2008-11-20

life. and how to have one.
november 20, 2008

ALSO INSIDE
RECESSIONISTAS: Staying high-
fashion during hard times
SHINING CHIVALRY: Its not just
for King Arthur and Co.
ON YOUR MIND,
ON YOUR PLATE
The psychology behind
how and why we eat
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CONTENTS
notice 4-8 | health 9-11
contact 15-16 | play 17
manual 18-20 | reviews 21-22
speak 23
November 20, 2008
Volume 6, Issue 13
birth control pills make life
easier, but can come with some
unwanted side effects
10
bad medicine
how to meditate your
way to a calmer state 19
deep breaths
emotional eating can be fueled by everything from
childhood memories to bad days to genetics.
Jayplay explores why we reach for that cupcake with
extra frosting when were feeling unhappy or stressed.
craving comfort
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November 20, 2008
thursday, nov. 20 friday, nov. 21 saturday, nov. 22 tuesday, nov. 25
wednesday, nov. 26
Smashing Pumpkins.
Midland Theatre, 7 p.m.,
all ages, $49.50, www.
smashingpumpkins.com.
Tuesday Nite Swing.
Kansas Union, Kansas Room,
8 p.m., all ages, FREE.
Melek Taus Ensemble.
Signs of Life, 8 p.m., all ages,
FREE, www.signsofifebooks.com.
monday, nov. 24
Punch Bros./Chris
Thile. The Granada, 7 p.m.,
all ages, $18.
Fabulous Freddie
and The Doo Woops.
Knuckleheads, 7 p.m., 21+, $5.
Soulfy/Bleed the Sky/
Devastation/Incite/
Moire. The Beaumont Club,
7:30 p.m., all ages, $22, www.
myspace.com/bleedthesky.
sunday, nov. 23
As titil-
lating as
Britney
Spears
made the
school
uniform look seem, after wearing a plaid
skirt and a white polo to school every
day for the entirety of my pre-college
education, I can testify that school uni-
forms are nothing worth dancing in a
hallway about.
Dictated duds did have their perks,
though. I didnt have to anguish every
morning over what to wear, or worry
that my outft wasnt as cool as what the
girl with the locker next to mine was
wearing.
But in the sea of sameness that was
my high school, I ached to stand out
from my fellow plaid-clad counterparts.
To do so, I found myself buying obnox-
ious hot pink jewelry, gaudy headbands in
every color and neon Nikes.
I thought coming to the University
would at last provide sweet liberation
from the monotony of school uniforms.
But college only presented a new prob-
lem: I had no idea how to dress.
It was a strange feeling, waking up at
18 and realizing you dont know how to
put yourself together.
Not only did I now face the daunt-
ing task of having my clothes up to my
discretion seven days a week, but I had
no money to spend on upgrading my
wardrobe from its hot-pink-jewelry-and
-neon-Nike state.
I pined for a North Face jacket, pas-
tel Lacoste polos, a Dooney & Bourke
handbag, a Vote For Pedro shirtall
the hot fashions I spotted freshman year
while nomming on noodle salad in Oliver
dining hall.
But having no money to spend on
new clothes taught me to be resource-
ful. I found a treasure trove of vintage
shirts in my basement that had belonged
to my mom. I also realized that every
store has a clearance rack and, if perused
at the right moment, a clearance rack can
provide all the clothes your inner fashion
maven desires.
Check out Ninas story on page 4
about how to keep yourself fashionable
on a budget, and how being a recessioni-
sta is becoming a new trend in itself.
My tentative triumph over my once-
barren closet showed me that being fash-
ionable doesnt have to mean spending
lots of dough, or being a cookie-cutter
replica of everyone else.
Case in point: A few weeks ago, I de-
cided to resurrect that plaid skirt from
my school uniform days. Britney couldnt
have been completely wrong.
l Megan Hirt, editor
editors note
Editor Megan Hirt
Associate editor Sasha Roe
Photo editor Jon Goering
Designers Drew Bergman,
Peter Soto, Becky Sullivan
Contact Carly Halvorson, Matt
Hirschfeld
Health Asher Fusco, Susan
Melgren, Realle Roth
Manual Heather Melanson,
Ariel Tilson
Notice Matt Bechtold, Nina
Libby, Sean Rosner
Play Brianne Pfannenstiel,
Derek Zarda
Contact us
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venues
Film: The Day After,
25th anniversary
showing. Liberty Hall, 7
p.m., all ages, FREE.
University Dance
Company. Lied Center, 7:30
p.m., all ages, $7-$10.
Josephine Collective/
Jonas Sees in Color/
The Sailor Sequence.
The Granada, 8 p.m., all
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thesailorsequence.
Film: The Dark Knight.
Kansas Union,Woodruff
Auditorium, 8 p.m., all ages,
$2, www.suaevents.com.
Pert Near Sandstone/
Miss Alisson Olassa
and Co. Replay Lounge,
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The Floozines/GEM.
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m.,
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Job for a Cowboy/All
Shall Perish/Animosity/
Annotation of Autopsy.
The Bottleneck, 7 p.m, all ages,
$14-$15, www.myspace.com/
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Tech N9ne. Uptown
Theater, 7 p.m., all ages, $30,
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Nine Inch Nails. Mizzou
Arena, 7:30 p.m., all ages,
$29.75-$46.75.
Those People Improv.
The Granada, 8 p.m., 18+, $2.
Auditorium, 8 p.m., all ages, $2,
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Vick Chesnutt/Elf
Power/Ghosty. The
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Boo and Boo Too/Coat
Party/I Love You. Replay
Lounge, 10 p.m., all ages, $2.
Mudvayne/10 Years/
Snot. Uptown Theater, 7
p.m., all ages, $29.50.
Rick Springfeld. Midland
Theatre, 7 p.m., all ages, $37-
$77, www.rickspringfeld.com.
Auditorium, 8 p.m., all ages, $2,
www.suaevents.com.
Marc Broussard/The
Gabe Dixon Band/Josh
Hoge. The Bottleneck, 9
p.m., all ages, $16.
American Catastrophe/
The Expassionates/
Celandine. Daveys Uptown,
9 p.m., 21+, $10, www.myspace.
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The Roseline/Midwest
Dilemma/Hawley. The
Jackpot, 9 p.m., all ages, $16.
Red Lefty/The F Holes.
The Jazzhaus, 10 p.m., 21+, $4.
Lawrence ArtWalk
2008. Downtown Lawrence,
12 p.m., all ages, FREE.
Willie Nelson/Billy
Bob Thornton and the
Boxmasters. Midland
Theatre, 8 p.m., all ages, $35-
$100, www.willienelson.com.
Sebastien Grainger/
Josh Reichman Oracle
Band. Replay Lounge, 10
p.m., 21+, $3.
Smashing Pumpkins.
Midland Theater, 7 p.m.,
all ages, $49.50, www.
smashingpumpkins.com.
Escape the Fate/Skylit
Drive/Snake Eater. The
Beaumont Club, 7:30 p.m., all
ages, $13.
Graham Colton/Michael
Tolcher. The Bottleneck,
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grahamcolton.com.
Daveys Uptown
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Knuckleheads
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Midland Theatre
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Mizzou Arena
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Signs of Life
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November 20, 2008
NOTICE
By Nina Libby
nlibby@kansan.com

Buying a designer handbag for $325
doesnt seem sensible when youre racking
up student loans and struggling to make rent.
With the economy in the gutter, fashionistas
have been forced to reform their ways,
because spending a fortune on clothes is
out, and discount is in. Make way for the
recessionistasthe new name for style
mavens on a budget.
Mary Hall, marketing manager at I.B.M. in
Redondo Beach, Calif., noticed the term in Us
Weekly magazine. The article in Us gave a list
of clothes under $70 for the recessionista.
But Hall thought the clothes in the article
scored low on the classiness scale, so she
created her own Fall Bailout Package on
her blog, therecessionista.blogspot.com. The
site features Halls picks for low-budget
spenders looking for a professional look.
I thought the Vera Wang collection at
Kohls was a better choice for a recessionista
who wants to be taken seriously, Hall says.
I wanted to share my ideas with other
people looking for the same look.
For college students looking for cheap
but chic clothing, Hall suggests Targets GO
collection for dresses, TJ Maxx for cheap
designer duds and H&M for classic pieces
with great designs.
Alex Ziskind, Chicago senior, found her
Michael Kors down jacket for $66 at TJ
Maxx, 3106 Iowa St.
I look at high-fashion magazines for
ideas and then shop at cheap stores that sell
similar styles for less, Ziskind says.
Many recessionistas trade their unwanted
clothes for store credit or cash at places like
Wild Man Vintage, 939 Massachusetts St.
Owner Phil Chiles says he looks for clothing
that is well made and timeless when buying
vintage goods.
Chiles says he started shopping at thrift
shops because he collects obscure T-shirts
that couldnt be found in mainstream
department stores.
The key to shopping at a thrift store is
having an idea about what you want before
you go, and the recessionista has a knack for
sifting through all the junk to eventually fnd
a fashion gem.
