Great sex recipe - Kleinplatz Eight specific components of great sex as per Kleinplatz s findings 1.

Being present, focused and embodied. Great sex entails complete and total immersion in the present moment. Great sex requires the partners to be in it all the way. They cannot become spectators of their own performance, judges or critics. They cannot be groggy, distracted, or absent-minded. Full presence in the moment is the most important component of su blime sex according to these data. In great sex, the past is gone, the future is absent, the outside world ceases. Transcendent sex "forgets everything about ot hers" as the song goes. There are only two realities involved: 'now,' and 'us.' 2. Connection, alignment, merger, being in sync. Extraordinary sex requires a strong relational foundation. Transcendent sex requ ires a deep and strong connection between the partners a sense of synchronicity; a n effortless 'click' and plenty of chemistry . It involves a confluence, the sense of two merging into each other of the kind frequently described in poetry and so ng: two hearts become one. 3. Deep sexual and erotic intimacy. In great sex, sexual attraction is combined with a sense of security and emotion al closeness between partners. This involves a complete acceptance of self and t he other. The partners extend each other deep human dignity, in sex and beyond. 4. Extraordinary communication, heightened empathy. In great sex there is real mutual attentiveness, mutual support, absolute openne ss, and the ability to express desires without fear and with sensitivity and ale rtness to the partner s reactions. 5. Authenticity, being genuine and uninhibited; transparency. Extraordinary sex is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. It i s a finely tuned ensemble. It involves an authentic expression of yourself witho ut reservations and without keeping score. You feel free to do anything, show ev erything, see everything, feel everything, and say everything, without embarrass ment, without guilt, and without considerations of what will or what will not be later. Transcendent sex is spontaneous, courageous, creative, generous, liberat ed, and liberating. 6. Transcendence, bliss, peace, transformation, healing. Sublime sex is experienced as harmony, joy, and happiness; as ecstasy. Transcend ent sex is a revelatory experience not only on the mental and physical levels bu t also existentially. Windows open to new realms of experience and energy. Great sex changes how we experience and understand the world, ourselves, and others. It is experienced as a revelation, often joined with mystical elements. Supreme sex is mending, restorative, curative; it heals and releases. Many participants described the experience in religious terms, as a sense of the presence of the s ublime, the divine. 7. Exploration, interpersonal risk-taking, fun. Great sex is experienced as a surprising journey, a fun ride, an enjoyable and c hallenging adventure. The partners open fully to the experience, let free their

natural curiosity, follow the instincts of discovery and revelation, and are wil ling to explore unknown regions, taste the new and different, and discover thing s about themselves. They play, laugh and enjoy. Great sex is not afraid of games , laughter, messiness and silliness. On the contrary, it allows and contains the m. 8. Vulnerability and surrender. Extraordinary sex requires us to shed our everyday defenses and come to the enco unter naked. We let go of anxieties, calculations, and ego and surrender to the encounter, the flow and the feelings in the rolling present. This is surrender i n the sense of giving giving unconditionally; giving out of love. This is Surrende r also in a sense of release, as a person who decides to jump off a cliff into t he water throws himself into the air and releases himself to the mercy of the la w of gravity. Surrender in this context also denotes deep devotion to another, f rom a position of trust and faith in the other and in the moment. In sum, the evidence suggests that wonderful sex is a human event, not a technol ogical trick. Wonderful sex is for everyone, and everyone can partake. Wonderful sex is an act of faith not in God, but in human beings. Wonderful sex does not re side in magazines and catalogs, but in the live encounter between people. Wonder ful sex comes from the depths, like fresh spring water. Wonderful sex is not afr aid of light, it is itself light. Wonderful sex is a human connection, not an in ternet connection. Wonderful sex is not a job, no need to send a resume. Wonderf ul sex is not a masquerade. Come as you are. from psychologytoday - "great sex recipe"