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Sex at 14 Multiple Orgasms per Hour*

*(but she will probably last only 30 minutes)

By Joe Average

Copyright 2011 Joe Average. All rights reserved. First Edition.

This book is available for purchase at: www.sex-at-14-multiple-orgasms-per-hour.com

Credits
Cover art. Obtained from: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Mudflap_girl.svg. Description: Mudflap girl One variation of the unclad female silhouette sometimes seen on the mudflaps behind the wheels of commercial trucks in North America. Date: 1.12.2006. Source: Own work. Author: Szczepan1990 17:17, 1 December 2006 (UTC). License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.5/deed.en. Author does not endorse me or my use of the work. Figure 3-2. Sample Rabbit Vibrator. Obtained from: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Techo_Rabbit.jpg Description: Techo Rabbit. Date: 2010. Source: http://vibrators-etc.centerforfemalesexuality.com. Author: Medical Center for Female Sexuality. License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/ Author does not endorse me or my use of the work.

Figure 7 - 1. Drawing of female genitals. Obtained from: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Gray1229.png Description - This faithful reproduction of a lithograph plate from Gray's Anatomy, a two-dimensional work of art, is not copyrightable in the U.S. as per Bridgeman Art Library v. Corel Corp.; the same is also true in many other countries, including Germany. Unless stated otherwise, it is from the 20th U.S. edition of Gray's Anatomy of the Human Body, originally published in 1918 and therefore lapsed into the public domain.

Contents
Foreword ................................................................................................. i Chapter 1 Quick Start ............................................................................. 1 Chapter 2 About The Author ................................................................... 3 Chapter 3 Required Tools ...................................................................... 5 Chapter 4 Attitude Is Everything ........................................................... 11 Chapter 5 Overall Strategy ................................................................... 13 Chapter 6 Take Her Down .................................................................... 17 Chapter 7 Warm Her Up ....................................................................... 25 Chapter 8 See What She Can Do......................................................... 29 Chapter 9 Time For Spooning .............................................................. 43 Chapter 10 Problems ............................................................................ 45 Chapter 11 The Dark Side Of The Force .............................................. 47 Chapter 12 Closing Notes .................................................................... 49

Foreword
Always listen to the experts. They'll tell you what can't be done and why. Then do it. Robert Heinlein This book is not a joke. It is not a hoax. It is not a scam. It really does work. After you finish reading this book, you will know something that only I and the other people who have read this book know. You will know how to give a woman about seven orgasms in about thirty minutes. If you are woman reading this, you are probably thinking to yourself, My boyfriend has a hard time giving me one orgasm, let alone seven orgasms. There is no way this is possible. As ridiculous as it may seem, trust me, it is possible. Not only is it possible, it is actually fairly easy to attain. Hard, verifiable statistics on orgasms that everyone can agree on are hard to come by. However, it seems most can agree it is something like the following quote posted on the website of The Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Canada (www.sogc.org/health/health-myths_e.asp): Anorgasmia is an inability to reach orgasm and is thought to occur in about 10% of women. ... Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation. Statistics on multiple orgasms such as, What percentage of women have how many orgasms in what amount of time? are even harder to come by. Whatever the numbers are, this book seems preposterous, doesn't it? Just another ridiculous scam, right? Wrong. While I am not proposing that all women can have fourteen orgasms in an hour, I am proposing that most women can significantly improve on the numbers listed above. Instead of just one, or two, or three orgasms, I think most normal women can experience something like seven, or more during thirty to sixty minutes of sex. As you will read later, some of these will occur during foreplay, and some will occur during intercourse. Yes, I realize that seven orgasms in thirty minutes seems implausible. If seven in thirty minutes is implausible, then fourteen orgasms in sixty minutes is certainly impossible. While the woman in my life has not yet achieved fourteen orgasms in an hour, I can honestly assure you that she has achieved seven in thirty minutes. Not just once, but regularly, easily, and frequently she achieves seven or so in about thirty minutes. I think ten is about her maximum. So how can I claim fourteen orgasms in an hour? Well, to be blunt, the woman in my life is an average middle aged woman who isnt in very good physical shape. If she exercised regularly, I think she would be able to have more. I think that because after about seven orgasms, she is simply exhausted and can't continue. Exercising or not is up to her, and I don't put pressure on her to do it. I am simply hypothesizing what would happen if she did.

After about five orgasms, it is hard to keep track of them, and it really doesn't matter anyway. The point isn't to compare notes and see who can get the most orgasms, or pressure your wife into exercising. This isn't a competition. No one is going for the gold medal of sex. The point is to try something different, and try to improve your sex life. Just because this book was written by a man to teach other men, doesn't mean a man is required for women to experience it. It will work for a woman by herself, and lesbian couples as well. Of those two, I recommend the latter. A loving partner with an extra pair of hands is indispensible in achieving the best results. In fact, I dare say, another woman would be better than most men. She smells good, and looks good. She is gentle, and attentive to her partner's needs. She won't lose her erection, and fall asleep after five minutes of quickie sex. Sounds like the perfect guy. Sorry guys, the truth hurts. So when I write man, it really means partner, who can be a man or a woman. With that said, it is possible for a woman to use the technique in this book all by herself without a partner. However, from the orgasms I have seen, I think it would be difficult to get as many and as intense orgasms alone versus with a partner. The only reason I think that is because some of the orgasms can be pretty intense. The woman is kind of out of it when she is having them. Mentally, they seem to enter a trance like state, and go somewhere else. It is hard for me to envision them having the coordination and focus to be able to do the things described in this book while having one of the most intense orgasms they have ever had. Concerning the technique described in this book, I have seen parts of it discussed, used, and documented elsewhere. There is plenty of information about the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator. There are videos about massage techniques. There are videos about various sexual techniques. However, I have never found anything which brings them all together, and produces anywhere near the results of something like seven orgasms in thirty minutes for a normal, average woman. The technique described in this book is primarily about intercourse with extra stimulation. I think intercourse with stimulation is the key to better sex. You just have to find the position and stimulation that work best for you. Whether you need the extra stimulation or not, you will most likely enjoy it, and have more orgasms, which are more intense. If you never achieve orgasm during intercourse, you probably will with this technique. Maybe you won't get it on the first try, or the second, but I think, eventually, you will. Keep trying and don't be discouraged. Hopefully, you will get more and more each time, and work your way up to seven or whatever your maximum is. When I tried this technique the first time, it worked. I haven't modified it much over the years. Granted, the first time I tried it, she only had about four or five and then she was exhausted. We had to work up to seven, and, probably, so will you. The technique described herein is not written in stone. It is merely a starting point for you to begin and customize to your needs. I encourage you to explore and try variations on the basic technique so that you find what works best for you. What this book isn't about. It isn't about all the other stuff that is already out there. It isn't about how to give oral sex to a woman, how to kiss, how to date,

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how to get her in bed, how to romance her, etc. It's really only about one basic technique. Granted, there are additional tips given, and the technique can be used in a variety of positions, but it is really about just one technique. It is left up to you to use your knowledge, experience, and imagination to expand upon it, and customize it so it works best for you. There is a chapter on how to give a massage, but there are lots of books out there with more massage techniques. The chapter about massage is just a basic description of how I give a massage and put her in the mood. It is about what works for me. What I have found to be what women like. While I cannot guarantee you that the technique described in this book will work for you, continue reading to find out why I am confident that it will. If by chance it does not, do not be discouraged. Keep searching for whatever will give you multiple orgasms. Why? Consider this from the book For Yourself, by Dr. Lonnie Barbach: "Research by Arvalea Nelson indicates that consistently orgasmic women tend to describe themselves as contented, good-natured, insightful, self-confident, independent, realistic, strong, capable, and understanding while non-orgasmic women tend to describe themselves as bitter, despondent, dissatisfied, distrustful, fussy, immature, inhibited, prejudiced, and sulky." If you are a woman reading this, who would you rather be? If you are a man reading this, who would you rather be with? If you still think seven orgasms in thirty minutes is impossible, consider this: Have you ever wondered why women have so much energy after an orgasm? The man has rolled over and gone to sleep, but the woman is a bundle of energy. She wants to talk. She wants to cuddle. She is still high as a kite and buzzing away. Why is that? Why? BECAUSE SHE ISN'T DONE YET. SHE IS CAPABLE OF MORE ORGASMS. The technique in this book will show you how to give her those additional orgasms. When you are done, she too will be exhausted, and roll over and go to sleep right along with you.

