Loving involves two phases. The first intuitive one is loving the person because of who he/she is.

The second nobler one is loving the person despite of who he/she is not. The first one sparks love. The second one makes it last. Somebody once told me that : "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong...it is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there...you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you...and don't rush things coz somewhere, somehow God is preparing somebody for you." Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship. You're right,there's no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try. You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made. If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it. You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell for the rest of your life. It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself. We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity. We call it love when we're too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we're too much dependent to themWe call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurityBut no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy or beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it can also make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy.... it makes sense, huh! HhhhaaayyyLove=) God Bless! *. So this is Love? Many had defined Love as a wonderful feeling. a feeling that's makes you happy, contented and inspired all the time. The one that makes you smile every morning of the day thinking of that special person is the reason why there is such a word "Love" that exist in your everyday lives. And makes you feel excited every night...hmm... excited to wake up the next morning to be with him/her again. But let's not forget the next line that was attached to the meaning of it. a line that must be the center of the definition of love. "Love is a wonderful feeling THOUGH it really HURTS sometimes." Many of us have experienced the true meaning of Love. I may say that they're lucky to have someone that loves them the same way they want to be loved. They're the ha! ppy couples who exchange sweet things to each other, saying the three words they've been longing to hear everyday such as I Love You, I Miss You and I need You, calling each other with those corny endearments such as Honey, Baby, Mahal, Love, Bhe etc.. They're the partners who hold each other hands, hugging and kissing in times of "paglalambingan", and talking to each other every night even though they've been together the whole day. But let's not forget those who were single. Those who experienced to be dumped by the one they loved. Those who were forgotten by their special someone. Those who longed for the attention and love of the one they secretly adore. Those who were waiting for their destined partners to come. Those who celebrate their holidays like Christmas and Valentine's Day alone. Those who were stocked on the middle of the situation not knowing what had happened on the relationship. And those who left by there partner not having the chance to know the reasons why it happened. Not all partners are meant to each other. Some relationship lasts for a lifetime and some are just for a short period of time. Lifetime. if they are devoted to each other, promising that they will pass all the trials that will come. And short period of a time, if the amount of love to each other are not equal. At this situation, this goes the saying..."Love fails when the other one loves too much and the other one loves too little". Or maybe...there's really NO love or chemistry in the relationship that's why you just have to let it go. That's the saddest part of Love...when all of your hopes and dreams are shattered into pieces. When the love that you feel only brings you tears and pain. When the person you love is not able to wipe your tears and stopped the pain that you feel. When all of your expectations to him/her disappoints you, and when he/she makes you realize that there is really no such thing as love. Not all love is sweet. Not all love is forever. It hurts a lot of people especially when it comes into the wrong time. It really hurts a lot, to the point that you think that you're already hopeless. You think that no other person can make you feel the same way as you felt to that person who caused you a lot of pain. But you're wrong!! To all of us those who are not yet lucky to find the missing half of their heart... to those who are waiting for someone to fill the space between their fingers... and to those who were still mending their broken heart, don't you worry, you're not alone in this world. Don't rush in love, like what they say "Only fools rush in". They're still a lot of things in life that you can enjoy... As long as you are waiting, it will never comes... Let it be the one to find you and don't be afraid to fall in love again and again. I know somewhere, somehow...there is a person that will come and save us from this emptiness and loneliness... And when that day comes, don't ever let it go... *. A LESSON ON LOVE... Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly. Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will not rain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. On one of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late. Remember, you may find love and lose it but,

"WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER HAVE TO DIE WITH IT." Remember that you cannot be a redeemer all your lif e. The best way to weigh a relationship is out in the test of fire. You cannot be a prisoner of your mistake forever. Remember, we all fail and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life. Loving is always a learning process. With love, we learn how to care and sacrifice. We learn to share and reach out. We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can. And when everything doesn't end well, we learn how it feels to fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on. This is where we learn that "LIFE DOESN'T END WHERE OUR HEARTACHES BEGIN". THERE IS NO FUTURE IN A RELATIONSHIP OF LIES AND SELFISHNESS. It's true, there's life in love. But, there can still be life even after losing love if yo u leave the past behind and let your heart heal and give you the chance to find yourself again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that: "HAPPINESS IS NOT A MATTER OF DESTINY BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE". There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of its when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the e nd our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. "YOU DON'T HAVE TO FORGET SOMEONE YOU LOVE. WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN IS HOW TO ACCEPT THE VERDICT OF REALITY WITHOUT BEING BITTER OR SORRY FOR YOURSELF. YOU WOULD BETTER OFF GIVING THAT DEDICATION AND LOVE TO SOMEONE MORE DESERVING". Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow. "IF YOU LOSE LOVE, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU HAVE FAILED IN LOVE. CRY IF YOU HAVE TO, BUT MAKE SURE TO LET THE TEARS WASH AWAY THE HURT AND THE BITTERNESS THAT THE PAST LEFT YOU WITH. LET GO OF YESTERDAY AND LOVE WILL FIND ITS BACK TO YOU". And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right man when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost. A man who makes promises with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them. "IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW WE FEEL". Loving someone is never a sin. It is what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin. Don't think only of your feelings for real love doesnt have a place for selfish people. When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we NEVER easily GIVE UP on that person. Even if we get hurt badly we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive. Loving too much doesn't hurt. It is when we expect this love to be

reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered. "DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE SACRIFICE.

Just like anything else, our love grows weak and extent. Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies". God wakes us up in the midst of a storm to teach us a lesson. He takes away people we love, so we can learn to value love itself. He makes us cry so hard so we can see clearly when we open our eyes. He makes us bitter so we can realize that there is no genuine happiness if we think only of our needs and not of others. Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness is doomed from the very beginning. The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on. Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will be. "God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons. He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives and only if we put our trust in Him we can learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows". In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go. Sometimes, the end of a relationship is imposed on us, but our choice to hold on is always beyond the control of circumstances. Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us. It is a resolve we make ourselves. Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of all wounds. Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and lonely moments. There is always a hope for those who believe. There is always a chance for those who try. "Losing someone we may not be a loss at all but a blessing because someone even more is yet to come". There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but "we must always be sensitive to the signals that tell us when to rationalize and be sensible." There comes a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn't be as interested as we are because his attention is focused on someone else. There are many times when we love but don't get loved in return. There are times when the sign ahead says stop but we still stubbornly head on. We would say our love is unconditional, but if it really is, then we should never feel bad. But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour? Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about. Being in love can be the most wonderful thing we could experience but if the feeling begins to consume our whole beings, then we have to stop and let our minds and not our hearts dict ate our actions. Only when we learn to accept our fate and understand the meaning of our failures we can truly go on with life without having to look back and cry over the things that could have been but will never be...