Brain Smart Start To Your Day

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She hit me, he took my toy:
Using conhicts as teaching moments
by Dr. Becky BaiIey
Conscious DiscipIine

Conscious Discipline is an emotional intelligence program consisting of Brain Smart

strategies for
responding rather than reacting to life events. Through responding, conict moments are transformed
into cooperative learning opportunities.
Laws of DaiIy Conhict
Be a 1. S.T.A.R., SmiIe, Take a deep breath, And ReIax.
Cut the intensity (mirror neurons).
Upload calm/download with eye contact.
See the call for help instead of ruining my day. 2.
Enter conict by describing what you see instead of asking questions or 3.
making demands.
Go to victim rst (only one exception). 4.
The exception is ____________________.
Disconnected children or extremely upset children 5.
are not willing to solve the problem.
If disconnected, nd ways to connect.
If too upset, offer time and strategies to
calm down.
When a chiId is... lnstead of saying... Pivot and say...
Hitting Stop hitting!
Nxt tim you woulo lik to play, say,
May l hav a turn plas?
Pushing Stop pushing!
Nxt tim you woulo lik somon
to mov, say, Mov plas.

Two Types of TattIing
Type 1: Child has been victimized.
ChiId's message: I feel powerless.
Your response: Did you like it?
Go tell _____________, I _____________.
Type 2: Child wants to get sibling in trouble.
ChiId's message: I feel angry at _____________ for not being my friend and not
doing what I wanted him/her to do. I dont know how to express my anger directly.
Your response: Are you telling me this to be helpful or hurtful?
ChiId response: Hurtful.
You: What could you do that is helpful?
ChiId: I dont know.
You: You could do or say _________.
ChiId response: Helpful.
You: How is telling me about ______ being helpful?
ChiId: He/she is supposed to _________.
You: So you wanted _______. You could do or say
________.
FoIIow-up phrase: You _______ so _________. That was helpful!
What you focus on, you get more of.
When you are upset, you are aIways
focused on what you don't want.

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She hit me, he took my toy:
Using conhicts as teaching moments
by Dr. Becky BaiIey
Conscious DiscipIine

Conscious Discipline is an emotional intelligence program consisting of Brain Smart

strategies for
responding rather than reacting to life events. Through responding, conict moments are transformed
into cooperative learning opportunities.
Laws of DaiIy Conhict
Be a 1. S.T.A.R., SmiIe, Take a deep breath, And ReIax.
Cut the intensity (mirror neurons).
Upload calm/download with eye contact.
See the call for help instead of ruining my day. 2.
Enter conict by describing what you see instead of asking questions or 3.
making demands.
Go to victim rst (only one exception). 4.
The exception is ____________________.
Disconnected children or extremely upset children 5.
are not willing to solve the problem.
If disconnected, nd ways to connect.
If too upset, offer time and strategies to
calm down.
When a chiId is... lnstead of saying... Pivot and say...
Hitting Stop hitting!
Nxt tim you woulo lik to play, say,
May l hav a turn plas?
Pushing Stop pushing!
Nxt tim you woulo lik somon
to mov, say, Mov plas.

Two Types of TattIing
Type 1: Child has been victimized.
ChiId's message: I feel powerless.
Your response: Did you like it?
Go tell _____________, I _____________.
Type 2: Child wants to get sibling in trouble.
ChiId's message: I feel angry at _____________ for not being my friend and not
doing what I wanted him/her to do. I dont know how to express my anger directly.
Your response: Are you telling me this to be helpful or hurtful?
ChiId response: Hurtful.
You: What could you do that is helpful?
ChiId: I dont know.
You: You could do or say _________.
ChiId response: Helpful.
You: How is telling me about ______ being helpful?
ChiId: He/she is supposed to _________.
You: So you wanted _______. You could do or say
________.
FoIIow-up phrase: You _______ so _________. That was helpful!
What you focus on, you get more of.
When you are upset, you are aIways
focused on what you don't want.
Taming The Jungle
Presented by Jessica Shields Flowers, M.Ed.
Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor
SC Master Certified Trainer
Activity to Unite Activity to Disengage Stress
Activity to Connect Activity to Commit
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Think of a possible alternative perception for this issue. How does that alter your
feelings and behavior? What changes if you change your initial perception?
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Four Brain Smart Principles that help change our states
1. The brain is pattern-seeking. When the pattern is found, predictability is
enhanced and safety facilitated. visual routines create safety.
2. The best exercise for the brain is exercise. Exercise relieves depression,
repairs a cognitive disorder like ADHD and enhances higher thinking skills.
3. Connections on the outside build neural connections on the inside.
! Love You Rituals create bonding by providing the necessary ingredients of eye
contact, touch, and presence in a playful situation.
4. The brain functions optimally when we feel safe, both physically and
psychologically. !t requires that adults control their own upsets.
Peter, Peter Pumpkin Eater
Peter Peter pumpkin eater,
Had a friend he loved to greet!
Treated him with kind respect,
And in the morning hugged his neck!
If you were to describe your optimal learning state in a few short words, what
words would you use?
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________________________________________________________________________________
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How would it feel?
________________________________________________________________________________
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What would be some visible signs that someone is in an optimal learning state?
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State dictates behavior. Change the state rst, behavior second.
I Love You Rituals
(Book, Greeting Cards, Music CDs)
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Assessing Brain States in Order to Teach
Self-Regulation: Learn three new tools
that will make a difference!
Loving Guidance Associate Karen Hickman Fri. 8:30-9:30am
Based on the work by Dr. Becky Bailey, creator of Conscious Discipline

Objectives
Increase understanding of how the brain develops in stages and is hierarchical. 1.
Recognize the relationship of internal states to behavior for both adults and children. 2.
Practice applying the skills of noticing, empathy and problem solving. 3.
Check In
Energy Level
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Focus Level
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Brain Smart

Principles
The best exercise for the brain is e________. 1.
The brain functions optimally when a person 2.
feels s____________.
The brain is p___________-s__________ 3.
and s________ oriented.
Connections on the o__________ build 4.
connections on the i____________.
Good morning, Good morning!
Lets get ready the brain smart way
Good morning, Good morning!
Get ready to start the day
Get your hands ready shake shake
Get your arms ready stretch stretch
Get your brain ready cross cross
Get your focus ready breathe, breathe,(2x)
Good morning, Good morning!
Lets get ready the brain smart way
Good morning, Good morning!
Connect with a friend shake, shake
Connect with a friend clap, clap
Connect with a friend hip, hip
Connect with a friend hug, hug, HUG
- It Starts in the Heart music CD
Brain Basics 101
Brain Stem: represents a s_______________ state, which includes
f_______, f______, and f______.
In this state, the developmental need is s______________.
Limbic System: represents an e_____________ state, which
includes patterns from c____________, placing b___________,
and n_______-calling. In this state, the developmental need is
c__________.
Prefrontal Lobes: represent an i____________ state, in which
we can access our own w___________. In this state, the
developmental need is p______________-s_________________.
Disengage the
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Helpful products
for this session:
Safe Place Mat
It Starts in the Heart music CD
Brain Smart

Choices Cubes
Shubert childrens book series
Conscious Discipline

book
Find these products
and more at the
Loving Guidance booth:
Booth 1035