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SUMMERTIME!!!
ITS SUMMERTIME! TO KICK OFF THE FIRST PLUGGED-IN PARENTS
NEWSLETTER OF THE SUMMER, HERE ARE SOME EASY IDEAS TO
CONSIDER THIS SUMMER TO STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH
YOUR TEEN
1. SET A WEEKLY SNO CONE DATE (EVEN IF IT IS YOUR LUNCH).
2. SETUP A BADMINTON/VOLLEYBALL NET IN YOUR YARD AND
USE IT.
3. TAKE YOUR FAMILY ON A PICNIC.
June Issue
THIS MONTH
" SEATTLE GO TRIP TRAINING/
COMMISSIONING (6/8)
" ARLINGTON GO TRIP
COMMISSIONING (6/8)
" HS ESCAPE (6/13)
" ARLINGTON GO TRIP (6/16-21)
" HS CAMPING/FLOAT TRIP
(6/22-24)
" GLOCAL (THURSDAYS)
COMING SOON
" VBS (7/14-18)
" MS IBC UNIVERSITY (7/13-18)
" SEATTLE GO TRIP (7/19-25)
" YOUTH EVANGELISM
CONFERENCE (8/7-8)
VOLUNTEER
SPOTLIGHT
AMBER HARBIN
ENGAGE
WHATS HOT
EMPOWER
ON PARENTING TEENS


A MONTHLY PUBLICATION TO HELP PARENTS BETTER PLUG IN TO THE
SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT OF THEIR STUDENT
PLUGGED IN
JUNE 2014


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Matt Hubbard
Lead Student Pastor
Melissa Sponer
Girls Ministry Associate
Ross Spigner
Middle School Pastor
Amanda Beach
Ministry Assistant
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WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNO
CONE FLAVOR?

WEDDING CAKE WITH CREAM
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNO
CONE FLAVOR?

WILD STRAWBERRY#
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNO
CONE FLAVOR?

PEACH
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SNO
CONE FLAVOR?

PINK LEMONADE
From Our Heart

Its here! Thats rightits summertime! School is already out or will soon be. Vacation plans are made. Calendars are full. If you
take a long hard look at the next two months, you will probably notice that you do not have near as much time on your hands as you
thought. But you do have some time. Would you consider trying something that may be new to your family?

Listendo you hear the hummmmm of the lawnmowers or the buzz of weed eaters? Lookdo you see those people who you havent
seen in months due to the long, hard winter? They are called your neighbors. I wonder, would you leverage some of the time that
you DO have this summer to try reaching out to your neighbors? I know, youve probably tried something like this before and they
were not interested or they went to another church. Thats OK, but would you try again. But this time, which may be the rst
time, would you try to reach out to your neighbors with the intent of getting to know them and where they stand with Christ.
Some pointers to consider

Make a PlanMake a plan. Look at multiple open dates on your familys calendar. Have rst, second, third, and even fourth
options to make this happen.
Ask Your NeighborsNow that youve made a plan, its time to execute. Ask your neighbors over for dinner or a family game
night. Find a commonality and leverage it.
Ask QuestionsBe intentional about asking questions about your neighbors spiritual life in addition to their interests and family
life. The goal is not to get them to come to church, but to see where they stand with Christ.
Share Your StoryBe prepared and open to share where you stand with Christ., not just what church you go to. Be open and
transparent.
Let Your Kids Be a Part of These ConversationsInclude your child. Let them see you struggle and succeed in these
conversations. But most of all, let them see you try. This will motivate them to replicate these conversations with their peers.

Prepare to have you and your childrens worldview changed.


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VOLUNTEER SPOTLIGHT

AMBER HARBIN

MY FAMILY: JUST ME!
NO KIDS OR PETS.
I DO HAVE SOME AWESOME NEPHEWS I LOVE
TO HANGOUT WITH!
WHERE I SERVE: WEDNESDAY NIGHTS SMALL GROUP WITH THE
6TH GRADE GIRLS, WORKING WITH THE GIRL'S
MINISTRY, DNOW, AND FILL IN FOR 6TH\7TH
GRADE SUNDAY SCHOOL CLASS FROM TIME TO
TIME.

I HAVE SERVED FOR: ALMOST ONE YEAR!


MY DREAM VACATION DESTINATION IS: COUPLE OF WEEKS WITH NO PLANS, A HAMMOCK, JUST HANGING OUT AND
EXPLORING THE BEACHES OF COSTA RICA AND\OR THAILAND.

SOMETHING MOST PEOPLE DONT KNOW ABOUT ME: I WAS IN THE PEACE CORPS, AND I HAVE A WEIRD FASCINATION WITH
INVERTEBRATE ANIMALS (BUGS, WORMS, CRABS, ETC..) NOT SURE WHY EITHER!





