
them. You could pay them no mind whatsoever doesnt make a difference to them.

They do what they do because they decided to do it. They arent trying to gain your approval or acceptance.
They dont want to be part of your team theyre a team of their own. They live their lives the way they see
fit and if you like them for it, great. If not then so be it.

They do things because they want to do them, not because they

believe they have to do them.
They dont believe they have to do anything. Other than pay taxes and die of course everything else is a
decision followed by deliberate action. If they are doing something, going somewhere, participating in
something, its because that is exactly what it is that they want to be doing.
No one coerced them or tricked them into doing it because they value their opinion above everyone elses.
They do what they believe is right and dont bother to ask for permission they just do it.

They love their friends but dont rely on them.

Friends are tricky because they arent really yours, are they? You dont own them. They are their own
people who have their own wants and needs people who will always put themselves ahead of you and
your goals. Friends are great to have, but relying on them too heavily will leave you disappointed.
Those who live happy lives have very close friends, but they keep their independence in order to avoid
those moments. Its the lack of independence and over-reliance that often comes to ruin friendships all
relationships for that matter.

When you ask them what they do, they dont give you a job title.
They tell you about the things they are doing with their lives the places they have visited and are planning
on visiting. The projects they are starting or part of. The problems they are working towards solving and the
communities they are working with to get those problems solved.
When you ask them what they do, they respond with what they do in their lives, not what work they do in
order to pay for the lives they want to one day be living. The real trick is that these individuals know better
than to wait to live the lives they want to live. You live life whether you accept or ignore the fact, how you live
it in the moment determines how happy you are.

When you ask them where they live, they say, At the moment
Happy people tend to move around a bit. Maybe its because traveling does the soul good. Maybe its
because the stagnancy of staying in one place their whole lives bores them.

Maybe its because they love meeting new people and having new experiences. Maybe its because they
havent found the right place to settle down just yet. You see, these individuals see the world as their home
no single country or city. If you ask them where they live, then theyd answer earth if they wouldnt come
off sounding highfalutin.

They have their own philosophies, their own religion they created and
live by.
You dont need a book to tell you how you ought to live your life. You can live your life by whatever
philosophy you wish as long as you found truths that satisfy you. They have a strong grasp of right and
wrong and are their own judges.

They embrace their impermanence.

They know theyre only mortal having this knowledge and accepting it fuels their every step. You will too.
Why? Because it is inevitable. There is no way of avoiding it, only dealing with the fact.
The happiest of people dont fear death. They dont do their best to avoid it. They see it as the inevitability
that it is in and live their lives by their terms. They may not be able to control death, but they know they sure
as hell can control their own personal lives.

They see the world as their playhouse and their mind as the
conductor.
They dont believe there is a single way that the world is a single reality that exists. Instead, they believe
themselves to be the originators of their reality.
They believe they have full control over how they interpret what they perceive. They see the world the way
they choose to see it because they understand the power such a skill has. We all live in a reality of our own
construction. Some of us just construct our realities better than others.

They live in the moment, but dream in the future.

Happy people have hopes, dreams and goals. They have wants and aspirations, but they dont allow
themselves to get caught up and lost in them. There isnt so much a time and place for dreaming as there is
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do the impossible, why not do the next best thing? Learn to deal with people as they are in order to get the
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result you desire. If you cant change them, then guide them to do as you wish. Otherwise, let them go.
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A young writer, philosopher, and entrepreneur, Paul Hudson has been writing for Elite Daily
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Wendy James CEO & Founder at The Better World Group

There's a lot of wisdom here, but it's mostly written from a young, unattached perspective. I am
one of the happiest people I know, and I've lived in the same place for almost 25 years and
been married to the same man for 33 years. Sometimes those deep attachments are the
source of joy as well. But we do get out and about a lot, and that matters. So does our family. I
think a lot of joy comes from doing things for others.
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168 Follow Post May 18 at 2:42pm

Charlse A. Cline

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Are we talking 'happiness' or 'joy' here? I do believe there is a difference.....

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10 May 21 at 5:43pm

Orlando Gamino

Top Commenter DJ/VJ at Dj S-Cre4m

Also, this post is mostly oriented to the single life. When you are married you have
different priorities!
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32 May 21 at 6:44pm

Blair Kenneth

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I dont think anybody would be all 10. Its not a checklist.

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13 May 22 at 5:57am

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Tim Doll Texas Tech University
Possibly one of the dumbest collection of words I've ever read, ever. No hyperbole. I've observed
more wisdom in a fortune cookie.
Living this way is a fool's end.
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David King

Follow Sales Consulatant at Ferrari Maserati of Central New Jersey

you sound very happy ...perhaps you should post an article educating the rest of us
on how to truly be more happy.
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101 May 20 at 12:45am

Preston Bullard

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You sound downright miserable, lad.

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33 May 20 at 5:46am

Tim Doll Texas Tech University

David/Preston: it's clear you are trying to read tone and making incorrect judgements
about what I stated. It is a dumb article because it is filled with cliches, and
immature views on life. Here's a quick hit list of the foolish things said:
"... they're a team of their own" yeah, let me know how this works out. People that
stand alone die alone. We were meant to need one another, not to be a maverick
always seeking our own. Want to live a lonely life, follow this advice. Also, try keeping
a job with the attitude of being an island.
"they value their opinion above everyone elses." this is a statement made by
someone who thinks they know everything (a fool). Truly wise people know that they
don't know everything, and their opinions are only as good as their knowledge and
frame of reference.
"Those who live happy lives ... See More
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Jessica Hulings United States Navy
Mostly good, but most of the happy people I know put their trust in God.
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96 Follow Post May 18 at 5:37am

Kwadwo Boateng

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You deserve a flippping medal!!

