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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Why Live An Ordinary Life, When You Could Live An Extraordinary One?__________________________________4 Following The Steps Down The Yellow Brick Road_________5 10 Pillars Of Life____________________________________8 10 Pillars of Life Daily Checklists______________________11 Brainstorm Daily Routines____________________________13 Creating My Ideal Day_______________________________14 Brainstorm Weekly Routine___________________________15 Get Clear On Your Week_____________________________16 Daily Action Plans__________________________________17 Getting Clear On What You Want______________________41 Final Note________________________________________43

"In business or in football, it takes a lot of unspectacular preparation to produce spectacular results."-- Roger Staubach, Hall of Fame Football Player

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Why Live An Ordinary Life, When You Could Live An E xtraordinary One?
It never ceases to amaze me how many people settle for ordinary. Going through their mundane days, hoping that tomorrow will be better, but doing little to ensure that it will be so. I believe the saying goes, What is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing as expecting a different result. I believe every one of us has the ability to transform our lives from ordinary to extraordinary! Henry Ford said that If you think you can, or think you cant You are right The vision of what that looks like sometimes comes in all different packages and if it comes wrapped slightly differently than we think it should, we dismiss it and stay with the average day. If average just isnt doing it for you any more, then please read on to three steps to get your mindset on the journey and then a series of small actions that can make an extraordinary change in the way you experience this thing called life.

How to Add the Extra to Ordinary

In the past I have been quite renown for recreating the wheel and trying to work it all out myself. The past few years, I have learnt about the art of modeling. This is to simply look at what someone else is doing that you would like to have and model how he or she does it. When you know the notes of the song, and have someone show you how to play the tune, it sounds much better than randomly trying to find which note they hit. So if you are ready to invest some time and energy into getting what you want out of life, I have the notes for you to play. Part of the human condition in this day and age is to overcomplicate things. For some reason when things appear easy or inexpensive we dismiss it. The following steps may appear that way too, however I urge you not to just dismiss them without giving it a go. Immerse yourself in it first, and try it on. What if our life doesnt have to always be complex and hard? What if the steps are simple, yet powerful? Invest your whole self into these steps and each month you will notice you are getting more and more of the life that you have wanted!
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FOLLOWING THE STEPS DOWN THE YELLOW BRICK ROAD

Step One Whether We Think We Can, Or Think We Cant, We Are Right!
Walt Disney created something called a Dream Room. A place that doubt and problem solving was not allowed into. It was a place where dreams were inspired and written down for brainstorming with no questions asked. Just allowing the unconscious mind to freely explore the possibilities. This was the ultimate of positive brainstorm places. Often in the business of life and all that we have to process in a day, we find it increasingly difficult to be creative and dream big, and hold on to the dreams long enough to look at how to bring them into existence. When was the last time that you did up a vision board, putting up pictures or quotes etc of the way you would like your life to be? How about you try it now. Give yourself a few minutes to write down if money were no issue, what would you be doing? Where would you be living? Who would you be doing life with? Really allow yourself to dream and think of what would be the ideal day. No idea is silly; this is your dreamtime. Write it all down. In between writing close your eyes, to really be able to see, feel and experience the vision.

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How did you go? Do you have lots of ideas to play with? With these things at the forefront of your mind, embrace that inspiration and ask yourself these questions:
What needs to happen to move from where you are now to where you need to

be? Remember not to go into overwhelm here, as we will break this down in to easy steps, but we have to be able to see the map to start the journey. Make sure not to judge where you are at right now either. This is the platform you are starting from: Nothing more, nothing less. Right now you are probably starting to hear your ego at work: That little voice that tells you, you could never do that, or how could you possibly make that work? It is this voice; these limiting beliefs that keep us living an ordinary life. Every human being on the planet has an ego. Ego is not a bad thing. It is the
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voice/feeling/conscious (what ever you want to call it or address it as) that is there to protect you. When we make friends with our ego, acknowledge what it is telling us, (like I said, it is there to protect us) and then feed it with positive affirmations, it will in turn feed us with things that will serve us, rather then hinder us. What is your inner voice/feeling telling you? To sum up this first step, it is really about believing that you are capable of doing and having the extraordinary. Every important journey starts with a vision and the more positive the mindset, the more magnificent the vision. However, dont get me wrong, there are other steps Often in motivational writings, speeches etc, they forget to discuss the action taking part (be nice if we dreamt it and it just was) but that is only the first, yet most important step.

