Research Paper Assessment (No.

of pages: 7) Name: Prem Kamath Date: 28th October, 2012 Student ID: PremK Email: premkamath04@yahoo.com

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Inspiring Quotes for Emotionally Aware Coaches

Introduction: During these past many years as an executive coach I have been constantly looking for ways to leverage on other peoples knowledge and learn from their experience to grow into an emotionally aware coach. I have also come to realize that even though there are different types of coaching being practiced, in the end it is all about life coaching. This aspect has been further strengthened after joining this ICA program which has convinced me that executive coaching is dealing with issues of relationship dysfunctions at work. While coaching we are committed to make our clients understand them selves; they have to establish their own values whereby they can achieve happiness. Almost all my clients are at the CXO level (or one level below) and it is ironic that despite all that they have achieved to hold such high positions in organizations, they are seldom happy. Being at

the top also makes them lonely and constantly looking over their shoulder to watch out for ambitious executives who are trying to derail them and take over their position! Relevance to coaching: Once when I was coaching a rather difficult client I accidently used an interesting and inspiring quote that I had recently come across, to get my client to think of the deeper meaning behind that quote. Till then I too had let my underlying cynical belief about such so called profound thoughts being banal to make me hold back from exposing my client to the truth and optimism that can be generated. I now use a few relevant quotes at the appropriate stage in each coaching session to supercharge my coaching conversation. I started looking for inspiring quotes to enhance my repertoire and did a lot of research on the internet to home-into web-sites that list such quotes. This search and compilation is the subject of my research paper as it has become very relevant for my coaching practice as described in my model and my power tool. I have spent hours together after accessing Google for inspirational quotes to go through 35 web-sites (referenced at the end of this paper) and over 1750 quotes to look for some that are simple but powerful. I chose only quotes that were a line or two long at most but do serve as the tipping point. My short-list of 75 quotes presented herein below is what I personally find inspiring. Some of them would certainly be useful for other coaches too; however, I would urge all coaches to visit the web-sites listed under References at the end of this paper to compile a list of what adds value to their own coaching process. I would like to acknowledge each of the enlightened people who have either created these quotes or compiled them in these web-sites for other people to live them and grow as emotionally aware human beings. Coaching Application: I do not bring in quotes in the first few coaching sessions because those sessions are for getting to know the person within my client, evolve the issues that are of concern, ask a lot of powerful questions about those areas of concern and leverage the GROW model to paint the canvas of what they wish to achieve. I then seek their commitment to change (not just by trying) and discuss the feedback from their 360 appraisal and observations of their conducting business meetings and the way they interact with their team. These sessions are all about the way they operate in their organizational role at or near the top and for us to develop a climate of trust and nurturing in our coaching relationship. My client by then has overcome a lot of apprehension about the coaching process and is ready for the journey into looking at life itself. It is time to apply NLP and CBT where relevant and leverage/ develop my clients EI potential to take coaching relationship to a higher plane of consciousness. It is not difficult for me by then to visualize which set of quotes from my shortlist would add tremendous value to our coaching conversation. I venture with these one by one and ask as to what the quote means to them, what picture do they see in their minds eye and whether they can illustrate an event in their life that
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conforms most to the quote(s)? Over a period of time I have learned to weave them in so naturally into the coaching conversation that it adds tremendous depth to the process.