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Chapter 1 Quick Start


There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. Beverly Sills I am hesitant to include a quick start chapter. My fear is you will read just a small section of this book, and the technique will not work for you. Then you will discard this book and the technique described within. Please don't do that. Read at least everything from the beginning to Chapter 8. In today's busy world, I realize that may be impractical for a lot of people. If you don't have much time, at least: 1. 2. 3. Browse Chapter 3, Required Tools, for what is needed. Read/browse Chapter 5, Overall Strategy. Thoroughly read Chapters 6 through 8.

After reading just the above chapters, if the technique doesn't work, please read the entire book, and give it at least one more try before giving up on it. In order to achieve what is described in this book, you will have to put some time and effort into it. You will need to take time out of your busy life, and set aside some quiet time to absorb what is contained herein. Unfortunately, in todays society, everything is rush, rush, rush. Everyone gets up at 6 am, rushes through a fast food breakfast, rushes the kids off to school, rushes off to work, rushes around during work, rushes through a fast food lunch, rushes home to pick up the kids from school, rushes through a fast food dinner, rushes through putting the kids to bed, then zones out in front of the TV for a few hours before they go to bed, so they can get up, and rush through it all over again. Whew! I am stressed out and exhausted just thinking about it. Sex is just another thing on the todo list to rush through. The guy lasts for ten minutes or less, has his orgasm, and then he rolls over and goes to sleep. The poor woman, if she has even had one orgasm, is left hanging in limbo land slightly aroused, but completely unsatisfied. That habit needs to be broken. In order to experience seven orgasms in an hour, you must eliminate the distractions and the stress in your life. Turn off the TV. Turn off the radio. Experience peace in your surroundings. Dedicate one hour of intense, high quality attention to the woman in your life. It also helps to live right. Get into the habit of eating good food, exercising regularly, and getting a good nights sleep. Life is not something to rush through. Sex is not something to rush through. Both are to be enjoyed and savored. This book will show you how - at least the sex part, anyway. At the end of the day, there really are no short cuts. Not in life, and not in Sex at 14 Multiple Orgasms per Hour.

Chapter 2 About The Author


The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man. George Bernard Shaw

Here is a little information about me, the author. I am not an expert on sex by any means. I am not a sex therapist, sexologist, psychiatrist, or doctor of any kind. I am not trained or licensed in any of those professions. If you need advice in any of those areas, you need to seek treatment from a trained, licensed professional, and that is not me. I am not giving you advice by writing this book. I am merely documenting what I came up with, and what has worked so well for me. What you do with it is up to you. Even though I am not a trained professional, I thought I should still write this book. The results are just too good to let die. If everyone could experience what I have experienced, I think the world would be a better place. I believe in making love, not war. I want to change the way the world has sex. I want to make it better for everyone, especially women. I am just an average middle age guy who tried a bunch of different things and came up with a way to easily give a woman multiple intense orgasms. It has worked better than anything I have ever tried, and anything I have ever read or seen. I wanted to write it down and pass it on before I passed away. There is nothing special about me that prevents other normal men from using the technique described in this book to give the women in their lives more orgasms. Likewise, there is nothing special about the woman I am with that prevents other normal women from experiencing more orgasms. I am an average guy in the sense I have probably had an average sex life. Around the age of thirteen, I started getting erections and thought to myself, What is that? What the heck do I do with this thing? I didnt lose my virginity until I was in college. In my twenties, I had sex like most guys - fast and furious. From start to finish, it was all over in about ten minutes or less. In hindsight, it probably was not a very pleasurable experience for the woman. I got married in my twenties and had lots of sex with my wife. We had sex about four or five times a week. I enjoyed it, but I dont think she got much out of it. I tried to satisfy her, but I wasnt very romantic and I didnt last very long. We slowly grew apart, and eventually divorced after six years of marriage. In my thirties, I decided I wanted to be better in bed. I went looking for a way to give the woman in my life more orgasms. I started experimenting. I tried a variety of vibrators. I read books on romance. I tried to go out to dinner, dancing, etc. more often. I tried massage. I tried to get into her head and figure out what she wanted. It wasnt until I was in my forties that it all came together, and I found what I was looking for. I was able to transform myself from a bedroom bomb to the best they

had ever had. I was told things like, That was fantastic. That was the best sex I have ever had. Where did you learn how to do that? I reached the point where I was able to give a woman so many orgasms that she asked me to stop. She was sweating profusely. She was out of breath. She was exhausted. She was enjoying it immensely, but she just couldnt handle any more orgasms. She was on the verge of passing out. It was then I knew that I had found what I was looking for. This book details what I found. It describes how any normal man can give multiple intense orgasms to any normal woman. If I can do it, trust me, you can do it. I am not a marathon runner who has super endurance. I don't have a twelve inch penis (but, like most guys, I wish I did). I haven't slept with hundreds of women. I am just an average middle age guy who is adventuresome, inquisitive, and a little kinky. I am just someone who tried a bunch of different things, and came up with a way to easily give a woman multiple intense orgasms. I have tried quite a few things over the years and, so far, the technique described in this book is by far the best. I do work out, try to eat right, and stay in reasonably good shape. I am in better shape than most guys my age, but not that much better. The better shape you are in, the better your performance will be. Even if you aren't in great shape, you can probably still do everything in this book, improve your sex life, and have a great time. Same thing goes for the women reading this book. You can be a typical thirty five year old woman who is overweight and out of shape, and still have a great sex life. You may not get fourteen orgasms in an hour, but you should get more than you used to. I would guess you can get about seven before you are just too tired to have any more. Ladies and gentlemen, if you ever needed a reason to exercise, this is it. So get out there and go for a walk, ride a bike, run, lift weights, swim, or anything else to get in shape so you can have as many orgasms as possible. The remaining chapters will tell you everything I have learned over the last thirty years. They will tell you everything you need to know to give the woman in your life about seven orgasms in about thirty minutes.

Chapter 3 Required Tools


Computers are magnificent tools for the realization of our dreams, but no machine can replace the human spark of spirit, compassion, love, and understanding. Louis Gerstner No, you are not reading a repair manual. However, as is the case in many situations, the proper, high quality tools make all the difference in the world. Listed below are the tools you should have on hand. Some of them are more important than others. I recommend trying all of them at least once to see which ones are the most effective for you. Only the first and seventh items are absolutely necessary. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Hitachi Magic Wand Massager (HV-250R). Dildo. Attachments for the Hitachi. Massage oil. Candles, dim the lights, aromatherapy, etc. Soft music. Sexy music. Whatever turns her on. Maybe no music if it is distracting. Fan. Gatorade, water, fruit juice (chilled and/or with ice). Clock.