Step Two Desires Are To Be Pursued

When we allow ourselves to dream, we allow ourselves to feel the things we are passionate about. It always strikes me as sad, how much energy we invest in keeping that part of ourselves so quiet, we can hardly hear it anymore. However I believe it is time to wake up our passions and desires and as we allow ourselves the space to dream and reconnect with ourselves then ideas will start bubbling up. This then leads us to Step 2, which is about capturing those ideas and passions. Write everything down. You may keep a journal, or mind map or up on a vision board, or in drawings. It doesnt matter how you capture it, but you must take note of it, so that it can become more then just a dream. When I think, oh that is a great idea, I will write it down later, inevitably I will forget it and it will be lost forever. The thing to be aware of at this stage, is that over hours, days, weeks or months, (depending on how long we have suppressed this part of ourselves) we will start to see a concept or idea forming and taking shape. This will be something that really excites you. However, if this idea doesnt look exactly as it does in our dream life, we can dismiss it. That is where we self sabotage our extraordinary and stay with our ordinary life. In the beginning it can actually be easier to stay with what we know, even when we dont like it, yet with a little bit of effort (yes I did say effort: we do have to put in a bit of elbow grease to get the goodies) we can have so much more then what we settle for.

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Ordinary to extraordinary will happen as you start to action the things you have been dreaming.

Step Three Believe In The Person In The Mirror

Everywhere you read these days, they talk about believing in yourself. This is of course essential to go from ordinary to extraordinary, however is not the first step, but indeed often the third step. That is absolutely fine. If we start with the dream and vision and make it more real to us, add senses to it; see it, feel it, hear it, touch it etc, then we capture it, then we must believe that it is possible, and then, drum roll please We must believe we are worth it, and that we deserve it. This sets our mind set up to be able to go after what we want: To go after our extraordinary life. As you start to have small successes, you will build this muscle and that will lead to bigger personal successes and the positive cycle has begun. It all starts with wanting to believe, your self doubt slowly starts to evaporate, and you wonder if it possible. If we dont allow the unresourceful ego to get in the way, telling us not to challenge the status quo, we can move to explore these possibilities. That exploration takes us out of our comfort zone and into new territory, which of course can be frightening.

This is the stage of the journey that you will need self-belief. Here is where we summon up courage (definition of courage: having fear but doing it anyway) and take the leap to the other side.
You will know when you are ready for this step. My advice. Dont procrastinate, as this will take more energy and leave you in your ordinary life, but take that leap of faith. Follow these steps and your mind set will be in the right place to take action. Once you are ready to take action, we have given you some exercises to start to steer you in the right direction. Big change comes from a series of small steps. To start to look at where change needs to be made in your life, we look at what we call the 10 Pillars of Life. Reviewing each area of life, we can see where the wheels might have fallen off a bit, and where we need to be putting in time.

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10 Pillars Of Life

Step Four The Wheel of Life Exercise
Notes: This exercise will help clarify priorities for goal-setting, allowing you to plan so that your life is closer to their definition of balance. Balance is personal and unique to each individual what may be balance for some may be stressful or boring for others. Balance must be assessed over time. So, a regular check on how balanced you are can highlight useful patterns and help you learn even more about yourself. Another option with this exercise is that you can ask someone you know well to complete the scores for you. It can be helpful sometimes to see an outside perception of your life balance. Note: This must be someone you trust AND whose opinion you value.
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INFUSE WHEEL OF LIFE

SPIRITUAL FINANCIAL SPIRITUAL MENTAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL RELATIONAL SEXUAL RECREATIONAL EMOTIONAL SOCIAL RECREATIONAL SOCIAL PHYSICAL VOCATIONAL FINANCIAL SEXUAL RELATIONAL

