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As a Type 4, The Expressive, you're the kind of individual who strives to be different and see life from new, expressive angles. More than simply innovative, you're also emotional. Indeed, delving into the world of emotions can be truly energizing for you. You typically enjoy understanding how feelings and the experiences that create them fit into life's big picture. When your creative reactions to these things are channeled in a positive direction, your life can feel balanced and right. However at other times, you may find yourself dwelling on emotions without a creative outlet. During these periods, you can begin to feel misunderstood or that there is something lacking in your life. Due to your unique level of sensitivity, you probably experience a broad range of emotions in your daily living. You may also possess an uncanny ability to read others' moods. On the up side, your perceptiveness and deep examination of the world contributes greatly to your talent for self-expression. On the down side, these things can draw you into cycles of self-pity or self-doubt if you're not careful. You're the kind of person who can often benefit from staying on the sunny side of life, rather than lamenting what might be missing. When you harness your positivity and use your sensitivity as a tool, your ability to think outside of the box can produce spectacular results. Like everyone, to some extent your personality has been shaped by past experiences. One reason you may identify with Expressives,

Enneagram Type 4, is if you spent a lot of time alone as a child, perhaps feeling abandoned by one or both parents. By having a few formative experiences in which you learned to provide your own entertainment, you may have developed an advanced sense of creativity and self-reflection in your adult life.

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When you're feeling your best, you probably have a sense of your deep connection with the world. You may also come to an awareness that ultimate satisfaction depends on your ability to appreciate what you have in the moment. At these times, the nagging feeling that something is missing in your life can melt away. In this state of gratitude and wonder, you can truly realize your full potential as a creative, passionate person with great emotional depth and empathy. However, you aren't likely to be at your best every day. During the times when you're feeling your worst, you may find yourself harboring an intense longing for something you don't have. This can lead to bitter envy of others' accomplishments, experiences, and possessions. By focusing on what you're not, you likely come to see yourself as being very ordinary the kind of person who lacks any special spark. This deep criticism of your own gifts can result in an even lower opinion of yourself. Know that this downward spiral is caused by a belief that you're missing something essential that others seem to have. By possessing such a worldview, you can find yourself searching for an unrealistically perfect life or idealized love to make yourself feel whole and complete. How can you avoid feeling your worst and start feeling your best? Above all, try to appreciate what you have now and live in the present moment. Recognize that your fluctuating emotions are not necessarily reflective of reality. By being consistent and moderate in your actions, you can keep a sense of balance in your life even when you're feeling low, knowing that the time will pass. Also, look for the beauty in the ordinary and give yourself permission to be "normal" without needing to be special or unique. Know that your value is inherent.

As a Type 4, The Expressive, your typical strategy when looking for love likely involves searching for someone who can be your other half. To do this, you can call on your idealized vision of love, looking for a person to fill in whatever blanks you believe exist in your normal life. In essence, you're apt to seek out someone who can complete you. However, in looking for your ideal, you may sometimes miss out on great, real candidates who are too quickly crossed off your list. At times when you feel unloved, you probably blame your own attributes as the reason that you're alone rather than your selection criteria. You may simply feel deficient in some way. To improve your odds of finding that special someone, make a move toward greater self-acceptance. Understand that disappointment, lack, and longing are a normal part of everyone's life; you are not uniquely afflicted. Also try to realize that love comes from the inside out. By accepting who and what you are in the present moment, you have the best chance of attracting romance. Know that you are worthy of love, no matter how complete or whole you feel. When looking for a romantic partner using Enneagram types, consider how the types interact. The descriptions below give a general sense of how well each type matches yours. They also describe where the pleasure in these matches is likely to be manifested and identifies challenges you may face. Pairing 1: Sense of Purpose. An "Expressive / Idealist" relationship is marked by a real sense of purpose and connectedness. The two of you can be at your best when you're sharing your time and thoughts to relate on a deeply personal level. However, know tension can result when your Idealist's need for things to be just-so leads them to criticize you at times. You may also tend to take their words more personally than they've intended. Pairing 2: Dramatic romantic. An "Expressive / Humanitarian" relationship is marked by sensitivity, romance, and dramatic waves of emotion. The two of you can be at your best when you're exploring the joys of life and the passionate connection between you. However at points, your Humanitarian may become annoyed with your occasional propensity to wallow in your own pain. Tension can result when you become equally annoyed by their attempts to cheer you out of your dark moods. Pairing 3: Creative complements. An "Expressive / Entertainer" relationship is marked by a shared interest in creativity and intensity. The two of you can be at your best when you're using your time as a couple to find inventive outlets for your emotions and passions. When tension occurs in your relationship, it's likely because of the contrast between your Entertainer's energetic forward focus and your sometimes melancholic reminiscences.

