10 Playful Teases That Women Secretly Love

Being from Boston (the city of sarcasm), Ive always been a teaser at heart. Fortunately, its a critical aspect of flirting with women. When done well, it can create immense attraction and bring your conversation to the next level. Its fun and shows her that youre able to enjoy yourself so she can do the same. To understand teasing you must first understand rapport Rapport is when two people relate and connect with each other. As you talk about commonalities, share stories, and learn more about one another, you are building that rapport. These are typically safe conversations. Flirting is the essence of creating tension and breaking rapport. Youre saying something a little edgy. She could tell you to go screw yourself and its potentially unsafe (but all great endeavors are risky to begin with!). By nature, teasing is jokingly offensive. Youve got to bust her balls, sarcastically criticize her, and make her feel vulnerable in a lighthearted way. Just keep in mind these five points:

Make fun of her, not yourself. Self-deprecating, cynical, and negative humor might get a laugh but it wont get you a date. Be expressive. Smile, use your hands to gesture, and vary your vocal tonality. At the end of playful phrases, inflect your voice upward. Get passionate and physical. Exaggerate and be absurd at times. Alsolaugh with her, damn it! Ramp it up. Start with something less intense and get more personal as the interaction progresses. You couldsay something sexual very early on but if shes not invested in you, its probably going to backfire. Have real conversation, too. Dont tease her constantly, mix it up with more substantial or meaningful talk. Listen and avoid making fun of her when shes telling you something serious. As you get to know her, tease less but never stop completely the spirited attitude keeps her attracted. Flirt with everyone. Get in the habit of joking with women you meet daily. Its innocent, harmless, and good practice. Plus, youll get a lot of numbers in the process.

The following 10 examples arent only for girls at the bar. They can and should be used on dates, at parties, and occasionally over text.

Note: I wouldnt get too forward when first meeting a woman during the day. Keep it to a couple light and non-sexual teases unless you take her on an instant date right then and there. 1. Give her a silly nickname. Youre such a little brat/punk! (smiling) Dont worry sweetie/babe/pumpkin/cupcake, everything will be just fine. (jokingly comforting her) I like that youre always laughing, Im officially calling you giggles. 2. Point out something embarrassing or nerdy about her. OMG, your dimples are so adorable. You have the cutest freckles on your nose. If she does something clumsy, This is why we cant have nice things Mary! Youre such a nerd, wheres your pocket protector? 3. Mimic or mock her. If she gets jokingly mad, huff at her and make an upset face. Playfully exaggerate her accent. Repeat her words back to her with your hands on your hips. 4. Challenge her. Thumb wrestle her. If youre at a bar or club, have a silly dance off. Please girl, I would so whoop your ass in X. First one to get served at the bar pays for the others drink. 5. Treat her like a child. Oh god, youre so fired. I think somebody needs a timeout. Go sit over there and Ill get you some crayons to draw with. Dont make me spank you missy! I think youre too young to be drinking that young lady. 6. Roleplay with her. You like Dr. Who? Were officially best friends now. (put your arm around her) Thats it, were breaking up I want my letterman jacket back! Where are we running away to for our honeymoon? I was thinking Fiji. I cant believe weve been dating for three years now. Do you remember our first date? 7. Stereotype her in a humorous way. A Brooklyn girl, you packing heat? Uh oh, a lawyerI got to be careful what I say around you. Youre from Tennessee? You must listen to songs about whiskey and tractors. Oooh a musician, can you write a love song about me? 8. Tell her you wouldnt get along. I cant believe you like Twilight, we cant be friends anymore. We could never be friends, were both too stubborn. You are such bad news, I dont know if we can hang out. Youre too nice, I would corrupt you. 9. Disagree with something she said. Playfully turn your back to her. After she says she dislikes something say that you do like it or vice versa. Call her out for being rude or shallow. No way, lame! Pssh, I disagree, theres definitely good rap out there.