VOCATIONAL

MENTAL

Detailed Instructions: 1. Review the 10 Pillars on the Wheel of Life. The Wheel must, when put together, create a view of a balanced life. If necessary you can split categories to add in something that is missing for you. You can also re-label an area so that it is more meaningful for you. This Wheel of Life is based on our Ten Pillars of Life. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Spiritual Mental Emotional Physical Relational Social Sexual Recreational Vocational Financial
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Think about what success feels like for each area. Rank your level of satisfaction with each area of your life by drawing a line across each segment. So the outside line is 100% and the inner most circle is 0%. The new perimeter of the circle represents your Wheel of Life. Is it a bumpy ride? Here are some questions to ask to take your journey to the next level. Are there any surprises for you? How do you feel about your life as you look at your Wheel? How do you currently spend time in these areas? How would you like to spend time in these areas? Which of these elements would you most like to improve? How could you make space for these changes? Can you effect the necessary changes on your own? What help and cooperation from others might you need? What would make that a score 100%? What would a scoring 100% look like?

REMEMBER START SMALL, BUILD TALL

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10 Pillars Of Life Daily Checklists

Once we have evaluated where we are currently at and where it is we desire to be, then we can start implementing small changes to make big differences. In order to have a balanced life it is important that we make small changes in all areas (or pillars) of life. For as long as I can remember, I have set New Years Resolutions that I have (surprise, surprise) not been able to stick with. Things like lose 20 kilos or cut out caffeine. This time around, I thought I might take a different approach. Again on January 1st I made 13 resolutions, that I will endeavor to work through, however, already just three weeks later, I realise how hard it is to get these larger goals into play. So today I have started to break down my resolutions in to mini-resolutions. I took a photo, which is a habit I'm trying to start (I want an album with the whole year in it). Rather then saying that I am going to cut out caffeine, I have made the commitment at the beginning of each day to give up caffeine for today. Today I made a commitment to make my bed, before I started any work. I made this goal, and felt good about it. So again, as my business partner would say: start light then slowly build to a great height! So far, I've come up with about a 50 mini-resolutions. Some of its stuff like "remember to floss" and "drink more water."

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Some Ideas for helping with good routines: G e t a j u i c e r . M a k e a f r e s h j u i c e e v e r y m o r n i n g . I t ' s a fantastic way to start the day. D o n ' t b u y a n y t h i n g r e a d y m a d e . G e t i n t o a r o u t i n e o f m a k i n g what you eat yourself. B u y s e a s o n a l ; a n e x t e n s i o n o f t h i s i s b u y p r o d u c t s t h a t a r e both local and do not use carbon intensive farming techniques. S t a r t a r e c i p e b l o g . C o o k f r o m i t a t l e a s t 3 t i m e s a w e e k . I f y o u w a n t a g o o d w a y t o s a v e m o n e y , t h e n c h o o s e a n o t e or coin and ensure that every time you get one you don't spend it, but put it in a savings pot. For example, a $2 coin or in my case, simply 5 cent pieces. G e t t i n g u p r e a l l y e a r l y , a n d g o o u t a n d d o s o m e t h i n g . W a l k the block. Take photos. Go for a swim. Learn to rollerblade. It's hard doing a long project, and it's natural to want a rest, so have a defined start and end date so you don't wear yourself out, and then try something else. M y t h i n g i s t o t r y a n d l e a r n a n e w s k i l l e a c h y e a r . I ' v e learnt lighting and sound technicals, Guided Imagery, The Art of Illusion, Improv Theatre and taught myself to play Saxophone. This year I am going to learn drumming facilitation! I can't profess to being an expert or keeping things up, but each time I've been rewarded tangentially finding new friends or a new perspective on things. S p e n d t e n m i n u t e s a d a y c l e a n i n g y o u r r o o m . W h e n I s t i c k with it, I'm much happier.

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Step Five Brainstorm Daily Routines

Daily Routines (Some Examples to get you thinking)

1. Breathing exercises. Take a minute to do some deep breathing. 2. Have a grateful thought (or 2,3,4 or 5). 3. Say thank you to someone, and share a smile. 4. Go for a ten-minute walk. 5. Wake up ten minutes earlier. 6. Stretch. 7. Do some pushups. (Another of my goals this year) 8. Write a short journal entry. 9. Take ten minutes after work to lie on the couch with a warm compress on your eyes. 10. Wash the dishes.

