The Art of Creating Change and Growth in Life

Coaching for Change Newsletter / Vol 5 March 5, 2008

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One of the hardest things we humans attempt to do is to accept the 4th month free!
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Do you Believe in Synchronicity? time?

Recently I was reading a book that put forth an interesting propo- If you’ve been putting off hiring
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is a reason for everything that happens to us? Do you believe in you want. During the months
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If there is indeed a reason for what happens to us then the concept Everything is a matter of per-
spective with how we view the
of acceptance becomes so much easier. world.
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Tip of the Month
It takes some time but you recover. While you are out of work,
Spring is just around the corner.
you meet with an old friend (who you run into on the street when Spring is a time of rebirth, of
you would normally have been at work) who mentions an opening growth and renewal. Where can
at a firm that you have always admired and lo and behold you get you experience growth in your
the job. It all worked out for the best. life right now that would create
positive changes?
Simply Random Chance? Continue to Grow and Thrive
as a Human Being
So do you think all this was simply random, chance? Or are you
In line with this month’s subject
of the opinion that things do happen for a reason even if we can-
of acceptance and letting go,
not see the reason in the present moment? Look back at your life. what are two or three things that
Can you see how certain, often painful occurrences led you to you want to let go of this spring
new openings? When did you experience the most growth in your in order to continue to grow
life? Was it in a neutral state of being or was it inspired by an and thrive as a human being?
event in your life? Think of things about yourself
that might be holding you back?
Divorce — a Time of Great Upheaval and Growth Perhaps it is an attitude on
life that is getting in the way?
I went through a divorce recently and the last three years of my Maybe some negative emotions.
Maybe a refusal to accept where
life have been a time of great upheaval. For a long time I was in
you are right now in life.
pain and confusion. During those times I certainly could not see
the so-called light at the end of the tunnel. Choose One Thing about
yourself to Work on
But today I see that my divorce was the knock on the head that I
needed to become the person I am today and am still becoming. It Make a list with two columns.
One column is the gifts this
forced me to reassess my life, who I was and who I was being. If
issue bestows upon you and
not for my divorce I would not have taken the time to grow as a the other is the costs. Do you
human being and experience the myriad changes that have truly see? Now, how can you best let
benefited me. go? What can you do differently
today in order to move forward?
Accepting What Is Ask yourself the question: What
do I want to do from this point
Acceptance of what is allows us to experience reality for what it forward with this one precious
is and not what we think it should be. It forces us to put our faith life of mine?
in the fact that life unfolds for us for very good reasons. We can
Create a lifeline
then embrace what life is attempting to offer us. Not only are we
more accepting of who we are but also of others. It opens up a Start with your birth and list
world of possibilities versus impossibilities.  significant events up until today.
Gauge them as happy or unhap-
Don’t Surrender Free Will and Choice py? See if there are reasons for
where you are today.
Acceptance of what is does not mean we surrender our free will
Now the future? 
and choice. Quite the contrary. We see things more clearly and we
can then take true responsibility for our lives and make choices In terms of how long you’ll
via our authentic selves versus the mind chatter that seems to run think you will live, how much
us. We let go of our story and the drama of our lives. We become time do you have left to do the
honest with ourselves and change what needs to be changed in things you want to do and be
the person you want to be?
order to live our best lives possible. 
Plan your Future NOW!
So what do you believe?
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Quotes of the Month:
The characteristic feature of ...
synchronistic occurrences is
meaningful coincidence, and as
such I have defined the synchro-
nistic principle.

This principle suggests that

there is an inter-connection
or unity of causally unrelated
events, and thus postulates a
unitary aspect of being which
can very well be described as
the ‘unus mundus’ [one world] ~

C. G. Jung
Collected Works

“I am open to the guidance of

synchronicity, and do not let
expectations hinder my path.”
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