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Friendship Criteria?
(author unknown)
A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam.
He called his parents from San Francisco. “Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've got a
favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring with me.”
“Sure”, they replied, “we'd love to meet him.”
“There's something you should know”, the son continued, “he was hurt pretty badly in the
fighting. He stepped on a land mine and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go,
and I want him to come live with us.”
“I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live.”
“No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us.”
“Son”, said the father, “you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap
would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something
like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this
guy. He'll find a way to live on his own.”
At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him.
A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had
died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The
grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the
body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something
they didn't know. Their son had only one arm and one leg.
The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are good-
looking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel
uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or
smart as we are. Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who
loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of
how messed up we are. Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer
that God will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all
be more understanding of those who are different from us!!!
There's a miracle called-- Friendship- that dwells in the heart. You don't know how it
happens or when it gets started. But you know the special lift. It always brings and you
realize that Friendship is one of God's most precious gifts! Friends are a very rare jewel,
indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a
word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us. Show your friends how much
you care …………………………………………
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And they call some of these people “retarded”....
A few years ago, at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally
disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash. At the gun, they all started out,
not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win. All, that is,
except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began
to cry.
The other eight heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned
around and went back...... every one of them. One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down
and kissed him and said, “This will make it better”. Then all nine linked arms and walked
together to the finish line.
Everyone in the stadium stood, and the cheering went on for several minutes. People who
were there are still telling the story. Why? Because deep down we know this one thing:
What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in this life is
helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.
BLUE RIBBONS
(author unknown)
A teacher in New York decided to honor each of her seniors in high school by telling them the
difference they each made. She called each student to the front of the class, one at a time.
First she told each of them how they had made a difference to her and the class. Then she
presented each of them with a blue ribbon imprinted with gold letters, which read, “Who I
Am Makes a Difference.” Afterwards the teacher decided to do a class project to see what
kind of impact recognition would have on a community. She gave each of the students three
more ribbons and instructed them to go out and spread this acknowledgement ceremony.
Then they were to follow up on the results, see who honored whom, and report back to the
class in about a week.
One of the boys in the class went to a junior executive in a nearby company and honored him
for helping him with his career planning. He gave him a blue ribbon and put it on his shirt.
Then he gave him two extra ribbons and said, "We're doing a class project on recognition,
and we'd like you to go out, find somebody to honor, give them a blue ribbon, then give them
the extra blue ribbon so they can acknowledge a third person to keep this acknowledgment
ceremony going. Then please report back to me and tell me what happened."
Later that day the junior executive went in to see his boss, who had been noted, by the way,
as being kind of a grouchy fellow. He sat his boss down and he told him that he deeply
admired him for being a creative genius. The boss seemed very surprised. The junior
executive asked him if he would accept the gift of the blue ribbon and would he give him
permission to put it on him. His surprised boss said, “Well, sure.”
The junior executive took the blue ribbon and placed it right on his boss's jacket above his
heart. As he gave him the last extra ribbon, he said, “Would you do me a favor? Would you
take this extra ribbon and pass it on by honoring somebody else. The young boy who first
gave me the ribbons is doing a project in school and we want to keep this recognition
ceremony going and find out how it affects people.”
That night the boss came home to his 14-year-old son and sat him down. He said, “The most
incredible thing happened to me today. I was in my office and one of the junior executives
came in and told me he admired me and gave me a blue ribbon for being a creative genius.
Imagine, he thinks I'm a creative genius. Then he put this blue ribbon that says ‘Who I Am
Makes a Difference’ on my jacket above my heart. He gave me an extra ribbon and asked me
to find somebody else to honor. As I was driving home tonight, I started thinking about
whom I would honor with this ribbon and I thought about you. I want to honor you. My
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days are really hectic and when I come home. I don't pay a lot of attention to you.
Sometimes I scream at you for not getting good enough grades in school and for your
bedroom being a mess, but somehow tonight, I just wanted to sit here and, well, just let you
know that you do make a difference to me. Besides your mother, you are the most important
person in my life. You're a great kid and I love you!”
The startled boy started to sob and sob, and he couldn't stop crying. His whole body shook.