Activity: Come up with the things you want to incorporate into each day. You can come back to this task after Step 9.
1______________________________________________________ 2______________________________________________________ 3______________________________________________________ 4______________________________________________________ 5______________________________________________________ 6______________________________________________________ 7______________________________________________________ 8______________________________________________________ 9______________________________________________________ 10_____________________________________________________

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Step Six Creating My Ideal Day

ACTIVITY
6 7 8 9 10 11 12 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Starting at the time you get up and working through, write up an activity log of your ideal day. Again, you can come back and review this after step 9.
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Step Seven Brainstorm Weekly Routines

Weekly Routines (Some Examples to get you thinking) 1. Clear your inbox. 2. Eat out alone. (Could be a picnic) 3. Balance your accounts. 4. Donate five dollars to a charity. 5. Go vegan for a day. 6. Play a game. 7. Go to a new place. 8. Do some indulgent body thing - a facemask or a self-pedicure. 9. Sweep and mop! 10. Empty out your junk drawer/basket. I have certain days of the week when I do certain things, so I know they will be done at least weekly. For example trash day is on Thursday, therefore Wednesday night I empty all the little trashcans in the house, and clean out any old food in the fridge. Sunday I do laundry. Saturday I go grocery shopping. Just imposing a set routine - and remembering to stick with it helped keep all my resolutions in order, and kept them from falling by the wayside. 1______________________________________________________ 2______________________________________________________ 3______________________________________________________ 4______________________________________________________ 5______________________________________________________ 6______________________________________________________ 7______________________________________________________ 8______________________________________________________ 9______________________________________________________ 10_____________________________________________________
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Step Eight Get Clear On Your Week WEEKLY TIMETABLE

TIME 7.00am 7.30am 8.00am 8.30am 9.00am 9.30am 10.00am 10.30am 11.00am 11.30am 12.00pm 12.30pm 1.00pm 1.30pm 2.00pm 2.30pm 3.00pm 3.30pm 4.00pm 4.30pm 5.00pm 5.30pm 6.00pm 6.30pm 7.00pm 7.30pm 8.00pm 8.30pm 9.00pm
MON TUES WED THURS FRI SAT SUN

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Write all our routines and commitments into a weekly timetable to get clear on your week, work out where your time wasters are and make sure you are spending time on the important things in your life that will lead to an extraordinary life, rather then just a mundane one.

Step Nine Daily Action Plans - From Little Things, Big Things Grow
To help you start to define your daily actions, lets break them down to fit with the 10 areas of life: 1. SPIRITUAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life: Morning Visualise the day you want first thing. (What does it look like?) Review yesterdays Reflections. (What have you learnt?) Be aware of your commitments. What are your priorities? Who do you choose to influence today? What special thing are you going to do for yourself today? Evening What did you do well today? What could be done better? What could you try differently? Review three things you are especially thankful for There is a quote Know Thyself, Be Thyself, Love Thyself? What is one thing you can do to embrace this quote today?

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Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony. - Mahatma Gandhi ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. T o d o l i s t W h a t a r e y o u r c o m m i t m e n t s ? W h a t d o y o u n e e d t o d o ? S e t a l a r m s f o r t i m e s t o l e a v e e t c . ( u s e y o u r calendar), so you can focus on the present. I n t h e e v e n i n g i t i s g o o d t o w r i t e d o w n y o u r r e f l e c t i o n s o f the day. A p p r e c i a t i o n I t g r o w s A p p r e c i a t e s o m e o n e o r s o m e t h i n g .

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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 1 S p i r i t u a l

What really matters to you?

W h a t g e t s y o u f i r e d u p , e x c i t e d , s u p e r e n e r g e t i c , a n d m a k e s y o u f e e l r e a l l y g e n u i n e l y g o o d i n s i d e ? I f y o u c o u l d b e f a m o u s , w h a t w o u l d y o u w a n t t o b e f a m o u s f o r ? W h a t w o u l d y o u l i k e p e o p l e t o s a y a b o u t y o u w h e n t h e y a r e a t y o u r f u n e r a l a s t h e y t a l k a b o u t y o u r l i f e ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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2. MENTAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

I d e n t i f y

one area of life that you urgently need to learn something about to improve its quality. (For example for me, I have been learning about business skills so vocational area of life and looking at meal plans, so physical area) Who can you talk to today that may know something, or someone, that could help you. Listen to ABC radio (891 or 729) read a book or magazine article, listen to an audio book/podcast, watch a documentary on TV, and watch informative YouTube Videos. Write 3 ways you are going to use/implement what youve learnt today. (What we focus on expands) There is a quote that says, Your mind is like a garden- it needs both cultivating and trimming. What areas of your mind do you need to grow and which areas need to be trimmed?

