Causes of marriage fail

Nowadays, people are tend to be marriage at older age or not marriage. One of
the reason may be people no more believe in marriage, because they can get divorce
easily. Unfortunely, based on the current statistics result had shown in United State,
50 per cent of first marriage, ! per cent of second and !" per cent of third marriage
end in divorce. No matter how much a couple love each others, a marriage can fail for
a number of reasons, at any time. #here were several common reasons or causes of
marriage fail, where are poor boundaries, selfishness and problem faced in
communication.
$oudaries are the personal property lines which define who we are, what we
responsible for and where we have limits and limitations. $oundaries are important in
marriage, love, freedom, reaponsiblility and protection are the cornerstones of a stable
and growing relationship between % person. #he &ey to all that both spouses ta&e
responsibility for their own issues instead of 'ust reacting to the other, and they are
willing to give freedom and love each other.if there are no freedom, there will be
alavery and, in result, rebellion. (nd the problem after marriage, many people thought
they own each other, they have the right to control their spouses) life. (nd this is the
reason why their marriage go to the end.
#he second reson is selfishness. Selfishness is possibly the most dangerous threat
to oneness in marriage. *t affects how we tal& with each other, how we ply our part in
marriage and even how we spend our time in relationship. Selfishness can defined as
one focuses on putting one)s own needs above those of everybody else. +any
relationship problem will occur when people become too focused on what they feel
they need to get out from their relationship. ,oneliness follows selfish behaviour and
it followed by bitterness and in some instances disrespect for themselves. Selfishness
behavior might causes spouse feel they are not important and can)t feel their love in
the relationship.
-ood communication ins the foundation of a strong marriage, on the contrany,
poor communication also will lead many problem in a relationship. *t)s often the
simplest bad habots in way of communication that get couple into trouble. .roblem
will eslate as both spouses repeat their mista&es again and again. /or instances,
yelling at your spouse. (nger creates tension, yelling maybe a 0uic& and easy option
but it often cause more trouble than relief or having a competitive attitude. Compare
spuse)s carreer achivement with other. +aybe a little competition between the couple
is o& but when it become over, it will bring problem to marriage.
*n conclusion, there were three common causes of marriage fail, poor boundaries,
selfishness and problem in communication process. *n my opinion, to &eep a
relationship stay strong, it was not one)s responsible but are responsible for both.it is a
hard topic how to maintain a marriage because there not only theory bit it is life.
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