Michaela Bowman, Duluth, Minn., senior,
says she makes a list of things she wants
before she goes into a thrift store.
Thrift store shopping does take a lot
of patience, Bowman says. If you go in
knowing what you want, you can focus and
fnd some really quality things.
Bowman also trades clothing with her
mother to save money. She says its a cheaper
alternative to buying vintage clothes while
still pulling off the vintage look.
Another thrift store for recessionistas
to peruse is Arizona Trading Co., 734
Massachusetts St., which buys and sells a
variety of vintage apparel.
When Tim Flattery, Onanga junior,
needed a shirt for his 21st birthday, he
went to Arizona Trading Co. to look for an
inexpensive T-shirt to match his big purchase:
a pair of Levis from Urban Outftters.
I wanted to fnd a great shirt to balance
out the expensive jeans, but I was running
low on money, Flattery says. I stopped by
ATC and found a T-shirt with a V-neck in my
Tips for staying
fabulous on a budget
Ditch the junk. If youre
dedicated to fashion, skip the tanning,
pedicures and massages that are
depleting your bank account. Orange
skin takes the attention away from
your fabulous clothes, pedicures chip
and massages are for old , rich people
with too much time. If you want to
be a recessionista, you have to have
some discipline.
Have happy hour at your
place. If you want to save some
money, have a few drinks at your
place with friends before you hit the
bars. The cost of drinks can add up,
especially if it takes more than two to
get you buzzed.
Swap clothes. Trading clothes
with your parents, siblings and friends
is a great way to score new stuff and
get rid of what you no longer want at
no extra charge.
Get thrifty. Some really cool
stuff can be found at fea markets,
garage sales, on Craigslist, eBay and
Freecyle, with prices so low its
almost stealing.
Skip the latte. Make coffee at
home instead of running to a coffee
shop for an overpriced latte.
Photo illustration by Allison Richardson
Michaela Bowman, Duluth, Minn., senior, compares similar clothing items she bought from Banana
Republic and Wal-Mart. The entire outft Bowman is wearing, including her shoes, came from her
mothers closet, proving you dont need to spend a dime to achieve a classic and trendy look.
Recessionista: Trends on a budget
Get thrifty to
stay fashion-
forward in a
down economy
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Photo illustration by Allison Richardson
Bowman bought her purse at Arizona Trading
Co., 734 Massachusetts St.. The thrift store buys
and sells vintage apparel.
favorite color: orange.
Recessionistas are also selling and
buying clothing on eBay to stay within
a reasonable budget. Brian Sears,
Lawrence senior, says eBay is his means
of staying fashion-forward in the current
world market, because there is more
to choose from there than there is in
Kansas City or Lawrence stores.
I once found a pair of vintage Harley
Davidson shoes that were modeled after
Nike Dunks from the 1980s, Sears says.
They were pretty out there, but I sold
them on eBay for $50.
Tons of vintage kicks and designer
threads can be found on eBay for
recessionistas dedicated to saving
money. Its yet another way for fashion-
driven shoppers to maintain their
trendy styles.
These shoppers are smart and savvy
in our down economy. Some scour the
pages of Vogue, Elle and GQ and keep
up on trends while looking for cheaper
alternatives that can be found at vintage
shops and stores that offer designer
looks at a discount. You, too, can look
like a million bucks without spending
a million just by changing the way you
shop.
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major-label album, Firesight, in June.
With her warm vocals, longing lyrics
and fusion of pop, jazz and folk sounds, the
24-year-old musician could be at home in
both a smoky pub or a ritzy concert hall.
While in town last Friday to perform at
the Bottleneck, Baylin chatted with Jayplay
about fashion, music and her Jayhawk con-
nections.
Q: How has Lawrence treated
you?
A: This is my frst time in Lawrence,
and Ive been told this is the only real
place in Kansas to be. I went to a little
caf, and I went to Pachamamas and Rich-
ards Music, where I almost bought a new
guitar. Its been a great time.
Q: Had you heard of the Uni-
versity of Kansas before?
A: My friend Marc Scrivo graduated
from KU, and hes who I wrote my frst
song with. And didnt your basketball
team win the championship last year? I
remember it was a crazy shot at the end!
I was watching and I almost cried. It was
so moving. It was like watching a sports
movie. Im a fan.
Q: We have an article in this
weeks issue about how to be
fashionable on a budget. Whats
your advice, and whats on your
fashion radar at the moment?
A: As long as you have some good
shoes, you can wear a basic cotton T-shirt
and a cardigan, and if your shoes are
rockin, it just pulls it off. And it helps if
you have the right accessories. Jewelry
makes a big difference. Lately, Ive been
wearing a lot of stuff from Elizabeth and
James. Its the Olsen twins new line. I
normally wouldnt say I wear that, but this
line is actually really beautiful.
Q: Our feature story this week
is on emotional eating. Whats
your favorite comfort food?
A: Sushi. I have an application on my
iPhone called Urban Spoon, and it has
saved my life. It lets me fnd the best sushi
in whatever city Im in.
Q: What has been your most
embarrassing moment?
A: When I was in seventh grade and
I was doing my speech to run for vice
president, my fy was down. I had stretch
jeans on, so it was wide open. Im still self-
conscious about my fy being down after
that. I had silky red underwear on, and to
this day I dont own silky red underwear.
Ive also tripped on wires on stage, which
is pretty embarrassing.
Q: If you could be anyone for a
day, who would you be?
A: Id love to be a pro surfer. Im so
scared of being in the water because Im
terrifed of sharks. But I know how amaz-
ing that would be to ride a massive wave
the size of a mountain. Theres no way I
would ever do something like that myself.
Q: Who was your frst rock
star crush?
A: I should just say my fance [Nathan
Followill]. Hes the drummer for Kings of
Leon. Hes my crush for life. But my frst
crush was probably Tom Petty. I wanted
to make him my boyfriend. I saw his video
with the Alice in Wonderland theme, and
there was just something cute about him.
And I really liked his music. I saw him in
concert a couple years ago, and the crush
totally came right back.
Q: What was the frst album
you ever bought?
A: After I got my little cassette player,
the frst thing I bought was Nirvanas In
Utero and Smashing Pumpkins Siamese
Dream. I got those two on the same
day, and they really changed me. I was in
fourth grade. I was hardcore, I guess. But
then I also bought Ace of Base the next
day.
Megan Hirt
with Jessie Baylin,
musician
Photo by Reid Rolls
Jessie Baylin is on tour with Matt Nathanson,
and made a stop in Lawrence Nov. 14.
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November 20, 2008
By Chris Horn
chorn@kansan.com
Fall fashions, part 1
You may wonder how I could squeeze
an entire clothing season into two col-
umns, but alas, my readers, a two-part fall
fashion miniseries awaits you. I would bet
my new pair of boots134 euro, if you
need to knowthat you already know
enough about the basics: sweaters, boots
and colors. But its the subtle European
nuances that you might be unaware of.
The frst order of business is to un-
derstand the importance of having a light-
weight trench coat in your wardrobe. The
beauty of the trench is that its a multi-
seasonal piece. A trench is essential for
the mid-temperature months between
winter and spring, and is also an asset for
any chilly April shower that may pop up.
The trench isnt necessarily unpopu-
lar in Lawrence or the United States,
but what Ive noticed in the four falls Ive
spent in Jayhawk coun-
try is an overabun-
dance of clunky
wool peacoats and
waist-length, poly-
ester mini-trench-
es, both of which
are adequate, but deserve an upgrade.
Cotton should be the key material of
your trench. The natural fber is heavier
than polyester, and cottons greater den-
sity makes it a warmer option. In terms of
style, look for a trench that sits just above
the knee and is tailored in a slim ft. This
gives the body a nice line that creates an
illusion of height.
Color options are endless, so let
your personality dictate which color
suits your lifestyle or look. If you have a
fashier wardrobe, go for a brightly col-
ored trench in yellow, green or red. If you
prefer a more classical look, its best to
stick with the basic khaki, navy or black
trench. Note: Do remember that mythi-
cal color restraintsblack versus brown,
for exampledefnitely do not pertain to
your coat.
Tailoring is key, so if you fnd yourself
lost in a hoard of oversized coats, simply
fnd a trench that works with your style
and budget, purchase it and send it to a
tailor for alterations. Prices may vary,
but from my experience, tailoring a coat
should cost about $30.
Coats are an important investment,
and your trench shouldnt be an excep-
tion. A new trench will last for years and
will always stay in style. Burberry has been
around since 1856, and its iconic trench is
still a mainstay on the racks. God knows
it was the piece I looked to for guidance
when I purchased my Zara knock-off last
year.
Mother Nature gave us a fashion hint
when she decided to change the color of
the leaves every fall. The season offers the
best time to alter your style, and what
better way to make that change than by
adding a European-inspired trench coat
to your fall ensemble?
Next issue: scarves
NOTICE
Geology TA 1: Ive never been to
a Halloween party with so many great
costumes.
