Session 1: Time Management & Personal Productivity We must eliminate a) distraction, b) interruption and c) friction from our lives.

These categories include email, phone, text, etc. If we are concentrating on something and were interrupted, it takes our mind something like 20 minutes to return to the same level of concentration as we had before the interruption. The Inner Butterfly Effect: The butterfly effect was described in the movie Jurassic Park. It is also referred to chaos theory. In our context, we are referring to the domino effect that one thought has in producing many subsequent thoughts (imagine the dominos aligned in a triangle, not a line). We need to avoid the trigger of the thought or stop it when it begins. We can stop the Outer Butterflies by simply turning off our email alerts, phones etc. The minds greatest talent is the ability to concentrate on one thing for long periods. Try scheduling your interruptions. Have a time set aside for email and phone calls. Let your contacts know your schedule so they dont get upset. Things are either important or urgent but not both. We are addicted to our struggle. Stop this behavior. Multi-tasking: This is very inefficient. One study showed multi-tasking lowers your immediate IQ more than smoking marijuana. Schedule multi-tasking as an interruption. Increasing productivity: We need to develop our focus muscle like any other muscle. We should work in blocks of 90-120 minutes or more.

Proper State: 1. Being in the zone is a physical energy 2. Flow is being intellectually engaged 3. Enjoyment is the underlying emotional tonality All three are necessary to be in the most productive state. We want to have Clean Focus; the ability to focus on one thing with clarity. We must have clean cuts to have clean focus. Clean Cuts means stopping one activity before starting the next. We dont want to have open loops and unfinished business they rob you of energy. Unresolved conflict also affects clean focus. Its like having too many windows open on your computer; everything slows down.

Switch channels from mental to physical or to emotional tasks. Dont go from one mental activity to another. Again, maintain clean cuts. Humans are creatures of habit: 99% of thoughts, emotions, actions are the same everyday! We can create Productivity Routines regularly. Do this consciously. Humans can only handle one new ritual/habit every 30 days. We have three parts of the brain; the physical, emotional and logical (the Triune brain). So we can learn a new sport and a language at the same time because they use different parts of the brain. An emotional activity might be something like spending more time with a loved one. Why only one? Change of routine is what causes the most stress in our lives. Consider the most stressful experiences: death of a loved one, divorce, moving, holidays, etc. They all involve a change in routine. It takes 30 days for a new habit to become part of our normal routine. Habits have gravity (gravitational pull). We need to develop escape velocity to overcome the gravity of our old habits. The first 10 days we experience defiance. The next 10 days we experience resistance. Then the final 10 days we experience acclimation. Now the new habit has gravity. Will Power is the rarest and most precious form of energy. We have the most of this energy in the morning; before the day has robbed us of it. So the morning is the best time to start new habits. The Ultradian Rhythm: Different from Circadian rhythm, Ultradian rhythm is another natural cycle of the body. For example, when we wake, we are focused for 90-120 minutes before we become distracted/sleepy for 20 minutes. This cycle continues throughout the day. Take advantage of it. David will focus on a task for two hours (two 60 minutes). Each 60 is broken down into 50 minutes focus, 10 minutes break. After the two 60 minute cycles, he takes 30 minutes break. Again, we want a clean cut before the break. You can also nap during the break. Imagine if you focused on one task for 60 minutes per day; perhaps the most important task or the task that would ultimately lead to the most financial success. Where would you be in 10 years? Renewal: You need to actively renew yourself physically, emotionally and logically. If you dont, your body will fall into a state of disrepair. Take 1-2 days off every week. Take 1 week off every 90 days. The spirit must be renewed. Session 2: Ultimate Physical Health & Wellness

I wont get into this much here but it was very interesting (unless someone wants to hear more). Basically, David is a vegetarian now and a health and nutrition freak. He makes his own food and brings it with him when he travels. He is much slimmer than he was in his previous DVDs. As tiring as it was to sit and take notes for 12-13 hours per day, David was on stage or running around organizing the event. He said he could go a lot longer and I certainly believe him. The guy has endless reserves of energy. Although I did see him lose his cool a few times when it was getting late and he got frustrated with students asking stupid questions. So hes still human. Session 3: Davids Best Business Ideas Its very important to know your why. Without Power, no one will want to follow you or listen to you. With Success, you will attract the people you want to attract. Review, affirm and visualize the specific outcome you want daily. Watch the original The Secret. Read the original (unrevised) Think and Grow Rich. Rewrite the goal daily. Program your mind for what you want. Your thoughts become reality. What is Value? Think about it. It isnt money. Weve been trained to believe this but money is the lowest intrinsic value form that value can take. What has intrinsic value? How do you figure it out? Value is a nominalization; a freezing of a process. How do others value my service? Its different for different markets. There is utility value, sentimental value and emotional value. When you figure out value, reverse engineer it.

