Cause of social ill among children in this modern time

Children constitute almost one-half of the six billion people on the planet. Tremendous numbers of them are suffering and dying. To reflect on violence against children is to connect with major social ills in our world today: pornographic materials,disease,Forced into Child Labor,and wars.

first,Lacking Basic Rights- With estimates of two billion people living in poverty, millions and millions of children lack basic education, health care, and housing. There are so many children who die every day. and there are so many children in all the world's under school age, who have no school to attend. Millions of others are attending schools with the barest minimum of supplies. Sexism leaves more girls than boys out of the classroom. not only lacking of basic right,children suffer and die from malnutrition, diarrhea, diphtheria, malaria, respiratory illnesses, and other diseases. AIDS has become a great threat to children; it is estimated that as many as half of the 15-year-olds will die from the disease. Tobacco, the single most lethal agent to humanity, is aggressively marketed to children, particularly in economically-developing countries; 90 percent of those who smoke begin doing so before their 18th birthday.

next,For basic survival of themselves and their families, children are forced to labor as factory and agricultural workers, as cleaners, in the sex trade, and in a host of other occupations. Even the very youngest are engaged in long hours of repetitive, often dangerous work. Sweatshops thrive on the abuse of children. Education is sacrificed.This is true around the globe, where the most dangerous occupation for children is as farm workers.

last,Children suffer the greatest effects of war: being terrorized, being maimed and killed, and having their lives totally-disrupted by the bombing and shooting. Children's health is also impacted by the loss of basic services such as water, electricity, schooling, and health care.As Refugees,Children are most at risk when their families suffer from war and other conflicts or are displaced by natural disasters.As Child Soldiers Increasingly, children are not only victims of war, but also are combatants. Some are forcibly recruited, trained, and forced to kill, others join to escape poverty, alienation, and discrimination. Girl soldiers also are prone to sexual harassment, rape, and abuse. finally,disease,Forced into Child Labor,and wars is the main cause social ills among youth in modern time.We have a generation of youth that think that they can do anything to anyone or anything. They don't repect other peoples rights and haven't had to work hard for the things that they have been given. There is also a serious breakdown within families. There needs to be more love and involvement within our own homes. It truely starts there. Too bad parents are too scared to put their foot down and disipline their kids for fear of being hauled off for child abuse. I also think their are alot of kids and teens who just want and need to be loved. They want boundries set for them. They want security. They want parents who care for and love them. Because if they don't get it at home they will find it in gangs and other places. It's just unfortunate that those are not good places to get it.
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No wonder their social lives are complicated: By the time theyre 11, most kids spend half of their waking hours with peers! Thats according to Laura S. Kastner, Ph.D., a clinical associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the University of Washington, and author of several books on parenting tweens and teens, including ParentMaps new book, Getting to Calm. Social problems are a universal experience; weve all had them. Virtually everyone has been a victim and perpetrator of social cruelty at some time, like exclusion, teasing and rejection, says Kastner. All children experiment with power, and this is just one element of that exploration. Todays hyper-connectedness further complicates matters, because kids have little downtime, says Liana Montague, a child and family therapist who works with adolescents at Friends of Youth in Issaquah. [Teens] dont separate themselves from social life enough, she says. It actually slows down their brain development. So, while children this age may seek more independence, they probably need more guidance than they think they do. Thats not to say that parents should manage their childrens social lives; quite the contrary. Experts agree that too much parental control in kids lives known as overparenting or helicopter parenting isnt helpful. On the flip side, its important that parents dont expect kids to handle it all without support and guidance. Be ready to jump in when need be, advises Kastner. What and how much to do depends on the childs age, temperament, maturity and the situation. You cant sanitize it Childhood has never been and never will be perfect, says Kastner. The goal is not to protect children from every single social bump and bruise, she says. There is no doubt that there are damaging things that we dont want to see kids endure, but, in general, its actually beneficial to survive some social bumps, says Kastner. We shouldnt be afraid to let them fail on occasion, Montague says. From failure, they learn confidence and independence. They learn resilience. Kastner agrees: How else can a child become strong without practicing a strong voice? One of the key things that parents can do to support the development of a socially competent child is to provide a loving, secure and responsive parent-child relationship, says Kastner, and research bears her out. Securely attached children have been shown to be more selfreliant, have higher self-esteem and are more well-adjusted than other kids and that prepares them to expect positive things from other social relationships and gives them crucial skills to maintain them, Kastner says. West Seattle mom Tara Brinker-Cullen says that mutual trust is a foundation of her 12-yearold sons secure attachment. When he tells me something in confidence, I always keep it in confidence, she says. Her goal? To provide a safe place for those all-important discussions about social issues.

