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Contents Introduction................................................... 4 Tip #1: Relaxation............................................. 5 Tip #2: Anticipation and Tension.............................. 8
Tip #3: Communication.......................................... 9 Tip #4: Patience & Persistence................................ 10 Tip #5: Awareness............................................. 11 Tip #6: Oral Sex Clitoral Circles........................... 12 Tip #7: Oral Sex Horizontal Licks........................... 13 Tip #8: Oral Sex Clitoral Suction Cup....................... 14 Tip #9: Combine Penetrative Fingering With Clitoral Licking... 15 Tip #10: Fingering - How To Find The G-Spot: Get Her Aroused FIRST......................................................... 17 Tip #11: Fingering G-Spot Stimulation In The Straddle Position .............................................................. 18 Tip #12: Fingering The Finger Flutter....................... 19 Tip #13: Fingering: Come Here................................ 20
Tip #15: Fingering Tapping The G-Spot....................... 21 Tip #14: Fingering G-Spot Rub............................... 22 Tip #16: Fingering - Combining penetrative fingering with Clitoral Stroking............................................. 23 Tip #17: Sex Positions Knees Pulled To Chest................ 24 Tip #18: Sex Positions Modified Missionary Position........ 25
Tip #19: Sex Position Woman On Stomach...................... 27 Tip #20: The Magic Wand..................................... 28 Tip #21: Sensory Deprivation.................................. 29
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Tip #22: For WOMEN: Increase Your Orgasm Intensity By Strengthening Your PC Muscles................................. 30 Tip #23: For WOMEN: If You Can Orgasm By Yourself, You Can Orgasm During Sex............................................. 32 Tip #24: Erogenous Zone Amplification......................... 33 Tip #25: Setting The Stage for Her Next Orgasm and Getting Her To Want Sex With You All The Time............................ 34
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Introduction
My name is Lee, and Im the author of the Female Orgasm Black Book. But, what you have in your hands now are my 25 of my best tips, techniques and tricks to bring about a female orgasm. Some of it is taken right from my book (The Female Orgasm Black Book). Other techniques are totally new. You probably wont find them anywhere. While I was compiling and writing these tips, I wanted to make sure that this list of 25 tips is better than 99% of some of the stuff you would pay money for. What I want you to do is to take these tips, and try them out as soon as you can. Try them out, and see what difference it makes to your love life! Also, feel free to email this guide to anyone who you think will benefit from better sex. Lastly, if you havent signed up for my FREE Female Orgasm Black Book newsletter, what are you waiting for? Ill send you even MORE tips, tricks and techniques to give women orgasms. Just go here and tell me where to send your addition tips:
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Step 2: Shower (or Bath) Youre both going to take a shower or a bath together. Personally I like a shower best, because its faster than a bath and you can move into massaging quicker. Sometimes I opt for a bath instead, but it really depends on how much stress I sense my partner is in. If shes not too stressed out, and is already excited for sex, Ill go for the shower. If she had a long and stressful day, Ill set up a bath. The goal here is two folds: 1) Relaxation theres nothing like a hot shower to get the both of you started in a state of relaxation. Also, the shower (or bath) acts as a transition period from the regular routines of everyday life to love making. Try not to rush the shower or the bath. You want to take it slow and enjoy each others company while youre in there. 2) Cleanliness - obviously, showering will eliminate sweat, dirt and odors from both of your bodies. But what amazes me is how often people engage in sexual activities without cleaning up first! I dont know about you, but the last thing I want to see is toilet paper bits on her anus while Im about to eat her out. Or taste and/or smell urine residue on her vagina. Yuck. Also, if youre doing this in the evening, she probably went to the toilet a few times during the day. And if you know anything about sitting on the can, sometimes, some of that toilet water splashes upandwell, you get the idea.
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Step 3: Massage Now, once youve cleaned up, head back into the bedroom. ready for the massage. Note: Lay Youll be oil, baby get it on Shes
down a large towel on the bed before you start. using oil during the massage (you can use grape seed oil, or specialty massage oils), and you dont want to your bed sheets.
Also, later on when youre fingering her and having sex, she might ejaculate, so its a good idea to have a towel covering the bed sheets right away. If you have no idea about how to give a massage, dont worry about it. Ill take you through each step as we go alone. Also, you dont have to be a professional masseuse to give a relaxing massage. With the basic massage techniques youll learn, and, more importantly, the sequence of where to massage, youll get her relaxed and sexually aroused even if youve never given a massage in your life!
