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Inspiration Who is your role model?
A role model is someone you admire and
wish to be like. So, who is your role
corner
Hon. Denis Obua is the Youth MP for
model? What do you like or admire
about him or her? How do you think
Northern Uganda. He is married with one your role model's character can help
child. "To avoid violence in my marriage, I you? • Send us your honest stories.
listen to my wife, discuss openly and give
each other constructive criticism". If you are
in a relationship try to understand your
partner well. Avoid excessive
WINA
alcohol because it gives false TERM'S FEES.
courage. Also, change your WRITE TO THE
attitude. You do not need to
hurt your partner to prove that
BIG QUESTION,
you are man or woman STRAIGHT TALK,
07
enough! Stay safe. No. 8 August 20 PO BOX 22366,
Vol. 14 KAMPALA
Violence in
relationships
Violence fuels the HIV epidemic
"I had a friend who was beaten by her boyfriend because he went to the hospital and
found out he had syphilis. So he concluded that it was the girlfriend who brought the
disease. The boy hit the girl and they started a fight. The matter was reported to the
elders. They were advised to respect eachother and to avoid cheating on each other.
But this did not help. Hatred brewed between them. My friend decided to leave the boy
and now she is concentrating on her books. If she had continued with the relationship, I
think the boy would have killed her. Nazziwa A, 15, Kagongo Parent’s SS, Ibanda
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Warning signs
You can choose better relationships, if you learn to identify Why stick in a violent
early warning signs of a violent relationship.
relationship?
I can know if my partner is violent if he takes a lot of alcohol, never respects himself concerned about losing social
or others. Tumusiime P R, S2 B, Comprehensive College, Kitetikka, Having a relationship with status with your peers.
Kampala someone is never worth
being hurt or feeling afraid. EMBARRASSMENT - Young
I would look at how he follows my decisions. If my partner tends to ignore my ideas But some people stay in people who ask for help (especially
then I would know he has violent tendencies. Also, if he does more talking than
listening it means he has dominating character and cannot listen to my opinions.
relationships even if they from parents) may perceive
are unhealthy. Why do themselves to be failures. Some
Ahimbisibwe A, S2, Katikamu SDA, Wobulenzi Luwero
they do that? believe that their parents will react
violently if they inform them of the
Most readers mentioned that early warning signs that abuse.
show your boy/girlfriend may eventually become violent LOVE - Abusers are not always
include: hurtful. Many abusers have a
likable and loving side that makes I would not stay in a relationship that
• Extreme jealousy is violent. It leads to long term
• Controlling behaviour their victims think that the abuse
would stop. Many victims think unhappiness and lack of peace of
• Mood swings mind. A relationship that is violent
• Alcohol and drug abuse they can change the abuser’s
behaviour. may lead to injur y or death due to
• Explosive anger fights. Arinaitwe K, Kyamakanda
• Isolating partner from friends and family SS, Rukungiri
• Using force during an argument FEAR - A partner may threaten to
• Being too sensitive on issues hurt him or herself if they decide to
leave. Do you know anybody who is
• Blaming others for his/her problems or a victim of such violence?
feelings • Listen and believe them
• Verbally abusive DOUBT - It is not always easy to
admit that the relationship you are • Support them and
• Has abused former partner • Encourage them to talk to
•Threatening you with violence in is abusive. If your partner is
popular at school (athletics, someone
You are a valuable person. You have choices and
you deserve to be treated with respect. academics, etc.) you may be
3 Straight Talk, August 2007
Effects of violence in relationships
Violence can range from broken bones and bruised self-esteem to
permanent injury and even death. Victims may also come to view abuse
as a normal part of their relationships. Violence can prevent a young
person from growing and learning from healthy relationships.
to change the school. I settled down
Dear
after periods? Nannengo J, 16,
S2, St Lawrence SS, Mityana
Yes, you can still get pregnant.
There are no safe days from
SYFA
pregnancy for young girls. You can
still get pregnant before, during
and after menstruation as long as
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O. Bo you have unprotected sex. Delay
P.P. O. sex or use condoms to avoid
M P A A L
KK AA M P A L A pregnancy and STDs.
Pregnancy signs
Incest When a girl gets pregnant, how
I am in S1 I had sex with my long does it take to be noticed
cousin and got pregnant. I do by other people? And what are
not want to abort and leave the signs of pregnancy?
school. What can I do? FJ, Mukombozi I, S4, Nyakyera SS
Busoga HS, Jinja Ntungamo
Thank you for saying no to The best way to find out if one is
abortion. It is very risky to your life. pregnant is by having a medical
Continue saying no to whoever checkup. However, there are some
may encourage you to abort. We obvious signs like if a girl misses her
all make mistakes in life and it does periods after having unprotected
not bring life to an end. Talk to your sex.
parents or a relative you trust
about the pregnancy. You also Infertility STF Volunteer from Birmingham University UK (inset) talk
need to visit a health facility for How does infertility occur in with students of Kaduggala SS, Masaka
antenatal care. After delivery, talk people who have already
to your parents/guardian about started producing sperm?
going back to school. Do not lose Kisakye B, S3, 16, No. That is not true, the main way for it. We are afraid of having
hope. Give yourself another Wairaka Modern SS, in which HIV is trainsmitted is sex. But we are also worried that
chance. You can still make it in life. Jinja through unprotected sexual they can leave us if we continue
There are many causes intercourse with an infected refusing. Annet N, Namungona
My boyfriend and I trust each of infertility. One major person. Do not fear to share HS, Kampala
other. He promised to marry me cause is sexually cups, plates with an HIV positive Your boyfriends should not pressure
after studies. But when we are transmitted person. People living with HIV you to have sex. The fact that you
together he touches me and this infections. These do need our love and care. are worried shows that you are not
arouses my sexual feelings. How are spread ready for sex. Before you have sex
can I avoid this but maintain Virginity with anyone you need to think of
our relationship? N B, S3, 17, My friend told me that if the consequences that comes with
KP SS, Kibale you have sex with a it. You could get pregnant and drop
Talk to your boyfriend about what young boy you will not out of school. You could also get an
may result from touches. Arousing lose virginity. Is it true? STD. Talk to your boyfriends and let
your sexual feelings may lead to NK, Garama SS, Kasese them know how you feel about their
having sexual intercourse. Avoid A virgin is any person demands. If your boyfriends really
being in isolated places for long who has not had sex with love you, they will respect your
hours with your boyfriend. Never another person. If you concerns and keep the relationship.
fear to tell your boyfriend anything have sex with any person But even if they leave you, you still
that does not make you happy. I appreciate your whether young or old have a life ahead of you. You will get
advice. You have made you will lose your other boyfriends. Counsellor:
Problem solving many youth remain safe, virginity. Delay sex and Godfrey Walakira
I’m ever sad and upset when I which is pleasing our old keep your virginity. It
have problems. How can I deal people. Obaet Calvin, is valuable and no
with this? G Jawotho, 18, S3, 17, Ongino SS, Kumi one should
Kugumba SS, Masindi pressure you into
Sorry about that. Everyone sex if you are not
in life experiences such ready. Just say no to
feelings. Problems, your friend.
disappointments,
failure to achieve set Pressure to have sex
goals cause sad My friend and I have
feelings. What is most boy friends. We have
important is never to never had sex but our
give up in life. Talk to a friend, boyfriends are asking
teacher or a counselor whenever
you have problems. They can through having unprotected sex
with an infected person. To prevent