Meredith: They're everywhere. All the time.

Izzie's all perky and George does this thing where he's helpful and considerate. They share food, and they say things, and they move things, and they breathe. Ugh, they're like, happy. Cristina: Kick them out. Meredith: I can't kick them out, they just moved in. I asked them to move in. Cristina: So what, you're just going to repress everything in some deep, dark, twisted place until one day you snap and you kill them? Meredith: Yep. Cristina: This is why we are friends. Meredith: You don't know this yet, but life isnt supposed to be like this. Its not supposed to be this hard. Meredith: [voiceover] Maybe we like the pain. Maybe we're wired that way. Because without it, I don't know, maybe we just wouldn't feel real. What's that saying? Why do I keep hitting myself with a hammer? Because it feels so good when I stop. Alex: You could talk, you know, I mean, if you need to. Meredith: I'm fine. Alex: You said that word so many times today, it doesn't even sound like a word anymore. Just saying you can talk to me. Because, you know, even if I repeat every word you say, no one around here likes me, they just call me a liar and a moron.

Meredith: [voiceover] Pain, it comes in all forms. The small twinge, a bit of soreness, the random pain, the normal pains that we live with everyday. Then there's the kind of pain you can't ignore. A level of pain so great that it blocks out everything else; makes the rest of your world fade away until all we can think about is how much we hurt. How we manage our pain is up to us. Pain. We anaesthetize, ride it out, embrace it, ignore it... and for some of us, the best way to manage pain is to just push through it. Meredith: [voiceover] Maybe we're not supposed to be happy. Maybe gratitude has nothing to do with joy. Maybe being grateful means recognizing what you have for what it is. Appreciating small victories. Admiring the struggle it takes simply to be human. Maybe we're thankful for the familiar things we know. And maybe we're thankful for the things we'll never know. At the end of the day, the fact that we have the courage to still be standing is reason enough to celebrate. Meredith: [voiceover] There's an old proverb that says you can't choose your family. You take what the fates hand you. And like them or not, love them or not, understand them or not, you cope. Then there's the school of thought that says the family you're born into is simply a starting point. They feed you, and clothe you, and take care of you until you're ready to go out into the world and find your tribe. Meredith: [voiceover] We're all damaged, it seems. Some of us, more than others. We carry the damage with us from childhood, then as grownups, we give as good as we get. Ultimately, we all do damage. And then, we set about the business of fixing whatever we can. I think we should put this on a special piece of paper in the heart, cause you know, its about the heart: Meredith: Human beings need a lot of things to feel alive.

George: Family... Cristina: Love... Izzie: Sex. Derek: But we only need one thing... Burke: To actually be alive. Cristina: We need a beating heart. Addison: When our heart is threatened... Alex: we respond in one of two ways. George: We either run... Derek: Or... Izzie: we attack. Chief: There's a scientific term for this: Alex: Fight... Addison: or flight. Bailey: It's instinct... Meredith: We can't control it. Izzie: Or can we?
PRESTON: "I've never done a bovine replacement before, I don't know what I'm doing." CRISTINA: "So look it up, research it and get someone to assist you." PRESTON: "Its not that easy." CRISTINA: "This is a problem that has a solution, Burke. There are a lot of problems that don't." ZZIE: "Hey, Hank and I have great sex, all the time. In fact we'll probably have sex after the party, or during the party." GEORGE: "As long as you clear it with Meredith." IZZIE: "Hank just needs to realize that doctors can have fun. Were not all workaholics with God complexes." CRISTINA: "We ARE workaholics with God complexes." MEREDITH: "I guess we're adults. The question is, when did that happen, and how do we make it stop?" CRISTINA: "You're eight feet tall. Your boobs are perfect, your hair is down to there. If I was you I would just walk around naked all the time. I wouldn't have a job, I wouldn't have any skills, I wouldn't even know how to read. I would just be... naked." IZZIE: "It's all makeup. Retouching." CRISTINA: "You get that we hate you, right?" IZZIE: "I was upset. When Im upset I like to nest." IZZIE: "So... George? He's really your type, huh?" CALLI: "You don't see him. Either of you. He's just, he's just George to you. He's just... O'Malley, your roommate." IZZIE: "You don't have to get all-" CALLI: "He makes my world stop. George O'Malley is sweet and kind and smart and strong. And he makes my world stop. So you shut up about him." MEREDITH: [corners George in elevator] "Youre trapped. You you dont have to talk. Ill do the talking, George. I am truly, very deeply sorry. Im not going to make excuses, Im just sorry. Look... I know youre going to get off this elevator and walk away and not look back. But George, we're friends, real friends. And that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally do decide to look back, Ill still be he re." CRISTINA: "George, if you're sick of bad things happening to you, stop putting up with it and demand better."

MEREDITH: "I have this feeling." DEREK: "I get that feeling also. If you wait long enough it will pass." MEREDITH: "Do you promise?" DEREK: "I promise." ADDISON: "Hey... What you doing?" DEREK: "Waiting for it to pass." MIRANDA: "You just have to know. And when you don't know? No one can fault you for it. You do what you can, when you can, while you can. When you can't, you can't."

