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self-disclosure meanssharing personalinformation about yourself,your experrences,your attitudes, and your feelings A good interviewer drscloses such information when it appearsthat it will help the client Curnr. l'm really u p s e t .l l u s t f o u n d o u t t h a t m y b r o t h e ra n d s i s t e r a r e u s i n gd r u g s . Choosethe most appropilate response. H o w c a n y o u b e s u r et h e y ' r eo n d r u g s ? ( G ot o 9 . 2 ) l n r r R v r r w r nl:' m g l a dy o u f o u n do u t a b o u ti t . I c a n u n d e r s t a ny do u rc o n c e r n( G ot o 9 3 ) lrure RvtewrR: Y o u m u s tb e w o r r i e d . W h e nm y b r o t h e r w a s o n d r u g s ,I w a s r e a l l y w o r r i e da b o u t h i m I c a n u n d e r s t a ny do u r c o n c e r n ( .G ot o 9 . 4 )
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self-disclosure involves(1) using such pronouns as I or me and (2) reference to some personal feeling or event that is relevantto the client'sdiscussion. Y e s ,l ' m w o r r i e da b o u tt h e m . A n d l d o n ' t k n o w w h a t t o d o a b o u t i t . A s y o u k n o w ,m y f a t h e rd i e d2 y e a r s a g o .M y m o t h e rw o u l d g e t u p s e ti f I t o l d h e ra b o u t m y b r o t h e ra n d s s t e r .I h a v et o d o s o m e t h i n g Choosethe most appropriateresponse Itrtt tRvrtwrR I t m u s t b e d i f f i c u l t for you Why don't you talk to a relative aboutit? l would ( G ot o 9 6 ) lnrrRvrwrR lNrtavtrwrn I t m u s tb e d i f fr c u l t for youwhenproblems a r i s e l t s i m p o r t a nf to r m e t o t a l k o v e r problems w i t h t h o s ec l o s e stto m e . I f e e l a l o n eu n t i l I d o . ( G o t o 9 . 7 ) I t m u s t b e d r f f r c u lfto r y o u l r e a l l y t h i n k t h a t y o u s h o u l dt e l l y o u r m o t h e r . She'll (Goto 9 B) h a v et o k n o w e v e n t u a l l y 1 lr n L r s l dilltult/rl 1,,11 fu \ \./ h r , , r / r r r r ' l . r ,, r lL lr rr lh r irr r r r ' l r r l i yc cr b r r u i lll / r y r r r r l r / . T h i s r c l l c t : t i t ro nl f c c l i n g r . t n cl h c l c a c l i n g clucstiot nl ' r r r{to l l o u si t . w r l l b c o l l i t t l cL r s c t o t h c c l l c l r t Y o t rc o u l c lr - r sa c p p r o p r r a ts cc l l ' c l i s c l o s utro t :h c l p t h c cliunlu,ith hrsproltle r n . R c t u r n1 o c ) . 5a r - r c l)' ilg.tilt tr 1 l t r t L i sl lt c d i l l r c u l/L rr ri r h i t ' n rr r r t t ' o Lr r ' h r ' I sr r . i s rI'l.' si m p o r t ( u illo r n t t l r r l r r l hr r r , ' t ' r p r o l r ln er sn , i h f llrrsir/osc.s lo l n r t ' ./ / r ' t ' r r'n r l i /1 i 1 r r . 1r / o n r ( - o r t - c c tT . h i s i s a r r a p p r o p r i a t rs c l l c l i s c l o s L rL rc h a ts h o u s L i . r c t l i c n t t l . i r rv t orr luncLcrstan t lc ' rlcs i t u a t i o n ( l o t o c )c ) 1 l n r u s tb c c l i l l i c u l/tr r r. 1 , r r u i r o t h r ,1.r t ' a 1 l tt'h i n | tt h t t t . v o u . s h o L rlL r 'l/ i y r r L in r5 . fic'i1
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An interviewermust be able to rationalizethat using self-disclosure at that time will benefit the client. An interviewer's self-disclosures should be conciseand should not overshadow, deny, or put down what the client hassaid C r r x r : l r e a l l y a m a f r a i dt o l e a v eh o m e a n d g o t o c o l l e g el h a v e a l o t o f d i f f i c u l t y m a k i n gn e w f r i e n d sl ' l l b e s o l o n e l y t h e r e .I s u p p o s e it really w o u l d h e l pi f I k n e w h o w t o g o a b o u t m a k i n gn e w f r i e n d s . Choosethe most appropriate response lrurrRvtrwrR l f i n d t h a t l ' m b e t t e ro f f a t h o m e r a t h e r t h a n o u t t r y i n gt o f i n d n e w f r i e n d s ( .Go to 9 30)
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Perils of Self-Disclosure The skillof self-disclosure is one that can be particularly problematic to beginning interviewerswho frequently believethey are assisting the client with statementssuch as "l know exactly how you feel. My . "-on| to end up talking about themselves and overwhelming the client with their concerns, self-dtsclosing has been shown to be an effective interviewing technique when used appropriately.However, extensive use of interviewer self-disclosure can be problematic. lnterviewers who self-disclose foo frequently risk being viewed by clients as rn need of assrstance themselves, with a consequent negatrveeffect on the client'sconfidencein the interviewer.when using this skill, the interviewer must keepthe focus on the clientand the client'sneeds Advantagesof rnterviewerself-disclosure . . . . . Models the skrllfor the client Helps normalize client feelings and difficulties Encourages fhe drscussion of sensitive material Provides new insightsand perspectives Givesencouragementand reassurance Disadvantagesof interviewer self-disclosu re . . . . . May overwhelm clients May distract chentsand change the drrectionof the interview May be seen by clientsas irrelevantand unconnectedto their concerns May set up competitron with chents May lead to a role reversalrn which the client becomesprotectiveof the interviewer
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