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Escalate Kino
By Don Diego Garcia I took you to an intimate restaurant, then to a suggestive movie, There's nothin' left to talk about, unless it's horizontally, Let's get physical, I wanna get physical, Let me hear your body talk. ~Olivia Newton-John
Warning & Disclaimer: Abide by the Law of the Land

Kino relates to touching. Forms of touching may be considered criminal in some jurisdictions, punishable by fines or imprisonment. Consult federal, state, and local laws regarding touching, age of consent, and intoxication as well as your employers harassment policy. The following is not advice but opinions to be used for entertainment purposes only. By reading this e-book you agree to hold Don Diego Garcia and STYLELIFE harmless. Arent you glad that is over? I hope you werent scared too badly. Now then... "The language of love is not spoken with words." ~ Don Diego Garcia
Ride the Kino Escalator
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Kino is derived from the word kinesthetic which relates to the way our bodies detect position, weight, and movement. Roughly translated it relates to the workings of our bodys motor neurons and sensory neurons. Motor neurons control how we move our body by sending signals to our muscles, and sensory neurons give us information in the form of body sensations. So, kino can be interpreted as transmission of information from one persons body movements to another person through sensors in the skin. Some interpretations of kino information is hard-wired into our genetics, and some of it is learned through our culture. The information communicated can vary from World Culture to World Culture. And even within a single culture, different people will have subjective interpretations of what different kino actions mean. The lines defining different types of kino can be quite fuzzy indeed. Formal Kino for one person might be considered Friendly Kino to another. Friendly Kino to the same person might be considered Sensual Kino to someone else. Regardless of what culture or upbringing you were raised in, we all have some basic needs for kino touch. Harry Harlow conducted research tests with laboratory monkeys. He provided two synthetic mothers for the baby monkeys. One robot mother was made of cold, hard wire, and the second mother was composed of soft, warm terry cloth. The wire mother was the only one providing milk. It turned out that after feeding, the baby monkeys liked to go hang out with the warm fuzzy mommy. Go figure. We all have a primitive side to us that responds to soft touch in a nurturing way. In some ways, kino communicates more directly than words do. Certain kinds of kino stimulate the release of testosterone, dopamine, oxytocin, arginine-vasopressin (AVP) and other neuro-chemicals that promote bonding and trust. Energetic Kino is the transmission of the same types of body-to-body information, only without physically touching. You dont have to touch someone physically to excite the kinesthetic system. For example, if I thrust my fist within inches of your nose, you may react. Similarly, if I trace my open palm and fingers above your forearm in a sliding motion, you may feel that too. Some spiritual disciplines teach a form of healing energy emanating from your thumbs, fingers, and palms. Energetic Kino can also extend from your eyes; in fact, eye-contact is commonly one of the first types of Energetic Kino strangers use to make an acquaintance. To practice activating your Energetic Kino transfer system, simply imagine light, water, fire, lasers, or whatever flowing medium you choose, in whatever color you choose, emitting from your body, through your target, and out to infinity. So, what kind of information can kino transmit?
Formal Kino
Formal Kino expresses, I wont hurt you. Examples of Formal Kino include: Handshake Fist Bump or Double Fist Bump (In Boxing) Shoulder Tap (To get your partner's attention.) Standing Bow (Exchange of Energetic Kino) Seated Kneeling Bow
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Consoling Kino
Consoling Kino expresses, I empathize and sympathize with you. Examples of Consoling Kino include: Shoulder Pat Shoulder Rub Upper Back Pat Upper Back Rub Upper Arm Squeeze Knee Pat Knee Squeeze Side-to-Side One-Armed Hug Head on Shoulder Hug
Consoling Kino can either be sincere or joking. A good way to escalate kino is to tease your partner about some magnified difficulty. Wassa matta, you cant open that twist top? Poor thing. (Upper Arm Squeeze) Here, let me get that for you. Said in a protective way. Back-rubs may also be applied during consoling expressions. You might even try exaggerating consolations. "My boss sucks!" "Oh, I'm so sorry." (Upper Back Rub).
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Friendly Kino
Casual, playful Friendly Kino expresses, "I respect you." The ordering of these Friendly Kino examples is important. They start with "Less Friendly" and proceed to "More Friendly". Many could be done from both a standing or a sitting position. They include:
Shoulder Pat with the Back of the Hand High Five Fist Bump (Knuckles to Knuckles) Fist Bump (Three Way Variation: A on top, B on top, Head-On) Handshake Variations (Numerous) Shoulder Squeeze Upper Arm Poke Upper Arm Squeeze Extended Arm Squeeze (Sustained during rapport-building conversation. Differentiate between sec., 1 sec., and 2 seconds, etc.) Elbow-Arm Brush (Also can be used as you walk past your partner.) Elbow-to-Arm Touch Extended Elbow-to-Arm Touch Wrist Pat Wrist Squeeze Wrist Sniff / Wrist Smell (Perfume check.) Hand Pat Hand Squeeze Back Pat Arm-In-Arm intertwined at the elbows (Good for walking or escorting her somewhere.) Knee Pat Knee Squeeze Knee-to-Leg touch Extended Knee-to-Leg touch (Again, count seconds to differentiate shorter or longer periods of contact.) Leg over her leg (Don't be too heavy with this one.) Waist Brush / Waist Poke / Waist Tickle / Waist Hold Belly Brush / Belly Poke / Belly Tickle Rib Brush / Rib Poke / Rib Tickle Leg Brush / Leg Poke / Leg Tickle / Leg Hold Partner's Hand to Your Forehead Touch (Familial Respect Attestation in Philippine Culture) Hand Rest on Closest Shoulder Forearm Rest on Closest Shoulder Polite Hand Kiss, Self Hand Kiss The "Butt Pat" is a part of Friendly Kino in some sports Torso Bump Hand Hand Hand Hand Rest on Furthest Shoulder Support on Small of Back (Stationary, or while walking.) Support around Waist Support around Hip
Cheek Pinch Head Hair Shake (Use cautiously, some people are sensitive about their hair and head being touched.) Front-to-Front Two-Armed Hug Extended Front-to-Front Two-Armed Hug (Count seconds to differentiate.) Side-to-Side One-Armed Hug Extended Side-to-Side One-Armed Hug Ballroom Dance Dips & Other Partner Dance Moves