Geology TA 2: Yeah. I was surprised
there were no geology costumes, though.
Geology TA 1: Wade was going to be
slutty granite, but he chickened out.
Guy 1: Ive heard Angelina Jolie is a huge
bitch.
Guy 2: The meanest celebrity I ever met
was Andrew Dice Clay.
Guy 1: (pause) Honestly, I have no idea
who that is.
Girl: (to guy friend) I thought of you the
other day. I saw a cactus shaped like a
penis. I thought of us.
Guy: I want a Pikachu tramp stamp.
Girl: Some guy at Wal-Mart tried to hit
on me. And then I saw he had diapers in
his shopping cart, and I was like, Youre
clearly a baby daddy.
Guy: You dont know that. Maybe those
were his diapers.
Guy 1: Im making a movie this weekend
and I need your help.
Guy 2: Oh yeah? What can I do?
Guy 1: Give me $150.
Guy: The best thing about B.B. King is
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illegitimatebut hes been married seven
times. Think about that for a second.
Guy 1: Haitian Bleu coffee sounds really
yummy.
Guy 2: Even Haitian boat people know
better than Tasters Choice.
Girl: I voted for Obama because hes the
one I want to see on TV comforting us
when zombies take over the world.
Guy 1: You invented something called a
meat boat?
Guy 2: Yeah, its a hot dog wrapped in
chili wrapped in a tortilla. But the problem
with the meat boat is that there are
never enough toilets.
Guy: Leftovers are for pussies.
Girl: Thats what my grandma says.
Guy 1: Stevie Ray Vaughn has to be the
best Austin City Limits act ever.
Guy 2: Oh yeah, hes completely coked-
out and just pouring sweat.
Guy 1: With a look on his face like hes
smelling the worst fart ever.
Guy 1: Ive got this new book that would
take all my Libertarian friends to task.
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Libertarian friend?
Guy 1: Oh yeah. Brians a Libertarian.
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two caterpillars fghting.
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Girl 2: A shirt that says, Will have sex
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Grammar) I think this is the frst song I
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WESCOE WIT
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November 20, 2008
NOTICE
Thanksgiving perspectives:
Students from Haskell discuss Native
American perspectives of Thanksgiving
By Matt Bechtold
mbechtold@kansan.com
Grandmas home cooking, catching up
with family, football games and full-blown
food-induced comas. These are the things
that normally come to mind when many of
us think of Thanksgiving Day.
But students at Lawrences Haskell
Indian Nations University have a much more
somber view of this holiday.
Its easy to argue that Thanksgiving Day
has lost much of its original meaning. Today,
its little more than an excuse to gather the
extended family and have dinner together.
While spending time with family is certainly
valuable, this holiday has become an overly
romanticized and commercialized story that
is insulting to many Native Americans.
Unlike Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny,
the story of the frst Thanksgiving is one
that continues to be perpetuated in our
collective notion of history, long past the age
when we learn that Santa doesnt exist. The
grade school plays depicting happy Pilgrims
and Indians bear little resemblance to the
history that we arent taught until much
later.
Derrick White, Lawrence senior at
Haskell, says the meaning of Thanksgiving
changed for him when he became a student
at Haskell and began his academic pursuits
in Native American history.
I started shifting my focus from giving
thanks on that day for the things that I have
to giving thanks for the people who have
fallen before me and the legacy that theyve
passed on, White says.
Marei Spaola, Rapid City, S.D., junior at
Haskell, says his perspective on Thanksgiving
is that its a holiday that people know about
but not one he celebrates because its
someone elses holiday and doesnt really
have meaning for him.
Robyn Neswood, St. Michaels, Ariz.,
senior at Haskell, says many families make
the most of their time off from school and
work during Thanksgiving by spending it
together.
I dont really think Indian people are
going to totally protest this day. If we have
a chance to spend some time off with our
family, were going to take it, she says.
Family comes frst for Native Americans.
Tila Salas-Brooks, Crescent City, Calif.,
freshman and student ambassador for
Haskell, says she celebrates Thanksgiving
with a feast just like everyone else.
But were more thankful for other
things, like the fact that we werent wiped
out, that were still here, she says. I feel
like were underappreciated, and because of
the pain and struggles our people have gone
through, we created a holiday that nobody
really understands.
Dan Wildcat, faculty in Indigenous and
American Indian studies at Haskell and a
Yuchi member of the Muskogee Nation of
Oklahoma, says he thinks that considering
what Thanksgiving means to Native
Americans is a positive direction to take.
Neswood says she has a son in a
predominantly white elementary school and
feels its important for elementary schools
in America to tell the story of Columbus
and Thanksgiving from an American Indian
perspective.
Thats something thats not done today,
Neswood says. I know that some schools in
Lawrence are looking to Haskell students to
come in and explain our points of view to the
kids when it comes to those federal holidays.
Id like to see more of that in the future, and
maybe that could help curb the romanticism
when it comes to Thanksgiving.
Its unlikely that Thanksgiving Day will
ever be the symbol of unity and cooperation
that the frst Thanksgiving story was
intended to commemorate.
Instead, both Wildcat and the Haskell
students suggest that perhaps a new holiday
is in order, so that a clean slate could leave
those hard feelings behind.
I wish theyd quit considering November
as the one month of the year that well
deal with Indians, Wildcat says. It would
be much better if we had a sense of the
heritage and history of the frst Americans
every day of the year.
There seems to be an awkward divide
between students at Haskell and those at
the University of Kansas. Thankfully, more
programs and cooperative efforts are taking
place. One way to bridge the gap could be as
simple as taking a class at Haskell.
You know that you can bridge it and
come down here. Thats available for KU
students, White says. I have several KU
students in my Western Civ class who come
and take classes through Haskell because it
gives a completely different perspective on
what youre learning.
The way the next generation will act
toward each other can only be improved
through education on both sides of the
issues.
I think re-education and education of
truth at a young age is whats going to be
the thing that really changes this country,
White says.
I had a lot of rage when I was younger,
says Nathan Taylor, Red Lake, Minn., senior.
But the older I got, the more I began to
understand. Once you break into it, you
fnd out who you are. Then you work from
there, work for that better day, work for the
betterment of our children, the betterment
of our people, the betterment of our inter-
race relations. Thats all we students can
do.
Bridging the gap
Photo by Julianne Kueffer
Haskell senior Nathan Taylor explains Native American perspectives on Thanksgiving in a classroom on the campus of Haskell Indian Nations University.
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November 20, 2008
HEALTH
They live in pockets and purses, rest on
tables and desks and occasionally end up
on well-trodden bar foors. And when cell
phones arent busy picking up germs from
these various locales, theyre glued to our
facespotentially covering us from ear to
mouth in bacteria.
Anything youre touch-
ing or putting near your
mouth without regu-
lar cleaning would carry
germs, says Susan Egan,
associate professor of mi-
crobiology. They could pick
up bacteria from anywhere,
really.
According to a study per-
formed at Manchester Met-
ropolitan University in the
United Kingdom, the average
cell phone is dirtier than a
run-of-the-mill toilet seat or
the bottom of a shoe. Be-
cause cell phones are usually
stored in warm, confned places such as a
pocket or purse, the accumulated germs
can easily breed.
Egan says one way to prevent catching
a cold from your cell is to talk-block your
friends, as sharing your phone just increas-
es the sources of bacteria and can spread
sickness.
If you dont share too
much, youd just be giving
yourself your own germs
over and over again,
Egan says. That would re-
duce the risk of catching
things.
If you want to go the
extra mile to ensure mo-
bile cleanliness, a compa-
ny called Wireless Wipes
offers antibacterial phone
wipes, which cost $2.95
for a pack of 10 at www.
wirelesswipes.com.
Asher Fusco
Photo illustration by Tyler Waugh
cell phones
Coming in January
What to do at KU.
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November 20, 2008
HEALTH
Pill poppin perils
The pill that allows you sexual freedom actually represses your
desire for sex and could cause you to choose the wrong partner
Susan Melgren
smelgren@kansan.com
Whether taken for its intended use
or for medicinal purposes, birth control
pills do a lot more than just prevent
pregnancy: They alter the body in many
ways. When most women go on the
pill, they focus on the benefts, such as
clearer skin, lighter and more regular
periods and, of course, the prevention of
unwanted pregnancy.
But the pill comes with a lot of
negative side effects, too. The doses of
hormones in birth control pills could
decrease your sex drive, increase
emotional problems and even cause you
to choose the wrong sexual partner.
One of the most common ways
the pill affects the female body is by
stopping production of testosterone,
the hormone linked to sexual desire.
Claudia Panzer, endocrinologist at
Comprehensive Endocrinology in
Denver, says testosterone is made in
two places in women: the ovaries and
the adrenal glands. When women take
birth control pills, however, the ovaries
shut down. Progestin, a hormone found
in all birth control pills, sends a message
to the brain telling it to stop the ovaries
from releasing an egg. Panzer says this
also stops other normal functions of
the ovaries, such as the production of
testosterone.