Money is made where value is created! Focusing on how to get more money is backwards thinking. Figuring out how to give value is the game. Infinite Justice System We want fairness and justice. We want win-win solutions that are 50/50. There was a study where $100 was offered to person A. Person A had to split the money with person B but person A determined the split. Person Bs power was only to decide if person A got the money at all. If person A split the $100 50/50, person B always agreed to give the money. But at 70/30, person B started saying no to the money so that neither received anything; even though it was still free money. This is the key reason people dont succeed!

Most of us have pondered the idea; How do I get one million people to each give me $1. This is the wrong question. The question should be; How do I give $100 worth of value to one million people? Then ask if its worth $1 to them. Perfect the art of creating and giving massive value without concern for what you get back. Keep learning and creating value. If I help enough people get what they want, Ill get what I want. Zig Ziglar Creating and Giving is the mindset, not Getting. Your whole focus is on giving value. Being unfocused on where the value is created is the biggest mistake business people make. They focus on what THEY find valuable instead of what people find valuable. Get out of your head and get into theirs. Target Audience/Prospects: 1. Pain and Urgency or Irrational Passion 2. Proactively seeking solutions Search engine marketing 3. Few or no perceived options Think about the above with respect to Double Your Dating. Did DYD fulfill those requirements? DYD went from zero to $20 million in five years! When selling a product or service, sell the Benefits, not the Features or Advantages. The best salesmen understand this principle. They a) qualify the buyer better and b) build trust faster. What happens when you try to sell a feature? The #1 response is an objection. Instead, match a benefit to a need. You need to ask the prospect. Learn Sales. Spend a year selling something person to person. Learn Marketing. Spend a year in marketing. Trust can be transferred to your company. This is Endorsed Marketing. You can take advantage of existing customer bases. You need to offer value to the endorsee. David did this by working for free with a number of mentors. David also worked for Tony Robbins for three years as a sound engineer. He only made $400 per month but he took the job to learn. Converting people to customers: They need proof. Give proof that theres value. Give away your best stuff. David gave away his best material in his email newsletters. All the self-made millionaires understand sales and marketing. Creators who use others to sell and market are not millionaires. If you want to know your socio-economic status, just look at the five closest people

to you. You are their average. If you want to be successful, surround yourself with superstars from now on. Make yourself strong first. Then you can help others later. Mistakes when Hiring: Hiring people you like. Hiring people like you. Instead, find people with more potential than you and help them succeed. One of Davids former employees is 24 and has a bigger company than DYD now. Hire people you want to be like. A Driver is proactive. He will complete projects. He values results, not effort. Superstars do it for impact, not for the money. A great manager integrates the team. He aligns their skills and talents. He supports them. He only hires superstars. Managers who delegate are ineffective. Systems: Have a Visual Dashboard. Use Excel to keep track of sales, gross revenue, deposits, marketing, etc. Look at it everyday. Well thats about it. As someone who has studied business extensively, I can attest to these principles. David ran out of time so he had to rush and abridge this information. His business seminars are much more expensive than his PU seminars so I really appreciated that he threw in the bonus sessions. One of his several business seminars is $10k! Or was it the DVD set? I cant remember. I hope I didnt break any disclosure agreement I signed by presenting this information. Although $10k sounds like a lot, in my personal industry, its not unusual to pay over $20k - $30k for consulting. Ive spent over $40k over the last decade. Its the price you have to pay to be competitive. Hell I spend more than $10k a year on continuing education. And I have no regrets because I think in terms of cost/benefit. Id like to form a mastermind group if anyones interested. I realize this is totally unrelated to PU. Id like to meet people who are really motivated and committed to becoming financially successful. Quite frankly, most of the PU gurus and successful PUAs Ive met are empty shells of people. They are a one trick pony. They are not living life to its fullest. I have made a very conscious effort to select only wings who are educated and accomplished because I want to surround myself with greatness. I want to remain friends after we gradually fall off the grid due to marriage or whatever. There are so few real men in the world, when I find one, I want to hang on. If you are frightened of my occasional tirades, what can I say? I have little patience for guys who have fallen asleep at the wheel. The point of Man Transformation is that we are all asleep and we need to wake up. Zen Buddhism.