He looked up at his father and said through his tears, “Dad, earlier tonight I sat in my room
and wrote a letter to you and Mom explaining why I had killed myself and asking you to
forgive me. I was going to commit suicide tonight after you were asleep.”
His father walked upstairs and found a heartfelt letter full of anguish and pain. The envelope
was addressed, “Mom and Dad”. The boss went back to work a changed man. He was no
longer a grouch but made sure to let all his employees know that they made a difference. The
junior executive helped several other young people with career planning and never forgot to
let them know that they made a difference in his life...one being the boss's son. And the
young boy and his classmates learned a valuable lesson.
Directions: First answer the questions after the Scripture references. Then write an
essay about the other items received via e-mail. The essay should be just
about God-pleasing friendship qualities. This assignment is worth 3 units, so
write at least 4 quality pages (single spaced lines and no redundancies).
What Does the Bible Say?
Note: There are many negative Scripture references in the Old Testament. However, in the
New Testament, friendship and unselfish love compassion is emphasized. Samples of
the first statement are found in Exodus 32:27, Deuteronomy 13:6 & 23:3-6, Judges
15:1-8, 2 Samuel 13:3-37 & 16:16-17:23, Ezra 9:10-12, Esther 5:14, Job 6:27, Job
12:4, Job 17:5, Job 19:14 & 19, Job 32:1-5, Psalm 31:11, Psalm 38:11, Psalm 41:9,
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Psalm 55:20, Psalm 109:4-5, Proverbs 14:20-21, Proverbs 16:28-30, Proverbs 17:9,
Proverbs 19:4 & 6-7, Jeremiah 9:4-6, Jeremiah 20:10, Jeremiah 38:20-23,
Lamentations 1:1-2, Obadiah 1:7, Micah 7:5-6, & Zechariah 13:4-6. But the New
Testament doesn’t specify how to be a good friend or what are the characteristics of a
God-pleasing friendship. So I have included appropriate items I had received via e-
mails: 2 to start this course and 4 after the Bible study.
Isaiah 41:8-9, James 2:20-24, Genesis 12:1-9 & 17:1-24, 2 Chronicles 20:5-7, & Galatians
3:6-14--
Who was a friend of God? Why was he considered such?
Exodus 33:7-17--
Who was a special friend of God? How do you know? Why did the Lord promise that He
would do what Moses asked? What did God mean by saying, “I know you by name”?
1 Samuel 20:42--
What did David and Jonathan do about their friendship?
Job 2:11-13--
What did Job’s friends do when they heard about all of his Satan-given horrible troubles and
later when they first saw him?
Job 29:1-5--
What did Job want from God? How do you think God showed that to Job in the time before
He allowed Satan to test him?
Job 42:7-16--
What did Job do right in relating to his three critical friends and what did he apparently not
have against them?
Psalm 119:63-66--
What quality did the friends of the writer of Psalm 119 have? What does that actually mean
and what does it lead to?
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10--
What is one reason to have a trustworthy and caring friend?
Luke 5:17-21--
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Who did Jesus Christ call friend early in His human-form ministry?
Luke 7:33-39--
Who else was Jesus unexpectedly friendly with?
Luke 12:1-4--
Who else did Jesus call “friend”?
Matthew 26:47-50--
Who did Jesus surprisingly call “friend” just before He was unjustly put to death?
Luke 21:12-19--
What did Jesus Christ warn His disciples about in relation to friends of theirs?
James 4:1-6--
What are Christians not to be a friend with? (Also read Romans 12:1-3, 1 Peter 2:11-12, &
1 John 2:15-17 before answering and be specific in what the James passage says-- 8 things.)
Luke 14:12-14--
Who did Jesus say that we should invite to eat instead of our friends, relatives, and rich
neighbors?
Through Me
[by Roy Lessin]
Through me
let there be kind words,
a warm smile and caring heart.
Through me
let there be a willingness to listen
and a readiness to understand.
Through me
let there be dependability,
steadfastness, trust, and loyalty.
Through me
let there be compassion,
forgiveness, mercy, and love.
Through me
let there be every quality
I find, O Lord, in Thee.
Friendship... is fit for serene days, graceful nights, and country rambles, but also for rough
roads and hard fare. [by Emerson]
Remember what Proverbs 17:17 and the Golden Rule say. Write them in your own words in
a personal commitment way.