STATE OF OUR HEARTS GOALS 1. To instill in the participants the right attitudes of a household leader. 2.

To make sure that Household Heads know that their most important goal is to bring their members to JESUS. I. INTRODUCTION A great deal about being a household leader depends not on what you do, but on who you are. A lot of it has to do with the state of the heart. A Household leader should have a heart for God and a heart for His people. Do not let anyone look down on you because you are young, but be an example of love, faith and purity. 1 Timothy 4:12 We are reminded that it not our age that will determine our response to be household leaders but what is in our hearts and the actions that we do. II A HEART FOR GOD

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength Matt.22 A. A household leader should have a deep love for God 1. It must be clear to him how much God has blessed him. 2. He understands that he is serving, not because he has the skill for it, but because he wants to thank God for the love he has received by helping others experience it too. 3. A household leader must be prayerful. (How else can he ask the Lord to teach him how to care for his members.) B. A Household leader knows that his number one role and goal is to bring his members to Jesus 1. Jesus Saves He knows that no amount of his own love, or guidance or processing can heal and change his members He knows only Jesus saves.

2. His mission statement is Before my members leave the Household, they must have felt and seen Jesus! He looks for opportunities to help them be more aware and open to Gods presence Praisefests, prayer meetings, household meetings, fellowship, honoring sessions, mission trips / youth camps, conferences etc Like Martha and Mary, we should have a heart that listens to God in order for us to be like Martha in taking care of other people. We work as hard as Martha but we remained fixed on Jesus like Mary. III. A HEART FOR GODS PEOPLE and love your neighbor as yourself. Matt. 22 Zeal for Righteousness Christians can be classified into three groups 1. Those who are Christian by name alone These are people who have been baptized as Christians but have no desire to know Jesus or to follow His teaching 2. Those who are content with their own righteousness This is much better than the first These are the ones who go to prayer meetings, who listen to talks and love the feeling of being in a conference or a Praise-fest. However this still falls short of Gods call. 3. Those who desire righteousness for others as much as for themselves This is the kind of person we want to be as household heads. We should not be content until others feel as well the peace we feel when we worship in Praise-fests. We should not be content that we feel peace and are able to sleep at night. That we experience healing and have a personal relationship with God. We should deeply desire these blessings on others as well especially our members. Zeal for Righteousness means deciding to care 1. Be a Good Example 2. You should be concerned

You should be concerned that your members will need to be regularly encouraged, where they can pour their hearts out. No week should go by without the household meeting either as a group discussion session or a fellowship. 3. You should be especially concerned for the areas that often make or break a person (Family, Love life, Friends, School) 4. Take time out to call your members. Find out how they are doing midweek in between your regular Household meetings. 5. Try to have regular one-to-one sessions with your members just to grow to know and love them more. Note: Sometimes people have the impression that one-to-ones are times for correction This misconception occurs when household leaders are not able to conduct them regularly and end up having to do so on occasions when members have to be reprimanded. 6. Pray for your members and their concerns everyday Are they happy, healthy and holy? There are three questions a household leader should regularly ask about his members 1. Are they happy? Do each of my members realize his dignity? Hows his love-life, or relationships in school, family? Etc 2. Are they healthy? How are the grades of my member? Is he well? 3. Are they holy? This is probably the most important question Do they know Jesus? IV. A HEART OF A SERVANT A. As Household Leaders, we must have humble hearts 1. We should be ready to be rejected Some of your members may be difficult. And may avoid you or not take your calls 2. We should seek out your members. We have no right to be mad if our members do not attend our household meetings. We need to realize that they continue to undergo the process of evangelization We need to win them over. Go out of your way to bring them to your meetings

3. We should be teachable We should be open as to how we can better lead our Household meetings. We should regularly ask our leaders (Unit Head, Coordinator, Full Time Mission Worker) for advice. 4. We can learn as much from our members as they from us. B. As Household Leaders we must have workers hearts 1. We should expect things to be difficult 2. We should go to our members and not conduct meetings considering our comfort. I. CONCLUSION Being a Household leader is difficult. Imagine having to put somebody elses concern first before yours. It is only God that can give us the grace to love.

REFLECTION 1 John 4:8,10 What is the state of your heart? What are the issues in your life that may hinder you from caring for other people? (After, participants will be grouped into households to share their thoughts regarding the talk and reflection).

COMMITMENT OF A HOUSEHOLDLEADER 1. I will care for my household members by communicating with them regularly, informing them of all YFC activities and by making their concerns my own. 2. I will bring my household members to the Lord by teaching them how to apply Christs words in their personal lives their family, friends, schooling and love life, and in praying for them always. 3. I will teach my household members to love their fellow household members. Their brothers and sisters in YFC, their family and friends and all those around them. 4. I will attend all activities of YFC that are applicable to me especially the regular household leaders training. 5. I will be a witness of Jesus Christ by being pure and righteous, faithful to my studies, loyal to my brothers and sisters in YFC, and my family especially to my parents. The Household Leaders Prayer Lord you have searched me and You know me. You know everything I do Find out if there is any unrighteousness in me and guide in the everlasting way. (Psalm 139:1-2,24) Lord Jesus, I thank you for choosing me to serve you by caring for Your people. You know me, my guilt, my sin and my pain. I realize that I am most unworthy, yet You call for me, and so I ask for your grace. Forgive my sinfulness and my stubbornness. Take my heart of stone and turn it into flesh. Teach me to love. When I lack patience, genuine concern and courage, let Your love and strength bridge the gap. Let me love with Your Love and Wisdom, and bless those I will care for that they may love. Fill me, teach me, guide me and give me strength. AMEN.