Item 1, Hitachi Magic Wand Massager (HV-250R). This tool is absolutely required for the technique described in this book to work. No exceptions. No substitutions. No knock offs. This is it. The one and only. I have tried many different vibrators and nothing compares with it, especially, in its price range. Hitachi has been producing it for over thirty years. No question about it. This is one of the best, if not the best, vibrator on the market today. It is certainly one of the most cost effective. Don't believe me? Do a Google search on it and you will see I am not the only one who believes this. And no, I do not own stock in the company or get paid to write that. Besides, Hitachi is a huge $100 billion dollar company, and vibrators are a very small percentage of their revenue. They could care less what I have to say about their vibrator. It would have virtually no impact on how much money they make. Women may be a little hesitant to use a plug in model thinking they might get electrocuted. Handle it with common sense as you would any electrical device, and it isn't any more dangerous than a hair dryer, curling iron, toaster, or any other electrical device. For example, don't take it with you into the bath tub or hot tub. Don't let it fall into a sink full of water. Don't do any of those things or anything like them, or you will get electrocuted, and die. Basically, don't get it wet, and, no, your wet vagina doesn't count as getting it wet. You won't get electrocuted from that.

It costs anywhere from $35 to $65 depending upon where you buy it. Do a Google or eBay search and you will find it available from many sources. The pictures don't do this bad boy justice. It looks more like a policeman's nightstick than a vibrator. It's a little big, heavy, and intimidating. Not the kind of thing you want to spring on your unsuspecting spouse. Let her know what is coming before you actually show it to her. The first time the woman sees this vibrator, she will think to herself, You're not putting that monster in me. and she is correct. You won't put it in her. The round ball on the end is not some little marble sized ball. It's more like a tennis ball. This thing does not go inside you - unless you are into that kind of thing. Instead of just showing the vibrator to the woman in your life and possibly turning her off right from the beginning, you could do something a little more mysterious and exciting. Have her lay down, blind fold her, and then hand it to her. See if she can guess what it is. Then turn it on and see if she can guess. When she takes off her blindfold and says, You're not sticking that thing in me! say, Yes, I am. Then say, Just kidding, and have a laugh about it. Alternatively, you could tie her up, blind fold her, and use it on her. Once she experiences how great it feels, she won't care what it looks like. There is one thing I want to emphasize. The man should NOT be intimidated by the Magic Wand. It is not your enemy which your wife will worship. It is your friend. Look at it as a tool to help you accomplish something. Much like a hammer helps you pound a nail, the Magic Wand will help you pound your woman. An electric circular saw allows you to cut wood much faster, easier, and better than using a hand saw. An electric sander allows you to sand a piece of wood much faster, easier and better than sanding by hand. A car allows you to travel much faster, easier, and better than walking. A food processor allows you to cut up vegetables much faster, easier, and better than cutting them by hand. So too, the Magic Wand will allow you to satisfy her much faster, easier, and better. Of all the above analogies, the electric sander is probably the best. When using an electric sander, hold it over the wood and let it do the work. Guide it slowly over the piece of wood until it is sanded to your satisfaction. Do not try to improve upon the performance of the sander by moving it rapidly around the piece of wood. Just relax, and slowly, firmly, guide it where it needs to go. The point is to let the sander do the work. Replace the word sander with Magic Wand vibrator in the preceding sentences, and you are well on your way to understanding how to use it. Everything else in today's world has been modernized by machines, why not sex? Most people are still having sex, similar to the way work was performed in ancient times, namely, manually. It's time to take sex out of the Stone Age and modernize it too. Yes, women have been using vibrators for many years, but the technique described in this book will take them to a much higher level. Item 2, Dildo. A regular dildo will do, but you might as well buy a strap on dildo. It comes in handy if you are a lesbian couple, or a guy with erection or premature ejaculation problem. If you are a stud and can keep an erection for thirty to sixty minutes

without cumming, you can skip the dildo. But if you ever come up short, you will wish you had one on hand. Purchase a 100% silicone dildo. Do not scrimp and buy a cheap one. Cheap ones decay and burn inside the woman. Not worth it. Spend the extra money and get a good one which will feel comfortable inside. If for some reason, a good one is not available, wrap a condom around a cheap one. Item 3, Attachments for the Hitachi. Most of the attachments are basically various dildos, ticklers, etc. that can be attached to the ball on the end of the vibrator. You don't really need the attachments for the Hitachi. I would recommend against using them the first few times you try the technique described in this book. However, you might want to try them out at a later date - especially if you are into that sort of thing. Some people love the attachments. I haven't found them necessary or useful, but I'm not you. Do whatever you think will work best for you. You can always start with just the vibrator first. Then buy the attachments later. There is also something you can buy which will allow you to slow down the Hitachi. It is typically called a speed controller. Like the attachments, I haven't found it necessary or useful, but, again, I'm not you. I will give you a tip later on how to alter the intensity of the vibrator, but it is rather crude and simple. It will not give you the kind of control that the speed controller will. Items 4 through 6. The items listed below are not required, but will help to set the mood and are strongly recommended: 4. 5. 6. Massage oil. Candles, dim the lights, aromatherapy, etc. Soft music. Sexy music. Whatever turns her on. Maybe no music if it is distracting.

Chapter 6, Take Her Down, describes how to give a relaxing massage, and why the above items are strongly recommended. Item 7, Fan. The fan is required because it will keep her from overheating, and allow her to have more orgasms than she could without it. Chapter 8, See What She Can Do, will be like an intense workout for her. Her heart will be beating rapidly. She will be breathing heavily, and sweating profusely. It will be like going on a fast five mile run in the middle of summer. If you don't have a fan to cool her off, there is no way she will be able to have five to ten multiple orgasms. The fan can be a ceiling fan or floor fan. Either way, you need something to blow a large amount of air on her to keep her from overheating. Item 8, Gatorade, water, fruit juice (chilled and/or with ice). Item 8 is not required, but it is recommended because it will help prevent dehydration. Chapter 8, See What She Can Do, discusses it in further detail.

Item 9, clock. It may seem odd to have a clock on the list, but it is there for the simple reason that guys tend to rush things when it comes to sex. Throughout this book, time estimates are given. None of them are written in stone. They are simply guidelines. Do whatever works best. The clock is not something to be obsessed about and looked at every two minutes. Rather, it is something to glance at occasionally to keep yourself honest about the amount of time you spend during each of the three major steps which are outlined in subsequent chapters. To conclude this chapter, here is a little background information on vibrators, one of the best tools for achieving orgasm. See figures 3-1, and 3-2 which show some of the vibrators available today and how they have gone from a simple, non-vibrating dildo, to simple battery operated vibrator/dildo, to sophisticated battery operated rabbit vibrator/ dildo (Figure 3-2), to the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator. The simple, non-vibrating dildo doesn't do much. It's good for simulating vaginal sex, and that is about it. Since it doesn't vibrate, it doesn't offer the stimulation that the others do. However, when used with the Hitachi, it can produce multiple orgasms like those described in Chapter 8, See What She Can Do.

Figure 3-1. The Hitachi compared with the others.