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An early precedent of Friendly Kino is best established from the get-go of a new relationship as a demonstration of the suave, gregarious person you are. Good friends can be rough and tumble with each other to create bonding rapport, but a new friend should be treated more gently. Think of a bird landing on a branch. The bird doesnt go SMACK into the branch forcefully. It slows down and hovers just for an instant before alighting comfortably onto its landing. Land like the bird. Look for opportunities in your dialog to experiment with Friendly Kino or Playful Kino which expresses, "You are cool, I like your style of play." For example, upper-arm squeezes may be applied at exclamation points in your speech, or at the punch lines of jokes. If you are presently not someone who participates in Friendly Kino with those around you naturally, habitually and continuously, you may want to change some habits. It will not happen overnight. Conscious effort, attention, and practice will be required to change habits and there may be some awkward moments along the way. Thats just part of the learning curve for new social skills. If you take an attitude of adventure, experimentation and light-hearted fun on your mission, your journey will be much more enjoyable. Pay close attention to how friends kino each other on television and in the real world. Take notes, model and copy their behavior. Kino Games Initiating friendly Kino Games with a new partner is a great way to break the ice: Examine Accessories (Earrings, rings, bracelets, necklaces. Induce kino liberally.) Slaps / Hot Hands Paired Thumb Wrestling Group Thumb Wrestling Simon Says Palm Reading NEW! Deep-Tissue Reading (Mix Palm Reading with a Moisturized Hand Massage!)
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Sensual Kino
Sensual Kino expresses, "I like you." Sensual kino gives pleasure to the person receiving the attention, and sometimes to the giver at the same time. Examples of Sensual Kino include: Massage Neck Massage Finger Play Hand Hold Around Waist Hand or Wrist Rest on Far Shoulder Yawn to Hand Rest on Far Shoulder Double Shoulder Hold Extended Hand Kiss Caresses Neck Sniff / Neck Smell (Perfume check.) Head Hair Caress / Running Fingers Through Hair Ear Caress Whispering or talking in her ear (Like sharing a secret. Consider various hand placements.) Face Brush (For example, gently brushing some speck off her check.) Single Hand Head Hold Double Hand Head Hold Hand Play The Caress as Sensual Kino Caressing motions can be in a straight line, circles, figure eight formations, or random meanderings. Eons of trudging through forests and jungles left thick skin on our back, and the outsides of our arms and legs. The skin is thinner and more sensitive to caresses on the insides of the arms and legs, as well as the front part of the body. A variation of the moving caress is the still caress, simply touching, resting, or pressing according to the following strengths: Energetic Caress Float your fingertips above the skin, never actually touching the skin or the body hair, but only transmitting warm energy into your partners body. Some people are less sensitive to body energy transmission than others. Floating Caress Float your fingertips above the skin, never actually touching the skin, but only stimulating the fine hairs above the skin.
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Feather Caress Touch the skin as lightly as possible, barely on and barely off. Soft Caress Apply moderate pressure into the skin, just enough to feel the pliability of the body part. Deep Caress Apply maximum pressure, just before the point of pain, to stimulate deep tissues. Common Caress Locations Hand Wrist Upper Arm Lower Arm Upper Back Lower Back Earlobe Neck Head Hair Eyebrow Nose Cheek Jawbone Chin Knee Leg
Massage as Sensual Kino Massage is the process of rubbing and stroking the body to relax muscles, increase blood flow, and provide sensuous stimulation. Massage can be Friendly Kino, for example if the massage was paid for. Massage can also be Intimate Kino if sexual arousal is initiated. Most Massage certainly gives relaxation and pleasure to its recipient, so well classify it under Sensual Kino. Types of Massage Body Part Massages Hand Massage Neck Massage Back Massage Forearm Massage Foot Massage
Massage Styles
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Deep Tissue Massage works gradually into inner bodily structures with a gradual application of pressure. Swedish Massage uses six basic strokes consisting of: 1. Pertrissage works the deep muscles with kneading, squeezing and lifting motions. 2. Effleurage to warm up the muscle with soft pumping motions into the body. 3. Tapotement is a soft tapping, percussive motion, sometimes with karate-chop hands. 4. Compression works to squeeze soft body parts, moving lymph and stimulating organs. 5. Vibration works after applying pressure, to initiate a rapid sideways shaking motion to loosen the muscles. 6. Friction works in lines or circles creating heat and increasing circulation. If you need an acronym mnemonic to remember these six strokes, to describe them to your partner while you perform them, you can use "PET CUF" or the Roman spelling, "PET CVF". Hawaiian Lomi Lomi Massage uses rhythmic strokes to increase circulation and lymphatic drainage. Reiki is an ancient healing technique that channels healing energy through our hands promoting physical, mental, spiritual and emotional balance. Shiatsu is a five thousand year old Japanese physiotherapy approach based on the body's energy channels and pressure points. Hand Play as Sensual Kino If the eyes are windows into the soul, then the hands are windows into the heart. ~ Don Diego Garcia The movie Soapdish with Kevin Kline and Elisabeth Shue has a great scene where Kevin explores hand play with Beth. Check it out.
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Hand Shake
The Hand Shake certainly may start as Formal Kino, but can be extended temporally into to Playful Kino.
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Same Hand Pinky Swear Step 1:
The Same Hand Pinky Swear is a brief playful game where you ask your partner to swear to keep a secret or make a promise. The first step is to interlock pinky fingers. The second step is to press thumbs together: Step 2:
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Opposite Hand Pinky Swear The same game can be played with opposite hands. Step 1:
Step 2:
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Resting Hand Brush
If seated at a table together, you can place your hand adjacent to your partners. The most subtle contact can be made just by resting your hand close to your partners. As an option, you can just place your hand nearby, but not physically touching, and practice your Energetic Kino.
If your partner takes the initiative and rests their hand on yours, they are joyfully sharing in the mutual Kino Escalation.
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Index Finger Hold
Babies will instinctually grasp a finger placed in their palm. You can test your partners grasping reaction by placing your index finger in their open hand. This may be a little sensual and forward, so make sure you have established some friendly rapport first.
If your partner grasps onto your index finger, they have accepted your Kino Advance test. As an option, two fingers could be used instead of one.
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Thumb Interlace Hand Hold
The Thumb Interlace hand hold is your basic hand hold. Holding hands may be interpreted as playful Friendly Kino or more serious Sensual Kino. Entwined Hand Hold
A variation of the hand hold can be discovered by snaking your hands around each other, similar to walking arm-in-arm, but at the hand level.
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Finger Interlace
If you interlace fingers with your partner and their hand remains open or limp, this is a sign that they are not expanding their Kino Comfort Zone to meet your Kino Advance. Gracefully let her hand go without sulking or reacting strongly, and develop more rapport before attempting again.
