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The Nabagereka of Buganda, Lady
14 N o . 9 Septem
Sylvia Nagginda, condemns Vol.
sugar mummies and daddies

Would you have

a sugar partner? What are you talking Oh my God! What did I let myself into! Will
And... I give you whatever
Hi, Martin. I was thinking about! I have to see I manage with this relationship?
you want, so you have to do
we should not see each you whenever I want. whatever I tell you.
other for two weeks. You
know, I am preparing for
my exams.

Winner 1
A s you grow, there are things
that you want. A good marriage
partner will be one of them.
Joseph Musabe, Mpanga SS, Fort Portal
says: I would consider the issue of age seriously. It
and I become a widow. He may also demand a lot of
respect, which I cannot afford to accord him. He may
also undermine me because of my age. He cannot be as
would be unwise to engage in a relationship just romantic and caring for me as one of my age.
because someone is financially heavy. You never
What kind of marriage do you want? What It is normal for a woman to marry a somewhat older
know, such a person may be having HIV and could
kind of partner would you wish to have? Are man. But the question is, “What is the quality of
have other marital vices. Ask yourself what has
you looking for specific qualities? Many girls and that relationship?”
taken him long to marry. I am 20 and would like to
boys are taken advantage of because they do not
marry when I am 32. It means I would be marrying a
stop to think about what they want in life. According Could it be that this person has had other
woman who is 47. I would not be different from
to the Uganda HIV/AIDS Behavioural and Sero- failed relationships? How many
someone who goes for a sugar mummy.
survey, 18 year old girls are 18 times more infected partners has he or she
than 18 year old boys! Where do these girls get HIV had? Remember, the
from? Often, they are having sex with older infected
Winner 2
older the person, the Relation-
men. Many of these men lure the girls with gifts and Nankinga Barbara, 15, S3, Hilton HS, more partners they
money in exchange for sex. These are sugar are likely to have
ships with
Mukono says: A good marriage partner should older partners
daddies. In May we ran a quiz asking: How can you be single. I cannot marry someone who is 15 years had, and the more
find the right partner to marry? How would older than me because he can use every likely they are to be can land you
you know that someone is the right partner opportunity to torture me. He may even die quickly infected with HIV. into very
for life for you? Would you marry someone 15 serious
years older than you? Why or why not? trouble!
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2 Straight Talk, September 2007

Dangers of sugar partners

G irls, your future
secure with much
older man? Do they have
I cannot marry someone 15 years
older than me because he can refuse
me to interact with my agametes like
Why more girls are infected
with HIV than boys
my OBs and OGs, thinking that they
much to lose if they
T
may change my mind against him. he high number expensive things. They are deceived
leave you? They can Adero Jackline Fortunate, 17, of young girls infected with with clothes, money and fancy
easily get someone else. chair, Dokolo Tech School HIV compared to boys could be phones but these material gifts are
What about you, won't because some young girls have never free. These
you get heartbroken? I would not marry someone 15 years sex with men relationships for the
older than me. We may not have much older than most part include
Think about it. anything in common. She may not be them. The Uganda exchange of material
interested in going to interesting places National Survey of possessions or cash for
You cannot trust a man who is 15 like the beach.
years older than you. If anything small Adolescents 2006 sex. This is cross-
Abdul Farag Bin Muhammad, found that 10% of generational sex. Lives
happens, he can leave you. 17, Kawempe Mixed Sch,
Akwamo Nelly Suzan, 16, S3, girls aged 15 – 19 of young girls are
Kampala . years, had sex with ruined. Many are left
Hilton HS, Mukono
men 10 or more pregnant, infected with
years their senior HIV or both. Some boys
in the past 12 also get sugar mummies.
months.
Girls and boys, realize
After interacting with your worth and plan for
many young people, I long-term goals. Cross
have found out that Generational Sex will
physical appearance cost you your futures, you
is their number one quality in a may get unplanned pregnancies, HIV,
partner. Money, nice clothes, good loss of dignity and respect. There are
hair styles and other material things no short cuts in life and when you
do come up. The question is “Does have life, you will achieve your
having money or good-looks mean dreams.
you are the ideal marriage partner?” Cross Generational Sex stops
with you!
Many young people get sugar
daddies or sugar mummies because Asumpta Namusoke,
of poverty, ignorance or peer Communications Coordi-
pressure or because of wanting nator, PSI

It is cool to abstain: Students of Glory HS, Entebbe

Marriages with big age gaps
How you handle adolescence T he bigger the age difference
between you and your partner,
the more difficult it will be for you to
• You may fail to negotiate
condom use.
• You may not have a say over the
determines your future influence decisions. number of children to have and
whether and when you need

A dolescence is one
of the most
interesting but
or even the bigger
one, HIV. Therefore it
is good idea for us to
• You may be do all the domestic
work and child care because you
are scared of asking the much
medical help.

Big age and education gaps

challenging times in always find better ways older partner to give a hand. between partners increases the
our lives. It is full of fun of handling our • You may not have a say over chances of a man being violent
and excitement, but problems. your body, whether or not to and abusive to his wife.
can also be confusing. • Talk to your parents have sex.
Many of you may not about providing the
know how to go about things you need. If

Know your body

the daily challenges. they cannot afford to
do this, try to accept
Friends do not make it
any easier, as they may
the situation.
partner and
If you have sex with your
keep telling us to do
this and that whether it
• Find alternative
ways of getting money immediately urinate, can you get pregnant?
is right or wrong. Many that will not expose Nekesa L, Tiira SS, Busia
young people, especially girls, try you to infection or pregnancy.
You could do some work and Yes, you can get
to find alternative ways of solving
get paid for it. You can use your pregnant, my dear. You
problems. We think that once we
talent like art to make something are also at risk of getting
have money, everything is ok.
you can sell. STDs including HIV.
However, this money instead
Remember the birth and
brings more issues. • Headteachers, it is important the urinary canals are
that we talk to girls and together totally separate areas.
You look for men old enough to be find a way of solving their When you have sex, the
your fathers, to give you some financial problems. sperms move from the
money to buy nice clothes, eat
vagina to the uterus, to
some chips and buy perfumes. But Remember, girls, having a the fallopian tube where
how do you pay these men back? relationship with a sugar daddy is fertilisation takes place.
Very few people will give you not cool. Your life is worth more This is a different path
money without anything in return, than a little money for chips, from where urine comes
so what many young girls are clothes, shoes and all those things from. Urine comes from
doing is having sex with these that have no value in your life. the bladder through the
men, so they can continue
urinary opening. Study
providing for them. This exposes Straight Talk counselor, the illustration!
you to early pregnancy and STIs Patricia Wamala
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