The goal of life is living in agreement with nature. Zeno ACTions

R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. M e n t a l h e a l t h b o i l s d o w n t o s i m p l e c h o i c e A t t i t u d e . Q u e s t i o n s t o a s k : I w o n d e r w h a t P a t h I w i l l f i n d ? W h a t p a t h w i l l I c r e a t e ?
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 W h a t o p p o r t u n i t i e s w i l l c o m e m y w a y ? P i l l a r o f L i f e # 2 M e n t a l

Where do you want to be stimulated, know more, and do it better?

W h a t d o y o u l i k e l e a r n i n g a b o u t ? W h a t w o u l d y o u l i k e t o b e v a l u e d , r e s p e c t e d a n d l o o k e d u p t o f o r , b y o t h e r p e o p l e ? W h e n d o y o u t o t a l l y p h a s e o u t t o w h a t s h a p p e n i n g a r o u n d y o u b e c a u s e y o u a r e s o i n t o d o i n g s o m e t h i n g ? W h a t i s t h a t a c t i v i t y ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :
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3. EMOTIONAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

I n t h e m i r r o r , s a y o u t l o u d 3 t h i n g s y o u l i k e a b o u t y o u r s e l f .

(I know this might sound stupid, but it does have a positive effect!) In the mirror, say out loud 3 things youre going to be better at today. Acknowledge what feelings you are experiencing and ask: how is this helping me? When something stressful happens, ask yourself: What can I learn from this? And What is a healthier way I can deal with my stress then ______? Thoughts > Feelings > Actions. Change your thoughts to help change your life.

Emotions need ventilation, like air, they need to keep fresh and move regularly, to be healthy.

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ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. S t a r t a h e a l t h y e m o t i o n a l s n o w b a l l b y s h i f t i n g y o u r g e a r s t o something that you know will put you in a good mood. Tuning into our six senses is a good way of doing that: Sound, Sight, Smell, Touch, Taste and Imagination/Visualisation. Examples of each of these are: S o u n d : M u s i c - s i n g i n g a n d m o v i n g t o i t . S i g h t : Sunrise and sunset, pictures on screen saver or desktop of computer, posters/print offs on your wall. The use of colour. S m e l l : Candles and essence, flowers and fresh air first thing in the morning. T o u c h : H u g s a n d h a n d s h a k e s , p a t t i n g a n a n i m a l a n d touching nature e.g. grass under bare feet. T a s t e : G o o d f o o d t h a t i s f r e s h a n d h i g h i n w a t e r a n d i n small amounts e.g. Fruit. I m a g i n a t i o n a n d v i s u a l i s a t i o n : I m a g i n e t h a t y o u a r e a s e e d . What do you need to grow? Picture what the ideal you looks like. Feel back to a good memory - Dont think about it Feel it! G e t a p e t . M o s t i m p o r t a n t P o i n t - T h i n k p o s i t i v e H a v e a n A t t i t u d e o f Gratitude.

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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 3 E m o t i o n a l

Do you react to your feelings without thinking?

D o y o u f e e l i n c o n t r o l o f y o u r e m o t i o n s ( e g . a n g e r , e n v y , e x c i t e m e n t , s a d n e s s ) ? D o y o u h e a r t h e s i g n a l s y o u g e t f r o m h o w y o u f e e l a n d u s e t h a t t o h e l p g u i d e y o u ? W h a t a c t i v i t y d o y o u d o t o g e t t h i n g s o u t o f y o u r s y s t e m ? W h o c a n y o u t a l k t o w i t h o u t f e e l i n g l i k e y o u n e e d t o f i l t e r w h a t y o u s a y ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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4. PHYSICAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life: Make noises as you stretch in bed in the morning. Open windows for fresh air. Breakfast, fruit and water minimum. Get some morning sunshine. Move your body outdoors with someone. Make it fun. (Walk, ride, beach) D r i n k w a t e r . ( K e e p y o u r b o t t l e o n y o u a t a l l t i m e s ) S t r e t c h a t n i g h t , a t c o m p u t e r o r i n f r o n t o f T V . S e t a l a r m s t o s l e e p a n d w a k e u p a t t h e s a m e t i m e e a c h d a y .