Popularity is not happiness Kids really only need one or two friendships in order to be successful socially, Kastner says, but she recommends parents try to provide a wide range of friendship and group opportunities for their kids. Get to know your childs friends and their parents. But remember, you shouldnt try to control your childs choice of friends, even when choices baffle you. Its typical and healthy for tweens and teens to make a transition from choosing friends who are more like them to choosing friends who are quite different. Sometimes part of the child wants to be very different than he is, explains Kastner, so choosing a very different friend can help him live this out. Never bad-mouth friends, says Kastner. That strategy can backfire by forcing your child to defend his friend. It takes a long time to grow up, says Kastner. Expect messes, bad actions and massive immaturity. Its also important to remember that social lives are works in progress even for adults! Seattle mom Laura Gilliam makes a point of teaching her kids by example. When I observe or experience social situations that are interesting, I tell them what I notice and how I am feeling, she says. I want them to know its a process. Experts suggest that the most effective style of parent coaching on these issues is a low-key one. Bellevue mom Janelle Durham talks with her 12- and 15-year-old daughters about social concerns and provides suggestions if asked. But Durham is careful to stay quiet if they dont ask for her help. There have been a few times where I have observed things, but I am always careful to approach them in a way that just says, I noticed this. How do you feel about this? rather than in a way that defines something as a problem. Invite questions Clearly, a big part of helping kids through social issues is just being available to answer their questions but dont just wait around to be asked, says Montague. Continue to emphasize that you are available. And then force yourself to be available when they ask. Tera Schreiber is a freelance writer and frequently can be found coaching her three independent-minded children through their own social issues.

The Voice of Youngsters on Baby Dumping Issues in Malaysia

The killing of newborn infants is not a new phenomenon, yet modern society is still struggling with understanding the causes and the ideal way to address it. Several studies have revealed that there are remarkable similarities among the women who commit infanticide. They are socially isolated, have little or no financial independence and are emotionally immature. They are of all ethnicities and come from varying social backgrounds. In our society, we always point fingers at the mother who dumps her baby. She would not have resorted to such a desperate act if her partner was there for her, if her parents forgave her and if the communities showed some sympathy for her and the unborn child, instead of banish her. It takes two people to produce a baby. But in almost every news article about teenage pregnancies and baby dumping, there is hardly any mention of the father. For all we know, he could be a family member, a married man or even a very important person. Why is the man absolved of responsibility? And when it comes to solutions, it is also the same. Based on the current issues, it is clear that the rampant sex behavior in the community, especially among teenagers who do not think maturity. Sex behavior brings many negative impacts. Among the effects are increasing cases of abortion and baby dumping. For baby dumping cases, it is more serious implications than abortion. This result will affect not only individual but also society and that particular individual will suffer mentally and emotionally and will feel guilty in her entire life. Moreover, individuals who are making plans to throw her baby will not seek medical advice from doctors. This person is likely to experience blood loss, infection and injury during delivery. In addition, the infant mortality rate will increase because of not getting medical care and proper care. Babies that are removed will have mental problems and be extreme if not given the attention and care enough. This problem will be more serious when they become adult and extreme attitudes also will lead them to involve in crime. Other than that, there are few factors regarding the truth about baby dumping in Malaysia. Firstly, condom price is still too expensive for the poor and is hard to obtain in rural area and they can't afford to buy it. Moreover, young generation also need sex education and know how to prevent ejaculation while inside, how to wear condom, how baby were made and so on. Next, parents also don't pay enough attention to their kids and they don't even realize their daughter is pregnant. So, when there are unsupportive parents, the young mothers afraid of their parents that will chase away them if they know they are pregnant outsidemarriage. Other factors are there is too much vacant area in Malaysia that gives opportunity for people to have instant sex and dumping babies and there is too much garbage bin that located in hidden places that will give opportunity for people to dump babies. Without a strong commitment to marriage as a life goal and as an essential gift to children, todays teenagers find it much harder to come up with good reasons to say no to sex and to use birth control conscientiously. It shows that there is low awareness among the teenagers towards the sex and it can lead to the unwanted pregnancy and will lead to baby dumping. The teenagers especially girls need to know that their body is belong to themselves and no one has the right to touch it without their permission. If someone touches them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable, they have the right to tell them to stop and expect them to listen it. As mention by the Dr Ismail Thamby in the Bernama on 26 August 2010,

normally young people will not think of the consequences of their actions because they are easily driven by factors such as influence by pornographic materials on the internet, as well as they lack of religious knowledge. Most sexual behaviors involve some level of risk. It is up to us to determine how much risk we are willing to take. Some people choose to protect themselves by not engaging in any sexual behavior. Some limit their sexual activities to those that have less risk and some use condoms and contraception. We have the right to make any or all of these choices at any point in our life.

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