The simple battery operated vibrator/dildo is just a plain cylindrical shaped dildo. It is made out of hard plastic and sometimes has an outer shell made of softer plastic or silicone. The bottom screws off, and batteries are inserted into it much like a flashlight. It comes in all shapes and sizes. Some are very small, and can be worn under clothing without anyone knowing. Some have a textured outer shell that is ribbed, bumpy, etc. Some have controls which vary the intensity of the vibrations. The sophisticated battery operated rabbit vibrator/dildo has a shaft which looks like a real penis, and has some sort of appendage to stimulate the clitoris. Typically, they are called rabbit vibrators because the appendage looks like a rabbit. There are many variations where the appendage is a dolphin, turtle, etc., but I will refer to all of them as rabbit vibrators. Typically, the shaft can rotate in a circular fashion creating a path somewhat larger than itself. The shaft may also have small beads or something similar near its base for extra stimulation. It has dual controls. One controls how fast the shaft rotates, and one controls how fast the appendage vibrates.

Figure 3-2. Sample Rabbit Vibrator.

One main discerning feature of vibrators is power source. It can be none, battery, or electrical outlet. Most are battery. Those are great for portability, but they tend to burn out pretty quick. As the batteries die, so do your orgasms. The ones which plug into an electrical outlet are not portable, but the intensity of the

vibration is usually powerful and is always the same. It never lessens because there are no batteries being drained. A downside to the ones which plug into an electrical outlet is you can't take them into a hot tub, bath tub, shower, pool, etc., or you will get electrocuted. So, if you want to experiment with a vibrator in a hot tub, bath tub, shower, pool, etc. you will have to use something other than a Hitachi Magic Wand. The problem with vibrators is there are so many variations of them. Where do you start? Most of them don't disclose any concrete information which can be used for any meaningful comparison among other vibrators. Nothing like how fast they vibrate, what is their power output, reliability, durability, etc. Nothing like that which exists in food labeling where calories, carbohydrates, fat, protein, and an ingredient list are displayed on every package. Thus, it is extremely difficult to compare them. You kind of have to buy a bunch of them and find out which ones work best for you. That can get expensive. After reading this book, it will be obvious that I recommend the Hitachi above all the others. However, that is not to say I don't recommend trying some of these other vibrators in addition to the Hitachi. Before I used the Hitachi, I had the best results with the rabbit vibrator. There are many other vibrators with different shapes, sizes, and specific uses. One of them may perform significantly better for you than another. For instance, there may be a G-spot vibrator which stimulates you just right like nothing else. However, for a general use vibrator that will perform well for most people, I think the Hitachi is the best place to start. So far, I haven't found anything else that comes anywhere close to getting the results I have gotten with it. One last vibrator I would like to discuss is the Sybian. First, let me state that I have no personal experience using this vibrator. Additional information about the Sybian can be found on wikipedia.org and the Sybian website sybian.com. From what I have found on the internet, it seems like an excellent vibrator. It has an integrated speed controller and an additional rotational stimulation apparatus that the Hitachi does not. It places the woman in a different position than how I describe using the Hitachi in this book. Basically, the Sybian sits on the floor and the woman gets on her knees and straddles it. She can stay in an upright position or bend forward and support her upper body by placing her hands or elbows on the floor in front of her. Straddling a Sybian gives a woman significantly more control. She controls the speed of the Sybian and her body movements. These factors may make a big difference. If you think you might prefer the control and position offered by a Sybian, there is something called The Love Seat by CiciLoves (www.howsyourbuddy.com) that will put you in a position similar to the Sybian. Granted, it doesn't have the additional rotational stimulation apparatus of the Sybian, but at least it will allow you to experiment with a different position and having more control. The problem I see with Sybian is it costs about $1,300. Is the Sybian worth the extra $1,200? Honestly, I don't know. What I do know is this; the Hitachi has been reliable for the past few years for me. It is a heavy, well built unit that should last for many more years. It is all that is needed to achieve the multiple orgasms described in this book. In my opinion, it seems like the most cost effective vibrator to try out first. My advice is to buy the $40 Hitachi first and see

how it goes. You can always buy The Love Seat and a speed controller later. If they work really well for you, then buy a Sybian.

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Chapter 4 Attitude Is Everything


There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other. Douglas Everett (American Hockey Player) When it comes to using this technique, or any technique for that matter, to successfully bring a woman to orgasm, the attitudes of the partners make all the difference in the world. If you are a guy looking for a quick wam bam thank you mam, and roll over and go to sleep, then this technique and all others are basically worthless. You might as well throw this book away and not even bother reading it. The man has to realize it is not about him. It is about her, and doing whatever it takes to satisfy her. Your attitude has to be a selfless focus on your partner's needs. What does SHE want? What does SHE need? It is not about you. It is about her. You have to get your mind right. You have to mentally prepare for it. You have to get the correct thoughts in your mind. What does that mean? What thoughts? Well, thoughts like: The Ten Commandments of Sex I. II. I am her sex slave for the next hour or two. I will do whatever is necessary to try and satisfy her. I will not put pressure on her to have orgasms. No orders to cum, baby, cum, unless that gets her off, or she is already cumming. Instead, it will all be positive encouraging comments like: You look beautiful. You feel great wrapped around my cock. I love you. You are so hot. I love to get you horny. Your wet pussy feels so good. Your tits look so good covered in sweat. I love fucking your brains out. I love making love with you. I want to fuck you all night long. You smell so good. You get the idea. Just positive stuff about how she looks, feels, smells, etc. III. I will not require her to do anything. This time is all for her. She doesn't have to do anything, but lie on her back and enjoy herself. I will do all the work. I will keep an erection for an hour or more without having an orgasm. I will not orgasm until she is done having all her orgasms. When she is done, then, and only then, will I allow myself to orgasm.

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Well, that is only four instead of ten, but that pretty much covers it, and should get the idea across. Basically, the man has to sacrifice his satisfaction to satisfy the woman. The man has to believe it is possible to hold an erection for an hour and not cum. The man has to believe it is not about him. It is all about her - at least for the next hour or so anyway. If you are a guy, right about now you might be thinking to yourself, Man, this sucks. This is a lot of work. I think I will just go masturbate in the bathroom, and then watch some NASCAR. That would be a mistake. Yes, it is a lot of work. Yes, it will take some time. However, it has its rewards. If you can successfully get your partner to have something like five to ten orgasms in an hour, she will reward you for it. There is such a thing as karma in the world, and what goes around cums around (pun intended, sorry, couldn't resist). Trust me. In return for taking care of her sexually, you will receive many benefits. Maybe she will do things sexually for you that she wouldn't have done before. Maybe she will let you go out with the guys more often. Maybe she will let you go on that fishing trip. Whatever it is, you will get something back for your efforts. If nothing else, you will have a much happier, healthier woman in your life, and that can make all the difference in the world to you being happy and healthy yourself. Besides, even if she doesn't reward your efforts, that's OK too. By practicing on her, you will develop skills that I guarantee you some other woman somewhere else will appreciate. So sacrifice your needs and wants for a while, put the time and effort in, and see where it takes you. In the end, you will become a much better lover. Regarding the woman, her attitude is also important. She has to be open to having multiple orgasms. She has to believe it is possible. She has to be willing to let her partner take her there. If the man in your life is willing to do all of the above for you, what are you willing to do in return? Shouldn't you be willing to do the same in return? Shouldn't you be willing to make him the center of attention for an hour like he has done for you? You can't just lie on your back and enjoy all the fruits of his labor without doing something in return. If you don't do something in return, he will probably stop having sex with you, and eventually leave you. As enjoyable as it is to give you seven orgasms, it is not much fun to be the one who always does all the work, and gets little in return. In fact, it gets downright boring after a while. You don't necessarily have to do something sexual for him, but you do need to do something in return.

