Aquarius with Capricorn

You are both strong, self-sufficient people with a great

capacity to respect the strength in each other. You have a lot in common, and
also a lot to offer each other. You share a need for privacy, a desire for some
structure in your life, and a preference for careful, rational discussion rather than
heated emotional exchanges.
You also both appreciate the importance of loyalty, mutual support, and
friendship. Earthy Capricorn can help ground Aquarius' innovative ideas, while
airy Aquarius can help expand Capricorn's thinking and open new doors to new
ideas and contacts.
It is in the emotional sphere that you may both need to pay attention. Neither of
you likes to engage in direct confrontation about emotional difficulties. At best
this means you can always manage a civilised conversation. At worst it means
you both try to suppress uncomfortable emotions, which can lead to resentment
buried under a surface of chilly distance.
Both of you are more sensitive than you seem. Try to be honest, with yourselves
and each other, about what you really feel and need from each other.
Dependency is not a naughty word, and it would do both of you some good to
admit that you need each other.

You are an Aquarius
You're genuinely interested in and concerned for your fellow humans,
and you have a strong need to make some kind of contribution to make the world
a better place. Relating to a single individual, however - especially when it
involves strong emotions - can be a bit trickier. Aquarius is concerned with ideals,
and the ideals of love and equality are among many constantly formulated in your
innovative, forward-looking mind. Aquarius is also, broadly, about science and
knowledge, invention and discovery. The noblest of human visions are spun from
this last of the airy signs. But your ideals are often ahead of their time, and collide
head-on with the reality of human nature.
Without an ideal, no progress of any kind can take place. But the anchoring of an
ideal takes time, flexibility, and sensitivity to the limitations of the human heart.
Despite your keen intelligence, you aren't overly gifted in any of these things.
You're usually impatient, and want to see the ideal made flesh this minute. You're
a great lover of truth, but not, if the truth be known, very flexible. And you
sometimes show astonishingly little understanding of, or patience with, the fluid
depths of the human heart - most particularly your own.
You're the true democrat of the zodiac. One of your most attractive qualities is
your sense of fairness and integrity. You've got a finely honed conscience and a
horror of being what you call "selfish". That's noble, but not always
psychologically healthy. Regardless of your personal likes and dislikes, your
dedication to your beliefs is unshakeable.
Sometimes that courageous fixity of ideals can become stubborn fanaticism,
whether scientific, political or spiritual. Political correctness can only have been
invented by an Aquarian, because it's a paradigm of this sign's noble intentions
coupled with complete intolerance of individual human emotional needs and
differences.
The subtleties of human relationships can pose a big problem to you, because
emotional conflicts can't be solved by logic and high ideals alone. Aquarians are
often embarrassed by emotions, and find them distasteful both in themselves and
in others. You're proud and self-controlled, and displays of emotion are seen as a
weakness. That doesn't mean you're unfeeling. Far from it. You have an
immense capacity for devotion and loyalty. But in the end, logic, self-control and
idealism usually win, and that can mean ruthless suppression of, or dissociation
from, unpleasant emotions like jealousy, aggression, neediness and anger.
Aquarians often have a gift for analysis of the human temperament, and many
reach prominence in the psychological field. Everything about human motivation
is clear and obvious to your penetrating, concise mind. And there is often a
wonderful capacity to understand and feel detached compassion for even the
most frightful behaviour in others. This is why you can talk to all kinds of people
from every walk of life, and find something interesting and worthwhile in all of
them.
The trouble is, the closer the relationship, the harder it gets for you to express
personal feelings. You know what you think you feel, what you think you ought to
feel, what you think you should and shouldn't feel, and what you think others
think about what you think you feel...Well, it can all get very fraught in the sphere
of intimate relations. You're capable of sacrificing your life for a loved one, yet
you can forget to say, "I love you". A partner's need for flattery, sentimental
displays of affection, and emotional and sexual reassurance may entirely elude
your brilliant but often blind intellect.
Some zodiacal signs have a knack with personal relating, and others don't. You
Aquarians have more difficulty than any other sign here, because you often have
so little real appreciation of the personal - including your own person. But that's
easy to remedy. Just take that marvellous, genuine love of humanity and extend
it to include your own very human self.
The Capricorn partner
Relationships aren't easy for Capricorn. You might expect this, since control is always
important to the Goat, and letting down the solid protection of that suit of armour takes a lot of effort.
Capricorns wear that suit of armour for so long that it gets rusty at the hinges, and you hear some pretty
loud groans and protests as it comes off. And no matter how much they love, there's always a last secret
place inside which Capricorns won't relinquish. They're often loners, climbing their own private mountains.
And sometimes they won't allow themselves to accept either help or sympathy when the going is rough.
Thanks very much, they'll manage on their own.
They will often work hard to help friends and loved ones in need, and they know how to give, especially
when it comes to the things of the world. But sometimes they don't know how to receive very well.
