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When we’re surprised to learn how It doesn’t require more than a disengagement is the essence of
others see us, we expect forgiveness question or two to reveal that such shared culpability, and isn’t
to immediately follow our predictions are based on gossip or justified at any hierarchical level.
st atement of “no intent”. We innuendo, and lack any specific Whether due to an oblivious lack
aren’t so quick, however, to view experiential grounding. of introspection or the intentional
the behavior of others as benign. However, as tools to justify avoidance of accountability,
Instead, we assume others are fully inaction or to mask an abdication is an active choice – not
aware of their impacts, and that unwillingness to take initiative, a passive one. Disavowing personal
their behaviors are deliberate. negative fantasies are almost responsibility for helping to craft
unbeatable. In the hands of spin- or implement solutions makes
Poison #2: masters, negative fantasies can one, at best, part of the problem,
Faulty Logic masquerade compellingly as valid and at worst, irrelevant.
reasons to do nothing, when in Attempting to mitigate
Because you made a mistake with fact they’re just excuses for doing detachment by citing “low level
assignment “A”, you should never nothing. status” or claiming “it’s not my
again be given assignment “A”. job” may indeed insulate us and
Poison #4: confer impunity, but it can also
Because you had one really bad Blame Orientation erode the assignment of high
day, it’s appropriate for you to ever potential status.
after carry the label of “difficult It’s so much easier to blame Even if only one of these poisons
employee”. others for something that did or has been dispersed in your
didn’t happen than to take organization, it’s sufficient to
Because you didn’t realize a constructive action ourselves. permeate your culture with the
particular VIP was sensitive about suboptimal performance of an “us
a specific issue, you clearly have Lots of willing listeners will be vs. them” mentality.
zero interpersonal skills. attracted to conversations about Whether you need a preventive
what’s wrong. And there’s lots of vaccine or a curative antidote, the
If you’d rail at these, why apply empathy for those who make a medicine is the same: dispense this
such faulty logic to others? convincing case for having been article so that it’s easy for everyone
It’s absurd to believe that because victimized. Solution oriented to recognize poisonous passivity as
the boss approves one suggestion, conversations, though, attract the menacing hazard that it is.
s/he will approve all suggestions. fewer listeners, in part because Infuse your culture with the
It is equally absurd to believe that they usually require us to take on message that those who aren’t
because the boss disapproves one new or different work. willing to act have lost their right
suggestion, s/he will disapprove all The soothing balm of blaming to complain. SV
suggestions. others numbs innovative thinking,
and desensitizes us to the need for Francie Dalton is founder and
Poison #3: initiating change. president of Dalton Alliances, Inc.,
Negative Fantasies a premier, Maryland-based business
Poison #5: consultancy specializing in the
Even when we have absolutely no Abdication of Personal behavior, management and
personal histor y at all with an Responsibility communications sciences.
individual, we can be amazingly For more information, call 410-
resolute in our predictions about Although more egregious at the 715-0484 or visit
what they would do if… senior levels, deliberate www.daltonalliances.com or email:
fmdalton@daltonalliances.com
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