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Chapter 5 Overall Strategy


The journey is the reward. Chinese proverb. So too, sex is not a destination it is a journey. Don't use this book to force your partner to have fourteen orgasms in an hour. Don't put that much pressure on yourself or your partner, or this isn't going to be fun for anyone. Similarly, do not treat her as an inanimate object. She isnt a video game you are going to play for an hour so you can brag to all your friends about the high score you achieved. She is a human being. You are trying to connect with her. Mix this technique in with what you are already doing and find out what works best. Maybe she will attain seven orgasms in thirty minutes, or maybe she won't. The point is to spend time with the person you love, and discover what does and does not excite her. You are sharing something special with her whereby two human beings become one. Enjoy the ride and whatever happens, happens. If you are a man who is reading this and will be introducing it to the woman in his life, I recommend you not tell her anything about this book. Do not set any expectations. Just say something like you read an article, and want to try something new. See how it goes. Don't put any pressure on anyone to perform. Gently guide her to as many orgasms as you can the first time. Try to increase it during each subsequent encounter. Keeping a relaxed atmosphere will greatly increase your chances of success. Below is a rough outline of the overall strategy and its three major steps: 1. 2. 3. Take her down. Give her a massage, and get her relaxed. Take her down low so you can take her up high. Warm her up. Use just the vibrator all by itself, and give her two warm up orgasms to get her motor running. See what she can do. Use the vibrator while having intercourse with her, and give her as many intense orgasms as she can handle.

I will use an analogy to describe what you are trying to accomplish. Think roller coaster ride. You goal is to take your partner on the roller coaster ride of sex. Think about the last roller coaster ride you went on. How did it go? Perhaps something like this: You stand in line waiting for your turn. As you get closer to boarding the ride, you get more and more nervous. Finally, it is your turn to get on. You are nervous and excited all at once. You get in your seat. Your hands may be a little sweaty. Your mouth may be a little dry. The bars are pulled down over your head and you are locked in. You pull away slowly, realizing it is too late to change your mind. You climb up a big hill, hear the click, click, click of the roller coaster ride as the tension builds and you approach the top of the hill. Then, WHOOSH! Over the top you go in a rush

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of excitement. Flying down, then back up, down, left, up, down, right, up, down, and so on until the ride finally comes to an end. That is the multiple orgasmic experience you are trying to give to your partner. You start with the massage because you need to take her down to the bottom so she can enjoy the ride to the top and back down. When you go on a real roller coaster ride where do you start? Do you start at the top, the bottom, or the middle? You start at the bottom. You start at the bottom, and you start slow so you can enjoy the ride to the top, and the rush of excitement as you crest the top and go racing back down. On a real roller coaster you go up and down several times before coming back down to the bottom at the end of the ride. Just like the roller coaster goes up and down several times, you want to take her up to orgasm and back down several times. Just like the roller coaster builds tension and then releases it several times, you want to build tension in her and then release it several times. You want to get her into a rhythm. You build the tension in her by teasing her sexually. You release the tension in her by giving her an orgasm. This will be discussed in more detail in Chapter 8, See What She Can Do. For now, just realize this is what you are trying to accomplish. Step one, the massage, is a down phase. You want to relax her as much as possible. You want to take her down as far as possible so that her ride to the top is as long and as enjoyable as possible. During the massage, think up, down, firm, light, with the overall trend being down - each firm getting a little less firm, and each light getting a little less light. If you have problems doing that, just keep doing a consistent firm, light rhythm throughout the massage. The goal is to release all the tension in her body, so you can build it back up, and take her to orgasm and release the tension. Then build up more tension, take her to another orgasm and release the tension again. Keep repeating it until she is exhausted, and just can't take it anymore. Steps two and three are the up phase. During the up phase, you will be taking her up and down, but the overall trend is up. Each up getting higher, and each down getting higher. Each up building on the previous one with the goal being an orgasm. Each orgasm building on the previous one with the goal being the most intense orgasm. Think of it like the wave in Figure 5-1. The most intense orgasm may be her last one, or it may be somewhere in the middle of them. After she has reached the most intense orgasm, she will enter the down phase. She may or may not have orgasms in the down phase, but she eventually will come down from her highest high. Sorry, nothing lasts forever. What goes up must come down. Here is another analogy - a music concert. A music concert is like the roller coaster ride. It takes you up and down and through various turns. Each song has its own rhythm. It has its own ups and downs. There is an overall up phase where each song builds on the previous one, and leads to the climax of the concert. Then there is a down phase. Why do good looking woman fall for the (unattractive) musician/singer? I think it is because they can play a woman like they play their guitar/sing a song. Musicians understand the concept of taking them on a roller coaster ride. They start out slow, build to a crescendo, and then come back down. Getting a woman

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to orgasm five to ten times in an hour or so is like a musician/singer in a concert. Just like each song builds to a climax, the concert overall will build to a climax. Each song builds on the previous one, and gets more and more intense until the climax of the concert is achieved. Then the diminuendo is played. Similarly, your hour or so of sex should play out the same way. Each orgasm is like a song. You need to build up to it. Each orgasm will build on the previous one making it more intense. Sometimes subsequent orgasms will not be as intense,

Figure 5-1. Increasing Wave.

but, generally, they do build up to a climax for the evening. Typically, the last orgasm will be the most intense. The woman will be drained of all her energy and unable to continue. Other times, one of the orgasms in the middle will be the most intense, and the ones at the end will be the diminuendo. It really doesn't matter. The point is to have fun, and enjoy being with your partner. After giving her several multiple intense orgasms, she will definitely be satisfied. One last analogy. It is like going for a five mile run where each mile is an orgasm. You start out slow for about a mile and warm up. Then you hit your stride for miles two through four. Then you burn through whatever you have left in the tank for mile five, and go as fast as you can.

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Chapter 6 Take Her Down


Most things which are urgent are not important, and most things which are important are not urgent. President Dwight Eisenhower The overall strategy is repeated below: 1. 2. 3. Take her down. Give her a massage, and get her relaxed. Take her down low so you can take her up high. Warm her up. Use just the vibrator all by itself, and give her two warm up orgasms to get her motor running. See what she can do. Use the vibrator while having intercourse with her, and give her as many intense orgasms as she can handle.

This chapter deals with the first of the three steps of the overall strategy. Below are the items from the Required Tools chapter you will use during this step: 4. 5. 6. 9. Massage oil. Candles, dim the lights, aromatherapy, etc. Soft music. Sexy music. Whatever turns her on. Maybe no music if it is distracting. Clock.