Pairing 4: Intensely deep. An "Expressive / Expressive" relationship is marked by idealism, depth of feeling, and wild mood swings. The two of you can be at your best when you're taking time to explore your mutual love and individual passions. However, because you both have such idealistic natures, tension can occur if one or both of you come to feel that something is lacking in the romance especially if you blame yourselves for the perceived deficiency. Pairing 5: Rich uniqueness. An "Expressive / Experimenter" relationship is marked by a rich joint creativity and love for unique things and interests. The two of you can be at your best when you're trying out new things together, whether that means visiting museums and cultural centers, checking out new restaurants, or taking on a new hobby. When tensions occur in your relationship, it's likely because your need to be fully and deeply connected can clash with your Experimenter's introverted and reclusive nature. Pairing 6: Profound meaning. An "Expressive / Advocate" relationship is marked by a shared search for meaning and a deep, dependable personal connection. The two of you can be at your best when you're taking time as a couple to discover and experience the parts of life that you hold dear. Understand that your sometimes radically changing emotions can cause tension between you and your partner. Inconsistencies can make your Advocate fear that the relationship is not secure. Pairing 7: Extraordinary passion. An "Expressive / Adventurer" relationship is marked by an extraordinary passion for life and its possibilities. The two of you can be at your best when you're using your time together to explore all the wonderful experiences the world has to offer whether you're across the globe or in your own backyard. However, know that your Adventurer may become irritated with your melancholy moods from time to time. Tension can also be created if you try to make this more happy-go-lucky partner face and learn from painful life experiences the way you do. Pairing 8: Excess and flair. An "Expressive / Leader" relationship is marked by excessiveness and a flair for living life on the edge. The two of you can be at your best when you're taking the time to try new and exciting pastimes as a couple. However, because you and your Leader both tend to be dominant you in the emotional realm and they in the realm of action sometimes power struggles can ensue. Pairing 9: Quiet empathy. An "Expressive / Negotiator" relationship is marked by strong empathy and a desire for peaceful calm. The two of you can be at your best when you're sharing one another's inner thoughts in quiet conversation. However, if you search for more information than your partner is willing to give, tensions can arise. Your Negotiator may react by withdrawing or becoming stubborn.

Find a partner using Enneagram types Find someone who will satisfy your longing. Not everyone will be thrown for a loop by your moodiness. There are loads of people who will treasure your passionate nature and who can weather your internal storms. Now that you know what your Enneagram type brings to a relationship, you can begin your search for a partner who has a compatible type. Try this: Think about how you can learn to manage your negative tendencies in a relationship. By preparing for your next relationship in this way, you can give yourself a head start to having smoother relations in tough times. Print out the nine compatibilities provided above and place a star next to each pairing that appeals to you. Consider both (a) the allure of the positive aspects and (b) how well you think you could handle the negative aspects. There isn't a relationship pairing that exists without tension, but you can choose the kind of tension you're most comfortable with. Now get your search started. How can you find out the Enneagram types of potential partners? There are a few ways: (a) you can try to guess a person's type by the way they interact with you on a first date, (b) you can encourage them to take Tickle's Enneagram test and tell you what their type is, or (c) you can search on Tickle Matchmaking where available singles have posted all kinds of Tickle test results (including the Enneagram) so that others can get to know about their personality before agreeing to a first date.