A finger interlace that is met with your partners fingers closing around your hand is a sign that your partners Kino Comfort Zone is expanding to include this activity. A finger interlaced hand hold is a bit more sensual than the thumb interlaced hand hold.
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Finger Interlace From Behind
The Finger Interlace can be approached from the back of your partners hand.
Of course, Reverse Kino where your partner takes your hand from behind is nice too.
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Fingertip Hand Hold
The Fingertip Hand Hold is a fun variation of the hand hold where only the fingertips of the hands are touching. This light hand hold is airy, giving a sense of freedom and connection at the same time. It could be friendly or sensual. Non-Hand Sensual Kino Hands are not the only means of playful kino communication. While standing you could softly bump your partner with your hip. While seated you could play footsies or kneesies.
Intimate Kino
Intimate Kino expresses, I love you. Examples of Intimate Kino include passionate kissing and other erotic touching. The cornucopia of intimate activities that you can share with your partner could fill volumes larger than the Kama Sutra. By the time you reach a level where both you and your partner are ready for the exchange of Intimate Kino, let nature take its course. Even though specific kino that expresses arousing sexual bliss may be out of scope for this work, I've got a special treat for you from my good friend and Stylelife Academy Headmaster: Style, Neil Strauss.
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Practice Style's Evolution Phase Shift Routine 1. I tell her that she smells good and ask what she is wearing. Then I lean in, brush her hair aside, and sniff her slowly, moving up from the shoulder to the ear. "Mmmm, that smells good. People don't pay enough attention to smell. But you'll notice how animals, before they mate, will always smell each other. Evolution has hardwired us to respond to certain things. You are wired to respond when someone smells you." 2. "It's like when someone pulls the back of your hair. You'll notice how lions, when they mate, always bite and tug at the end of each other's mane, right here." (Since I'm shaved bald, I'll add here, "This is what I miss the most about not having hair"; if you have hair, say, "This is one of my favorite things" or something to that effect.) Then I run my hand up the back of her neck and grab a fistful of hair and pull it, downwards. She says "mmm" And I say "see". 3. Then I talk about how "No one knows this, but the most sensitive places on the body are places that are usually hidden from contact with the air, like the back of the elbow (touching it) and knee (touching it). Any place where your body bends, twists, or folds, there are millions of sensitive little nerve endings that release endorphins." Then I take her arm, bend it a little, and erotically bite the area on the opposite side of the elbow (that crease where it bends). She usually gets the chills, and I have her ratify how good it feels. [NOTE FOR THE LESS EXPERIENCED: If you don't know how to erotically bite a girl, learn before you do this. You want to take a big chunk of skin not a little pinch! and slowly and firmly slide your teeth together until they meet and release the skin. You may want to practice on your own elbow first. Or on Mystery's. He loves it when students bite him during a workshop, especially when he is in a set.] 4. After, I say, "But do you know what the best thing in the world is?...A bite...right...here." And I point to the side of my neck. (Every now and then, I'll add, that "this has to do with the fact that it is where the jugular vein is most exposed, and since most sexual fantasies have to do with submission and vulnerability, it sends all the fantasy signals flying.") Then I'll expose my neck and say, "Bite me right here" as if I expect her to do it. Fifty percent of the time she will. If she doesn't, I just turn away calmly (test), wait a few seconds, and then turn back and repeat, "Bite me right here." Usually she will. 5. Half the time, her bite is lame. If so, I correct her and say, "That's not how you bite. Come here." Then I give her a good bite on the neck and instruct her to "try again." This time, she ALWAYS does a great job. 6. Now you look her in the eye, smile mischievously-approvingly, and say, very slowly, "not bad." Then glance down at her mouth, back up at her eyes, and... yes... finally... you... may... if you want... and if she's ready... um... kiss! Short Version: smell, grab hair, touch elbow, touch back of knee, bite elbow, bite my neck, bite her neck, triangular gazing, kiss.
Kino escalation from Formal to Consoling to Friendly to Sensual to Intimate, involves a series of Kino Advances. Before we can discuss the Kino Advance, we must first establish the Kino Comfort Zone:
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The Kino Comfort Zone
The Kino Comfort Zone is a Don Diego Garcia original model for StyleLife.com. Remember that no model captures all the nuances of the real world. Even supercomputers can only predict the weather for eight days or so. The colors in the Kino Comfort Zone represent the Kino Escalation steps found on the front page, namely: I I I I I consent consent consent consent consent to to to to to exchanging exchanging exchanging exchanging exchanging Formal Kino with you: Consoling Kino with you: Friendly Kino with you: Sensual Kino with you: Intimate Kino with you: RED ORANGE YELLOW YELLOW-GREEN GREEN
Your partners Kino Comfort Zone will be different with different people, and also at different times. It is a completely dynamic variable. When you first meet someone, they will probably greet you with their Kino Comfort Zone set to Formal. The BLUE circle below defines a persons acceptable range of kino exchange with you at any given time.
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The Default Kino Comfort Zone: Formal Kino
Most people live their lives with their default Kino Comfort Zone set to formal. Introductions to new friends and associates are usually met with Formal Kino, like a handshake, for example. The Kino Advance The movie The Piano with Holly Hunter and Harvey Keitel, demonstrates a torturously long series of Kino Advances. Holly spends most of the film covered head to toe in 19th century multi-layered couture. In once scene Harvey crawls under the piano, and finds a single solitary hole in her sock eaten away by a moth. He carefully touches her there with the tip of his finger to give her the kino needed to escalate the relationship. Kino escalation is performed by a series of Kino Advances. Each advance needs to be evaluated for its feedback result before making another advance. Kino Advances are a form of experimental test to see how your partner is receiving your body communication. Lets say, as a case study, that you have spent some time with your new partner, and have already established an exchange of Friendly Kino as mutually acceptable. You are now in the process of making a Kino Advance to Sensual Kino with an attempt to squeeze your partners knee while seated next to each other, followed by a gentle hand rest on said knee.
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Case Study: Kino Advance From Friendly Kino to Sensual Kino
A Kino Advance does not guarantee a change in your partners Kino Comfort Zone. As we said, in this example, your partner started at level YELLOW: Friendly Kino. Now, wile seated next to them, when you squeeze your partners knee and leave your hand there, this is an attempt to advance your partners Kino Comfort Zone into the YELLOW-GREEN zone: Sensual Kino. What are the possible results of your Kino Advance test? A A A A A Kino Kino Kino Kino Kino Comfort Comfort Comfort Comfort Comfort Zone Zone Zone Zone Zone Collapse Contraction Maintenance Expansion Acceleration