Session 2: Ultimate Physical Health & Wellness

Nothing gives you as high a return as investing in your health. The healthier you are, the more you get done, the more you enjoy life. Our natural state is health and wellness. Consciously create rituals. Pursuing the pinnacle of health may be the most interesting and fulfilling thing in life. If I was to think for myself; do my own research; how far could I go? What could I learn? What could I accomplish? I. Your body knows what to do to heal itself. II. You cannot consciously heal your body. You bring the raw materials for maintenance and repair, to your cells. Stress: i. Structural physical pressure. Unconsciously we tighten body parts. This uses some mental RAM. ii. Distress Emotional stress iii. Eustress Positive stress Structural + Distress = Problems Ex: Stress = Weight (literally, as in obesity). Substance abuse, illness, etc. Why Zebras Dont Get Ulcers - Zebras are prey for lions and crocodiles. They experience moments of shear terror. But overall, they have very little stress. They arent subject to sustained stress like humans. 1. Get stress under control 2. Get rid of negative influences. Look at your 5 closest friends you are their average. TV is a negative influence (educational shows are okay). 3. Worry is a problem. Tackle it relentlessly. It will tear you down. If its outside my circle of influence, theres nothing I can do. Let it go. 4. Get enough sleep. Keep it quiet and dark. The reptilian brain needs a nest. Eustress Positive Stress Athletics, sports, etc. Stress the muscles; tears down the fibers at a cellular level. Muscles rebuild while you sleep. Muscle grows when sleeping.

Periodization is an organized approach to training that involves progressive cycling of various aspects of a training program during a specific period of time. The GAS (General Adaptation Syndrome), describes three basic stages of response to stress: (a) the Alarm stage, involving the initial shock of the stimulus on the system, (b) the Resistance stage, involving the adaptation to the stimulus by the system, and (c) the Exhaustion stage, in that repairs are inadequate, and a decrease in system function results. The foundation of periodic training is keeping ones body in the resistance stage without ever going into the exhaustion stage. By adhering to cyclic training the body is given adequate time to recover from significant stress before additional training is undertaken. Selye (1957) labeled beneficial stresses as "eustress" and detrimental stresses as "distress". In athletics, when physical stress is at a healthy level (eustress), an athlete experiences muscular strength and growth, while excessive physical stress (distress) can lead to tissue damage, disease, and death. Periodization is most widely used in resistance program design to avoid over-training and to systematically alternate high loads of training with decreased loading phases to improve components of muscular fitness (e.g. strength, strength-speed, and strength-endurance). Source Wikipedia Full Cycles No Gray Zone. We dont fully exert or relax 1. Water wait 30-60 min; eat food; wait couple of hours; drink water; then food 2. Sleep and Wake fully asleep; fully awake 3. Flex and Relax your muscles consciously. 4. Exertion and Renewal Our body is 60% water. Water is the delivery service and the garbage collector for our cells. Drink pure water. Drink liter of water first thing in the morning. Eat every 2 hours. Food Most food is crap. Why do we eat? 1. Entertainment 2. Comfort 3. Health 3 Time Frames of Food 1. Now How enjoyable is the food? 2. The next few hours Energy period; energy derived from the food. 3. 3-4 hours to the rest of your life Long-term health and wellness Most people make eating decisions based on #1 (above). This is backwards. #2 & #3 should be the priority.