Although the adrenal glands still
make testosterone, the bodys reaction
to the hormones in the pill prevents this
testosterone from being used. Panzer
says high doses of estrogen in the pill
causes the liver to release hormones
called sex hormone-binding globulins,
which attach to the bodys remaining
testosterone and renders it useless.
As a result of this and the dormant
ovaries, testosterone levels drop and
many women experience a decreased
desire for sex and a decreased orgasmic
response.
Panzer says its diffcult to know how
many women have a decreased libido as
a result of their birth control pills, but
she thinks its a signifcant number. Part
of the problem in getting good statistics
is that not all women will admit to it.
Some women dont bring it to the
attention of their physician because they
feel ashamed, Panzer says.
And not all women are affected in the
same way. The longer a woman has been
taking the pill, the more pronounced the
effect is, Panzer says. But the longer shes
been on it, the more diffcult it becomes
to tell how life was different before
the pill. Panzer says many women start
taking birth control pills when theyre
teenagers, continue taking them for
many years, and then forget how they
used to feel when they were younger.
Many women on campus say they
dont think their birth control pills affect
their libidos. Only a handful reported a
change. Marisa Reongpongdit, Deerfeld,
Ill., freshman, has been taking birth
control pills for about two years, and says
she has noticed a difference. Ive never
been sexually out there. Ive always been
kind of timid, she says. But it defnitely
decreased my sex drive.
Because some women take the pill
just for medical reasons, sexual changes
many not apply to all women. Emotional
changes, however, are a side effect that all
women can notice. Sheena Drake, OB/
GYN at Heartland Womens Clinic in St.
Joseph, Mo., says the pill can have either
a positive or a negative effect when it
comes to emotional stability. For women
with severe mood swings and PMS, birth
control pills can help. Drake says the fux
in hormone levels a women has on her
natural cycle causes these mood swings,
but birth control pills supply a steady
dose of the same amount of hormones
all month long.
But the pendulum swings both ways.
Drake says birth control pills may also
worsen symptoms of depression and
create mood swings. I have patients that
swear the pill makes them moodier, she
says.
Many students say they feel moodier
on the pill, but their experiences vary.
Some students noticed a change in their
emotions, but only at frst. Reongpongdit
says the pill affected her emotions in the
beginning, but it improved after awhile.
Others, like Rachel Lazzara, Chicago
junior, noticed a drastic change. I was
defnitely a lot more emotional, she
says. Things would get to me a lot easier.
I was on edge a lot.
If emotional problems and losing
gusto in the bedroom arent enough,
recent studies published in Royal Society B:
Biological Science in the United Kingdom
have shown that women on birth
control pills often choose the wrong
partner. Normally women are attracted
to men whose immune systems and
genes differ from their owna good
genetic match by biological standards.
Mating with someone who has similar
genes not only increases your childs risk
of being unhealthy, but increases risk of
miscarriage and other fertility problems.
Mating with a person whose genes are
different from yours gives your children
a better chance of survival, the study
shows. However, women on the pill
tend to be more attracted to men with
similar immune systems. Apart from
creating problems for potential future
children, women with genetically similar
partners reported less satisfaction in
their relationships than other women.
But just because birth control pills
have a few negative side effects doesnt
mean you should stop taking them. All
drugs have their pitfallsits the price
we pay for their benefts. Birth control
pills are still one of the most
tested and most trusted methods
of contraception. So keep taking
themjust be aware of the effects
they may have on your body.
Graphics by Becka Cremer
Birth control pills have numerous
benefts, but some women also
have to deal with the pills negative
side effects.
This is
the worst
day of my
life.
Were so
much alike! Were
perfect for each
other!
Honey,
Im waiting!
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November 20, 2008
HEALTH
Many students wake up for some mind-
blowingly early classes and immediately
twist their backs, popping every vertebrae
they can get at. It feels good. Back popping
releases endorphins and increases joint
range. But it also increases your chances of
having creaky, painful joints later on, right?
Tate Janssen, chiropractor and practi-
tioner of wellness at the Janssen Clinic
of Natural Medicine in Lawrence,
says this old wives tale is actu-
ally false.
Janssen says cracking your
back is not a chiropractic ad-
justment. The popping sound
you hear is like a bag of chips be-
ing pushed, instead of pulled open.
The body builds liquid pressure
that turns into a gaseous form
carbon dioxidewhen re-
leased, and then gets reab-
sorbed. Vertebrae tend
to take 20 to 30 minutes
to settle back into nor-
mal form again.
According to Janssen,
the dangers of popping be-
fore vertebrae resettleor too
much popping in generalare hyperex-
tension or misalignment. Popping your
back could also aggravate a prior prob-
lem if one exists, which could remain
undetected until age 50 or 60.
The body is a dynamic organism,
Janssen says. Its not like a car where you
change the brakes once and youre done.
We dont have easily interchangeable parts.
You have to do general upkeep.
So while popping your back probably
wont injure you, a good back check-up
never hurts.
VERDICT: NEITHER
Meghan Nuckolls
popping your back
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FEATURE FEATURE
The Thanksgiving calorie tally
Our famished feelings frequently influence the way we feed our faces
Photo illustration by Jessica
Sain-Baird
The shock and shame of a bad grade
might lead you to have a cupcake crav-
ing. But try to think through your emo-
tions rather than scarfng them down.
While its tempting to turn to plates of goodies for a quick pick-me-up when
youre disappointed, you and your tummy will probably regret it later.
Nom nom nom: Chocolate doughnuts and other sweets often become more
attractive to us when were unhappy or stressed.
Thanksgiving is a day devoted to devouring, so its
no surprise many Americans eat (much) more than is
necessary. Going all out once each year isnt among the
worst of health offenses. After all, most Thanksgiving foods
are nutritious, but showing restraint is still important.
Heres a breakdown of what you might gulp down during
a typical Thanksgiving dinner:
Source: www.nutritiondata.com
That list is full of healthy foods. But 1,030 calories is an
excessive total for a single meal.To make Thanksgiving
healthier, avoid adding extra butter to vegetables, mashed
potatoes or rolls. Replace some of those potatoes with
extra turkeya good source of proteinand skip the post-
meal pie.
Food (single serving) Calories Fat(g) Carbs(g)
Turkey breast 117 1 0
Stuffng 177 9 22
Mashedpotatoes/Gravy 269 11 37
Dinnerroll 107 2 18
Green beans 44 0 10
Pumpkin Pie 316 14 41

Totals: 1030 37 128
By Asher Fusco
afusco@kansan.com
When I had a bad day growing up, I never
wanted to talk about it. I just wanted to eat.
Bombing a test didnt warrant discussion, it
called for more pizza. The disappointment of
unpopularity wasnt a feeling worth discussing,
but rather a feeling worth smothering in mac
and cheese.
My childhood experiences are far from
unusual. Eating to suit our moods is just one
of the complexities of consuming. We do it
in search of comfort and we do it when we
feel comfortable. We do it to live and live to
do it. We do it because of nature and we do
it because of nurture. Its often one of lifes
greatest pleasures, but can become one of
our biggest problems.
Why do we eat what we eat, howmuch we
eat, and when we eat? Much of what makes
us munch remains a mystery, but science is
slowly beginning to decode nature.
Comfort eating,
comfortable eating
The comfort food phenomenon isnt a
myth. University of Illinois research shows
that people indulge when theyre sad and hold
back when theyre happy. In the study, subjects
watched two full-length movies, one happy and
one sad.Those who sat through the tearjerker
ate 28 percent more popcorn than did the
crowd that watched the comedy. Further
studies found that people in melancholy moods
chose to eat M&Ms rather than grapes.
Theres defnitely some psychology here,
says Jennifer Cole, Cornell Food and Brand
Lab representative. One answer is childhood
memories of foods you ate when you felt safe,
loved, et cetera.
But the choice between badandgoodeating
habits on a meal-to-meal basis doesnt depend
solely on your mood. Cornell researchers
say people who are generally happy consider
their long-term decision-making carefully,
and in turn choose healthier
options. Less content people are
more likely to overlook the big
picture, picking foods that might
lead to an immediate bump of
euphoria. That euphoria comes
in different forms for different
people. For example, Katie
Rages, Hutchinson senior, enjoys
chocolate as a mood-booster,
while Joe Davis, Coventry, Conn.,
junior, relies on stuffng.
What you think of as a
comfort food and what I think of
as a comfort foodmight vary, says
Ric Steele, associate professor of
applied behavioral science. Each
of us has a different reward
center and different foods that
fulfll our expectations.
That search for a quick pick-
me-up can end regrettably, thanks
to our bodies natural attraction
to sweet and fatty foods. A study
on stress and obesity by the
University of California found
that foods high in carbohydrates
and fat can improve a persons
mood by altering the brains
chemical balance. Thats bad
news for anyone hitched to a
high-protein diet. Protein can
interrupt the mood-improving
process, forcing us to choose
between healthy and temporarily
happy.
But comfort foods dont
lure everyone. Andy Whitehead,
Leawood junior, says he doesnt
change his diet when hes upset.