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Kino Comfort Zone Collapse
This would be the worse case scenario. A complete blow-out. In a Kino Comfort Zone collapse, your partner will shut down completely and become frigid and cold. No further kino, not even Formal Kino will be accepted. A Kino Comfort Zone collapse might not happen often, but its not unthinkable. Perhaps your partners parents or guardians used to beat them with a stick on the knee, and by touching that area, you stimulated some terrible memories that causes your partner to cry. I dont mean to scare you and insinuate that this is a common scenario, but because it is possible, I want you to be aware of it. A negative, but less severe outcome to your Kino Advance, which allows for an easier recovery, would be a Kino Comfort Zone contraction:
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Kino Comfort Zone Contraction
If your Kino Advance is not met with acceptance, you may lose points and Kino Credit may be revoked. If your partner is not pleased with your Kino Advance, they may respond with a Kino Withdrawal, resulting in a Kino Comfort Zone Contraction. In our example, your partner may remove your hand from their knee and return it to your knee and even give you a stern look or wag their finger at you. If you find yourself faced with a Kino Comfort Zone Collapse or Contraction, then your Kino Advance was probably interpreted as creepy, and you should re-evaluate your game plan. In this case, Even Friendly Kino (YELLOW) is temporarily outside of their comfort zone, and you will have to take a step back and return to Formal Kino (RED) and Consoling Kino (ORANGE) for the time being. If your partner stands their ground and does not allow your Kino Advance, but does not contract their Kino Comfort Zone, then this would result in Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance:
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Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance
If your partner responds to your Kino Advance by limiting the behavior, but not thinking any less of you, then they have maintained their Kino Comfort Zone at the level previous to the Kino Advance. Some people need time in the status quo to develop rapport with a new partner before they are willing to expand their Kino Comfort Zone around them. Press the Reset button on your Kino Advance and save it for later. How long to wait before your next Kino Advance will depend on your partners Kino Comfort Zone viscosity. In our example, your partner might take your hand from their knee and return it to your knee while smiling at you and holding your hand at your knee for a few seconds to let you know their feelings arent hurt. Conscious and Unconscious Kino Averseness Some people are touch averse. They respond negatively to most kino advances. Learn to tell the difference between conscious and unconscious touch averseness by being aware of the timing of the rejection. If your partner instantly jerks away from any attempt to touch them, there may be an unconscious touch aversion present. If your touch is accepted for a few seconds and then calmly rejected, the aversion is probably conscious. They probably accepted you at an internal level, but then reconsidered the propriety of the advance with their logical mind. People with unconscious touch aversion may take much longer to establish a sensual relationship with than those with conscious objections. If your partner accepts your Kino Advance, then you have succeeded in expanding their Kino Comfort Zone.
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Kino Comfort Zone Expansion
When your partner accepts your Kino Advance and adapts to the new familiarity that you two are enjoying, they expand their Kino Comfort Zone to include more activities that you two can share together. In our example, by squeezing your partners knee, and leaving your hand there, you have given your partner pleasure that they are enjoying by your touch. They leave your hand there, and may even give you a smile, lean in to you a bit, or place their hand on top of yours softly. Some people respond very positively to touch, and they kino you back with Reverse Kino! This is called Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration:
Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration
Because our example started at Friendly Kino (YELLOW) with an advance to Sensual Kino (YELLOWGREEN) the only accelerated level available for demonstration purposes is Intimate Kino (GREEN). The
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way the diagram is presented actually shows a Kino Comfort Zone Explosion, where every possible form of kino is accepted and even encouraged. Kino Accelerations and Explosions happen now-and-again between people who really click with each other to become intimate within hours or even sometimes minutes of meeting each other. As a reminder, this is just a model of the chaotic real world. Further, this example also is only illustrative. There may be different shades of sensual touching that are inside and outside of their comfort zone. This refinement might be represented by a BLUE circle that was part-way between the Friendly Kino and Sensual Kino boundaries, not pictured. As you can see there are a variety of reactions that can be made in response to a Kino Advance. Constantly gauge your partners reaction. If they do pull away, push you away, respond coldly, or negatively to any one Kino Advance, don't get all freaked-out and think it's Game Over. You may not even have to mention it. Just chill, backtrack, regroup, and get back on the horse! Some people are touch-averse and are more challenging to warm up to. Others will paw you upon meeting you. Be flexible. Work with what you are comfortable with and don't overdo it or under-do it. Balance in all things, all things in balance. Be flexible, and dont forget to pace and lead with harmony. Kino Duration The same type of Kino Advance can have different results depending on the duration of the contact. A quick sub-second Upper Arm Squeeze, Knee Squeeze or Waist Squeeze will have a different meaning than the same move lengthened into a holding or resting gesture lasting several seconds. Contact with a short duration is fine for Friendly Kino, but contact with a longer duration may be interpreted as Sensual Kino, which may appear creepy if your partner's Kino Comfort Zone is not at the Sensual Kino level yet. Count seconds to yourself while testing advances and observing responses in the field.
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Case Study Review: Possible Kino Advance Results
There are many possible responses to a Kino Advance. Your partner could shut down completely in a Kino Comfort Zone Collapse. They could be offended by your advance and revert to a Kino Comfort Zone Contraction. If the status quo is guarded, the Kino Comfort Zone will be maintained at the level prior to the Kino Advance. With practice and care, your Kino Advances will be met with an Expansion of your partners Kino Comfort Zone, allowing for a greater number of sensual activities you can share together. A few people who are Kino Multipliers will even magnify your Kino Advance, and accelerate you into kino bliss.
Adopt a Kino Attitude