White flour, sugar and rice will give you an insulin spike. Avoid processed food. Low glycemic index is natures time release. Balance fat, carbs and proteins. As much as possible, stick with raw, whole and organic. Take a digestive enzyme with your food. Chew your food. Exercise The body is made to move. The body balances itself when its moving. Exercise = body use; using something consciously Key Systems 1. Digestive Chew 20-30 times before swallowing. Take a digestive enzyme. Dont drink anything for a couple of hours. There is a unique chemical bath for each food. Drinking liquids or eating different kinds of food alters this chemical bath so you dont digest/absorb the nutrients as well. 2. Immune The lymphatic system runs the same paths as your blood vessels and nervous system. The heart doesnt move lymph; you have to move to move lymph. If you experience negative emotions for 20 minutes, you knock out your immune system for 24 hours. 3. Cardiovascular Exercise 4. Respiratory Breathe deeply. Practice breathing exercises. David emphasized the importance of deep breathing all week. 5. Musculoskeletal Good positive; vitamins and minerals Writing for 15-20 minutes per day is very good for your nervous system. I dont think he means on a keyboard but rather with pen and paper. Conscious Relaxation David practices yoga. Maximum Leverage - First 90-120 minutes of the day; drink liter of water - The next 20-30 minutes; stretch and exercise - Spend a few minutes on meditation - Spend a few minutes reading Do these things every morning. This is Davids Personal Success Ritual. It sets the context for the whole day.

Action Steps 1. Remove the sources of negative stress; the 2 bad types 2. Have a Perfect sleeping environment. You need High Quality sleep. 3. Plan your meals. You need balanced, tuned energy and think of the long-term effects of what youre eating. 4. Create a Personal Success Ritual. Avoid trans fat and diet soda (artificial sweetener?)

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Day 1 Your mind has you by the balls. And your balls have you by the mind. Our drive to be unique individuals cultural conditioning or in the genes? Triune Brain 1) Reptile brain, 2) Mammalian brain, 3) Thinking brain. Reptilian brain when seeking pussy, you are out of control Mammalian seeks acceptance Thinking the logical part In general, are we in control or out of control? Whats one thing you should do everyday but dont? Lets say something requiring 30 min or less? What if you did that thing everyday for one year? Where would you be? Most of the time, we are NOT in control. Our Power comes from our penis. Your balls have you by the mind. Rein it back. Take back the power. Stop giving it away. - Women will test you less. - Better women will come along - She didnt want that power in the first place. If you give it to her, she will resent you.

Mind myself in the program. Engage yourself. Suspend beliefs while here. If you dont, you will be further from your goal then when you started. Learning = Behavior Change Stop intellectualizing and ACT! Belief is a trap. Dont believe anything too much. Key Points of the Program 1. We are asleep and we dont know it. We are in a shared dream. 2. We live in a simulation of reality. Weve lost touch with our experience. 3. We have a myth or story which shapes our perspectives. 4. Waking up; awareness; consciousness is the key. 5. In order to change, get outside of your comfort zone. 6. We need a home base of safety and security to get outside of your comfort zone. 7. We must face that which makes us uncomfortable directly. 8. Understand that keeping a total 10, requires honesty and authenticity that we do not yet have. 9. Things that attract a 10 are not what you think. It is outside of your awareness. 10. In order to attract a 10, we must go through a transformation Tips: - Men who want to just get laid are empty people. They attract energy vampires. - Men who enjoy women, attract higher quality women. - If you increase the level of the challenge daily, you will increase your skill. - Getting laid is a phase some of us go through. Those who accomplish this realize that it doesnt solve our problems. We are just masking our insecurities. What are my biggest frustrations? Notice that they are all external. Take responsibility. Where are you so comfortable, you cant change it? Where would you like to be but you cant motivate yourself to get there? Where are you blocked; avoiding; or cant get passed? Why do you want to transform? What do you want to change? Im going to do this no matter what it takes, regardless of how much time it takes. This is the why. We must reach this point. Being Lived Our lungs, heart, etc work on their own. Close your eyes. Imagine the universe pushing air in and out of your lungs. Einstein: Imagine walking but instead of you moving, the earth is moving beneath you like a treadmill.

Breath in for 4 count, exhale for 8 count. What are three areas where you are being lived? Where you lack control? Whats required for change? Change or Die by Alan Deutschman. Most of us cant change even when we want to. Making Success Inevitable 1. Goal Setting: Visualize the outcome. Burn it into your mind. 2. Problem Solving: 80% of people would rather problem solve than goal set. 3. Inevitability Thinking: Setting up conditions so it happens automatically. Milton Erickson eg Walking 5 miles to get a drink. Then walking 5 miles back. You will probably quit drinking if you create an obstacle to it. Getting leverage by doing something more painful Reward and Punishment I could if I wanted thinking prevents leverage. Get a mentor for inevitability thinking. Get a mastermind External Accountability have someone else hold you accountable

What do you want to make inevitable? The Power of Full Engagement The power of focus. Tony Schwartz Higher priority do it earlier in the day. Throw your hat over the fence. To make you do something. The 2 Laws if you want to change a habit: 1. Start now 2. Dont deviate The Paradox of personal evolution Doing things that arent you to evolve and letting go of who you think you are means that parts of you must DIE. Clinging on to your self image; being not able to let it go: be okay letting go of the old you. Self image is self created. - Others dont like it when Im out of my comfort zone. It puts them out of their comfort zone. - When I change, the things they do to manipulate me stop working. They dont like that.

