Lesson #1 Social Quick Start 1The Elements of Being Cool + The Art of Approaching Women (MP3)

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Foreword
Welcome to your first Social Training Lab Mentorship lesson! Im excited to have you as a valued member of our 6-month training program and am looking forward to seeing your social life come to life over the next few days and weeks. Before we begin with the inaugural training, there are three important things that I need to mention to you... Member's site There is a special site created for members.
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This is where you can go to ask questions, browse through my answers to other students questions, and find out information about your mentorship. 1) Time Released Bonuses Every 45 Days. Once per quarter, youll automatically receive a FREE bonus as an active Social Training Lab subscriber. This will appear in your inbox approximately every 45 days and will include accessories and training materials to further streamline your success and help build your conversation and social skills. Additionally, there are some built-in surprises along the way at unspecified intervals. And, finally, there is a SUPER graduation bonus at the completion of your 6-month training that is literally worth more than the entire six month's subscription dues so look for that on graduation day. 2) Whats In Store The First Two Months. I want to give you just a quick look at what well be covering during the first 8 lessons in your training Weekly Written Lessons: Lesson #01: The Elements of Cool Lesson #02: The Slow Smile Lesson #03: Voice Tone (part 1) Lesson #04: Voice Tone (part 2)
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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" Lesson #05: Becoming a Leader Lesson #06: How to get people to like you (part 1) Lesson #07: How to get people to like you (part 2) Lesson #08: Social Farming

Weekly Audio Classes Audio Class #01: The Art of Approaching (w/Bobby Rio) Audio Class #02: Aggressive Attraction (w/Rob Judge) Audio Class #03: Using Openers (w/Scott McKay) Audio Class #04: Day Game (w/David Wygant) Audio Class #05: Inner Game Workshop (7 day course) Audio Class #06: Building the Lifestyle (w/Brent Smith) Audio Class #07: Social Circle Game (w/Braddock) Audio Class #08: Social Farming (w/Bobby Rio)

The first month will be the basic steps involved in becoming an all around more appealing person (dont fret veterans, Ive got some gold nuggets in these preliminary lessons for you!) and the next month will be advanced strategies for expanding and mastering various conversational strategies.

3) Why You Should Never Cancel. There are many reasons why you should stick with your membership (its great training, if you keep quitting one thing and going to another youll never get anywhere, even if you dont use it all now you can archive it to use later, etc.) but there is an all-important reason that I have to warn you about from the beginning. Each of your lessons is sequential and delivered by autoresponder. That means, if you decide to cancel and rejoin at some point in the future, youll have to start all over again with the very first lesson. There is no picking up where you left off with this training program. I *strongly* encourage you to stick with this for the entire 6 month duration trust me when I say that youll thank me in the end.
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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" Introduction In today's lesson I am going to introduce the concept of being "cool." I am also going to give to give you some guidelines for achieving this, and then I'm going to ask you to do a "self audit" where you take a realistic look at where you are and where you need to improve. This lesson references ideas from the "Confidential Social Intelligence Manuscript" which you have received a copy of with your purchase. I also mention some other podclasses in this lesson I have provided links to the mp3 files for those of you who have missed them.

The Elements of "Cool" I was hanging out with my brother on Sunday. We had just come back from a weekend of camping, and we were sitting at a table in Starbucks watching a group of young guys interact with a couple girls. My brother has the same curiosity to understand human nature as I do, so we both became fixated on the group that was nearby. There were four guys, and two attractive girls. They were all in their early twenties, and they all shared a similar fashion sense. During the weekend camping trip I had discussed the idea of "the 10 second impression," as discussed in The Manuscript, with the group of guys and girls I was with. Pretty much everyone agreed that the concept of an accurate 10 second impression was realistic. But none of us could agree on what exactly makes up a "cool" guy. As my brother and I watched the group of guys we both immediately recognized who was the leader/cool guy of the group. We could not hear the conversation that was going on, but there was an immediate transparency as to which of the guys were comfortable in the presence of the two girls+ and which of them were not. This transparency grew to a pinnacle during the point at which it was time to say goodbye to the women. The cool guys naturally bent in towards the girls, said something that made them laugh+ they teased him back by pushing his baseball hat over his eyes+ Another guy in the
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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" group comfortably hugged the girls again teasing them by whispering something in one of the girl's ears that made her jump back giggling. The other two guys were not so comfortable. These two guys sort of stood there awkwardly waiting for the girls to say goodbye to them. When the girls made eye contact with them, they both seemed unsure of whether they should go in for a hug+ make a joke like their friends did kiss on the cheek Instead they both awkwardly wavedand the girls left. The minute the girls were gone, you could see the sense of relief from the two "uncool" guys faces. They suddenly started talking more and almost shifted the way they looked. The two "cool" guys remained exactly their same fun selves. What Makes a Guy Cool? I hope by now you've developed a game plan for "ruling" a social circle. If you want to make a rock solid impression on this group+ you need to come off as "cool." People like being around cool people. Why? Cool people make you feel comfortable Cool people make you feel cool for being around them Cool people are generally fun and keep the atmosphere lively You tend to feel safer around cool people because they always seem so in control of the situation around them.

Reciprocity I've stated this before, but it is worth repeating. The principle of reciprocity is 100x more effective if the people that you're giving value to recognize you as a cool valuable person. If they don't see you as having any value they may come to take your value giving for granted. Or worse, they may come to pity you for it. Seeing it as your pale attempt to be liked. Now you don't necessarily have to have the high value of a star athlete, DJ, musician, or ultra alpha male you simply need to be "cool." How do you become cool? This got me thinking about what exactly defines a guy as being "cool." And more importantly, can it be faked?