Its tough enough to be out in the field, trying out new openers, timing your disqualifiers, getting your stories just right, and memorizing new Kino Moves. You can ease your transition to being the King of Kino by adopting the following attitudes at the appropriate times: How would I be exchanging kino with my partner as if they were my friend or buddy? How would I be exchanging kino my partner as if they were my sensual significant other? By asking yourself these questions and letting the educated answers guide your Kino Advances, you can learn to know what to do at the right time. As in all arts and disciplines, it will take practice and some lessons learned, so dont get discouraged. Some relationships are almost entirely indirect verbally, but direct when it comes to kino. Once a level of Friendly Kino has been established, your kino relationship is subject to Relationship Building Blocks and Relationship tests:
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Relationship Building Blocks I advance kino. Im warm to you. I encourage formal kino. I encourage consoling kino. I encourage friendly kino. I encourage sensual kino. I encourage intimate kino. Relationship Tests I withdraw kino. Im cold to you. I discourage formal kino. I discourage consoling kino. I discourage friendly kino. I discourage sensual kino. I discourage intimate kino.
As with all Relationship Tests, great care must be considered as to timing and degree. When fishing, if you pull the line too hard it will rip the hook out. If the line has too much slack, the fish may wiggle loose. Sensory acuity, repetition, persistence, and most of all proper learning will earn you the skills required to dine on the finest the sea has to offer. For example, San Francisco houses a wonderful hands-on museum called the Exploratorium, where they have this huge, 300 pound concrete block suspended from the ceiling with a metal sheath around it. Standing behind a rope fence, you are armed with only a flimsy shoe string attached to a refrigerator magnet. With this meager apparatus, you are supposed to swing the magnet, latch it onto the cement block, and gently pull the humungous block with just enough force to move it, but not enough to break off your magnet. Wait until the pendulum has swung away, and then oh-so tenderly pull with your magnet again. Each miniscule pull adds to the total momentum of the giant weight. With enough successful pulls you will have this behemoth swaying back-and-forth like a dancing elephant. Practice being the magnet.
Fertilize with Kino Fractionation