I dont really get cravings when
I feel bad, Whitehead says. I
usually fnd other ways besides
food to feel better.
On the other side of the
coin, we also eat when were
comfortable. According to a
study at the University of North
Carolina, young married people
gain 25 to 50 percent more
weight over a fve-year period
than their single counterparts.
Epidemiologist Robert D.
Jeffery found that marriage was
associated with a signifcant two-
year weight gain, and divorce
with a two-year weight loss.
But the post-marriage bulge
could be as much coincidence
as fact. As we get older, were
not as active as we were in high
school or college with sports,
and more sedentary at work,
Cole says. Many people were
able to get away with bad eating
habits when they were younger
and very active, but it takes its
toll when you take the activity
factor away.
Bottom line: Our moods
control over our appetite isnt
exactly cut-and-dry.
Speeding through
our meals
Its decided: Youre going to
ask her out. Youve worked up
the courage, recited lines in your
head, and even washed your
jeans. But avoiding awkward
verbal stumbling blocks might
not be the most crucial part of
building a relationship. Often,
the food sets the mood. The
restaurant choice can be really
important, says Katie Rages. If
you go to a nice place, it might
create a certain expectation. If
you do a casual place, things feel
totally different.
That food can make or break
a date speaks to its importance
in our culture. Meals stand as
the centerpieces of many of
our celebrations. A fall Saturday
wouldnt be a Saturday without
tailgating, and tailgating wouldnt
be tailgating without a grill and a
cooler. The family dinner table
scene became a prominent piece
of Americana in the 20th century.
Thanksgiving wouldnt existor
be much funwithout the focus
on food. And believe it or not,
paying extra attention to eating
could be the key to keeping
ft, and our societys shift from
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FEATURE
communal eating to quick eating could
be one reason for our collective fattening.
When were distracted, we tend to eat
more, Steele says. The gravitation away
from the traditional family-style meal has
been, to a large degree, responsible for
our nations obesity problem, especially in
children.
Fast food got its start 92 years ago here
in Kansas, when the frst White Castle
popped up in Wichita. In the 20th century,
McDonalds, Burger King and Chick-fl-A
stores took hold across America. From
1929 to 1979, the number of restaurants
in America increased by more than 3,000
percent, while the population grew by
just 85 percent. All that dining out did a
number on Americans health. According
to the Center for Disease Control, obesity
rates in America have doubled in the past
30 years. Americas expanding waistlines
can be traced back to our innate want of
serotonin-inducing sweets, but its likely
the product of social changes, as well.
Historically, gatherings with friends have
revolved around food, Cole says. We just
eat too much now, have too many choices
and arent as active as we were.
We are what we eat
Genes arent the only things we inherit
from our parents. While the shapes of our
parents do help determine our natural
sizes, its the traits they teach that make the
most indelible mark on our eating habits.
It starts soon after birth, when a
mothers breast milk can infuence her
childs preferences. For instance, the breast
milk of a mother who eats primarily spicy
foods will train a baby to tolerate hotter
favors. Parents continue to program
their childrens bodies throughout infancy.
Children who are consistently overfed
grow accustomed to overfeeding, even if
they are taking in more calories than are
necessary. Little kids, presented with a
mountain of food, will eat until full, Steele
says. If a kid is always told, Clean your
plate, versus Eat until youre full, it affects
how much food they consume later in life.
As they grow older, overfed kids will often
continue to eat more calories than are
necessary or healthy.
As children age, parents still play an
infuential role. According to a study at
the University of Sydney in Australia, kids
who were encouraged to eat breakfast
daily were less likely to become obese.
The same went for kids who frequently sat
down to eat dinner with their families. But
our extra weight doesnt fall squarely on
our parents shoulders. Eating behavior and
its corresponding biology can be altered
over time by adopting healthier habits.
Getting a head start on training
children to like healthy foods can prevent
a long adjustment period to fruits and
vegetables later in life. According to some
studies, altering portion size is the key to
changing unhealthy eating, while others
say its possible to overhaul the brain
just by cutting down on bad food over a
long period of time. The human animal
will gravitate toward sweet and fatty-
type foods, Steele says. But that can be
overridden.
Photo illustration by Jessica Sain-Baird
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Keeping it courtly
As dated as
chivalry may seem,
some centuries-old
dating manners
deserve a second
look
By Matt Hirschfeld
mhirschfeld@kansan.com
Men and their chivalrous gestures never
cease to amaze Becca Sparling. Her freshman
year, a frst date told her he was going to buy
her fowers. The Burnsville, Minn., senior, says
the gesture made her feel awkward and so
uncomfortable she didnt want to continue
the date. In another instance, a guy friend
opened the car door for her, which threw
her pleasantly off-guard.
It made me think, Oh my God, that was
so sweet. This is what I should be expecting
from a guy, she says.
Chivalrous courtly love has seen various
forms since it conception: Bowing before a
woman in medieval times, asking a womans
father for her hand in marriage during 19th-
century, and ordering dinner at a restaurant
for a woman in the 1950s. Today, after women
have burned bras and roared for their
liberation, chivalrous gestures may no longer
seem necessary for men. The numerous
chivalrous gestures a man can attempt dance
a fne line between polite and insulting.
The real defnition of chivalry goes back
further than dating and courtship, says
Scott Farrell, founder of the Chivalry Today
Educational Program and www.chivalrytoday.
com. He says chivalrys broader sense is
about ethics and honor that are appropriate
to all aspects of life.
We all have a desire to be with someone
who is fair, honest and ethical, Farrell says.
Whats the biggest complaint that women
have about men? They say theyll call and they
never do. Theyre not honest. They say theyre
single but they really arent. All of these are
tied into the concept of honor, integrity
and fdelity that are tied into the idea of
chivalry.
Farrell says people have different ways of
expressing chivalry today. It used to be that
men always held doors open for a woman,
but now its more a sense of who gets to
the door frst opens it for someone else.
You just dont slam the door for the person
walking behind youwhether youre male
or female, he says.
Elizabeth Eby didnt have a door slam in
her face, but it felt as though she did when a
date dropped her off and sped away. The St.
Louis sophomore says her date could have
at least waited until she made it to her front
door. Just to make sure I didnt get stolen or
something, she says.
Eby says she thinks its still necessary for
men to make chivalrous gestures when going
on dates.
Bohdi Sanders, who discusses the concept
of chivalry in his book, The Wisdom Warrior,
says he has received hundreds of responses
to his book from women in their early 20s
to late 40s who say they are looking for men
who act in a chivalrous manner.
He also says women who feel that chivalry
is an unnecessary part of a date most likely
have low self-esteem and feel they dont
deserve to be treated in a chivalrous manner
because they never have been before.
When women are on a date and their
date treats them chivalrously, they really
do enjoy being treated that way after all,
Sanders says.
Mitch Voth, Wichita senior, says chivalrous
gestures are a conscious but understood
effort on his part. If a date has no reaction
to, for example, him opening a door for her,
the Wichita senior just considers it a polite
gesture.
But if they were to be like, Your mother
taught you well, or Not many guys do
thatthose side comments are what make
me conscious of them, Voth says.
A date of Jacquelyn Millers, though, was
on his way out of consciousness before the
date even started. Miller, Tulsa, Okla., senior,
says her date was drunk when she met him
at a bar for their frst date. This threw her
off, and she knew the date was at do-not-
resuscitate status when he continued to
get drunk and didnt make an effort to ask
her one question about herself. At midnight,
Miller asked him to walk her to her car.
She says that after talking even more about
himself on the walk, she was fed up and just
got in the car. He entered the nearest bar
and continued to drink.
Millers horrendous date reinforced her
belief that guys think chivalry is unimportant
because its an old-fashioned concept.
Every girl still loves the door to be held
open for her, Miller says. Every girl still
loves getting fowers and presents, and every
girl likes feeling special, whether they realize
it or not.
Photo illustration by Chance Dibben
To pay or not to pay: Some women appreciate modern-day chivalrous actions from men, such as paying for dinner, while other women might fnd such actions insulting.
Titanic-sized chivalry When the Titanic sank, 74
percent of the women on
board lived and 80 percent
of the men died. A 20-
foot statue was erected
to honor the men who
displayed their chivalrous
natures and gave up their
seats on lifeboats. The
inscription on the statue
reads: To the brave men
who perished in the wreck
of the Titanic. They gave
their lives that women and
children might be saved.
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with Matt Hirschfeld and
Francesca Chambers
and
I hooked up with a guy and he turned into
a jerk. I want to unfriend him on Facebook,
because seeing his profile brings back
painful memories. However, I dont want
to be immature and make things more
awkward. Whats the proper etiquette with
Facebook de-friending of former flames?
Michelle, senior
Matt: Nothing in the cyber world feels
worse than seeing that pink heart pop up on
your news feed with your ex-fings name next
to it. Its impossible not to click and fnd out
who is getting duped next.