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Mission
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4:45pm
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The
Gathering
5:45-7:15
5 6 7
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Seattle and
Mission
Arlington
Commissioning
9 10 11
Joint
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5:45-7:15
Final MA
Meeting
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GLOCAL
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COMING SOON
Wednesdays in July Joint Worship 5:45 - 7:15
Thursdays in July GLOCAL
July 11 or 12 HS ESCAPE
July 13 Seattle GO Training 301 @4pm
July 14-18 VBS and IBC University for Middle School
July 19-25 Seattle GO Trip

August 8-9 YEC (Youth Evangelism Conference)
Thursdays Glocal (Local Missions)
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ENGAGE
WHATS HOT?

A weekly listing of hot cultural items
from the Internet, music, television
and movies.


Trending Today on Twitter -
5/30/14

1. #50CentOnGMA
2. #HappyBirthdayJazmynBieber
3. #OneHeartOneFamilyOneDirecti
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4. #sharenyc
5. Finally Friday
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7. Dr. Drew
8. Malecent
9. Mario Kart 8
10. Luke Bryan

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1. Maya Angelou Love Quotes
2. Blackhawks vs Kings Score
3. Wedding Gowns
4. Edward Snowden
5. NFL Top 100 Players of 2014
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7. GOP Michelle Obama
8. Pedro Martinez

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5/30/14

1. Problem (feat. Iggy Azalea) -
Ariana Grande
2. Fancy (feat. Charli XCX) - Iggy
Azalea
3. Am I Wrong - Nico & Vinz
4. Rude - Magic!
5. Wiggle (feat. Snoop Dogg) -
Jason Derulo
6. Believe Me (feat. Drake) - Lil
Wayne
7. Turn Down For What - DJ Snake
& Lil Jon
8. Happy (From "Despicable Me
2") - Pharrell Williams
9. All of Me - John Legend
10. Stay with Me - Sam Smith

Source: iTunes

Top 10 TV Shows in Prime
Time - Week Ending 5/25/14

1. Dancing with the Stars
2. Dancing with the Stars Special
3. Voice - Mon
4. Voice - Tues
5. DWS: Road to the Finals
6. American Idol - Wed
7. Modern Family
8. Survivor
9. The Big Bang Theory
10. The Middle

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5. Twitter

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1. X-Men: Days of Future Past
2. Godzilla
3. Blended
4. Neighbors
5. The Amazing Spiderman 2

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EMPOWER
ON PARENTING TEENS

I quit my job to stay home when I had
my second baby. I taught rst grade
the day before she was born. Even
thought those rst few months as a
SAHM to two were mildly
traumatizing (I used to call Brandon at
1:30pm and ask, Are you almost done
with work? and he was all Its 1:30 and
I was like YOU DIDNT ANSWER THE
FREAKING QUESTION. ARE YOU ON
YOUR WAY HOME OR SHOULD I
CALL 911 TO COME HELP ME
MANAGE THESE TWO BABIES?????),
I soon settled into my new life at home.
Because no one told us not to, we
added a third baby just two years later
and created a full-blown preschool
circus.


I essentially raised the babies with my
girlfriends during those years. Our
childrearing environments included
Chick-Fil-A, Barnes and Noble, the
local pool, all of our living rooms/
kitchens/nurseries/bathtubs, and every
park in the greater Austin area. We fed,
disciplined, diapered, rocked, and
pool-rescued each others kids with
regularity. One memorable concern
was a recurring conversation:


You guys, what about when all these
sweet babies become teenagers??
What will we do?? They will become
mutant rebels! They will hate us and us
them!


May I discuss with you Parenting
Teens now that I actually am?


Teenagers are my jam.


The weird thing is, those tiny sweet
precious littles you are raising? The
teens are the same people, just bigger.
That humor? Same. That personality?
Same. Those tendencies and leanings
and giftings? Same. Your quirky 6-
year-old who loves science and animal
husbandry? Same, he just gets bigger
with a lower voice.


Stop imagining that aliens will take
over your darling preschooler at age
13. Your sweet boy will get to age 13
one day at a time. There is no abrupt
moment where he ceases being the
boy you raised and becomes some
adolescent you dont recognize. The
strangest thing is that he is looking you
in the eye and talking about armpit hair
and course electives. This boy will still
lie in your lap while you run your
ngers through his hair and remember
the day he was born. He is still your
baby.

My oldest son and his cousins.
The time lapse between these two pics
was approximately four seconds.

Parenting teens is pretty much the
best Mom gig yet. They are funny and
smart and you see glimpses of their
adult selves. They are beginning to
funnel into their gifts and passions,
and you feel the most absurd pride
about who they are becoming right in
front of your eyes.