Continually get outside of your comfort zone in all three realms: 1. Physically 2. Emotionally 3. Logically New behaviors are important - Neurogenesis: New neurons and connections are formed. Your mind will autopilot down that path. - Keeps you feeling young. You can do this for the rest of your life. When you do things that are out of your comfort zone on a regular basis, people will begin to think that you are crazy. This is good. Then you are freer to keep doing new things. Behavior Change Harnessing Will Power The most precious and rarest form of energy we get is Will Power. We get very little Will Power and burn it on things that dont help. Suppressing emotions burns Will Power. You cant focus on important things. Negative energy burns WAY more energy than positive energy. Will Power should be used to create routines, habits. Do it first when the day hasnt sucked up your energy. Awareness is the most valuable state. Avareness is very rare. It is seeing yourself. We tend to deflect awareness. We dont tell others and they dont tell us. Stop avoiding awareness. Be grateful of it. Need to know the outcome of behavior change. Must be very specific and measurable. We need a why or a reason for a change. The mind is the Google for goals. Reticular Activation System - When you buy a car; you suddenly see every car thats the same. Future pacing and anchoring - Prepares you to take action in the future. Ex: put water in your morning path to insure that you drink water in the morning. Winners manufacture optimism Dennis Waitley

Find what triggers Optimism for you. It could be a song. Every recall is a reframe. You change memories evertime you recall them depending on your state (positive or negative). Come up with one behavior change. What is the outcome of that change? Why do you want that change?

What will be my future pacing trigger? Two pictures the cure that triggers the new behavior. This can be an object you see regularly; that object can be a reminder to trigger the new behavior. Plan your routine specifically. Take time to create safety and security. You cant fake it. That 10 knows if you feel safe and secure. Triune Brain - Physically create a bed that feels safe and secure. The reptile brain needs a nest. No phone, no TV. Unplug from everything. - Emotionally I want to take my life to the next level. Need a friend to trust you. I will make mistakes. I need emotional safety. - Logical make ethical decisions. Im not going to sneak around. Dont be an Ass Bandit (stealing other guys women). Make myself strong first. To be able to help others. I forgive myself for __________. Lying We delete, distort, generalize reality to survive. Conscious distortion of actual perspective = lying. Intensionally misleading someone else through omission or commission. Omission ex: I didnt actually lie. This may be the worst sort of lie. Pretending to know anything for sure = lying. Staying attached to one perspective one judgement = lying All perspectives are partial perspectives. No perspective is complete. Being attached to a perspective is like lying. Facing things staring them in the eye. Some avoidance tactics:

Emotional people can be addressed directly: Ex: Hey, youre acting weird. Talk to the elephant in the room. Whats something Im not facing? Deep approval seeking can be an issue. Understanding different perspective exercise. When you listen, does the other person FEEL understood? The issue doesnt matter. Its important to feel understood. Time Freezing nominalization; making things static Time Binding take a complex relationship and freeze it into one image. These past images define us. Relationships are always changing, moment to moment. TRUTH - Reporting ongoing experience as its happening without expectation that its going to stay that way. - Truth changes over time Where have I nominalized something? (Reduced it)? Where did I make it a truth; a theory; a belief? Experience vs Judgement Feel tension. Identify it as fear. This stops the process. Try riding it out like a wave. Dont give the sensation a word. Come out the other side. Let the energy flow and transform. Give the energy colors, temperature, shape, movement. That experience, tension, pressure is ok. Dont use judgemental words. Judgments = Freezing. They prevent me from feeling the experience. Emergence Run a system and properties will emerge. Women let this process run its course. They dont try to stop it. Women like to experience the full range of emotions. Men tend to shut down or act out when they feel something they feel is undesirable. Stop it. Ride the emotion like a wave. Don't give it a positive or negative association. Seek first to understand, then be understood.