Google e-mail now has a feature called
mail goggles to help users avoid embarrassing
drunk e-mailing. The feature gives you a math
problem to solve before the e-mail can be
sent. Unfortunately, Facebook doesnt offer a
similar self-control device to help you decide
if you want to see a certain persons pictures,
status updates or relationships pop up on your
computer screen.
So, Michelle, de-friend your former fame
if you cant resist the temptation. If it was
just a hook-up, dont worry about ending the
Facebook friendship. Focus more on moving on
to better people.
Then again, sometimes its more satisfying to
see a broken pink heart next to the jerks name.
You decide.
Fran: If this guy really is a jerk, he wont
care if you de-friend him. He probably wont
even notice. I dont notice people have de-
friended me until they show up in my people
you may know section, or the link to their
profle doesnt automatically appear when I type
their frst name into the search section.
I didnt notice that one guy I dated for a few
weeks had de-friended me until a year later.
Apparently he de-friended me when he saw on
his home page that I was engaged. Im not the
type of person who de-friends peopleyou
never know when you might want to access
their profles in the futureso I was extremely
angry with him at frst. But when he explained
why he had de-friended me, I understood. Its
not like we ever talked anymore, anyway.
Matt: Ketchup, like your someone
special, is an added bonus to the hamburger
of life. The meat (faux meat for you
vegetarians out there) is your life, and the
optional toppings are other added bonuses
in your life that you choose to pile on.
The bun, though, is what encompasses
the burger and makes it complete. For
some people, this is their job. For others, its
their friends and family. And for many more,
including myself, its their relationships.
You have other important matters
besides signifcant others that give you more
pleasure and a more complete feeling at the
end of the day. Theres no problem with this,
as long as you can fnd someone specials
who feel the same way.
However, once youre ready for
relationships to be more important in
your life, dont be surprised when other
hamburgers have moved on to fresher buns
and youre left alone with stale bread.
Fran: If youre the type of person who
doesnt need a relationship to be happy, more
power to you. You are a stronger person
than I am, and the majority of society.
That being said, you need to understand
that many people you will be romantically
interested in may not have the same frame
of mind. They will not be your rock, but you
will be theirs. You either need to only date
people who are as independent as you, or
you need to be extremely sensitive to the
needs of your partners.
I have been the victim of a relationship
in which the person knew how fragile I was
and knew he couldnt meet my needs but
selfshly dated me anyway. Girls are especially
likely to fnd themselves in this situation. You
can emotionally damage someone beyond
repair by dating him or her for fun while
knowing the person has serious intentions.
Dont be that guy.
Matt: Your friend knows he doesnt
spend enough time with his friends. I know
of some people who drop their friends once
theyre in a relationship and only attempt to
rekindle when theyre single again. I hope
your friend isnt this kind of person, and he
probably isnt considering you took the time
to seek advice.
Its diffcult to intrude on your friends
free time that he wants to spend with his
signifcant other. And, when looking at your
friends lives, you should be content with
what makes them happy. For your friend, this
is spending time with his boyfriend.
So, Alex, take what you can get and be
happy for your friend.
Fran: I am sorry to say I am one of those
people who disregard my friends when I am
content in a relationship. Its a behavior I am
attempting to end. Even though I know this,
it pisses me off when my friends whine or
yell at me about the amount of time I spend
with my boyfriend, and it makes me not
want to hang out with that person at all.
Confronting your friend or his boyfriend
is a bad idea. I am not saying that what is
happening to you is fair, but starting an
argument is not going to resolve this issue.
Its only going to make your friend and his
boyfriend resent you.
Bitch and Moan should not be taken as a
substitute for professional, expert advice.
Send your sex and
relationship questions to
bitchandmoan@kansan.com.
I have this great
friend who is always
with his boyfriend.
I like him, but he is
stealing my friend.
Should I confront the
problem of my friend
not spending enough
time with me, or just
leave the couple be
and take what I can
get?
Alex, sophomore
I am a very
independent person
and I consider
having someone
special in your life an
added bonus, but not
a necessity. Is this a
good way of thinking
when it comes to
relationships?
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In 2006, Taco Bell launched its fourth
meal advertising campaign, but college
students have long known that a good
meal can be the perfect ending to a late
night of revelry and merrymaking.
Lawrence is home to many late-night
eateries, including favorites such as Jimmy
Johns, Pita Pit and Pizza Shuttle. But stu-
dents looking for a fresh, home-cooked al-
ternative to greasy fast food should check
out Drakes Diner, which hosted its grand
re-opening last weekend.
Drakes Diner, 125 E. 10th St., serves
up traditional, homestyle cooking and is
open until 3 a.m. on Thursday, Friday and
Saturday. The menu includes typical break-
fast favorites as well as sandwiches like
BLTs and Reubens. Drakes also serves up
homey favorites like meat loaf, beef stew,
chili and fried chicken.
We make everything from scratch,
says owner Nancy Nguyen. Customers
come in and they eat exactly what home
cooking is like. Nothing is from a can.
So, next time you fnd yourself awake
at 2 a.m., head to Drakes Diner and enjoy
a stack of pancakes and some good con-
versation with the friendly staff.
Brianne Pfannenstiel
THIS WEEKEND: Drakes Diner
Photo by Brianne Pfannenstiel
Satisfy your late-night hunger with a plate-
ful of delicious eats at Drakes Diner.
PLAY
Buffalo Wild Wings. They have a wide variety of
wings and a good selection of beer to go with it. My
favorite wing sauce is the fery habanero sauce. It
makes me reach for more beer to cool it down.
Mark Darling, Leavenworth senior
Sylas and Maddys. Theyre open until 10:30 on the
weekend. Its great to stop by with friends late at night. I
stick with the cookies and cream.
Joel Davidson, Moberly, Mo., junior
Burrito King, because its homemade. They have re-
ally good salsa to go with your giant-sized burrito. I
always go for the chicken burritos.
Melanie McCoy, Fort Scott senior
I go to Pizza Hut for their wings.
Kate ONeill, Lenexa junior
Sonic, because sometimes their greasy food just tastes re-
ally good. They have great ice cream, and I love their pop-
corn chicken. Theres something about itI dont know
whatbut its delicious.
Abby Brandenburg, Palmyra, Mo., sophomore
Pizza Shuttle. Its always open, and they have the $5 10-
inch pizza and drink special. I always get the supreme.
Tanner Popp, Hoxie junior
Perkins. Its so homey and open all night. Its fun to go
there with friends. We dont have a Perkins back in
Wichita, so its nice.
Alexandra Avila, Wichita junior
Five Guys, near Best Buy. They have the best cheeseburger
in town, and its pretty cheap compared to Chilis.
Hamad Albati, Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, sophomore
Usually Ill hit up The Wheel if Im studying at the
library because Ill walk past it on the way home. Its
always fun to stop by after Im done because Ill be the
only sober person there.
Jesse Smith, Ottawa senior
Derek Zarda
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November 20, 2008
MANUAL
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pre-Thanksgiving treats
Baked apples
If you like apple pie, then youll love this
recipe. Baked apples are an easy way to
enjoy the taste of apple pie sans crust.
The tartness of the warm apple and the
buttery, sugary mix with a hint of cin-
namon make for a yummy fall treat.
4 tart green apples
1/2 cup brown sugar
4 tbsp. butter
2 tsp. ground cinnamon
Preheat your oven to 350 degrees. Cut
a well in the top of the apples, but dont
cut to the bottom. Cut a wide enough
well to hold all the ingredients. Stuff each
apple with two tablespoons of brown
sugar and a tablespoon of butter. Sprinkle
cinnamon on top of the apples and bake
them in a shallow dish for 15 minutes.
Source: www.allrecipes.com/Recipe/Baked-
Apples/Detail.aspx
Hot buttered
cranberry cocktail
Dont wait for Thanksgiving to get your
cranberry fx. This cranberry cocktail is
smooth and not too sweet. The slight
taste of rum with a blend of melted but-
ter, brown sugar and cinnamon balances
out the tartness of the cranberry juice
and brings forth an aroma of holiday
spices.
8 oz. Ocean Spray Cranberry Juice
Cocktail
1 cinnamon stick
3 tsp. brown sugar
Dash of ground cinnamon
2 tsp. butter
2 tbsp. gold rum
Heat the cranberry juice and cinnamon
stick in a saucepan. Place the brown
sugar, cinnamon, butter and rum in a mug.
Once the juice in the saucepan is warm,
pour it over the ingredients in the mug
and stir gently.
Source: www.oceanspray.com/planit/recipes/
cocktails/hot_buttered_cran.html
The big feast is a week away, but why not
celebrate early with a simple dessert and a
delicious cocktail that have hints of Thanksgiv-
ing hidden in them? Gather some friends to-
gether and enjoy the sweetness and warmth
of these recipes.
Heather Melanson
a mug-ful of heaven
My grandma is the queen of indulgent treats.
During the holidays, my body fat percentage
soars from nomming on her sweet peanut brittle,
heavenly pumpkin pie and glorious frosted sugar
cookies. I know I could never replicate her skill
with the oven, but during fall break, she gave me
a baking recipe that requires an appliance I do
know how to use: the microwave. Heres a deli-
cious cake recipe she gave me. But be wary the
next time you climb on your scaleits called
dangerous for a reason.