Capricorn pride is ferocious, and no Goat can bear a situation of weakness and dependency. That means
not being in control.
Capricorns are secret romantics, but they won't allow their romanticism to dictate their decisions. They will
often sacrifice the great romantic love for the safe, suitable partner who is a social asset as well. They
may throw everything away for an ideal, or for family, or in the name of service; but love? Not likely.
Capricorn wants a stable life, and takes vows and promises seriously. Better not to promise than to marry
in haste, repent at leisure, and have hefty maintenance payments afterward.
Some Capricorns marry and rush into family life early, but that's usually because they are either looking
for fathers or trying to play fathers. Most take a long time to make a real commitment. If you're in a hurry,
pick another sign. Yet this isn't a bad way to be. Capricorns place more value on deep respect, duty,
loyalty and the power of the family bond than on a few months of wild passion. Not that they turn their
backs on passion. This is an earth sign, and the sexual drive is often strong. But many Capricorns keep
this side of themselves out of their serious relationships, because they often don't trust their passions.
Unless you're the childlike type looking for a parent- surrogate, be prepared for a challenge. A Capricorn
will always try to take charge in a relationship. He isn't interested in submission, dependency or
abdication of power. If you hurt his pride or take away his self-respect, he won't forgive or forget. Because
of that earthy, controlled nature, he may also find it hard to express love and affection spontaneously.
Sexual attraction, yes; but love can make him vulnerable. The Capricorn partner may love you deeply, but
you may never hear it said. Yet he's deeply drawn to those who can loosen him up a bit.
The same thing that makes many Capricorns secret spiritual seekers also makes them seekers after
people who are able to open up the romantic and imaginative side of life for them. This old-young man
needs a partner who can help him free his inner child. The trouble is that, when Capricorns find this kind
of partner, they often take the role of a stern parent with a child, repressing rather than encouraging
spontaneity. Yet if Capricorns can let that stern, stiff streak be thawed by the gifts of love and trust, they
truly have the world at their feet. Then there is no more loyal and devoted partner, nor one more worthy of
lifelong respect.
The Capricorn man
Meet this man while he's still in his twenties and you won't see the
real Capricorn. When young he may seem unsettled and unsure of his direction.
Or he'll appear to have given up and saddled himself with an unpromising future
in some job he dislikes. But stick with him, or meet him later, and you'll see the
Goat in true form. He'll always have a goal he's working toward, and his way of
showing love is to share that goal with you. And his expectations in love are that
you do everything in your power to help him achieve his goal.
Capricorn men tend, on the whole, to belong to a more traditional school. Once
again, you might not see this in the early part of his life. But because of his
emotional complexity and inhibitions, and because security means a lot to him,
he'll usually look for a stable, solid relationship which can give structure to his
personal life. Some Capricorn men want very badly to have sons. Although they
may adore women, their strong patriarchal streak secretly makes them feel the
world should be run by men. They have a strong sense of what masculine dignity
and pride are about. If you want a Capricorn man to consider your opinions, you
need to be a diplomat. He respects diplomacy as well as strength. What he
doesn't like is rebellion.
You'll often see a fatherly quality in the Capricorn man. He can be wonderfully
protective and supportive, and is usually the kind of man who, when he says,
"Don't worry, I'll take care of it," really does. He can be a pillar of strength and a
source of wisdom and help. The problem is that you may only get all these
goodies if you're prepared to be helpless and in need of support.
Many Capricorn men dislike capable partners because it takes away their need
to be the strong figure in a relationship. Sometimes you see this reversed,
however. The Capricorn man who hasn't come to terms with his need for
structure and authority may behave like an adolescent still rebelling against his
father. Then he may look for paternal qualities in a partner, letting his loved one
make all the important decisions. But usually these Capricorns have been badly
hurt in childhood, and want to stay children. More often, the Capricorn man is
usually only too happy to play the strong, capable role. It's just sometimes hard
for him to share it.
His career naturally comes first. That means that if his firm moves him from
London to Middle Wallop, you smile cheerfully and learn to like Middle Wallop. If
you have ambitions of your own, you're expected to adjust them to his. Either you
accept this with grace and joy, or you assert your independence and maintain a
relationship with your Capricorn that isn't very close. That usually means a sexual
relationship without any commitment. He's not going to commit himself unless he
knows that you're prepared to commit yourself to both him and his goals.
This man may be the perfect partner for some, and a walking disaster for others.
It depends on your own needs and nature. You can't dominate a Capricorn man,
except by the most devious emotional blackmail - and he'll always spot that in the
end and despise you for it. You can't make yourself more important to him than
his inner convictions and commitments.
The Capricorn man usually knows what he wants. If it's you, he'll be pretty
tenacious about getting you to surrender, and he rarely deviates once he's
decided. You can either love and respect him, or leave him alone. It's almost
impossible to change a Capricorn man, since his business in life is to change
both himself and the world. And nobody can do it for him.