Day 2 US is the richest country in the world. But #29 in lifespan. We are becoming lazy, obese, etc. We are staying free and single longer. Men are staying immature their whole life. How do I get past immaturity? Leave your comfort zone! What is maturity and immaturity? Dependence = Immaturity Dependence on our story, rationalizing, group, comfort zone, beliefs, emotions, etc. Identify our blocks or obstacles in our path. Remove them. We are programmed for instant results. 90% of teenage girls like shopping the most. Instant Gratification is a problem. How do I remove my blocks? Frustration is the answer. We remove them ourselves. A therapist may provoke and frustrate someone to overcome their own block. On our own, we may go into avoidance. Finding Blocks: Where and when do I feel my buttons are being pushed? What do I feel when my buttons are pushed? What is the earliest memory of this emotion? This is the roadmap to remove blocks. Need to understand Emotions. The Triune brain. Some act out. Some freeze when buttons are pushed. There arent enough words to describe emotions. Connecting words to emotions is difficult. Emotional people (women especially), get frustrated with men who are all logic. Being in your head shows inability to empathize. Intellectual men try to control emotions. Its obvious that hes stuck in his head. Its not about empathy or understanding or whos right or wrong.

1. Think about relationships with evolved women; the 9s and 10s. 2. What challenges came up? What blocks? 3. Identify the emotions you felt. 4. What memory? When was the first incident when you felt that emotion? 5. Can you describe the emotion? Eg: frustration, helplessness, anger etc. What did that little boy feel? 6. How did he develop strategies to deal with that emotion? How did he protect himself? Imprinting Animals imprint. Babies imprint objects to be their mothers. Ex: the baby giraffe and the jeep. The baby goose and the ping pong ball. Both tried to mate with the objects when they matured. Our early experiences imprint us. Imago (book) Imprints of good spouse we got from our mother. Intimacy = Deep Connection Whats blocking me from having intimacy? *Women see my blocks as another opportunity to grow the relationship. She wants me to acknowledge the block and work through it, not ignore it. What are the most intense emotional experiences with your mother? Father?

Our earliest imprint of a female is our mother. Can you see a connection? Timeline Exercise Imagine floating back on your timeline and replace negative memories with positive images. Think of 3 characteristics of a perfect 10; make a 3D image. You can place this image anywhere you want. Can you see these characteristics in future women you see? Change your timeline. Breath has a profound effect on your Mind, Body and Emotions. Breath may be more important than diet and exercise for good health. Breathing Exercise: Take 10 Full, deep breaths; using your stomach. On the 10th exhale, stop halfway. Wait 30 seconds to feel the wave of relaxation. Then take 3 relaxing breaths.

You will experience something profound. This is a great tool for negative emotions. Seek to understand. Find agreement. Seeking commonality; being understood and understanding. My Game Ive got this game that I play. Examples: I dont want to need anything from anyone. Im afraid of what others think of me. I want people to like me. I want people to think Im competent or high status. Heres what I do. Heres how it manifests itself. Imagine the emotion; close your eyes; imagine the color, the size, the shape. Let it run its course. Let it fizzle out. What is My Game to avoid some emotion? What is My Game to avoid something else? Examples: I try not to show interest because Im afraid of rejection. I freeze if I dont have a context for a conversation. Embarrassment doesnt kill. Its often a very positive emotion. Try to get an emotional reaction. You can play off of embarrassment. When something you dont like comes up: a) You try to change, then accept why most people fail b) You can accept, then try to change. This is the key. In order to change something, you must first Accept it. Think about rapport: If you accept someone first; their beliefs etc., with no prejudices and no agenda. I want to invite and accept you the way you are; then find a common path. You must accept yourself first if you want to change. The Johari Window 1. unconscious and incompetent 2. conscious and incompetent 3. conscious and competent 4. unconscious and competent

Imagine a TREASURE CHEST: My Treasure Chest When the chest is closed: unconscious and incompetent When the chest is opened: Conscious and incompetent Now reach in, take your treasure: conscious and competent Now close the chest: unconscious and competent Mastery or Flow is being all levels at once; being able to switch between levels; being able to teach it. The LOCK on my treasure chest: The things we think we know. This level is before unconscious and incompetent. The lock prevents us from learning. Yeah I know that. Or I know something about that. When you think you know something, that is your own lock to your treasure. It prevents you from learning. Personal Myth What is a Myth? 1. False story general definition. Not a good definition 2. Collective Human Story Joseph Campbell

This is our story we overlay onto everything else. Theres the facts then theres the story I tell myself. Sometimes, I cant even see the facts. Then we believe; thats just the way it is. What is my disadvantage? How am I compensating for my disadvantage? These are my MYTHS. Humans evolved over 50K years. Maturity Independence from these games I play. Relationship Relate = feeling of us. A shared perspective. The us versus them mechanism is not logical or rational. Davids Paradigm: You and I are alike. Relating is the portal through which we can connect. I get it. Or I get you. = the LOCK on my treasure chest.