Item 4 is used to make her skin a little slippery so it is easier to give her a massage. It doesnt have to be massage oil. It can be something else like hand lotion, moisturizer, grape seed oil, glycerin, etc. I recommend grape seed oil because it can be used all over her body and her vagina, and you don't have to worry about washing your hands before touching her vagina. Some of the others might give her an infection if you go from massaging her back to her vagina without washing your hands. You can buy grape seed oil at your local grocery store. Regardless of what you use, it is a good idea to have her lie on a towel to soak up any excess, or any that is spilled. Items 5 and 6 are for setting the mood. Use them and whatever else you can think of to establish a peaceful, relaxing environment. Numerous books have already been written about romance, and setting the mood. Please refer to them for additional ideas. I will not go into anything more than the massage described in this chapter. Item 9 is there to prevent you from rushing the massage. The massage should take anywhere from 15 to 45 minutes. I recommend about thirty minutes. Have a clock nearby so you can keep an eye on how much time you are putting into the massage. Make sure you don't take short cuts. You don't have to perform everything to a precise schedule. The clock is there just to keep you honest, and prevent you from rushing a thirty minute massage into a five minute massage. In order for you to give her a relaxing massage, you, too, must be relaxed and peaceful. If you are all stressed out from a hard day of work, you need to find some way to let it go and relax. Maybe giving her a massage will help relax you,

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and relieve the stress from your day. However, you are probably better off finding some other way to eliminate the stress BEFORE you give her a massage. For instance, have a relaxing dinner, go for a walk, workout, do some gardening, etc. If having an orgasm yourself relaxes you, consider masturbating, or having her give you an orgasm first. The only problem with that is guys usually become too relaxed after an orgasm, and fall asleep. Before getting into the massage itself, it is crucial to understand why it is important. Consider this June 20, 2005 article, Women fall into 'trance' during orgasm, by Mark Henderson, Science Correspondent in Copenhagen, from England's The Times (www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/health/article535521.ece): The first brain scans of men and women having sex and reaching orgasm have revealed striking differences in the way each experiences sexual pleasure. ... The key to female arousal seems rather to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety, with direct sensory input from the genitals playing a less critical role. The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brains emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state. ... for men, the physical aspects of sex play a much more significant part in arousal than they do for women, for whom ambience, mood and relaxation are at least as important. ... In the study, a team at the University of Groningen led by Gert Holstege scanned the brains of 13 women and 11 men using a technique called positron emission tomography (PET), while they manually stimulated to orgasm by their partners. ... The scans showed that in the female orgasm, activity is reduced across all the brain regions - conscious and subconscious - that handle emotion, including the amygdale, medial prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal cortex. "What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm," Dr Holstege said. In a nutshell, relaxation is one of the main keys, if not the most important key, in giving a woman orgasms. This chapter on the massage, and everything that goes with it is important. Take your time. Set the mood. Get her relaxed. Do it right. Think of the massage as building the foundation of a home. You want it

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done right because everything else depends on it. If the foundation is flawed, it won't matter how well you do everything else, it won't be successful. If you were thinking about skipping this chapter, think again. It is much easier to show you how to give a massage than try to describe it using words. Nonetheless, I will try to describe it using words. If I should fail to do that, please consider watching some of the numerous instructional videos on youtube.com about giving a massage. The massage described here is basically a Swedish massage. It should be nice, light, and relaxing, as opposed to the more intense deep tissue massage. However, if she enjoys a more intense deep tissue massage, then by all means, give her that instead. I will not be describing that type of a massage here since I have not had much luck with it. There are plenty of youtube.com videos about deep tissue massage as well, which you can refer to. You will do the massage in two phases - first her upper body, then her lower body. For the upper body massage, straddle her around her butt, and massage her upper body from her lower back up. For the lower body massage, flip around, straddle her around her lower back, and massage her lower body from her butt down. Depending upon on how long your arms are, and what part of her body you are working on, you will straddle her somewhere above, on, or below her butt. If she is too tall, or your arms are too short, break her body into three sections with the third section being from her knees down or whatever works best for you. While you are straddling her, never actually sit on her. You can touch her. You can apply a small amount of your weight on her. You can let her feel your body heat. However, never apply a significant amount of your weight on her because it will probably be uncomfortable, and cause her to tense up. That is the last thing you want. While you are giving the massage, you have to mentally focus on her. You have to think about caressing her body and relaxing her. You cant just rub your hands around her back a few times, and expect her to magically become relaxed. It doesn't work like that. Do not think about giving her orgasms. Do not think about work, the kids, your list of things to do, etc. Instead, you need to create a mental image that embodies what you are trying to do. For instance, pretend there is a bunch of stress/tension/tightness throughout her body. You are going to push it up her back, across her shoulders, down her arms, and out her body through her fingertips. Here is another image you can try. Pretend like her body is one big stick of cold, hard, butter you just took out of the refrigerator. Your job is to use your hands and body heat to melt her into a relaxing pool of liquid. You can do it all in one motion, or do it in sections, or do a little of both. I prefer to do a little of both. I do it in sections first, and then finish it off all in one motion. For instance, while doing the upper body, first I break up the tension from her lower back up to her shoulders and neck. Then I work on her arms, and push the tension out her fingertips. When I work on her arms, I get off her back and move to one side and then the other as I work on first one arm and then the other. After finishing both arms, I will then go back to straddling her as before, bring it all together, and perform one motion to push the tension up her back, over her

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shoulders, down her arms, and out her fingertips. Try variations on this overall framework to find out what works best. Now, onto the specifics of the massage. Get the room to whatever temperature you feel comfortable. Keep in mind you will probably be naked during the massage so you might want it a little warmer than usual. Have her take her clothes off, and lie face down on the bed. It doesn't have to be the bed, but it should be someplace comfortable with room to move around. She also doesn't necessarily have to take her clothes off. If you enjoy undressing her, it is certainly OK to start the massage with her clothes on. Use the techniques described in this chapter, and begin massaging her. Undress her as you see fit. Straddle her around her butt, but do not apply a significant amount of your weight. You can be dressed, naked, or somewhere in between. I recommend being naked so she can feel you and your body heat. Apply whatever you are using for massage oil. You can drip a line all the way down the middle of her back from top to bottom and tense her up a bit. However, you are probably better off just putting some in your hands, and lightly rubbing it in. If it is cold, you may want to warm it up in a microwave, but be careful not to get it too hot. Use your whole hand and fingers to rub it in, as opposed to just your fingers, or just the heel of your hand. Take your time and slowly, gently, and lightly rub it in all over the section of her body you will be massaging. Now, on to the basic stroking motion you will repeat over and over. Start just above her butt, and firmly rub the heels of your hands up her back. Your hands are going up her back in a smooth, slow, gentle, firm motion, and you are also pressing down at the same time. Think firm, but not hard. You want her to feel it, but it should not be uncomfortable. Start with your hands next to each other, and right over the top of the vertebrae in the middle of her back. Since her vertebrae are relatively small compared to the size of your hands, your hands are actually on top of and on either side of the vertebrae. Go all the way up her entire back, over her shoulder blades, and over the top of her shoulders on either side of her neck. Let your fingers wrap over her shoulders and touch the front of her body. Pick the heels of your hands up off of her body, and, touching her with only your fingertips, lightly glide your fingertips back down her back. It should take about two to three seconds to go up her back, and about two to three seconds to go down her back. That is the motion you will repeat over and over all over her body. A firm push with the heels of your hands away from the core of her body to push the stress out. Then a light touch of your fingertips back to the core of her body to bring the relaxation in. Push all the stress out on the firm stroke. Bring all the relaxation in on the light stroke. Think of it as a kind of breathing exercise only you are using your hands to do the breathing for her. Out with the bad air. In with the good air. Out with the stress. In with the relaxation. During the massage, think firm, light, with the overall trend being down/lighter. Each firm getting a little less firm. Each light getting a little less light. If you have problems doing that, just keep doing a consistent firm, light rhythm throughout the massage. The goal is to release all the tension in her body, so you can build it back up, take her to orgasm, and release the tension.