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Tip #2:
Anticipation (otherwise known as teasing and excitement) is a powerful and effective tool to use. In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques, youll have to add anticipation into the mix. Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure shes experiencing (and about to experience). Andwhile youre building up anticipation, at the same time youre cranking up sexual tension as well. The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm). The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main target before you actually hit the target. For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While youre rubbing those body parts, shes getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, itll have to be released. Another example is with oral sex. You can spend a minute licking the outer lips, inner lips, kiss her inner thighs etc. And once every minute, flick your tongue on her clitoris. But only once. This will drive her crazy, building that tension in her pelvis, making her anticipate her clitoris being stimulated again. Do this right, and she will be begging you to focus more on her clitoris, to release the tension you have created. A note: when youre building up the anticipation in her, its going to build up in you as well! Its going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.
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To gauge what speeds/direction she likes, insert a well lubricated finger into her vagina and feel for any vaginal contractions.
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Tip #10:
The G-spot swells up and gets bigger the more shes aroused, so if youre having trouble finding it, chances are, she might not be aroused enough. So what do you do? Before you insert your fingers, get her aroused through oral sex first. From this point on, youll feel her clitoris has become erect, see her inner lips will redden in color and engorge with blood, and shell look like shes more in the mood. The G-spot is located about one and a half to two inches up, on the anterior (toward the front) wall of the vagina, at about 12 oclock, or really anywhere between 11:00 and 1:00. As you begin your explorations, start with inserting your forefinger gently inside of her, curving and hooking it behind the pubic bone, and then moving it forward, in the come-hither motion. Once you feel a small mound of spongy tissue that ranges in size from that of a nickel and quarter - and having a rough texture different that the immediately surrounding tissue - youve found it.
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Tip #13:
Also known as the come hither, this motion is identical to the finger motions when signaling someone to come here. With your fingers extended inside of her vagina, apply pressure upwards and move your fingers downward. The motion is circular, so you dont want to be rubbing your fingers forward and backwards on her G-spot. Youll be making contact with the G-spot as youre pulling in, but once youre moving to the back of the vagina, make as little contact with G-spot as possible.
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Place her ankles near your head (her feet should be dangling behind your neck). Have her bring her knees to her chest, elevating her own pelvis. You can assist her by lifting her pelvis. Once there is enough room underneath her hips, draw your knees together under her buttocks. Her buttocks should now be resting on top of your lap. At the same time, you are on your knees and shes still penetrated. Now as you're having sex, stimulate her clitoris with your fingers. This position is great because the added elevation of her hips allows the penis to thrust into the G-Spot, and the clitoris can be easily stimulated. However, it might be uncomfortable on the guy's legs. To support yourself, reach back with one or both hands, and place them on your ankles. Added Tip: You can apply pressure just above the pubic bone (below her navel). This will push her G-spot closer to your penis.
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Tip #22: For WOMEN: Increase Your Orgasm Intensity By Strengthening Your PC Muscles
One of the main reasons why women have a hard time having an orgasm is because of weak pubococcygeal (PC, or Pelvic Floor) muscles. These are the muscles that surround vaginal opening, and are the same muscles a woman uses to hold in her urine (guys have these muscles too). When a woman has an orgasm, the PC muscles spasm. However, the problem comes in when she has weak PC muscles; if theres an object inside her vagina (such as your fingers or penis), itll be hard for it to spasm at all. Additionally, weak PC muscles can cause a reduction of sexual pleasure because the vagina is loose. On the other hand, if the PC muscles are strong, more blood will flow to the pelvic region during arousal, itll be easier to have an orgasm, and the PC muscles will contract more strongly. This leads to her having orgasms that last longer and feels more intense. On top of that, women with strong PC muscles can clamp down on the penis, increasing sexual pleasure for both the man and woman, and sometimes develop the ability to ejaculate! How do you strengthen your PC muscles? By doing Pelvic Floor Exercises (also known as Kegel Exercises).
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Pelvic Fitness in Minutes a Day Working out your PC muscles can take as little as 5 minutes, three times a day. And you get the hang of squeezing your PC muscles, you can do it discreetly just about anywhere. These exercises will give you a feel of what its like to squeeze your PC muscles. Every time you go to the bathroom to pee, try to stop the flow of urine when you are sitting on the toilet. If you can do it, you are using the right muscles. Urinate, stop, urinate again, stop, and repeat. Lie down and put your finger inside your vagina. Squeeze as if you were trying to stop urine from coming out. If you feel tightness on your finger, you are squeezing the right pelvic muscle. Once you know what it feels like to squeeze the PC muscles, you can strengthen them by squeezing the muscles you use to hold back your urine. Hold for two seconds and then release. Repeat 20 times, three times a day. You can perform this exercise in your car, while watching TV, in the officejust about anywhereand no one will know! Some Notes: Try not to squeeze other muscles at the same time youre contracting your PC muscles. Be careful not to tighten your stomach, legs, or other muscles. Squeezing the wrong muscles can put more pressure on your bladder control muscles. Just squeeze the pelvic muscle. Don't hold your breath. Repeat, but don't overdo it.