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You'll usually do your best in positions where you can be original and creative. This leverages your ability to think outside the box. In management positions, you can be good at seeing new and unique possibilities that other business people may miss. Fields you're most likely to be suited for include fine arts, music, or other creative fields. When you're considering employment with a new company, one of the most important things for you to think about is how well you'll get along with your potential co-workers. The descriptions below give a general sense of how well each of the Enneagram types matches yours in the workplace, as well as how well you're likely to work with that type in supervisory and support positions. Here's what you're likely to experience working with: Type 1 (The Idealist): Sense of purpose. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will be operating as a tight team with clear goals. Be aware that you may have friction if the Idealist becomes harshly critical of your performance. Type 2 (The Humanitarian): Sensitive. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you are sensitive to each other's feelings. Be aware that you may have friction if the Humanitarian tries to be too cheery when you're feeling negative about the company or other employees. Type 3 (The Entertainer): Creative complements. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you have a knack for coming up with creative solutions to problems. Be aware that you may have friction if the Entertainer tries to drive forward on a project after you have become disenchanted with it. another Type 4 (The Expressive): Intensely creative. When you're working harmoniously with your own type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will focus your creative energy on trying to achieve your idealistic goals. Be aware that you may have friction if you allow your mood changes to reign too freely in the workplace. Type 5 (The Experimenter): Rich uniqueness. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will focus on creativity and uniqueness while exploring shared obscure interests. Be aware that you may have friction if the Experimenter withdraws from your joint projects without warning. Type 6 (The Advocate): Profound meaning. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you enjoy searching for answers to life's profound questions. Be aware that you may have friction if the Advocate becomes fearful of the security of your working relationship. Type 7 (The Adventurer): Extraordinary enthusiasm. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the

subordinate, you work together with extraordinary enthusiasm for your joint projects. Be aware that you may have friction if the Adventurer refuses to consider the negatives or worst-case scenarios of any given project. Type 8 (The Leader): Excess and flair. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you work close to the edge, meeting your deadlines just in the nick of time and putting much more effort into each project than is necessary. Be aware that you may have friction if the Leader becomes too dominant or critical. Type 9 (The Negotiator): Quiet empathy. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you work together without conflict, often expressing empathy for the other's position. Be aware that you may have friction if the Negotiator becomes too withdrawn or stubborn when things change.

Find a suitable work environment using your Enneagram type When you're looking for work, don't forget to thoroughly check out any prospective employer to make certain that they can provide you with what you need to perform your best. Now that you know more about what your Enneagram type says about your work style, ideal work environment, and co-worker relationships, you can use this information to find the best job for you. The next time you're considering a new position, try this: When you prepare for your interview, come up with at least one question that relates to your major Enneagram characteristics. For example, a Type 1, the Idealist, might ask: "How well organized are the processes and procedures within the organization?" After your interview, take a moment to review the Enneagram type work compatibilities above. Try to see if you can guess the Enneagram type of each person that you interviewed with. Ask yourself: Do you think you will be compatible in the long-term? Finally, if you feel uncomfortable with the people you interviewed with or suspect that you won't be compatible down the line, don't hesitate to let the opportunity go. Working with people you don't get along isn't likely to help your job satisfaction or success. Consider whether you'd be better off waiting for a better fit.

Your enneagram report How your type works for (or against) you Compatibility in love Compatibility at work History behind the test For More Reading