Build your house, one brick at a time. By building a foundation for the day, you will become more on track with your houses framework.

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ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. U s e m u s i c t o h e l p s e t y o u r m o o d : I t c o u l d b e e n e r g e t i c o r mellow. S h o w e r ( 4 m i n u t e s i s a n i d e a l t i m e ) . B r e a k f a s t f r u i t a n d w a t e r f o r s t a r t e r s . W a l k i n g / r i d i n g / m o v i n g . L i f e i s m o v e m e n t . D r i n k i n g W a t e r h a v e a w a t e r b o t t l e o n y o u . F i l l i t u p a n d keep it with you. If you fill it each morning as you make breakfast, it will be routine. S t r e t c h P M - K n e e s o n e w a y a n d h e a d t h e o t h e r . M u s i c P M t o h e l p r e l a x .

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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 4 P h y s i c a l

Does your body keep up with your mind and heart?

D o y o u f e e l s t r o n g f l e x i b l e a n d e n e r g e t i c ? W h e n d o e s y o u r b o d y f e e l g o o d ? D o i n g w h a t , o r a t w h a t t i m e o f d a y ? W h a t d o y o u p i c t u r e / i m a g i n e / v i s u a l i s e y o u r s e l f l o o k i n g l i k e o r d o i n g w i t h y o u r b o d y ? ( y o u m i g h t l o o k a t a f e n c e a n d f a n t a s i s e a b o u t l e a p i n g o v e r i t , o r s e e y o u r s e l f i n a s h o p w i n d o w l o o k i n g a p a r t i c u l a r w a y m a y b e s t r o n g a n d l e a n ) A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :
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5. RELATIONAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

A s

you interact with each person during the day, ask yourself is this relationship one I should build or limit? H o w w e f e e l , i s d e t e r m i n e d b y t h e m e a n i n g w e g i v e t h i n g s . Ask yourself how can I help myself to: Feel like I belong? Have more freedom? Have some fun? Feel strong and in control of myself? Feel like I am safe? . And consistently ACT on it!

Seeing within changes one's outer vision. Joseph Chilton Pearce

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ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. R e m i n d y o u r s e l f o f t i m e s w h e n y o u h a v e m a d e p o o r relational decisions in the past, and use this as a guide to humble and centre yourself and give perspective on current attitudes toward relationships. R e m i n d y o u r s e l f o f m o m e n t s o r r e l a t i o n s h i p s i n t h e p a s t where you have had other people express that you have made a positive impact on them. A s k y o u r s e l f h o w y o u w a n t t o b e r e m e m b e r e d b y p e o p l e when you are no longer here. If you had everything you needed and everything you wanted how would this effect how you relate with people? A i m t o g i v e y o u r s e l f w h a t y o u n e e d , n o t w h a t y o u w a n t a n d aim to give others what they need from you, not what they want from you in the moment.

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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 5 R e l a t i o n a l

Do you feel confident and comfortable when interacting with people?

W h e n y o u a r e c o n f i d e n t , w h a t d o e s t h a t l o o k l i k e ? W h a t a r e y o u d o i n g , s a y i n g . D o y o u f e e l l i k e y o u k n o w w h a t y o u a r e p r e p a r e d t o d o w i t h a n y o n e o r a n y t h i n g , a n d w h a t y o u a r e n o t p r e p a r e d t o d o ( b o u n d a r i e s ) ? E . g . W h a t y o u l i k e , a n d d o n t l i k e . W h a t y o u w i l l a c c e p t , a n d w o n t . D o y o u m a k e y o u r b o u n d a r i e s c l e a r w i t h p e o p l e , a n d g r o w l a l i t t l e ( b u t n o t b i t e ) i f t h e y c r o s s t h e l i n e w i t h y o u ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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6. SEXUAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

D o s o m e t h i n g f o r y o u r b o d y s o t h a t y o u f e e l g o o d i n t h e s k i n

youre in. (it could be as simple as a shower, different clothes, a new haircut?) W r i t e d o w n t h e t r a i t s y o u b e l i e v e m a k e u p y o u r i d e n t i t y . Who are you? R e m i n d y o u r s e l f o f t h r e e t h i n g s t h a t y o u l o v e a b o u t y o u r s e l f each day. R e m i n d y o u r s e l f t h a t y o u a r e a h u m a n b e i n g f i r s t , a n d a man/woman second.