10. Accuse her of hitting on you or being sexually aggressive. Are you hitting on me? Get your mind out of the gutter! I see what youre doing, your feminine wiles wont work on me. No I will not hook up with you right here! Can you please stop checking out my ass? Dont look at me like that, Im not a piece of meat! Stop trying to seduce me, I know what youre up to. Hey, stop thinking those dirty thoughts we just met. Remember, teasing comes down to enjoying yourself and creating a playful dynamic. Use the examples as a guideline but start trying out your own ideas based on your personality. Youve got to take some chances the guys who always play it safe usually go home alone. What are some of your favorite ways to tease? Share your ideas below!

Are You a Real Man or Just a Nice Guy?

For the first 20 years of my life, my relationships fell into a similar pattern. Id start dating a girl, wed be amazing together, and next thing you know, Im single again. When I entered a long-term relationship during college, I thought she was the one. Two years later she broke it off and I spent months pissed off about how it was all her fault. What kind of person would leave a man who treated her so well? Who would be so heartless to throw two years away just like that? I was so good to her and this is what I get in return?

I eventually found the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and realized I had been lying to myself for years. I was anything but nice in my relationships. I was emotionally manipulative, insecure, and a downright asshole. The truth is that most nice guys dont think theyre doing anything wrong. For years they struggle to attract women and when they finally date one, they end up losing her down the line. They either keep following this path of frustration or do a 180 and try to become a douchebag to have success with women. Im here to tell you that the opposite of the nice guy is not a jerk, far from it. Jerks have short-term success and are miserable in life. I want to show you how to be the best kind of man you can be: a true gentleman. Read the contrasting lists below and see where you fall. Try to be as honest with yourself as possible. Understand that mostly everyone will have a mix and nothing is absolute. But, its a good reference to see what you can work on. Note: I stumbled upon this brilliant picture which inspired me to write my own, updated version of this. I cut out some stuff I disagreed with, added important points, and elaborated on others. If you know the original author, please contact me and I will gladly give full credit.
The Nice Guy: 1. Has low self-esteem, doesnt value himself highly. Might be out of past failures or other deep-rooted emotional issues. 2. Constantly seeks approval, validation, or attention from others, usually out of a low selfworth. Cares what everyone else thinks of him, fears disapproval. 3. Insecure with himself, doesnt feel that a high quality person (women especially) should like him. He is constantly afraid of abandonment. 4. Exhibits controlling, possessive, jealous, domineering, clingy, or suffocating behavior. Overtexts, over-calls, needs to be with that person 24/7. Makes people feel guilty when they enjoy time without him. 5. Idealizes potential mates and overlooks their flaws aka puts them on a pedestal. Does the same with relationships and devotes large amounts of emotion, time, energy, and money early on. 6. Doesnt take responsibility for his actions. Never admits fault and wrongly blames others. 7. Claims hes victimized, attributes his own flaws and shortcomings to external circumstances and/or other people. 8. Kisses-up and is totally agreeable to try and score points with people, especially women. Will never disagree for fear of upsetting her. Places his needs last and tries to satisfy everyone else before him. 9. Never leads, is submissive, and always wants to make sure everything he does is okay with her. Overly apologetic and says sorry when theres nothing to apologize for. 10. Doesnt draw boundaries, gives women whatever they want in return for love, sex, or approval. Accepts second-class behavior for the possible reward of the aforementioned. Doesnt say no even when he knows its the right thing to do. 11. Often hides his true feelings and bottles them up inside. Afraid to speak his mind and may lie or omit things. 12. Immature and throws tantrums when he doesnt get his way. Lacks social etiquette and awareness.