The best kino relationships are not always advancing; sometimes you need to take two steps forward, and one step back. In Hypnosis Theory, fractionation is the process of placing the subject in a light trance, then back to a normal state, then into a medium trance, then back to a normal state, then into a deep trance. This process can also be applied to your intermediate-level kino technique. If your kino advances are always on with your partner, they may become desensitized or even irritated by them. By carefully shifting between being on and off, moderating your kino advances and withdrawals, you can fertilize your relationship with a kind of Kino Fractionation that will feel better and stronger to you both. Many people do this naturally or unconsciously as part of their relationship in the form of mood cycles.
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Public and Private Kino
Maintain awareness of who witnesses your Kino Advances. Public displays of affection may cause embarrassment to your partner depending on their disposition. Consider the hand-on-the-knee example above. If you were seated next to your partner at a park bench, this would be a Public Kino Advance. But if you were seated together at a dinner table, then this could be a Private Kino Advance. Exercise caution in when in public, and consider who may be watching. Turn on your Kino-Radar for Public Kino when you are out of the house. Watch-and-learn how people kino each other. Your observations will serve as examples of socially acceptable, out-in-the-open, Public Kino. Once you have some ideas, you can start to practice with your friends, both men and women. The reason you should practice all the time with everyone is so that it will feel more natural and casual when you are with your special someone. Most of the time you are not privy to watch lovers perform their Private Kino dance of love, but you can watch romantic movies and soap operas to get plenty of demonstrations of Private Sensual Kino. For example, as a Kino Advance, you could relate a story about a romantic show you saw: "You know, I was watching my hero, James Bond, the other day, and at one point, he just stopped, looked deeply into the Bond Girl's eyes, and gently took a lock of her silky smooth hair and placed it behind her delicate ear like this (Demonstrate the Kino Advance) Do you think the actress who was playing the role got as excited as her character appeared to get in the movie?
Reverse Kino
There may be times when you find a partner who rubs you affectionately all over your arm, shoulder and back, in a way that no one else can see, but you can certainly feel. This is known as Reverse Kino, when your partner Kino Advances you. They might put their hands on you, or you might place their hands on you, as in this example: Her: ... Im a cosmetologist, I do facials. Me: Oh, really, how is my skin? I presented my cheek. Her: Huh? I dont understand. The bar was too noisy. Me: My skin, how is my skin? I lifted her hand and raised it to my cheek. Her: She made soft caressing circles. Mmm. Soft! She smiled. Almost every Kino Advance mentioned can be reversed by LEADING her to kino YOU! Leading her to perform a Reverse Kino Advance is one of the smartest things you can do because it flipsthe-script and supposedly puts her in the driver's seat for the moment. She may have been having urges to make a Kino Advance with you but she doesn't know how, or even if you'll reject her. For example, resting your hand on her knee is a Kino Advance. But taking HER hand and resting it on YOUR knee is a Reverse Kino Advance. As an exercise, go through every single Kino Advance mentioned in this volume and think of a way to turn it into a Reverse Kino Advance. You'll be glad you did. A nearly infinite number of options are available for Kino Advances and Kino Withdrawals. Im going to share with you a small sampling of the Kino Methods I have developed:
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Anchoring Kino
When an internal state of mind becomes temporally associated with a specific touch, that is called a Touch Anchor. In comparison, Pavlov used an Auditory Anchor, the sound of a bell, to condition his dog to salivate on cue. Anchors are fun to play with. Here is an example of an experience I had involving anchoring: I met a lady who liked to talk about psychology, so I introduced her to anchoring. Now, I didn't have a routine prepared, but I do understand the concepts, so I had her recall and associate strongly with experiences of Happiness, Anticipation, and Warm Juicy Sensuality. At the highest point of remembering, I anchored with a gentle stroking motion on her thumb. For each state, I took her through a detailed, sensory-rich description and returning. When I fired the anchor at the conclusion of our session she blushed, laughed and covered her mouth shyly.
Don Diego Garcia (DDG) Hug Test