Bailey: Never would have figured Mark Sloan to be your type. Addison: He's not...he's not...What is he doing here? He's NOT supposed to be here. I can't have him here, I can't...he's supposed to be in New York. I can't function with him here. I'm a professional here, people respect me here, but when he's here I'm just...I'm... Bailey: A woman who gets the hots for man candy and cheats on her husband. Addison: That is rude. And unkind. And completely true. Oh My God, what am I gonna do? Bailey: For starters, you can keep your knees closed in his presence. Addison: Miranda! Bailey: You asked. And also, you can remember, that no man, not Derek, not Mark, defines who you are. Callie: [to George] I'm out of my element here, I break bones for a living, I used to live in the basement, most days I wear last night's eyeliner to work, and I don't give a crap about what other people think of me. Because I am a happily independent and successful woman and I like it that way, only when you say stuff like this, it just makes things too hard. So please, don't chase me anymore, unless you're ready to catch me. Cristina: [voiceover] In some ways, betrayal is inevitable. When our bodies betray us, surgery is often the key to recovery. When we betray each other, the path to recovery is less clear. We do whatever it takes to rebuild the trust that was lost. And then there are some wounds, some betrayalsthat are so deep, so profound that there is no way to repair what was lost. And when that happens, there's nothing left to do but wait. Meredith: [voiceover] At the end of the day, when it comes down to it, all we really want is to be close to somebody. So this thing where we all keep our distance and pretend not to care about each other, it's usually a load of bull. So we pick and choose who we want to remain close to, and once we've chosen those people, we tend to stick close by. No matter how much we hurt them. The people that are still with you at the end of the day, those are the ones worth keeping. And sure, sometimes close can be too close. But sometimes, that invasion of personal space, it can be exactly what you need. Derek: I came here to be chief, but Meredith complicates that. Bailey: Huh. Well if this turns into an either or, you pick the person you love. End of story. Look, all of this means nothing if youre alone. Chief: The contest is a lion fight. So chin up, put your shoulders back, walk proud, strut a little. Don't lick your wounds, celebrate them. The scars you bear are the signs of a competitor. You were in a lion fight, Stevens. Just because you didn't win doesn't mean you don't know how to roar.

Meredith: [to her shrink in the elevator] What was the point? All those hours and all that money? What's the point? The world is a horrible place. Young people die of diseases. It makes absolutely no sense to try to be happy in a world that's such a horrible place. Dr. Wyatt: [to Meredith] Yes. Meredith: What? Dr. Wyatt: Yes, horrible things do happen. Happiness in the face of all of that... that's not the goal. Feeling the horrible and knowing that you're not gonna die from those feelings, that's goal.

Izzie: People are terrible to the people they love sometimes. They're mean. You were both having a hard time and you took it out on each other. It doesn't make you the worst wife in the world. It just makes you a person who made a mistake. Owen: Sometimes, words fail. Meredith: I know you don't understand me. I don't understand me. I wanted to show him compassion. That's why I went. That's the reason. And it was horrible... it was horrible. Derek: It's okay. Bailey: I am Dr. Bailey! I am better than fine. Lexie: Yes, the odds are against us. I'm a one woman wrecking ball, all I do is break you. Your hand, your penis, your relationships, your life. I'd say our survival rate is about 3 percent. And that's, that's, that's bad. But, it's not nothing. And I don't think we should give up on this. At least not yet because...[Mark puts his finger to Lexie's lips] Lexie: Okay. Mark: You think you broke me little Grey? You're the one that put me back together. Callie: Come on Willow. Come on. You lived in a tree, you crapped in a bucket for God's sake. You can do this. [notices Arizona behind her] Arizona: She crapped in a bucket? Callie: What're you doing here? Arizona: Saw it on the board. Never seen an intramedullary rub into a femur. So, bucket? Callie: Yeah. Bucket on a pulley. She's uh, up in the tree, right? So, she lowers the crap bucket to her friend every day, who empties it, cleans it, puts food in it, and then sends it back up the tree. Arizona: Oh now that's friendship! [both women laugh, and then pause] You know, they teach us in med school how not to care so much. We drape the patients so we don't see their faces, we do a thousand little things to care a little less. You care like crazy, and I love that. And I'll keep loving that. Even if you decide to lie to your family.

Owen: It's my shrink. My shrink gave me these sentences. We- we, uh, we came up with them together. They're all 3-word sentences so I'd have things to say to you instead of the three words that are... that are killing me. The three words that you know I feel but I can't say them, because it

would be cruel to say them because I am no good for you. I don't want to torture you. I don't want to look at you longingly when I know I can't be with you. So, yeah, I'm smiling and I'm saying 'take care now.' I'm letting you off the hook. I'm trying. I'm trying so hard to let you off the hook. I'm trying to make it right, what I did to you. Can't you see that? I'm just trying to make it right. Cristina: Take care now.