If you continue relating, it will trigger relation. Continue relation and you get relationship. Evolution We can relate to anything if we try. Animals have a language. We can relate to animals. In order to have good relations with others and that 10, we must first relate to ourself. Theres at least two Is in ourself; one wants to stay the same; one wants to change. Example: our ego that protects us from embarrassment, rejection, fear etc. is one "I." Another "I" is the part of us that wants to improve. There are more parts to our personalities and this is just a simplified model. Lining up the conscious and unconscious. The different parts of self must be in rapport. Some parts may create friction. Different parts have different agendas. Look for where they already relate. They both (or more parts), want whats in your best long-term interest. The different parts dont meet; when one comes out, the other(s) leave. Merge them. How can they help as a team? I can follow my path while taking some precautions. One makes sure that Im safe, one makes sure that I approach my potential. 1. Do more parts integration exercises. Do this forever. 2. Use these tools to relate to others as quickly as possible Women are other beings. We are all related. We are all made up of different parts. Day 3 Dream Analysis Pretend you had to explain the objects in your dream to an alien. Each object has a specific meaning to each individual. Attraction and Gravity Attraction = Energy Wave. You can turn it up, turn it down. Over time, this will not burn her out. It is sustainable. But attraction alone is not enough to keep that 10 around.

Gravity Long-term process. Keeps the woman around. This works from any distance. You can be apart and not have to worry about her.

What force has influenced us and our evolution the most? Gravity. Yet we dont even think about it. Notice Gravity. Ex: David drops a pen. Actually, David let go of the pen; he didnt drop it. Thoughts of Mating also affect us but we dont think about it. Ex: Look down. Rotate your face to the side. Feel the pull on your face, your cheek. Hold your arm out to the side. Have your palm face down. Now rotate your palm up. Feel the pull on your palm and on the back of your hand. Feel Gravity. It is our anchor. The 5 Ps of Gravity: 1. Poise Physical poise. Never lose your composure. Maintain your poise at all times. She can read in your body language and voice tone that you lost your poise. Poise = Demonstrating through your body that you have natural physical health + self-esteem + status + an element of awareness If you dont maintain poise, it switches off your gravity. Take control of your body. This is body language. If you are out of rapport with yourself, she can see it. 2. Passion Emotional Passion for life, interests, relationship. Passion is not as relevant in the US as it is in other countries. That 10 wants a passionate guy. Master your craft. Bill Gates was the best for decades. Now he runs a foundation to give back. Emotion + Mastery of a Craft; Forever - Individual: list examples - Work: list examples - Socially: list examples What will it take to master the above? Action Step The first thing I need to do. How do I keep reminding myself along the way? Live with Passion. Tony Robbins 3. Presence Logical with some emotional and physical components You cant communicate on this channel if she turns it off. She turns it off if you dont have presence. Wake up. Get out of your mind. Be in the present. Look people in the eye when speaking.

Proactively clean the bullshit out of your head. Must be in rapport with yourself Must relate to her and vice-versa Presence + Relating = Intimacy Honesty is part of Presence Ride the emotional wave with her and let the wave wash over you. Once a month, a woman may have wide emotional swings. Ride that wave too. Most men freeze; escape into their head. How do you think that 10 reacts? She may get upset at something little. When you listen, you dont analyze, project, etc. Practice direct eye contact and follow them. Be Present. She will notice instantly. 4. Purpose Spiritual level. Woman is like an ocean; man is like a ship. Men must stay the course. Cant control the ocean. What must I do before dying? Where does my talent cross contributing to the world? Find something bigger than yourself and contribute to the world 5. Persistence Combine everything. Be persistant. Keep self-motivated. You cannot get a successful relationship using techniques. You must have the fundamentals; then the techniques will help. The fundamentals are the other four Ps of Gravity The game changer Gravity: Poise, Passion, Presence, Purpose and Persistance Action Step: Be Present Will Power Removing obstacles, blocks

NLP Utilization Welcome everything that happens. Use them as the tool box to accomplish your goal. Accept things as they come. Utilize problems in your life for greater growth and success. Day 4 Dr. Gabe guest from audience We cant hear our block. People try to tell us. People care too much about what others think. Whats something you know about me that I dont know?