A good time for the Don Diego Garcia Hug Test is upon meeting, taking leave, or anytime really. Plant your feet and open your arms. Your partner will enter your personal space. Close your arms around your partner and hug them. Don't use physical energy to put pressure into the hug. Use Spiritual Energy to hold the hug. Use your imagination to create a powerful, warm Energy Beam encircling the two of you, gently binding you two together. The Energy penetrates your body, flowing from your shoulders to your elbows, to your fingertips, pulling your arms around her. Loosen and soften your entire shell with a firm internal support. Straighten your spine and un-slouch your back. Melt into your partner. Melt your partner into you. Be aware of their response and the time. Don't let them go first. If they let go due to automatic conditioning, take that separation energy and immediately return it to the hug. You may be able to recover. If they let go with serious intention to disconnect, open your arms. Being sensitive to this difference is critical and takes acute awareness and fine calibration skills. If you misread their intent, and they misreads yours, they may feel you are being pushy, and become uncomfortable. Friendly goodbye hugs rarely last longer than three seconds. If the hug has gone longer than six seconds, it has escalated into an embrace, and a green light for other Kino Advances has been turned on.
DDG Hug Test Semi-Embrace Option

If they pull away but dont let go, they may separate into a semi-embrace at arms length. Touch foreheads and whisper sweet nothings. If you are tall, swing both of you around and lean your butt on the car, wall, or firm object behind you. Open your legs and bend your knees so that you can see your partner and talk to them at eye level, which also happens to be mouth level. Keep your hands around their midsection; their hands should be around your neck. Mesmerize your partner with soft, adoring eye contact. Evaluate if they need more verbal rapport building, while in an arms-length semi-embrace, or if it's time for a Kino Advance.
DDG Hug Test Lift Option