And THE HUMOR. If you know one
ounce about me, you know that I value
humor over, say, integrity and honor.
So when my sophomore plops on the
couch, sticks one of his ear buds into
my ear (the other one in his) and plays
funny Youtube videos for us to watch
together? Well, THE WORLD CAN END
NOW BECAUSE I AM NOW IN
POSSESSION OF ALL THE
HAPPINESS. You havent laughed
until you laugh with your teen over
shared humor. When you can share
Will Ferrell? What else is there? Die
happy.

Did I mention their friends? Because
you will weirdly love their friends.
They bring a concentrated level of
grossness and drama and hunger into
your house, and YOU LOVE IT. You
love the way they tease each other and
act sweetly towards your younger kids.
You love the way they praise your
cooking, even when you feed them
weird things like sweet potato and
black bean quesadillas. You love their
big, awkward bodies sprawled on your
couches, spewing the nonsense they
read on iFunny or Instagram. They let
you take their pictures and o"er advice
and scold them even as your own
teenagers are begging you with their
eyes to knock it o".


It seems completely unfair that right
about the time your kids become the
most awesome, they y the coop.
Why cant 5th graders go to college
and come back in 9th grade?? I could
absolutely live without many, many,
many middle school days. But high
school? SWOON.


Parents, spend all the preschool,
elementary, and early middle school
years developing love and trust and
transparency with your kids. Every
conversation is on the table. Not one
single topic is o" limits. Laugh with
them. Be genuine. Say youre sorry
when you should be. Listen to their
dreams and feelings and ideas and
thoughts when it is the least
convenient. Those moments will come
with regularity unless they are
squashed; drink them in with relish and
you will ensure that they continue. If
you are safe now, you will be safe later.


On their 16th and 14th birthdays.
I BIRTHED YOU AND I WILL KISS
YOU IF I WANT TO.

Get super, super interested in what
your children are interested in. Invest
in their talents. When our 13-year-old
developed a sincere interest and gift
toward photography and asked for a
CRAZY EXPENSIVE CAMERA for
Christmas, we discussed this with our
lm crew, explaining why we were NOT
going to buy it for her, and our
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entire living as a photographer said, If
your kid was super talented at the
guitar, would you buy her a reputable
guitar and lessons? YOU WOULD. So
why not invest in your daughters gift?
My mom bought my rst camcorder
when I was 10 and here I am. For the
love. We followed his advice and our
daughter brought her fancy new
camera to Ethiopia two months later
and took this:

Kevin was right.

This is tough for me, but work really
hard to not control everything. This is
super important. Your bigs NEED to
develop independence. Let them bring
their problems to you without obeying
the immediate instinct to solve it. Ask
good questions. Lead the witness. If
they think you are only capable of
xing it, the well of
communication will run dry, because
their hearts are chasing adulthood
and they need to know you respect
that. Be a listener, a gentle guide, a
condent parent willing to let their
child blow it for the prize of maturity.

There is a super high chance your teen
will ENORMOUSLY SELF-DESTRUCT.
Need I remind you of our
adolescence? They will lie, cheat,
rebel, succumb, resist, disobey. They
will do this, because they are no
di"erent than EVERY GENERATION
THAT EVER PRECEDED THEM. But
that is not the end of their story. It
wasnt the end of ours (thank you,
Jesus) and their best years are ahead
of them too. If they wobble, stick with
those wonky kids. They will
remember how their parents
remained steady until they course
corrected.

Most of all? Enjoy those crazy teens.
These are magical, frustrating, insane,
hilarious years. This season is so very
short. It peaks and crests in minutes.
No sooner do they get their rst
girlfriend then they are o" to college.
Parental anxiety is a waste of time. It
will all be okay. These children are
(mostly) a delight. And when they
arent? Just wait awhile. Theyll come
back.

That beautiful 3-year-old youre
tucking into bed? Blink, and youll be
sending him to Drivers Ed. I swear to
the heavens.
We will probably regret all the years
we wasted in fear and anxiety and
control, but we will never regret
spending those years in delight and
joy. We have these children for around
18 years of THEIR ENTIRE LIVES. Lets
send them into the adult world at the
height of our pleasure in them, grateful
for the beautiful, funny, smart,
interesting, special, precious children
that God entrusted us with for this rst
short phase of their whole existence.

Moms of littles? Stop being afraid.
Those babies you love now? You will
love them even more ercely in ten
years. They will become the young
adults you are raising them to be.
And you will love them with the ferocity
of a thousand splendid suns. And they
will make you laugh and cry and shake
your head and thank our good God
that he trusted you with these
extraordinary young people, and all
that parenting in those early years
turned into incredible teens that you
don't just love...you like.

And dont forget: In a few years, they
will bring us grandbabies.

THAT WE DONT HAVE TO RAISE.

Amen and hallelujah.

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SPEAKER-BLOGGER
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