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If you have problems with the massage technique and how much force to apply, try practicing on a mattress. The firm phase of the stroke should leave an indentation in the mattress. The light stroke should leave little if any indentation in the mattress. Hopefully, you now understand the basic motion. So far, you have gone up and down her back only once. Let's continue massaging the rest of her back. Separate your hands slightly so that they are on either side of the vertebrae in her back. Do the same motion just as before with the left hand going up the left side of her back, and the right hand going up the right side of her back, and coming back down. Move your hands a little further apart, and repeat above. Continue separating your hands, and repeating above until your hands have made it to the outside left and outside right sides of her back going up and down her back. Now that you have massaged her whole back, repeat the whole process again. Depending upon how stressed she is, you may need to repeat this several times. While you are performing the basic motion described above, I recommend you throw in some variations along the way. For instance, try the following: 1. 2. 3. Do a complete cycle of massaging her back from the middle to outside edges. Perform one of the variations listed below. Repeat above for about fifteen to twenty minutes.

Here are some variations you can try: 1. Rub your hands in circles on her back. Circle clockwise, counterclockwise, inward, or outward. Use your whole hand, just the heel, or just your fingertips. Start the circles in the middle of her lower back, and work your way up her back. Then, just like before, move your hands a little further apart, and work your way up her back again. Continue just like before and move your hands further apart each time until your hands have made it to the outside left and outside right sides of her back. Rub your hands left to right instead of up down. Instead of straddling her, position yourself on her side and massage her left to right. Kneading/squeezing/grabbing can be used on the middle of the back, but is especially effective on the upper shoulders, neck, arms and legs. Knead is one of those words which is hard to describe, and isn't defined very well in a dictionary. Since most people no longer knead dough to make their own bread, fewer and fewer people know what it means. While the kneading done during a massage is not exactly the same as the kneading done during bread making, it is similar. Kneading is basically grabbing and squeezing some of her skin, fat, muscles, etc. You can't grab and squeeze her entire back with your hand so you grab and squeeze just the top part of her skin/body/muscles/fat. It is particularly effective around the arms, legs, and neck because it is easier to get your hands around most, if not all, of those areas.

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Watching some youtube.com videos about kneading bread will help you understand the motion. Just like the other motions described earlier, start in the middle of her lower back, knead/squeeze/grab and work your way up the middle of her back. Move your hands further apart and repeat until you have made it to the sides of her back. When it comes to variations, feel free to make up some of your own. There are three basic things you can vary: 1. 2. The motion itself. Up, down, left, right, circles, kneading, etc. What part of your body you use. Your whole hand, the heel of your hand, just your fingertips, just your fingernails, etc. Most guys do not have fingernails, but if you do, they can give a very satisfying sensation. The intensity. Firm, light, fast, slow, etc.

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Try various combinations of above to see what works best. You should spend about ten to twenty minutes massaging her back per the instructions above. Since most people seem to carry their stress in their back, this area will take up most of the time of this step. You may be able to ignore the rest of her body, or you may need to focus more on another part of her body. It depends upon what she does all day. I recommend massaging all of her body at least a little bit to get her completely relaxed. Below are some comments about specific areas of the upper body before going onto the lower body. Neck, trapezius, and shoulders. The area around her neck is relatively small, but usually contains a lot of tightness. Going up and down her back will relax some of the shoulder, and trapezius, but not the neck or top of the trapezius very much. This portion is better suited to the kneading variation described earlier, than long strokes. So be sure and spend some time doing just kneading in this area. Then mix in a few long strokes as described earlier which go from the lower back, to the top of the shoulders, down the arms, and out the fingertips. Alternatively, another option is to combine kneading and long strokes at the same time. While massaging the back with long strokes, you can go all the way up to the top of the shoulders, do some kneading around the neck and upper trapezius, and then come back down with the soft fingertip touch. Either way, be sure to spend sufficient time in this area. At least five to ten minutes. Arms Arms can be done at the same time as the back, separately, or a mix of both. I recommend a mix of both. I recommend doing the back first, then the arms, then finishing off the entire upper body with one smooth motion up the back, over the shoulder, and out the arms. To massage the arms, knead/squeeze/grab all along the arm. Your hands and fingers are perpendicular to her arms. They are wrapping around her arm like you are grabbing her. Start at the shoulder with both hands next to each other, and work your way all the way down the arm. Then go back to the alternating firm

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and light motion that was used during the back massage. Firmly run the heel(s) of your hand(s) down her entire arm, and return back up her arm by lightly running your fingertips up her arm. Alternate between kneading and the firm/light motions for about five to ten minutes. At this point, her upper body should be completely relaxed, and now it is time to finish off the massage phase by working on her lower body. Turn around, face her feet, and straddle her again. This time above her butt so you can massage the rest of her body, from her butt down. Be sure to avoid applying any of your weight to her body. You have spent the last twenty to thirty minutes getting her upper body relaxed. You don't want to ruin all of that by placing your weight on her, and introducing stress back into her body. Basically, you will do the same motions as before. Treat her butt and legs as one big back, and massage them in that manner (long strokes). Then treat them as arms, and massage them in that manner (kneading). If you cannot reach all the way from her butt down to her toes, break it into sections, and go from her butt to her knees. Get that section relaxed like you did her back and arms, and then finish off the section from her knees to her toes. After massaging her lower body, she should be completely relaxed, and you are done with this step. If you were good enough to put her to sleep during the massage step, congratulations. You did the massage correctly. If she is still awake, that is OK too. As long as she is relaxed, you did the massage part correctly. I will end this chapter with some other points to consider. When massaging her lower body, generally, stay away from her genitals and anus. You want to relax her, not stimulate her. The stimulation phases come next. Not now. Be aware of the areas of her body where she is overly sensitive. For instance, if her feet are ticklish, massage them in a firm, non-ticklish manner, or ignore them altogether. Massaging her feet is the wrong thing to do if all it does is tickle her, and make her tense. You may think it is funny to tickle her, but she won't. The goal is to relax her, and tickling her will definitely not relax her. In a nutshell, massage what she likes you massaging. Do not massage what she does not like you massaging. Seems obvious, but some guys just don't seem to get it. As stated before, it is not about YOU, and what YOU want to do, it is about HER, and what SHE wants. Massage her entire body, but also spend extra time working on the areas of her body which she uses all day. For instance, if her job entails standing on her feet all day, you will probably need to spend extra time on her feet, legs, and lower back. If she spends all day working on a computer, then give her upper back, arms, and neck extra attention.

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Chapter 7 Warm Her Up


We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing. George Bernard Shaw Remember the overall strategy? It is repeated again below: 1. 2. 3. Take her down. Give her a massage, and get her relaxed. Take her down low so you can take her up high. Warm her up. Use just the vibrator all by itself, and give her two warm up orgasms to get her motor running. See what she can do. Use the vibrator while having intercourse with her, and give her as many intense orgasms as she can handle.