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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" If you listened to my "Stickiness report" I spoke about how being cool is merely the act of discovering what the cool people are doing and imitating this. I claimed that you should find out what kind of clothes the cool people wear, what kind of music they listen to, what kind of slang they use, and what kind hobbies they par take in. I stand by this report one hundred percent for some of the external qualities of cool but even then, you need to you be aware of a few things 1. You need to be congruent. If you decide to dress hip hop because that is what your social circle likes you need to embody more than just the fashion and music sense. You need to "feel" it. 2. Your sense of style needs to be to the core. Every piece of clothing must align with your fashion sense. You don't want to be that guy who has one really cool surfer shirt+ but wears GAP the rest of the week. 3. You need to believable. This goes back to the Believability Report. People must believe that you really live the lifestyle you are presenting. The Internal Traits of the Cool Guy Everything in life ultimately comes down to what you possess on the inside. This will ultimately shine through and expose your true identity. I've been listening to David DeAngelo's On Being a Man program recently, and I've have been observing "cool" guys through this idea of manhood. Going back to that group of guys in Starbucks that my brother and I were dissecting and analyzing what made two of the guys project and outward appearance of cool.. while the other two guys project an outward appearance of being uncomfortable or even slightly dorky. As I discussed earlier, "cool" guys make you feel comfortable around them. This is because they are comfortable in pretty much every situation. David describes real men as being cool, calm, and comfortable in the face of the following situations: Comfort in the presence of: Class, style, refinement Beautiful women Power and high status people
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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" Paradox, uncertainty

Composure in the face of: Competition from other men Loss or setback Conflict or drama Tests from women

This is ultimately where the group of guys differed that I saw in Starbucks last weekend. The two "dorky" guys dressed the same, and basically looked the same as the other two guys. They pretty much acted the same+ until a couple attractive women entered the group. These two "dorky" guys were not able to keep comfortable in the presence of beautiful women. They also were not able to keep their composure in the face of competition from their cooler friends. They always say that your true identity is exposed in time of conflict or drama. And this is usually where the frauds are revealed. Many men, in the presence of their friends, will claim that they have the guts or ability to seduce an older woman. But many of these same men, when presented with the opportunity will shrink with their insecurities and doubts about their potential performance I've seen this many times. Ask yourself: 1. What makes me uncomfortable and what's the underlying reason for it? 2. Where do I lose composure in life? I promised with the title of this lesson that I will talk about the elements that make up a cool guy. The Elements of Cool 1. Sense of style: I am not just talking about fashion. I am talking about the total package. Cool guys generally are congruent throughout. They not only know what kind of clothes bring out their best qualities they are hip to the latest trends in music, food, and culture. This is something that can be "swiped, borrowed, or stolen" 2. Sense of humor: Cool guys tend to be able to make those around them laugh. This comes from their social intuition that allows them to recognize the irony of situations+ But it is really their comfort in the face of all others that ultimately allows this. Most of

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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" us are funny when we are with our clothes friends but our uncomfortableness stops us from displaying our humor in social situations. 3. Laid back: Cool guys don't rush for anyone. They don't change their style for anyone. Have you ever been present when someone tried to make fun of something a cool guy was wearing? The person doing the insult ALWAYS comes out looking worse than the cool guy. He is just too laid back and unaffected to care what someone thinks. 4. Uses modern hip words: Cool guys pay attention to the latest slang. They don't speak in perfect grammar. They speak in the language of their cool young counterparts. They also recognize when a phrase or saying has gone out of style and they stop using it. More importantly, they have the social intuition to use slang in moderation. 5. Confident: I think this is self explanatory, right? 6. Doesn't act above others: Have you noticed (outside of high school) that the coolest guys tend to be the most approachable. These guys don't display an arrogance or attitude that they are above anyone. Probably because of their deep core confidence, they see no need to act superior to display their dominance. However, think of all the "uncool" wannabe PUA's that sit around making fun of AFCs... yet get about the same amount of pussy as these AFCs talking a big gameDOES NOT make you cool. SELF AUDIT This week I would like all of you to do an honest self audit of yourself. Ask yourself honestly? How cool do I dress? How aware am I of pop culture and modern trends? How much does my personality change around hot women or alpha males? Do I speak cool or do I sound like a "dork"? Am I able to display the same sense of humor around people, no matter what their status is? Do I usually stay graceful under pressure? Do I pass women's shit

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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" This Week's Audio Class Download http://www.greatseducer.com/Mentorship/Week-1.zip

Additional Resources The Howitzer Method Audio Class: http://www.greatseducer.com/podpress_trac/web/74/0/Howitzer%20Method.mp3 The Chameleon Report: http://www.tsbmag.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/believability.pdf

Weekly Schedule of Activities

1. Do an honest assessment of where you stand in all of the areas discussed in this first lesson. 2. Make a list of each area that you need to improve. 3. Begin tackling one problem area ie) looking through fashion magazines, finding "hip" websites, listening to your voice in a recorder and working on flaws 4. Practice external features such as posture and facial expressions 5. Listen to Audio Class and take notes

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Coming Up Next Lesson #02: " The Slow Smile"

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A Social Training Lab Lesson: "Six Months to Social Mastery" In this lesson I reveal what many of my previous students have described as the ultimate game changer This one technique can truly change the way women react to you. Audio Class #02: "Aggressive Attraction" In this audio class Rob Judge and I discuss the idea of being "pro-active" about attracting the women you're talking to.

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