We learn who another person is by catching them doing something. Our eyes dont see; our ears dont hear. They send signals to our brain which decodes the information. We create what we see and hear. We create our reality. What is it that Im not seeing about myself? Instant Gratification is damaging. We are sadder; disconnected; overweight, etc. Last year, we Americans spent more than we made. Back to Greg and Chris: We get distracted with content. This technique is used in hypnosis. Talk to the unconscious while the conscious is distracted. Dont get distracted by content! The content doesnt matter. Thats why women get upset when you try to fix their problem. Us vs them is a difficult mechanism to deal with. Its at the core of much of the worlds conflicts. Every belief requires some level of faith. - Chris Wisdom comes from multiple perspectives and a lot of experience. Dont be too attached to an idea. The Purpose of the Seminar Integration of conscious and unconscious mind Get to know and love yourself All we have is the now; be present Drop the Bullshit Everything is already in us; we have to strip away the blocks *We are all asleep and we need to wake up Most are asleep all the time. I am asleep most of the time. A 10 will not fix my problems. Only waking up will. Imagine you worked hard for a month. At the end you slept and woke up naturally. Dream state to waking state takes approximately 20 minutes. This version takes 20 years. You have had moments of awakening from the dream this week. You had moments of clarity. Make sure to cultivate this ability. Be sure to help others see clearly too. Rejection from another human pokes the same part of the brain as physical pain.

Fear of public speaking amplifies it. People want attention. Day 5 On ramps/Off ramps - Take a moment to check back in before switching from one thing to another. - Notice your body I thought I came to learn how to be a man. I had no idea that I would be so enlightened because I thought I was already a man. Status: Social Status All attraction situations men who have at least equal or higher social status. On some level; sometimes not so obvious. Women can sense status before you open your mouth. Prime Directive Never communicate lower status. Equal to all power Rion Williams The more dominant a man is in a relationship, the more sex there is. David Buss Chimps and Bonobos Females want more mating with the alpha male Social Intelligence Daniel Goldman Our brains are wired to synchronize with others. In social settings, some individuals will naturally rise to the top. Grooming determines this higher status in chimps; not fighting. Whats the equivalent of grooming in humans? Monkey Ex: Natural group has 40 members. If bred in captivity to 1000 members, their behavior changes. They are more on edge, anxious. They dont make eye contact. They look at the ground and eat quickly. They only cling to family group. Some gang up and beat up others. Cant develop natural social status. Geoffrey Miller studied humans. In a natural environment, 1/3 of the time is spent socializing in tribe. In modern times, humans suffer from Status Anxiety - We can have high status in one situation and low status in another. - Our minds are used to consistent status. Females may show attraction to younger males with status potential rather than compete for alpha males.

High Status Males: Chimps and Humans 1. Masters of Conflict Business, fighters, relationship men Most men are Wussies; they avoid, deflect and run. What type is first? Whats the most important to develop? Inner Conflict! Ex: Someone whos too macho was probably the opposite at one time.

Great Leaders bring out the best in people. They unify people. Its a game of political relationships. The whole game is fixed in some way. Calmly reduce conflict. Dont get into pissing matches. Getting out of conflict means getting out of your comfort zone. 2. High Status males protect the group Silverback gorillas are willing to die to protect their family. That 10 asks herself, will he kill to protect me? Will he protect our family? This is subconscious of course. Body Language is different between high and low status chimps and humans. When an alpha chimp is defeated; they collapse. They scream and cry then sulk for weeks without eating. The females have to console them. 3. Positive vs Negative Politics Negative: back stabbing; scheming; ganging up, etc. Positive: help; support people; they help you; etc. Know how to build relationships with high status people. What if you speak to the manager of a restaurant? You introduce yourself. You give compliments. In front of a woman?

Insight Be present Remove blocks Know my story, my myth Wake up Enjoy life