I'd thought sexuality was instinctive or natural, but it's profoundly linked to inner security and cultural context. Tahar Ben Jelloun ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . T h e y c o u l d b e from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. T o u n d e r s t a n d s e l f . Be strong in spirit. Get to know yourself! G e t t o k n o w w h a t i s i m p o r t a n t t o y o u . What really matters? W h e n y o u a r e c o m f o r t a b l e w i t h w h o m Y O U a r e , y o u w i l l find it easier to allow others to be who THEY are. K e e p i t R E A L a n d k e e p i t S I M P L E . G e t r i d o f t h e f l u f f and stick to the real stuff.
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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 6 S e x u a l

Are you comfortable in the skin youre in?

W h a t c o n d i t i o n i n g d o y o u h a v e i n y o u r l i f e t h a t w o u l d b e g o o d t o l e t g o ? W h a t w o u n d s o r s i t u a t i o n s a r e r e c u r r i n g i n y o u r l i f e , w h i c h y o u w o u l d r a t h e r n o t h a v e ? W h a t m a k e s y o u f e e l g o o d a b o u t w h o y o u a r e ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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7.

SOCIAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

M a k e i t c l e a r w h a t y o u w a n t o r n e e d w h e n c o m m u n i c a t i n g

with others, being assertive, but not aggressive. Remember communication is about what they receive not what you say. Talk to someone new today. Before you do, ask yourself: I wonder what Ill like about this person? I wonder if this person will become a good friend? I wonder how we can both help each other to get what we want? Be curious. Aim to express yourself (not impress others) Listen without interrupting or finishing peoples sentences. Smile and acknowledge others (greet people with kindness and respect)

Interdependence is and ought to be as much the ideal of man as self-sufficiency. Man is a social being. Mahatma Gandhi ACTion: Reflect on the questions below. In the space below write your 3 actions. They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. Happiness is only real when shared. Spend time with like-minded people. Limit time with leeches (people that zap your time, energy and/or money). Conflict strategies 1) pause before you respond. (Be the stronger person)
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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 7 S o c i a l

Do you feel connected and a part of a community, even if its a small one?
D o y o u f e e l l i k e p e o p l e g e t y o u , a n d t h a t y o u g e t ( u n d e r s t a n d ) p e o p l e ? D o y o u f e e l c o m f o r t a b l e t o b e y o u r s e l f a r o u n d o t h e r p e o p l e ? H o w c o m f o r t a b l e a r e y o u c h a t t i n g w i t h s o m e o n e y o u h a v e n t m e t b e f o r e ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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8. RECREATIONAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

K n o w w h a t y o u l i k e t o d o f o r f u n a n d t o r e l a x , a n d s e t a n

alarm to do it today. Identify who you like to relax with and make a time. Make time to get into a location that is relaxing to you. Do you schedule time daily, every three months, and yearly to rest and recuperate? Happiness can be found on busy feet. However sometimes the most vital and important thing you can do is to stop and take a rest to reset.

If you want to make good use of your time, youve got to know whats most important and then give it all youve got. Lee Iacocca ACTions:
R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. H o w d o y o u l i k e t o s p e n d y o u r t i m e ? W r i t e t w o l i s t s : o n e of small little things you can chose from each day, like having a soak in the bath or treating yourself to a special thing to eat. And one of bigger things to do, like go bushwalking or catch a movie. From list one, pick something each day and from list two, pick something each week. M a k e t i m e f o r t h e s p e c i a l p e o p l e i n y o u r l i f e , a n d d o something enjoyable with them.
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P i l l a r o f L i f e # 8 R e c r e a t i o n a l

Do you know when you need to plug-in and recharge?