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Tip #23: For WOMEN: If You Can Orgasm By Yourself, You Can Orgasm During Sex
If you can already orgasm by yourself, you can orgasm during sex. If youre not having an orgasm during sex, it might be the case that youre putting the responsibility of your own orgasm on him. This is a lot of pressure for one guy! Listen, not all guys are skilled lovers. Some guys are still learning how to do basic things in bed, while others simply care about their own pleasure. But whatever the case may be, to have great sex, both people should be happy. To orgasm, incorporate your own self pleasure during lovemaking. You can also guide your man on where your hot buttons are and teach him to be a better lover for you. Who knows, if you guide him to the point where he has participated in releasing your orgasm, he might feel a sense of accomplishment. This can lead him down the path of activity learning to become a better lover.
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Tip #25: Setting The Stage for Her Next Orgasm and Getting Her To Want Sex With You All The Time
Physically, after a woman has an orgasm, her body is cooling down and returning to her normal, un-aroused state. Her breast size, clitoris, inner and outer lips return to normal size, and the reddish sex flush is starting to go awaythis is Resolution. Psychologically shes coming down to her normal mindsetbutits in her mind where you seal the deal and guarantee that shell be wanting more of you in the future. Too many men get so caught up in the performance review of how many times (and how hard) she came that they lose sight of one of the most critical phase of a womans sexual response Reflection. And, for any of you that may believe otherwise this isnt an elective, its core curriculum. Women crave and require it. And men that understand this, and take advantage of it, have discovered a secret that we touched upon earlier in this book: The pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience doesnt just end after the point of orgasm. Smart lovers know that it can be continued on and lead to the seduction phase of your NEXT intimate encounter. If, during the period after sex, the experience didnt seem to offer her pleasure and satisfaction, she may not even desire to give you the chance for a rematchin other words, if the sex wasnt good for her both physically and psychologically, theres no reason for her to want to have sex next time around. To a woman, its during the space of time after youve cum that shows what youre all about whether youre considerate, compassionate, intimate or romantic, or if youre just a big
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selfish lug who, minutes after an orgasm, is already asleep and snoring.
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Once we cum, were finally able to STOP thinking about sex and get back to the more mundane things in life. And though it may help you get your goals accomplished, shell more than likely be left less than pleased. Rewards: The ego boost of making your lover cum, added to the satisfaction of your own orgasm can be fantastic fuel to get out there and Get er done! Youll have a little extra bounce to your step and your mood will be greatly improved, but maybe not hers Consequences: Remember how I said that the last option, falling asleep, was the second worst option? Well, as far as your lover is concerned, this one is THE worst option. Why? Because to some women, hopping right up, getting dressing and running off can make them feel less like lovers and more like a mere booty call. Sure, if both of you already know that youve got plans for the day, or youre running late for an appointment, you can let it slide. But, otherwise, for your sake, choose one of the following two options. 3. After Play
Want your lover to stay madly and completely in love with you? Then dont scrimp when it comes to what you do AFTER sex! To women, what you do after sex really shows her what youre all about. The little things give her the small indications about what kind of man you are (and what she thinks you think about her). Take the time for a little after play and enjoy your afterglow. Youd be amazed what an extra fifteen minutes can accomplish, so dont take this opportunity for granted. So, get ready to snuggle up, share a few kisses and spend a little time talking, smiling and touching together.
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This allows you to stay connected and strength the emotional bonds that lead to a healthy relationship sexual, emotional and otherwise. Tapping into this, and giving her the attention and respect she deserves means that youll have the key to making her want (and want to give) more sex the next time around. Simply cuddling, talking, and being with her physically and emotionally after love makingcombined with the fact that she thinks youre responsible for her orgasms is like making little deposits in the Desire account. The better she feels about her sexual experience with you this time, will create more desire to be with you next time. So remember that psychologically during this stage, youll want to reinforce the positive sexual experience she just had, so when the cycle loops back into Desire, shell be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often. Not a bad deal for an extra 15 minutes of time, dont you think?
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