When you go to scoop your partner in with your arms, also scoop them upward. This will remind them of being a little child in Daddy's arms. If they are conservative, it may be best not to do a complete lift,
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lifting them off the ground and spinning around. It's more of an Energetic Lift, barely perceptible to the conscious mind.
DDG Handshake to Arm-In-Arm

Make sure you get on the right side of your partner. In addition to preparing for an arm hold, another reason to stand on their right side is to talk into their right ear. The brain's language centers are in the left hemisphere of the brain, which read from the right ear. You: "Oh, my. We haven't been introduced properly... I'm Diego." Them: "I'm Soanso." Shake hands. At conclusion of hand shake, don't let go. Lower the right hand slightly still holding theirs. Raise the left hand and reach forward over both hands still clasped. Start turning your body in direction you both are headed. Take their hand that you are holding, raise it up slightly, behind your left forearm, and forward over your left forearm. Lower your left forearm slightly and bend your left elbow to make room. When letting go of their hand, lightly press and melt their hand onto the top and front of your left forearm. Let go of their hand with a sliding downward motion. You both are now facing the same direction, arm-inarm, ready to walk. You could either remain standing, or start walking arm-in-arm. If they pull you in tight and grasp their right hand with their left, or grasp your left arm with both of their hands, this is an indication of a Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration. If they let their hand slip off, it is an indication of Kino Comfort Zone Maintenance. In this case, recalibrate, continue walking and resume conversation naturally as if nothing has happened. Practice with a friend before experimenting for the first time in the field.
DDG Seated Femur Hold

To be exact, it's not precisely knee-holding, like cupping the patella, but extending body energy into the area just above the knee and below the thigh. The middle-finger and opposing thumb can get a nice solid, firm but gentle grip on the lower neck of the femur. This hold connects directly to the sensual hormone release mechanism in the brain.
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Seated Car Kino
Sitting together or riding together in the car is a great place to escalate kino, for example: Soft Belly Pokes Hand on your leg or center console, barely touching their knee Squeeze your partners knee at emphatic expressions in your conversation Resting your hand on your partners knee Resting your hand on your partners knee with their hand resting on top Putting your partners hand on your knee (Reverse Kino) Putting your partners hand on your knee with your hand resting on top (Reverse Kino) Holding hands Arm around shoulders Arm around waist
For example: "My hands are cold, could you warm them up, please." (Light command tonality.) "Use both hands together and rub in circles." This can proceed naturally into a finger-interlace hand-hold, or finger-tip caresses.
Standing Kino
Many social situations take place while people are standing, like at a bar. Examine the samples above and consider adapting them to standing situations, or experiment with createing your own. "Kino, Kino, Kino, Kino, Kino Cha-me-le-on, You Come and Go, You Co-ome and Go-o-o-o" ~ Boy George (Not Really)
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Mission: Practice Escalating Kino
List three Consoling Kino Techniques you will apply the next time you hang out with a friend:
1.________________________ 2.________________________ 3. ________________________ What kinds of responses and results did you get from your experiments with Consoling Kino:
______________________________________________________________________________ List three Friendly Kino Techniques you will apply the next time you meet an attractive stranger:
1.________________________ 2.________________________ 3. ________________________ What kinds of responses and results did you get from your experiments with Friendly Kino:
______________________________________________________________________________ List three Sensual Kino Techniques you will apply on your next date:
1.________________________ 2.________________________ 3. ________________________ What kinds of responses and results did you get from your experiments with Sensual Kino: ______________________________________________________________________________ Log-in and write a Field Report about your experiences to get feedback from the Stylelife Community about your progress. Sign-up for the on-line forum behind the COMMUINITY link at www.STYLELIFE.com . http://www.stylelife.com/phase2xl/about/coaches/?id=2
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BONUS: Escalate Kino Cheat Sheet Pocket Guide Reference.
1. Print me out on your favorite card stock or heavy resume paper if available. Print with the "Best Photo" or "Highest Quality" option in the print dialog box for maximum readability. 2. Cut carefully on the dotted lines. Use a paper cutter if possible. 3. For a finishing touch and a long life, laminate me. 4. Carry me in your wallet and take me everywhere for review and practice. Study me on the bus or train, in the restroom, during commercials, and anywhere else you may go. Put a copy of me in a business card holder in your organizer for quick reference. 5. Make copies of me for your wing-men and wing-women and become the most popular fellow around! 6. If you have any questions or comments, post them on the electronic forum available at: www.STYLELIFE.com "Practice is everything." ~ Periander.
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Warning & Disclaimer: Abide by the Law of the Land

Ride the Kino Escalator

Kino Comfort Zone Acceleration

Adopt a Kino Attitude

Fertilize with Kino Fractionation

Don Diego Garcia (DDG) Hug Test

DDG Hug Test Semi-Embrace Option

DDG Hug Test Lift Option

DDG Handshake to Arm-In-Arm

DDG Seated Femur Hold

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