W h a t d o y o u l i k e t o d o f o r f u n o r t o c h i l - a x ? W h o d o y o u l i k e t o r e l a x w i t h ? W h a t l o c a t i o n s a r e r e l a x i n g t o y o u ? D o y o u r e g u l a r l y t a k e t i m e o u t t o c h i l l o u t , a n d g e t a w a y f r o m e v e r y o n e / e v e r y t h i n g ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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9. VOCATIONAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

H o w c a n y o u s e r v e m o r e p e o p l e t o d a y ? W h o c a n y o u t a l k t o w h o m a y b e a b l e t o p r o v i d e o p p o r t u n i t y

for you? W h a t c a n y o u d o t o g i v e m o r e v a l u e t o y o u r b o s s o r customer than what you are being paid for? This makes you more valuable (same deal with voluntary work) I d e n t i f y t h e n e x t p o s i t i o n , p r o m o t i o n o r o p p o r t u n i t y f o r y o u in your field of work. W h a t d e v e l o p m e n t o r f o r m a l l e a r n i n g i s a v a i l a b l e t o m a k e you better at what you do?

Even if I don't reach all my goals, I've gone higher than I would have if I hadn't set any. Danielle Fotopoulos. ACTions R e f l e c t o n t h e q u e s t i o n s b e l o w . I n t h e s p a c e b e l o w w r i t e y o u r 3 a c t i o n s . They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new.
W e a r e a l l s t u d e n t s a n d i t i s i m p o r t a n t t o c o n t i n u e t o l e a r n new information: Up-skill or TRADE up: T R A D E = = = = = Teach what youve learnt, Repeat what youve learnt, Absorb what is being done well and Avoid what isnt, Doing: do what youve learnt, Enjoy the benefits of what you have learnt.
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Are you doing what you love? And loving what you do?
W h a t w o u l d y o u d o i f m o n e y w e r e n t a p r o b l e m ? W h a t i s y o u r a b s o l u t e f a v o u r i t e t h i n g t o d o ? C a n y o u i m a g i n e g e t t i n g p a i d f o r i t ? H o w d o e s w h a t y o u d o f o r w o r k a d d v a l u e t o p e o p l e s l i v e s ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :

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10. FINANCIAL

Examples of small daily actions to adopt for this pillar of life:

A r e y o u m e e t i n g y o u r b a s i c n e e d s ? ( m o n e y f o r s h e l t e r , f o o d ,

utility bills etc.) Before paying/buying anything, ask yourself: do I NEED this? (need vs want) Do you have money left over after youve met your basic needs? Are you using this to plan now for the future you want? Do you know exactly where you money goes? Are you living within your means? If not, what are the steps to get there? Those who fail to plan, plan to fail!

View money and things not as something you create to fill a lack, but as tools to help you more fully express yourself and realise your potential. Sanaya Roman & Duane Packer ACTions Reflect on the questions below. In the space below write your 3 actions. They could be from our examples or things unique to you. It could be things you are already doing that you want to continue, or something new. Try and save. Putting money aside for a rainy day. To do list = budget. Put time aside weekly to budget. Budget in for the things that are important, like time away or a massage.
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 P i l l a r o f L i f e # 1 0 F i n a n c i a l

Do you feel in control of your money, or does your money control you?
D o y o u h a v e e n o u g h m o n e y f o r t h e b a s i c s ? W h e r e d o e s y o u r m o n e y g o ? D o y o u h a v e m o r e o f t h e f o r t n i g h t l e f t a t t h e e n d o f y o u r m o n e y , O r m o r e m o n e y l e f t a t t h e e n d o f y o u r f o r t n i g h t ? A c t i o n 1 : A c t i o n 2 : A c t i o n 3 :
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Step Ten Getting Clear On What You Want

A S.M.A.R.T. goal is defined as one that is specific, measurable, achievable, results-focused, and time- bound. Rather then getting caught up in what issues you are having in your life, Use the below template to write out the things that you are not happy with in your life. The next column is how you would like it to be and the third column is turning it into an achievable goal.

Problem Area
Example: I dont seem to get enough exercise, I feel unfit and lethargic and I dont have enough energy to play with my children after work .

What Is The Ideal Vision?

I feel fit healthy, vibrant alive!!! I wake up with loads of energy and enthusiasm and still feel good at the end of the day. I can run around the park with my kids and feel fantastic!

SMART Goal/s

I walk vigorously for 45 minutes a day 5 days a week down a road or path that I love.

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You now have made a game plan for your extraordinary life. Live it, enjoy it and reap the benefits of living an extraordinary day, every day!

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FINAL NOTE
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