The true origin of the Enneagram as a tool for self-knowledge is unknown and often disputed. Many theorists believe that the Enneagram dates back over 2,500 years to Pythagoras, where the symbol of the Enneagram first appeared. Others believe that it dates back less than 1,000 years, only as far as the Sufi mystical tradition. There the Enneagram appears as a part of Sufi teachings on personality and spiritual development. Contemporary understandings of the Enneagram come to us from the writings of Georges Ivanovitch Gurdjieff, a Russian traveler and writer of the 19th and 20th centuries. In his travels, Gurdjieff spent time with the Naqshbandi order of Sufis and learned about the Enneagram as it had been passed through Sufi oral tradition. He then shared what he learned though his teaching center in Paris. Although Gurdjieff did not teach the Enneagram as a personality typing system, he did describe how it relates to centers of consciousness and ego-personality. The first modern reference to an Enneagram personality typology is found in the teachings of Oscar Ichazo (1931- ), who founded the Arica Institute in New York. Ichazo claims to have realized the Enneagram through intuition and revelation, although it's believed that he must have been in contact with a Sufi spiritualist. Claudio Naranjo (1927- ), a psychiatrist, Gestalt therapist, and a student of Ichazo's with a significant background in Gurdjieff's teachings, further developed the Enneagram personality typology. From there, Bob Ochs, a Jesuit priest, learned about the Enneagram from Naranjo and began to teach the personality theory surrounding the Enneagram to students at Loyola University, a Jesuit university in Chicago. Indeed, the Enneagram owes much of its popularity today to Jesuit priests and Roman Catholic retreats and spirituality centers. While the history of the Enneagram is mysterious, it's regarded by many to be an excellent tool for understanding yourself and your relationships with others. The Enneagram continues to be studied and

refined by present day Enneagram enthusiasts, psychologists, and authors for use in clinical settings and corporate America. Tickle has brought this Enneagram Test to you in the hopes that it advances your self-knowledge, as well as offering you new insights on your personal and business relationships. If you're interested in learning more about the Enneagram, its uses, and its fascinating history, Tickle's research team recommends the reading list below.

Baron, Renee and Elizabeth Wagele. Are You My Type, Am I Yours? Relationships Made Easy Through the Enneagram. (CA: Harper SF), 1995. Bennett, J.G. Enneagram Studies. (ME: Samuel Weiser), 1988. Beesing, Maria, Nogosek, Robert J.. and O'Leary, Patrick. The Enneagram: A Journey of Self-Discovery. (NJ: Dimension Books), 1984. Blake, A. G. E. The Intelligent Enneagram. (MA: Shambhala Publications), 1996. Condon, Thomas. The Dynamic Enneagram: How to Work With Your Personality Style to Truly Grow and Change. (OR: Metamorphous Press), 2002. Condon, Thomas. Enneagram Movie and Video Guide: How to See Personality Types in the Movies. (OR: Metamorphous Press), 1999. Daniels, David. The Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-Discovery Guide. (CA: Harper SF), 2000. Goldberg, Michael J. The 9 Ways of Working: How to Use the Enneagram to Discover Your Natural Strengths and Work More Effectively. (NY: Marlowe & Co.), 1999. Hurley, Kathleen V. and Theodore E. Dobson. What's My Type?: Use the Enneagram System of 9 Personality Types to Discover Your Best Self. (NY: Harper & Row), 1991. Maitri, Sandra. The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram: Nine Faces of the Soul. (NY: J. P. Tarcher), 2001. Nogosek, Robert, C.S.C. The Enneagram Journey to New Life: Who Am I? What Do I Stand For?. (NJ: Dimension Books), 1995. Olson, Robert, Ph.D. Stepping Out Within: A Practical Guide To Personality Types, Relationships and Self-Transformation. (CA: Awakened Press), 1993. Palmer, Helen and Paul B. Brown. The Enneagram Advantage: Putting the 9 Personality Types to Work In the Office. (NY: Harmony Books), 1998.

Palmer, Helen. The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships. (NY: Harper/Collins, 1994. Riso, Don Richard. Personality Types: Using the Enneagram For Self-Discovery. (MA: Houghton Mifflin Company), 1987. Riso, Don Richard. Enneagram Transformations: Releases and Affirmations for Healing Your Personality Type. (MA: Mariner Books), 1993. Rohr, Richard and Andreas Ebert. Discovering the Enneagram: An Ancient Tool for a New Spiritual Journey. (NY: The Crossroad Publishing Company), 1992. Wagner, Ph.D., Jerome. The Enneagram Spectrum of Personality Styles: An Introductory Guide. (OR: Metamorphous Press), 1996.

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