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Sexuality
Sex enjoyment is a necessity for the conditioned soul, and sex enjoyment is allowed under the license of marriage ties. According to scriptural injunctions, one is forbidden to engage in sex relationships with any women other than one's wife. All other women are to be considered as one's mother. But in spite of such injunctions, a man is still inclined to have sex relationships with other women. These propensities are to be curbed otherwise they will be stumbling bloc!s on the path of self"reali#ation. As long as the material body is there, the necessities of the material body are allowed, but under rules and regulations. """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" Sex life, intoxication and meat"eating are general tendencies of human society, but a regulated householder does not indulge in unrestricted sex life and other sense gratification. $arriage on the principles of religious life is therefore current in all civili#ed human society because that is the way for restricted sex life. This restricted, unattached sex life is also a !ind of yajna %sacrifice& because the restricted householder sacrifices his general tendency toward sense gratification for higher, transcendental life. """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" The Vedas prescribe, therefore, sacred marriage for regulated sense gratification. Thereby one is gradually elevated to the platform of release from material bondage, and the highest perfection of liberated life is to associate with the Supreme 'ord. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" (e should not indulge in sex outside of married life, for sex is sanctioned in the scripture only in marriage, not otherwise. This is called celibacy. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" )mpatience is due to loss of determination, and loss of determination is due to excessive sex. """"""""""""""""" $arriage means not for sense gratification. Putrayate kriyate bharya, putra-pinda-prayojanam. To get nice son, that is the idea of marriage. *ot for sense gratification. """""""""""""""""""""" +ne should practice cleansing oneself externally and internally, and he should learn to become simple in behavior. (e should not do anything which is not sanctioned by the scriptural injunctions. (e should not indulge in sex outside of married life, for sex is sanctioned in the scripture only in marriage, not otherwise. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" Sex life should be restricted to persons who are married. """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" ,veryone is inclined in this age to eat meat and fish, drin! li-uor, and indulge in sex life, but according to the .edic injunctions, sex is allowed only in marriage... """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" Basic principle of material attraction is this sex life. This is general. Those who have organi#ed the sex life in social convention /sic0 in so many ways. The marriage is also another convention to give a very finishing nice touch than the animal. That's all. 1ust li!e sometimes it is said marriage is legali#ed prostitution. So for social convention the marriage is a license, but it is also based on the sex life. But for !eep up social life, one has to accept some regulative principle. Therefore sex life li!e animals and sex life in marriage, there is difference. )t is better. That is accepted in civili#ed world. """"""""""""""" Dam pate rati rati abhiruci hetu maya eva vyavarike. These are the symptoms. Dam pate, husband relationship, husband and wife. $eans sex power. 2e have practically seen in the 2estern countries, as soon as there is some disturbance in the sex relation of husband and wife, there is divorce. So that, these

are the symptoms. Stri te bhunkte ca hi rati viprate sutram eva hi. So man and woman /are0 united in marriage relationship simply on sex urge, not on the religious principle. That we have seen. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" 4ou have as!ed what is meant by illicit sex. Sex should be used only in marriage for begetting nice children to raise in 5rsna 6onsciousness. 5rsna says in the Bhagavad-gita that ) am sex life performed according to religious principles. Sex life for any other purpose means illicit sex. The use of contraceptive method for sex enjoyment is very sinful. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" Prabhupada: 7irst of all one has to give up illicit sex life. Woman Interviewer: 8oes that include all sex life or...9 Prabhupada: (uh9 Woman Interviewer: 2hat is illicit9 Prabhupada: )llicit sex /is0 without marriage, without any relation, sex life, that is illicit sex life. Woman Interviewer: So sex is allowed in marriage, but not outside. Prabhupada: That is animal sex life. 1ust as animals, they have no relationship and have sex life. But human society there is restriction. )n every country, in every religion there is a system of marriage. So without marriage, sex life is illicit sex life. Woman Interviewer: But sex is allowed within marriage. Prabhupada: 4es, that is... """""""""""""""""""""""""""" Prabhupada: That is sinful. 8on't you see, illicit sex, what havoc it has done9 Mr. Koshi: 2hat exactly do you mean9 Prabhupada: )llicit sex, do you thin! it is...9 Mr. Koshi: +utside marriage, you mean9 Prabhupada: 4es. *ot only outside marriage. ,ven in marriage, you cannot have sex as you li!e. 4ou must have sex according to the regulative principle or religious principle. Mr. Koshi: 6ould you explain9 Prabhupada: 4es. 1ust li!e only for begetting nice children. Mr. Koshi: 7or begetting9 Prabhupada: *ice children. Tamala Krsna: :ood children. Mr. Koshi: 2hat is the meaning of good children9 Prabhupada: :ood children means not these rogues and thieves, but one who can understand :od. That is good children. ---------------------------------------------------------2ithout a fixed wife, a man becomes a debauchee of the first order and is a nuisance in society""unless he is a trained brahmacari, vanaprastha or sannyasi. ;nless there is rigid and systematic training of the brahmacari by the expert spiritual master, and unless the student is obedient, it is sure that the so"called brahmacari will fall prey to the attac! of sex. There are so many instances of falldown, even for great yogis li!e .isvamitra. A grhastha is saved, however, because of his faithful wife. Sex life is the cause of material bondage, and therefore it is prohibited in three asramas and is allowed only in the grhasthaasrama. The grhastha is responsible for producing first"-uality brahmacaris, vanaprasthas and sannyasis. -----------------------------------So family life is not condemned. But if a man forgets his spiritual identity and simply becomes entangled in material affairs, then he is lost. (is life's mission is lost. )f one thin!s, <) cannot protect myself from the attac! of maya,< then let him be married. That is prescribed. 2e don't have illicit sex life. )f you want a girl, if you want a boy, get married. 'ive in 5rsna consciousness. """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""

2hen a person is devoid of devotional service, or visnu-bhakti, he ta!es to many sinful activities. 5ing >uranjana left home, neglected his own wife and engaged himself in !illing animals. This is the position of all materialistic men. They do not care for a married chaste wife. They ta!e the wife only as an instrument for sense enjoyment, not as a means for devotional service. To have unrestricted sex life, the !armis wor! very hard. They have concluded that the best course is to have sex with any woman and simply pay the price for her, as though she were a mercantile commodity. Thus they engage their energy in wor!ing very hard for such material ac-uisitions. Such materialistic people have lost their good intelligence. They must search out their intelligence within the heart. A person who does not have a chaste wife accepted by religious principles always has a bewildered intelligence