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10 May 18 at 8:35am

Jordan Laine

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Is that because you only know people who believe in god? Keeping in mind that
theses lists are mainly bullshit, belief in a deity != happiness.
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19 May 19 at 5:48am

Tallulah Robinson
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Most of the happy people I know do not!

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Roger Levy

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OMG how blind I was ... to be happy with my life I just needed to be a trust fund baby!
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39 Follow Post May 20 at 1:16pm

Preston Bullard

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I follow all these and am very happy. I grew up in a trailer, put myself through school,
ended up homeless in the streets of St. Louis because I don't believe in the same
God as my family... Published a novel, started my own company, now live in the
mountains, have a happy relationship, two kids... Happy life, happy happy happy!
Make your own situation and never blame anyone for any situation you find yourself
in. My business partner stole almost 60 thousand dollars from me last year - dick
move. I'm still responsible for how things turn out!

11th rule: Don't be bitter!

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36 May 21 at 5:47am

Roger Levy

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Preston Bullard Yay for positivity!!!!! Go YOU!!!

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5 May 21 at 9:52am

Russell Brown Glucksman Ireland House NYU

The roots of well-ness, much more important than happiness, is much more basic than a
confusing list or mysterious religious doctrine. It is self-care. It is shocking how many people
just don't eat when they are hungry, sleep when they are tired, get help when they need help or
love when they feel love. I also will add, that care for others is part of self-care.
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Bianca Liu Toronto

I don't believe this is the best article written out there about why happy people have a hands up
against the so-called unhappy people. Instead I would agree with some of the others who have
left their comments here saying that this article is largely subjective and self-serving, and even
self justifying. An article such as this could be horribly interpreted in the hands of someone who
is selfish and uses this to justify their selfish ways. Life is NOT always about serving yourself to
make you the happiest person, this article is a #miss. Sorry.
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Jo-Anne Piccolo
Actually only one part of this is loosely true (evidenced based) live in the moment.... More or
less. As in think mindfully.
Positive psychology, ACT and the Science of Happiness doesn't support any other of these
claims.
Actually your whole magazine espouses a whole heap of garbage
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Erik Esquerra

Top Commenter Southern Illinois University Carbondale

LOL!! I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with you. Without bias for you or article, I
believe your point is very valid!!
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3 May 18 at 11:22pm

Jo-Anne Piccolo
Erik Esquerra - hehehe - I hear you. I have read article after article on this site, and I
am yet to read an article or opinion that follows up on some form of psychological
evidence. I believe that the online magazine is based in the USA. I am from Australia,
and here, the psychological community looks up to the US, as mainstream society
has taken up the idea of therapy, the insurance practices surrounding it, and with
that I at least thought - evidence based practice.
What I see, time and time again, is that the up and coming generations seem to
apply narrative that is spoken over and over again as fact. They take in the narrative
of one writer, spew forth that same or similar narrative over again, and it gets
repeated over and over, until it forms fact. There appears no appreciation for
evidence behind the spoken word.
"Elite Daily" signifies the spoken word of those that are in power, and the oppressed
seem to not have a voice. I thought if it at least drew on a body of research, then at
least people get a sense of "reality" rather than drivel.
I read Foucault and it's like the internet plays over and over again, what he observed
in his writings. Particularly on this site.
Ah well...
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Top Commenter Southern Illinois University Carbondale

Jo-Anne, I was best friends with a PhD Clinical Psych who was very intelligent and

Jo-Anne, I was best friends with a PhD Clinical Psych who was very intelligent and
actually helped me realize and fix some of my own issues through our casual (not
professional) friendship at all. I listened, understood, argued and... listened again
and learned. It helped dramatically and many years later I recognize the changes
that I made because of her help & knowledge.
Once she moved into the "experienced" part of life her opinions went from the
academics of what she was learning to "I'm a PhD and you're not. Environment?
Politics? Science? Doesn't matter if I'm an expert in that field or not. I know more
than you because, oh yeah... I'm a PhD."
While she was the one who enlightened me to "evidence based," and was the most
authoritarian and believable opinion in my life, she also became the one to move
furthest from it! The unfortunate irony led to the end of our friendship. I had always
(and am still always) willing to admit guilt/fault/error if it can be proven. Eventually all
she did was use her intelligence and psych strategies to muscle her own agendas
from her opinions. Lost all credibility and hence our friendship.
I miss her and our original friendship. When they stray from "empirical" or even
"heavy trends through data" to "well, I'm just smarter than you" they become idiots
and lose all arguments by default.
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Jake Merriman

Top Commenter Works at Halliburton

This article is massively subjective. It is best to keep in mind while reading that this is
someone's opinion.
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18 Follow Post May 20 at 4:39am

Mickey Voodoo Occupational Therapist and Life Coach at Gimme yo money

Do they also present hackneyed platitudes as sage wisdom? If so, you win the fucking world.
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George Randall Leake III

Top Commenter Vallejo (California)

I think there is some truth to this, and yet it doesn't take into account issues of
chemistry which cause depression in some people
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Dave Silverstone

Top Commenter Nueva York

Well, you sure as hell just won the fuck out of this comment section!
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April Bond Scully
You nailed it, Paul. Thanks for sharing!
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