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Hubby holding on to last marriage

Dear Annie: I recently

if he’s

upset, he thinks it’s

married

“Kevin,”

who

has

been divorced for four years.

We decided to house. I knew

live in his we’d have

adjustment issues, but even

so, things don’t

seem to be

working out. The house is in his name only, although I pay toward

utilities, upkeep,

etc. But

everything has to be his way.

Kevin likes the

place to be

“neat,” which doesn’t mean

cleaning. It means shoving

stuff into a

cupboard so no

one sees it. Also, all of the furni - ture is from his first marriage. I want to update a few things, and he won’t let me. He says his stuff is in

good shape. E v e r y t h i n g reminds me of his ex and his previous life. I told Kevin I’d like to have a few things that we selected ourselves.

fine to upset others by using

offensive language.

He knows I don’t care for it and has tried to tone it down. But not much has changed. I’m a quiet guy and keep to myself. I don’t like conflict. So I have done noth- ing even though it bothers me and puts me in a bad mood when I hear such language. Any suggestions? — North Carolina Dear North: You must speak up if you expect any-

thing to change.

You could talk to the depart - ment head, saying that you would appreciate it if he would control his use of unprofes- sional language a bit more during working hours. He has already made

a small effort, so

your words will not

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go unheeded. You also could enlist other co-workers to speak to him, or you could go over his head and complain to a supervisor. But if asserting yourself is not possible, we can only suggest that you indicate dis- approval at the time, hop- ing he will eventually learn to modify his behavior. You also could leave the room, wear headphones or ignore him. Sorry. Dear Annie: I understand the problem of “Pastor’s Wife in the Midwest.” I am a church organist and have been stiffed by the wedding couple, as well. Playing for a wedding involves practice time, attending the rehearsal and additional hours on the day of the wedding. We also must purchase the music and deal with soloists. I play in a small coun- try church and know most of these people personally, so I don’t feel comfortable demanding a certain amount. But pastors, soloists and organists are part of the wed- ding expenses and should be compensated for these important occasions that can- not take place without them. — Here Comes the Bride and $$$

He told me the divorce drained him, and he wants to pay the house off before buying anything new. So I offered to purchase things with my own money. He said no.

When I moved in, he want- ed my belongings thrown away, yet he has drawers of junk from 10 years ago. After five months of marriage, I figured my things would be out of storage. Instead, Kevin says we have everything we need and my stuff is “dupli- cate.” But some of my pos- sessions are in better shape than his, and I’d at least like the option of going through them with him and seeing what is worth keeping. I’m just so upset, and I’m wondering whether this mar- riage is a mistake. Any sug- gestions? — Frustrated Dear Frustrated: Kevin doesn’t seem ready to com- mit to a full partnership. The two of you should be able to discuss all issues instead of one of you making unilateral decisions. But this doesn’t have to be an insurmountable problem. Explain to Kevin that you are deeply unhappy with the current situation, and ask him to come with you for some short-term counseling to work on combining your lives in a more positive way. Dear Annie: I am tired of vulgar language, especially at work. Whenever my depart- ment head becomes frustrat- ed, he thinks it’s OK to use whatever words he wants. So

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Tomorrow’s

Horoscope

By Bernice Bede Osol

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Constructive, wonderful

changes could be in the offing for you in the year ahead, especially where your social life is concerned. Your involvements with both family and friends will yield a number of valuable contacts.

SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 22)

-- Even if this is not your day off,

your energies are best suited toward pursuits that are fun or social in nature rather than related to work. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 23- Dec. 21) -- Provided you can act

independently, you could be luckier

than usual where your material

affairs are concerned. Try not to let yourself get hampered with a tagalong. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) -- If you truly believe that your plans are superior to those of your colleagues, press forward alone. Don’t let anybody hold you back.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 19) -- Your material aspects look better than usual, provided you’re enterprising and resourceful. If

you have something in mind that

you believe would add to your resources, give it a try.

PISCES (Feb. 20-March 20) -- Try to do something fun with friends who are optimistic and hopeful, if you can. Keeping company with stimulating companions will bring out your more attractive qualities.

ARIES (March 21-April

19) -- Don’t talk about your intentions prematurely, since what you say could end up being

counterproductive. Go about doing what needs doing and let the results speak for themselves.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20) -- Use your wonderful gift of expression in a manner that captures the imagination of potential allies, especially when the subject involves your latest interests.

GEMINI (May 21-June

20) -- A critical achievement is possible, but only if you narrow your focus. Additionally, be sure to acknowledge those who help you fulfill your aims.

CANCER (June 21-July 22)

-- You’re a good team player to begin with, but you may soon find an ally who will be exceptionally valuable. This partnership could

produce something special for all concerned. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) -- A substantial amount of your time is likely to be spent on helping others sort out their problems. Fortunately,

it won’t be the kind of task that you’ll resent doing.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)

-- If there’s something important that you want to work out with an important client, associate or friend, try to do so in an environment convivial to both parties. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23) -- You’ll be most successful working on some important matters that

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October 23, 2012

 

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The Voice

Go On

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Parenthood

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The X Factor

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Criminal Minds

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A&E

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Halloween 5

Halloween: Res

 

Hallown 5

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River Monsters

Life: Reborn

Life: Reborn

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Life: Reborn

BET

Meet the Browns

 

Keyshia &

Soul Man

Sleep!

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Flipping Out

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CMT

Reba

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CNN

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Make Your Mark: Shake It

 

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Gravity

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Twilight: New Moon

 

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Love It or List It

Property

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Hunters

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Office

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Of Mice and Men

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19 Kids

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Extreme

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The Mentalist

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Rizzoli & Isles

Leverage

The Closer

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Family Guy

Chicken

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Bizarre Foods

Airport 2

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Planet Rock: Hip Hop

 

Rehab With Dr. Drew

Basketball Wives LA

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Chrissy

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How I Met

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Funniest Home Videos

Rules

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Harry Potter

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The Sitter

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