Author Gloria Hander Lyons has microwave
baking down to an art, and she wrote a book
about it titled Easy Microwave Desserts in a Mug.
She says she came up with the idea because her
husband travels a lot and she didnt want a two-
layer cake sitting on the kitchen counter calling
her name every day
for a week. Lyons
has more than 80
recipes, so if youre
inspired to do even
more mug-sized
baking, check out
her Web site, www.
bluesagepress.com.
Ariel Tilson
1 large coffee mug
4 tbsp. plain four
4 tbsp. sugar
2 tbsp. cocoa
1 egg
3 tbsp. milk
3 tbsp. cooking oil
Small splash of vanilla
1. Add the dry ingredients to the
coffee mug.
2. Mix in the egg.
3. Pour the milk, oil and vanilla into
the mug and mix well.
4. Put the mug in the microwave
and cook for three minutes on
1,000 watts.
5. Watch the magic happen as the
cake rises over the top of the
mug. Dont worryit wont
overfow.
6. Allow the cake to cool for a
couple minutes, or for however
long you can make yourself wait.
7. Gleefully devour.
Dangerous Chocolate
Cake-in-a-mug:
Photo by Heather
Melanson
Baked apples are an easy, deli-
cious alternative to making an
enitre apple pie.
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November 20, 2008
MANUAL
Exhale stress, inhale success
Meditating to ease your mind can be as simple as breathing
By Ariel Tilson
atilson@kansan.com
Its 10 p.m. on a Wednesday and you just
got off work. Tomorrow you have a paper
due, which you havent even started, your
roommate still hasnt washed the dishes
from two days ago, and your bank account
has $15. Basically, you feel like youre going
to blow a fuse. So, what are your options?
For many students, its tempting to hit the
bars when times get rough, but next time
stress threatens your sobriety, consider a
different alternative: meditation.
You dont have to follow a specifc
religion or make friends with new-age
hippies. Meditation is ideal for anyone who is
juggling too much and just needs a breather.
In other words, people like you.
Although meditation takes more work
than does chugging a few beers to ease
your mind, it has many benefts without
the hangover or the regrets. Practicing
daily meditation for even a few minutes
can train your mind to react to stressful
events without the emotion or anxiety that
amplifes problems.
A study done two years ago at the
University proved that regular meditation
increased performance and concentration.
Omri Gillath, assistant professor of social
psychology, and one of his graduate students,
Ben Clark, compared the performance
of people before and after they started
meditating. They chose people from the
community who had little or no meditation
experience, gave them informal training and
sent them home to practice. Two weeks later,
they compared the results. Not only did their
subjects have improved performance, but the
people who meditated by chanting words like
family or love also showed reduced stress
levels and increased pain tolerance.
Chanting, or reciting mantras, is one
form of meditation, but if youre more of a
visual person, it might work better to close
your eyes and visualize something relaxing.
Since she was 12, Gaywyn Moore, Wichita
graduate student, has used visualizations
to counter stress. When she has the racing
thoughts and speeding pulse that accompany
anxiety, she thinks of the number one. First
she takes a deep breath and allows the
frantic thoughts in, but as she exhales, she
imagines drawing the number one with a
pencil until her anxiety fades.
Get your Sangha on
Kansas Zen Center
The Kansas Zen Center is located at 1423
New York St., and offers a meditation
orientation for beginners at 9 a.m. on
Sundays before the centers 9:30 a.m.
service. Plan on wearing a long-sleeved
shirt, long pants and socks.
Photo illustration by Jerry Wang
You can meditate in a peaceful outdoor space, or even in the confnes of your apartment. The key is to focus your attention, watch your posture and keep practicing.
In Sanskrit, Sangha means a Buddhist community or gathering, but in Lawrence it can be an excuse to chat, eat and meditate
with others. Judy Roitman, guiding teacher and one of the founders of the Kansas Zen Center, says learning how to meditate is
like trying on clothessome clothes ft, and some dont ft. If youre having trouble fnding just the right size when it comes to
meditation, here are a few groups around town that can give you advice and support.
Monday Night Sangha
The Monday Night Sangha group is held
Mondays at 7 p.m. at 2524 Yale Road. The
group practices free-form meditation,
which means you can meditate however
you want as long as youre quiet. Mem-
bers sit in a circle and meditate for 30
minutes, and meditation is followed by a
vegetarian potluck dinner.
Free State Sangha
The Free State Sangha group meets
Wednesdays from 7:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. at
1146 Oregon St. The group has 45 min-
utes of meditation followed by 45 min-
utes of discussion.
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November 20, 2008
Photo illustration by Jerry Wang
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Shampoo
An empty bottle
3 cups soap fakes
Water
Essential oil of lavender
Essential oil of rosemary
Mix the soap fakes and
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drops of each essential oil
to the soap fake and water
mixture.
Conditioner
1 peeled and mashed
avocado
1 cup of coconut milk
Combine and mash the
avocado and coconut milk
together until smooth and
thick. Comb the mixture
into your hair. Allow it to set
for 10 to 15 minutes before
rinsing out.
Body scrub
1 tbsp. honey
1 tsp. plain yogurt
2 tbsp. fnely ground al-
monds
1/2 tsp. lemon juice
Mix ingredients together,
then gently rub on your face
for one to two minutes.
Rinse off with warm water.

Household food items like
honey and avocados can
become your new favorite
personal care products.
Rather than scrutinizing the ingre-
dients in your personal care products,
why not make your own so you know
exactly whats going on your hair and
body? Alexis Friskel, body care buyer at
The Merc, 901 Iowa St., says if you dont
recognize the ingredients in the prod-
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MANUAL
When I breathe in, I can think whatever,
but when I breathe out, I can only focus on
the one thought, Moore says.
No matter what method of meditation
you use, one thing holds true: You have to
practice. Zach Holden, Topeka senior, has
practiced meditation for more than four
years, and says regular meditation helped him
handle the strain and frustration of studying
for the GRE this fall. He tries to practice
meditation when he wakes up, or at night if
hes clear-headed and not too tired.
Holden practices shamatha, or calm
abiding meditation, which he says was taught
by Buddha and is the simplest form of
meditation. He says that it trains you to let
go of emotional attachments.
When you feel sad, you generate
thoughts that perpetuate sadness, Holden
says.
If letting go of your emotions sounds
as diffcult as letting go of your computer,
it might help to get someone to encourage
you when youre frustrated. Holden learned
his skills fromYongey Mingyur Rinpoche, a
Buddhist monk from Nepal who visits the
University every two years. Holden even
had the opportunity to live at Rinpoches
monastery in Nepal and now uses the
lessons hes learned to teach others who are
interested in meditation.
Holden says that the basic concept is to
rest while staying mindfully alert. To start your
frst meditation session, remember three
things. One, watch your back. No matter
what position you decide to sit in, always keep
your back straight. Good posture increases
consciousness and minimizes awkwardness
or discomfort.
Second, pick a sense. Holden says you
should focus your attention on one of your
senses. For instance, if you think you need
to close your eyes to focus, try listening
to all of the sounds around you without
judging or reacting. If youd rather
keep your eyes open, then focus on
an object in front of you and study
its shape or texture. If everything
fails to hold your attention, just
watch your breathing.
Finally, dont give up.
Holden says
meditation is like aerobic training, and you
cant expect to run a marathon in your frst
few attempts. When youre starting off, aim
for less than a minute of meditation, two to
three times a day.
The most challenging part of meditation
can be silencing your thoughts. In his book,
The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and
Science of Happiness, Holdens teacher,
Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, says that while
some thoughts are easy to let go of when
youre meditating, others can distract you
and lead to a chain of related thoughts.
When this happens, dont punish yourself or
get frustrated, just bring your focus back to
your breathing.
The more youre able to set aside time
to practice meditation, the more natural it
will become, and eventually youll have the
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After nearly four years since the Cures
last release, the bands long-awaited 13th
studio album, 4:13 Dream, fnally hit stores
on Oct. 28.
Led by lead singer and guitarist
Robert Smith, the Cures more than 30-
year history saw numerous changes and
developments throughout the years.
4:13 Dream is the Cure at its best.
The album showcases the more upbeat,
positive side of the band, and is a refreshing
dose of good indie musicthink Pixies
meets the new Modest Mouse.
The album grabs listeners from the
beginning with the slow and distorted
ambiance of Underneath the Stars. The
song is smooth and well-structured, and
lasts more than six minutes.
The Only One is an upbeat tune with
a catchy guitar riff, reminiscent of earlier
Cure songs, such as Just Like Heaven.
The smooth melody of Simon Gallups
bass lines comes through nicely under the
static yet tranquil riff of Smiths electric
guitar on The Reasons Why. The song
develops into a head-nodding rock tune
toward its end.
Sirensong features Smiths soothing
slide guitar over the mellow rhythm of an
acoustic guitar. A piano complements the
guitars nicely to give the tune even more
rhythm. Smiths voice is expressive and
sensitive as he sings the songs passionate
lyrics.