13. Displays poor/weak body language. Makes little or no eye contact, leans forward out of nervousness, and has fast/jerky movements. Possesses nervous ticks/fidgety habits, keeps hands in his pockets, exhibits bad posture, and doesnt stand up straight. 14. Is easily emotionally destabilized, gets worked up over meaningless things. Loses his cool and has outbursts of anger. 15. Constantly uses self-deprecating humor to get approval, sympathy, or pity. 16. Feels guilty for his natural sexual desires, even for simply looking at a woman. Represses his sexuality and ends up in the friend zone. Gets frustrated, angry, and misogynistic towards women because of it. 17. Whines and complains, usually to get pity or sympathy. Has a negative attitude and a cynical outlook on life. 18. Favors instant gratification and short-sighted thinking. Hes not willing to put in the effort or dedication needed to accomplish tasks. Does not give credit to what others achieve and thinks he could easily do it better than them. 19. Feels the need to compensate for himself through gifts or expensive restaurants. Needs to prove his worth by showing his money or status early on. 20. Always has strings attached or motives for being generous or doing favors. Expects something in return and gets angry or guilt trips when it doesnt happen exhibits manipulative behavior. 21. Judges people based on external factors such as appearance or material items. 22. Sees women primarily as sexual objects. His main goal is to have sex with them and does not care or actually listen. 23. Dependent, needs a woman to feel happy or fulfilled in life. Hates being alone and will jump into relationships that are not right for him just to be with someone.

The nice guy is the personification of the attributes in a man that women ultimately do not feel attracted to.
The Real Man: 1. Has high self-esteem, considers himself valuable and worthy, a catch. 2. Enjoys the company of others but does not seek their approval or attention to be happy. Doesnt let peoples opinions emotionally destabilize him. 3. Is self-confident and never arrogant or insecure. Possibly slightly cocky and may tease women in a friendly way. Believes hes a great person that people will love to be around. 4. Understands personal freedom and boundaries. Doesnt experience unnecessary jealousy encourages a woman to exercise her independence. 5. Appreciates the qualities in potential mates but does not over-romanticize them. Takes new relationships day by day and lets them grow naturally. Doesnt invest all his emotions, time, or money into a relationship too soon and remains a challenge. 6. Takes responsibility for all his actions and realizes when hes done something wrong. Hes not afraid to apologize and doesnt take it out on others. 7. Accepts his flaws and does not make excuses for them. Works to actively improve and fix them rather than complain. 8. Will agree when he legitimately agrees but has his own thoughts and values. He stands up for them without being argumentative or causing a scene. Makes fulfilling his needs a priority before trying to satisfy everyone elses. 9. Isnt afraid to lead and take control of a situation. Doesnt hesitate to move forward, but is willing to let others take charge if needed. His apologies are meaningful because theyre used sincerely and when necessary.

10. Understands his boundaries and doesnt tolerate disrespect to himself, his property, or his time. Doesnt let women use their sexual power to get anything (whether it be money or self-respect) from him. Not afraid to put someone in their place when they are out of line. 11. Can be brutally honest (while still being respectful) with everyone, including himself. Isnt afraid to speak his mind. 12. Mature in every sense of the word. Compromises, respects social etiquette, and is aware of other people. 13. Displays strong, confident body language. Holds good eye contact, stands tall with his shoulders back and arms open. He moves deliberately with purpose and speaks with a clear, confident voice. 14. Is in control of his emotions, doesnt let meaningless issues bother him. Stays calm under pressure and doesnt lash out against others. 15. Makes people laugh without always resorting to tearing himself down. 16. Never feels ashamed for his sexual desires and needs. Always sexually confident. Shows his intentions while generating attraction and sexual chemistry with the opposite sex. Loves women and has no ill feelings towards them. 17. Doesnt feel the need to complain for attention or sympathy. Accepts the world as it is while keeping a positive attitude. 18. Goal-oriented thinker, favors long-term gratification over short. Has a purpose in life and proactively works towards it. Challenges himself regularly to achieve what he wants out of life. Enjoys it when others shine and is inspired by their accomplishments. 19. Enjoys giving gifts and sharing expensive meals out of confidence, high-value, and because he genuinely wants to. Doesnt try to buy a girls affection early on. 20. Is generous out of the kindness of his heart. Does not expect anything in return and is happy to share value. 21. Judges people based on meaningful internal qualities such as character and personality. 22. Sees women as human beings and wants to genuinely connect with them, even if its a casual hookup. Is compassionate. 23. Is proudly independent and perfectly happy being single. Sure, hed like to find an attractive/beautiful/intelligent woman to spend time with, but he doesnt need it.