My compilation: (in no particular order) Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you, no one would believe it. Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone. Ive learned so much from my mistakes, Im thinking of making a few more. Beware of half-truthsyou may get hold of the wrong half. When you rise in life, your friends know who you are. When you fall down, you know who your friends are! A bad attitude is like a flat tireyou cant go anywhere until you change it. Be careful who you trust. If someone will discuss others with you, they will certainly discuss you with others. Dont count the number of friends you have but the number of friends you can count on. A lot of trouble will disappear if everyone learns to talk to each other instead of talking about each other. Problems are like washing machines, they twist us, spin us and knock us around, but in the end we come out cleaner, brighter and better than before. Friends are like jewelrythe fake ones start to fade and reveal their true colors, but the real ones will always outshine the rest. Dont change so people will like you. Be yourself, the right people will love the real you. Respect those friends who find time for you in their busy schedule. But really love those friends who never see their schedule when you need them most. Its good to have money and the things that money can buy. But its good to check once in a while that you havent lost the things that money cant buy. I am thankful for the difficult people in my life. They have shown me exactly who I dont want to be. Patience is not the ability to wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while waiting.
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To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone. There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting is not with you, it is with them selves. Maturity is not when we speak big things. It is when we start understanding small things. Common sense is like a deodorant, those who need it the most, dont use it. The biggest mistake we make in our relationships: we listen only to half, understand only a quarter, think zero and react DOUBLE. The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failureif Plan A doesnt work stay cool. The alphabet has 25 more letters. When you stop chasing wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch up. Please dont judge me until you know me, dont underestimate me until youve challenged me and dont talk about me until you have talked to me. A persons most useful asset is not a head full of knowledge but a heart full of love, an ear ready to listen and a hand willing to reach out and help. How others see you is not important..how you see yourself means everything. Its easy to stand with the crowdit takes courage to stand alone. Trust a person to the extent that he feels guilty to cheat youcare for a person to the extent that he fears to lose you If you spend too much time working on your weaknesses, all you end up with is a lot more strong weaknessesDan Sullivan. Learn to admit your mistakes before someone exaggerates the story. Be the person who stays strong even when you have every reason to break down. Never break four things in life: Trust, Promise, Relationship and Heart because when they break, they dont make a noise but it pains a lot. Honesty is a very expensive gift. Dont expect it from cheap peopleWarren Buffet. We are so often caught up in reaching our destination that we forget to appreciate the journey, especially the goodness of the people we meet on the way.
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We must never limit our challengesinstead we must challenge our limits. You cant expect to be old and wise if you were never young and crazy. Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but itll get you the right ones. Worry is a total waste of time. It doesnt change anything. All it does is to steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing. Dont ever say youre not good enough. If some people cant see how amazing you are, then they are the ones who are not good enough for you. I am thankful to all those difficult people in my life as theyve shown me exactly who I do not wish to be. One day you will meet someone who doesnt care about your past because they want to be with you in the future. If someone in your life makes you forget your past, that someone is probably your future. Im not perfect. I make a lot of mistakes. But I really appreciate those people who stay with me even after knowing who I am. Running away from any problem only increases the distance from the solution. Some times some problems can only be solved if you are willing to shut your mouth and learn how to open your ears, your mind and your heart. Dont let negative toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out. The mind is like a parachuteit doesnt work unless its open. Never argue with people who drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. Having a rough time? Place your hand over your heart. Do you feel something? Thats called purpose. You are alive for a reason. Just dont give up. The secret of happiness is not doing the things you like, but liking the things that you do. Happiness and sadness run parallel to each other. When one takes a rest, the other one tends to take up the slack. Anyone who would take advantage of my weaknesses doesnt deserve my strengths. A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want but it wont go anywhere.
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Miracles happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears. Appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had The worst regret we can have in life is not for the wrong things we did, but for the many right things we did for the wrong people. Most obstacles melt away when we make up our mind to walk boldly through them. Everything in life is temporary. So if things are going good, enjoy because it wont last forever. And if things are going bad, dont worry, it cant last forever either. Do not underestimate yourself by comparing yourself with others. Its our differences that make us unique and wonderful. Every day may not be good. But there is something good in every day. Ive learned that it is not what I have in my life but who I have in my life that counts. The difference between stumbling blocks and stepping stones is how you use them. I love reading inspiring quotes. They help make my day positive and meaningful. The opinion that other people have of you is their problem, not yours. Life isnt about waiting for the storm to pass; its about learning to dance in the rain. Never be afraid to fall apart because it is an opportunity to rebuild your self the way you wish you had been all along. Stepping out of your comfort zone is never easy, but its one of the most important steps you ever take. The only way to succeed is to not worry about what anyone else is doing. When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. Helen Keller. Life is like a roller-coaster. It has its ups and downs. But its your choice to scream or enjoy the ride. Never hate people who are jealous of you but respect their jealousy because theyre the ones who think that youre better than them. When people throw stones in your path, you can choose to build a wall or a bridge.
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References: web-sites arranged in alphabetical order: www.abeautifulmessinside.com www.adicted@quotes.com www.bestimagequotes.com www.butterfunk.com www.deesecret.com www.enlightenyourday.com www.facebook.com/greenyatra www.facebook.com/IMR.4.u www.facebook.com/ispeakquote www.facebook.com/quotesforu www.facebook.com/readloveandlearn www.facebook.com/thesequotesareawesome www.facebook.com/Whollyhis www.fiveminutesofwisdom.com www.girlfromparis.com/tumblr www.gomandi.com www.Gr8ppl.Gr8thoughts.com www.Gummychocolates.com/tumblr www.happinessinyourlife.com www.heyfrancis.tumbler.com www.idlehearts.com www.illuminatingsouls.com www.inspiringshortstories.com www.intricatesimplecoloursandquotes.com/tumblr www.itotallyrelate.tumblr.com www.lifelovequotesandsayings.com www.livelifehappy.com www.millionfeelings.com www.myhotcomments.com www.pooflikemagic.com/tumblr www.positivemed.com www.quotes-4-U.com www.quotesdiary.com www.relatable.tumblr.com www.signsofangels.com www.spirituallythinking.blogspot.com www.suziesdailyquotes.com www.thesilverpen.com www.wishhunt.com www.yourpossibleworld.com
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