Izzie: [voiceover] You never know the biggest day of your life is going to be the biggest. The days you think are going to be big ones, they are never as big as you make them out to be in your head. Its the regular days, the ones that start out normal. Those are the days that end up being the biggest. And today was the wedding. It was beautiful. Perfect. Bailey: You ok? Callie: I cut off a healthy leg. I just cut it off. It was for the patients own good, but still, I feel like a butcher. Swinder: My miracle case is on life support. I thought I had one. One miracle. I hate this job sometimes. Callie: I don't know why we do this. Bailey: Come on, come with me. Callie: Ok, what are we doing here? Bailey: We came to see that [they look at Arizona's patient that got better] Swinder: What? Bailey: The joy. It comes around rarely, so rarely we forget it can happen. But that, that's why we do this. The joy.

George: Izzie! You paged me, are you ok? Izzie: No, I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should have the surgery. I think I'm gonna die either way. You gotta tell me what to do. George: You know what to do. Izzie: No I don't. I don't. George: Yes, you do. You're just scared to do it. This back and forth is just fear. You've already made the decision. You made it. You made it the second you decided to fight this thing. Just look, look where you started. Look where you are now. I mean, now you're this incredible surgeon, and teacher. You're a doer, remember? You know exactly what you have to do.

Meredith: Look at Alex. He's in there working so hard every day, and she doesn't know. And, if she stays like this she may never know how much he loves her. And that girl Amanda, she's in there loving a stranger. She thinks that's her prince charming. I mean, he's probably gonna die today. Chances are. So yeah, I'm gonna go get married, because I think it's important to take the time to tell the people you love how much you love them while they can hear you. I love you Cristina Yang. [smiles] Cristina: You have changed.

Meredith: Mmmm... Maybe I have. What? Cristina: I'm gonna hug you.

Derek: Hey. Meredith: Hey. Derek: Need to go home? Meredith: No. Derek: Did you eat? Meredith: No. Derek: Can you eat? Meredith: No. Derek: You should cry. Meredith: No. Derek: Maybe if you cry you'll feel better. Meredith: I... you just... just you being here is... and don't say anything. Just be here. That... that helps.

Alex: [to Izzie] You died in my arms. You died in my arms, you freakin' died and then you left instructions that i wasn't allowed to save your life. You wanna know what I'm scared of? I'm scared of everything! I'm scared tomove! I'm scared to breathe! I'm scared to touch you! I can't lose you. I won't survive. And that's your fault. You made me love you, you made me let you in, and then you freakin' die in my arms! Lexie: [voiceover] Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. Mark: It isnt just death we have to grieve. Its life. Its loss. Its change. Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. Izzie: Thats how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you cant breathe, thats how you survive. Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you wont feel this way. It wont hurt this much. Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you cant control it. Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes. Callie: And let it go when we can. Meredith: The very worst part is that the minute you think youre past it, it starts all over again. Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away. Meredith: There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five. Alex: Denial. Derek: Anger. Bailey: Bargaining. Lexie: Depression.

Chief: Acceptance. Arizona: [to Mr. Torres] Most people think that I was named for the state, but it's not true, I was named for a battle ship. The U.S.S. Arizona. My grandfather was serving on the Arizona when the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor, and he saved nineteen men before he drowned. Pretty much everything my father did his whole life was about honoring that sacrifice. I was raised to be a good man in a storm. Raised to love my country. Love my family. Protect the things I love. When my father, Colonel Daniel Robbins of the United States Marine Corps, heard that I was a lesbian he said he only had one question. I was prepared for "How fast can you get the hell out of my house?" But instead, it was "Are you still who I raised you to be?" My father believes in country the way that you believe in God. And my father is not a man who bends, but he bent for me because I am his daughter. I'm a good man in a storm. I love your daughter. And I protect the things I love. Not that I need too, she doesn't need it. She's strong, and caring, and honorable. And she's who you raised her to be.

Meredith: [voiceover] We have to keep reinventing ourselves almost every minute because the world can change in an instant, and there's no time for looking back. Sometimes the changes are forced on us, sometimes they happen by accident, and we make the most of them. We have to constantly come up with new ways to fix ourselves. So we change, we adapt, we create new versions of ourselves. We just need to be sure that this one is an improvement over the last. Meredith: [voiceover] They take pictures of mountain climbers at the top of a mountain. Theyre smiling, ecstatic, triumphant. They dont take pictures along the way cos who wants to remember the rest of it. We push ourselves because we have to, not because we like it. The relentless climb, the pain and anguish of taking it to the next level. Nobody takes pictures of that. Nobody wants to remember. We just wanna remember the view from the top. The breathtaking moment at the edge of the world. Thats what keeps us climbing. And its worth the pain. Thats the crazy part. Its worth anything. Meredith: [voiceover] No matter how thick-skinned we try to be, theres millions of electrifying nerve endings in there. Open and exposed and feeling way too much. Try as we might from feeling pain. Sometimes its just unavoidable. Sometimes, thats the only thing left: just feeling.