The real man is the polar opposite of the nice guy. He is the manifestation of traits in a man that women universally and naturally feel attracted to. This is the man women are talking about when they say, I wish I could just meet a nice guy. Sowho are you going to be?

5 Legendary Barney Stinson Quotes to Help You With Women

I just started watching How I Met Your Mother (I know, Im late to the party) and Im constantly inspired by Neil Patrick Harris as Barney Stinson. His fearlessness, brutal honesty, unrelenting optimism, and impeccable sense of style make him a character I can look up to (most of the time.) Granted, I dont agree with him on certain points, but damn he has some nuggets of wisdom. If youre ready to take advice from the epic NPH, then suit up!
A week? Thats like a year in hot girl time.

The longer you wait to take action with a girl, the less likely it is that something will happen. If you get her number, hit her up within 24 hours. If you want to get her on a date, ask her. If you like a girl youve been friends with, show her. If you think she looks cute in her dress, tell her. If you want to kiss her, go for it. Why play the waiting game and hope it happens? That rarely works and youll end up losing more opportunities than youll gain. Strike when the iron is hot before someone else does and while shes still interested. Great women dont wait around.
Dude, lots of chicks think that architects are hot. Think about that, you create something out of nothing. Youre like God. There is no one hotter than God.

Be proud of what you do! It doesnt matter if youre a software developer, an aspiring writer, a barista, or a male nurse. Theres value in every job and you should never downplay your abilities. Speak with passion in your voice. Software developers influence everything we do. Writers fill our hearts and minds with imagination and have the power to change the world. Without baristas wed all be tired all the time (well, most of us.) And nurses, save lives. How does your job benefit society? Who do you help? Whats exciting about it? Own your career path and I guarantee shell find it sexy.

Suits are full of joy. Theyre the sartorial equivalent of a babys smile.

You dont have to suit up every time, but always looking good is a must. Dressing well conveys a powerful message: it shows you care about your appearance and take care of yourself. You look put-together and disciplined both extremely attractive qualities in a man. Most of fashion is about good fit, matching colors, and tailoring to your personality. This article lays down the basics and if you havent seen it yet, check out Reddits Male Fashion Advice community. The sidebar is full of great stuff and they have some of the most helpful people around. Up your looks and watch how differently women respond.
Remember, its not about scoring. Its about believing you can do it, even though you probably cant.

Believe youre awesome, because you are. Seriously, theres no reason to think you cant kick ass at anything you put your mind to. Confidence is the belief in your own abilities. And even if you cant do something now, you can always practice and learn how. Always introduce yourself to the beautiful girl. Assume its going to go better than you can imagine. Assume shes so into you she cant wait to see you again. Go into every interaction expecting the best. The truth is, some of the time youre going to get rejected. Dont take it personally, weve all been there and it sucks but youll get over it. Without those learning experiences, you cant grow to your full potential.
To succeed you have to stop being ordinary and be legenwait for itdary!

Exceptional women want exceptional men. It has nothing to do with being super fit or having perfect teeth, its all about your character. Are you a man of your word? Do you have class and respect? Do you hold yourself to the highest standard? How often do you step outside your comfort zone? Are you positive? Do you give a shit about people? Expect nothing less of yourself than the best, always. Yes, she deserves that much but you deserve that much, too. Thats the true meaning of a legendary man. Haaaaave you met me? Wherever you are, Im your next wingman.