The release date for 4:13 Dream was
pushed back numerous times, leaving
Cure fans on the edge of their seats. But
fans can now rest assured, as the album
meets all expectations and is another
great release from the gods of indie.
Danny Nordstrom
MUSIC: The Cure, 4:13 Dream
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November 20, 2008
REVIEWS
The James Bond franchise received
a much needed overhaul with 2006s
Casino Royale. The flm moved away from
the campy tricks and drab dialogue that
had started to be Bond flm staples, and
toward a deeper and more violent type
of flm. The newest Bond fick, Quantum
of Solace, increases the smash-and-grab
violence of its predecessor, but fails to
deliver much else.
Daniel Craig plays James Bond, a British
intelligence agent who is just as focused on
serving the queen as he is any pretty lady
within a city block. As in previous Bond
flms, Agent 007 is both cool and sexy.
Craig plays him well, bringing a lost and
brooding mentality to the role. He does
seem a little one-dimensional, however,
but depth is hard to come by when youre
busy shooting sub-machine guns while
clutching the wheel of an Aston Martin.
The problem with the flm is not in
the actingwhich is spot-onbut in the
story. The plot is as confusing as it is vague,
with mentions of an underground group
simply known as Quantum, which is never
revealed. Bond himself has not developed
further from Casino, and love interest
Camille, played well by Olga Kurylenko, is
hardly developed at all.
The flms main attraction may also be
its biggest drawback: the special effects. The
computer-generated brawls and exploding
buildings look exquisite, but feel like they
dont belong in a James Bond flm. Sure,
they make you gasp and make your eyes
light up, but they leave you wanting more.
Where is the James Bond everyone knows
and loves? It seems the raw suspense and
tactfulness developed in early Bond flms
and echoed some in Casino are gone. What
is left are detailed effects and a drab story
that takes the plot nowhere.
Quantum is meant to be the second
flm in a trilogy, but it fails to build on the
flm before it. For Bond fanatics, this movie
is worth seeing, but for everyone else, you
wont miss much by avoiding this one.
Mark Arehart
MOVIE: Quantum of Solace
In many ways, Lady Gaga is Justin
Timberlakes new female counterpart. Like
Timberlakes 2006 release, Future Sex/Love
Sounds, her album The Fame is a futuristic
voyage of spaceship rock, full of electro-
pop hooks and dance foor come-ons.
Many people are familiar with her
fabulous frst single, Just Dance, an instantly
catchy track thats nearly impossible not to
dance to. There are many more like it on
this almost entirely upbeat album, including
the easy-to-sing-along-to track Boys Boys
Boys, the Mariah Carey-esque Eh Eh
(Nothing Else I Can Say), and Starstruck,
which features an obligatory rap from Flo
Rida. The only slow track is the electric
guitar and piano driven Brown Eyes.
While the album is great for a night out,
it does leave the listener with a sense of a
void, similar to what one might feel after
too much partying. Theres glamor and
intrigue on the surface, but listeners will
only fnd an empty hole as they try to delve
deeper. The music, just like one of the song
titles, is all about feeling Beautiful, Dirty,
Rich.
The Fame is the Paris Hilton of albums: It
might be a good time for awhile, but youll
ultimately move on to something else.
Elise Stawarz
MUSIC: Lady Gaga, The Fame
With Taylor Swifts list of accomplishments
and awards gained throughout the past two
years, her new album, Fearless, is appropriately
titled. Fearless is the perfect description of
Swifts ability to boldly reveal her thoughts
and emotions with lyrics that are familiar to
her fans without being clich.
Swifts music speaks to every emotion.
When shes in love, she sings about it, and
her adoration shines through. When shes
upset about a break-up, she sings about that,
too, and her sad or angry feelings are as
equally heartfelt as her happy ones.
Love Story, the albums frst single, is
an adorable and enchanting, well, love story.
The song even has a reference to Romeo
and Juliets clandestine romance. The albums
title track describes a head-over-heels
relationship that makes her feel fearless,
and Change is a revved-up anthem calling
for a revolution. On the sad side of the
album, Forever & Always expresses Swifts
disappointment in a failed relationship, and
Tell Me Why is a fast-paced tune with an
angry message about a boy who knows how
to ruin someones perfect day. Her lyrics
read like a page in a diary, and her music
is easy on the ears. Her country isnt too
country, and her pop isnt too pop.
Swift is a new brand of teenage
superstar. Unlike some of her rehab-ridden
contemporaries, she continues to propel
herself forward with maturity and dignity.
Her songs subject matter is youthful, but
her ability to write songs that appeal to
so many is mature. Her humble honesty
and genuine attitude make Fearless a truly
enjoyable album.
Amanda Sorell
MUSIC: Taylor Swift, Fearless
23
November 20, 2008
SPEAK
By Sean Rosner
srosner@kansan.com
Monday, Oct. 1, 2007: From my window
seat on an airplane fying from Rome to
Athens, I can see lands and seas that I cannot
identify. I am in no way concerned about this,
and I can barely sit still with excitement to
get out and explore it all. Back in Kansas, my
friends are slapping at alarm clock snooze
buttons, and I am halfway across the world
overlooking clouds and islands and mountain
ranges.
This excerpt from my journal is the
perfect snapshot of my fall 2007 study
abroad experience. I spent a semester using
Paderno del Grappa, Italy, as a home-base
while I traveled to France, Greece, Spain, the
Netherlands, and all over Italy.
The three months I spent in Europe
were the best of my life. I enjoyed them for
more than just the beautiful landscapes I was
surrounded by. I was free from the stresses
of everyday life, traveling every weekend and
waking up every morning excited about the
new things I would see that day. From famous
sites like the ancient ruins in Rome to tiny
corner stores flled with foreign goodies, I
approached everything with an enthusiasm
to learn more about the world.
After visiting art museums and eating
crpes in Paris, I few back to the United
States on a snowy night in mid-December.
I was excited during the frst couple days
catching up with family and friends, but then
found myself wondering, What do I do
now? Study abroad orientations prepare
you for culture shock and the diffculties of
adjusting to life in a new country. What they
dont prepare you for is coming back home.
This was an unexpected diffculty for me.
If I had to pin down the biggest infuence
that going abroad has had on my life, it would
be that it made me restless. Maybe I read
too many Jack Kerouac novels in high school
that glamorized life in transit. But coming
back to the United States was depressing. I
left Italys winding cobblestone streets and
crowded trains for a frost-bitten Kansas
winter and hours of homework every night.
The combination of brutal cold and the
stresses of school took its toll on me, and I
began to lose all the enthusiasm for life I had
built up over the previous months. I found
myself huddling in front of my space heater
and wishing I had stayed in Italy.
You can see my descent by looking
through my journal. Eight posts in
October, seven posts in November,
seven in December, four in January. One
post in February. One post in March. No
posts in April. The inspiration to write
had come easily in the fall. The thoughts
and words fowed through my pen as I
hastily scribbled through the pages of my
moleskin notebook. But through winter
and spring, I was speechless.
My post from May 21, 2008, sums it up:
I havent written here in quite a long time.
I havent written anywhere for quite a long
time. I would like to say this is because I
have been busy, but that wouldnt be true.
I havent written because I havent had
anything to write about.
Once the spring semester ended, I fnally
got some time to think about the downward
spiral I had gone through. I realized that it
wasnt being in Kansas that depressed me. I
love being in Lawrence and being with all the
friends Ive made here. The real culprit was
the stationary lifestyle I had settled into. I just
needed to get out and travel.
So I did. Because I wasnt able to travel to
foreign countries, I decided to travel around
the country I live in. My frst trip out of
Kansas was with my girlfriend to Dallas for
a concert. I spent three days driving around
sweating in the Texas heat because the air
conditioning in my car doesnt work. This
might not sound like a good way to spend
a weekend, but it was just what I needed to
get out of my funk.
A week later, I took a fight to Denver
to visit my two older sisters. I had forgotten
how much I enjoy being in airports, seeing
business people with briefcases hurry past
or loved ones reuniting. Everyone there
has somewhere to go and something to
do, and I like being included in that group.
In Denver, I spent an entire day wandering
through the downtown area alone. I wasnt
seeing any world-famous landmarks, but I
was breaking from my daily routine, seeing
new things and missing out on less of the
world.
Traveling isnt just about seeing new
places and meeting new people. Its about
growing as a person. Its about being in
unfamiliar situations and not being scared,
knowing I will be fne. After my semester
in Europe, I gained a sense of independence
that will stay with me for the rest of my
life. Its empowering, and its something I will
never be able to give up.
Road relief
A semester abroad left me with a
serious case of wanderlust
Contributed Photos
(Top) Sean at the Parthenon in Athens, Greece, which was built in the ffth century B.C. as a temple for the
Greek goddess Athena. (Above) Sean on the Venetian island of Murano, which is about a mile north of Venice,
Italy, and is famous for its glass making.
Jayplay
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