This chapter deals with the second of the three steps of the overall strategy. The only item from the Required Tools chapter is the Hitachi vibrator. Now that you have the right tools and you have given her a relaxing massage, it's time for step two. It's time to get her motor running and start the roller coaster ascent. While she is still face down, start off with some foreplay. For instance: Kiss her lightly, passionately on the lips. Suck on her neck. Blow in her ear. Massage her breasts. Massage her clitoris and/or vagina. Lick her breasts. Suck on her breasts while you massage her clitoris with your hand. Lick her clitoris while you massage her breasts with your hands. Nibble on her ear. Stick your tongue in her ear. Slowly exhale into her ear and let her feel your hot breath. Do whatever it is you normally do. If you normally don't engage in any foreplay, definitely, do NOT do that. Also do at least one thing you do not normally do. Mix it up a bit, or it will become routine and boring. Buy one of the books already out there that discuss romance, foreplay, setting the mood, etc. They will give you plenty of ideas. You need to do something after the massage for about five to ten minutes before you just jump right in, and use the vibrator. You need to do something to transition her from her relaxed state, to an excited state. You don't want to shoot her straight to the top of the roller coaster right away. Take some time. Build some tension. If anything, go slower than what she wants. Tease her. Make her want it. Once you have warmed her up a little with a little foreplay, roll her over on her back, and use the vibrator for a couple of warm up orgasms. How exactly? Well,

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first, before you actually use the vibrator, know that I have never regularly used high speed. Even low speed is too intense, and has to be mitigated by using a Tshirt or something else to cover the ball of the vibrator. So wrap some sort of cloth around it. Use a sheet, shirt, underwear, shorts, etc. You did just take her clothes off so you have plenty of things to use. I have found a 100% cotton T-shirt works best. Cotton is a soft natural fiber. A Tshirt will be big enough to cover the head of the vibrator, and allow you to hold on to the shirt and vibrator at the same time with one hand. It can easily be adapted to one, two, three, four, or however many layers are necessary to control the intensity of the vibrations. Hold the vibrator straight up in the air with the ball of the vibrator at the top. Place the center of the shirt over the top of the vibrator so the shirt drapes down all around the shaft of the vibrator. Grab the shirt and vibrator all in one hand. If you can hold onto both, and manipulate the switch with your thumb, great. If not, that is OK too because, generally, you turn the vibrator on low, and leave it on low. You dont really have to be able to manipulate the switch on the vibrator while you are holding it all wrapped up in the shirt. I recommend two layers of cloth initially, and adjust from there. If it is still too intense, fold the shirt over so there are four layers of cloth, and cover the vibrator with that. If it is not intense enough with two layers, try putting the vibrator inside the shirt so there is only one layer of cloth. Keep in mind, not all shirts are the same thickness, so you may have to experiment with this. If using different layers doesn't give you enough control over the intensity of the vibrations, consider purchasing a speed controller for the Hitachi. It was mentioned in Chapter 3, Required Tools. It provides much greater control than a shirt, and the two position switch on the Hitachi. A Google or eBay search on Hitachi Wand speed controller will return numerous suppliers. With the vibrator wrapped up in a shirt, turn it on at its low setting. Place the vibrator just above the vaginal opening and just below the clitoris. Another way to describe the location is, insert the tip of your finger inside her vagina. Then rest the vibrator on top of your finger. That's the place to start. Refer to figure 7-1 for the starting location. I say starting location, because, as with many things in this book, every woman is different, and what works best for one, may not be best for another. It is up to you to experiment, and find out what works best for your woman. Place the vibrator on her using mild to no pressure, and wait. More pressure may have to applied, but, typically, just set it there with mild to no pressure, and wait. She will orgasm. It may or may not be intense. You may or may not have to move the vibrator around. It should take less than five minutes. Be patient and give it a chance. Move it around slightly to find the spot that works best for her. Move it slowly. Move it to the left, right, up, and down. Move it in a circle around her clitoris. Move it above the clitoris. Set it right on top of the clitoris. Experiment with different locations. Regardless of what works, be sure and try a variety of locations because what worked best last time, may not work best this time. Plus, variety is always good. Once you find the location that works best for her, just hold the vibrator there until she orgasms. You really don't have to do much. You just kind of sit there, and

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wait for it to happen. Don't rapidly move the vibrator back and forth around her genitals. Let the vibrator do the work. It is vibrating at 5000 rpms. Moving it around rapidly is not going to improve on that. In fact, it will only make things worse. Relax, be patient, and let the vibrator do the work.

Figure 7-1. Drawing of female genitals.

It might take only thirty seconds. It might take five minutes. If it takes longer than five minutes, try a different location. You can also try moving among a few

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locations. A combination of locations in a certain order may be the key to unlocking her orgasms. It may require placing the vibrator in one location for a minute, then another location for the next minute, then another, and then, bingo; the next location will give her an orgasm. Some locations will be more sensitive than others. As you use the vibrator, the sensitivity of various locations may change. One location that was too intense a minute ago may have changed, and is now the perfect spot to give her an orgasm. It is just one of those things you will have to experiment with. However, try to get the starting position, or at least something close to it to work. Why? Because you will be using that location in the next chapter. Once you have a spot which works and she begins to orgasm, stay relaxed and hold the vibrator in that position. Her orgasm will last ten seconds or so, and then it will be over. At this point, she will probably want you to remove the vibrator because the sensations are too intense. Comply with her request. Now is not the time to have a laugh at her expense, and continue to hold the vibrator on her clitoris while she squirms in discomfort. Instead, now is the time to let her catch her breath, and get somewhat relaxed again. You want her to become relaxed, but not too relaxed. Don't wait too long, but don't start on the next warm up orgasm too soon. Think like someone exercising, or working or around the house. Sometimes you need to take a break, and catch your breath. You aren't done raking the leaves. You just want to take a break for a couple of minutes. So too, in this case, give her about two to five minutes to catch her breath. Don't let her go cold, but, at the same time, don't overheat her either. You want her to be just right. All warmed up and ready to go, and not overheated. When she has recovered, it is time to repeat what you just did. Put the vibrator back on her, and give her the second warm up orgasm. The spot and technique you used before may or may not work again. Just go through the same process as before until she has her second warm up orgasm. Be sure and give her time to catch her breath just as before. Again, you don't want her too cold or too hot. You want her just right. All warmed up and ready to go, and not overheated. You may be inclined to try and get away with just one warm up orgasm, but I recommend against it. By all means, try just one some time, and see how it goes. Maybe it will work just fine. However, in my experience, two seems to work better. It seems to give her the confidence and desire that more are possible. You may be thinking, Why not three warm up orgasms? Again, by all means, try three some time, but I havent found it necessary or productive. The orgasms in the next chapter are more intense and more enjoyable than the warm up orgasms. There isnt much point in giving her additional warm up orgasms when she could be experiencing the more enjoyable ones described in the next chapter.

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Chapter 8 See What She Can Do


I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief. Gerry Spence This chapter deals with the last of the three steps of the overall strategy. Before continuing, please take the following two warnings seriously: Multiple intense orgasms will put a lot of stress on a woman's body. Make sure she is in reasonably good shape with no health problems before using the technique in this book. Strongly consider consulting a doctor, and getting a checkup beforehand. Treat the plug in vibrator referred to in this book like you would a hair dryer, or any other electrical device. Do NOT get it wet. Do NOT take it into a bath tub, hot tub, shower, pool, etc., or YOU WILL GET ELECTROCUTED AND DIE. Back to the overall strategy one last time: 1. 2. 3. Take her down. Give her a massage, and get her relaxed. Take her down low so you can take her up high. Warm her up. Use just the vibrator all by itself, and give her two warm up orgasms to get her motor running. See what she can do. Use the vibrator while having intercourse with her, and give her as many intense orgasms as she can handle.

All of the items from the Required Tools chapter are listed again below: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. Hitachi Magic Wand Massager (HV-250R). Dildo. Attachments for the Hitachi. Massage oil. Candles, dim the lights, aromatherapy, etc. Soft music. Sexy music. Whatever turns her on. Maybe no music if it is distracting. Fan. Gatorade, water, fruit juice (chilled and/or with ice). Clock.

The only required items are the Hitachi vibrator, and the fan. The rest are recommended. You may want them on hand just in case you need them.

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Item 2 is recommended in case you lose your erection, cum prematurely, or want to try something different. Item 3 is recommended in case you want to try something different. Item 4 is no longer needed, but you might want some lubricating jelly in case she gets dry. Items 5 and 6 were already started in the first step, and may or may not continue throughout all three steps. Item 8 is recommended. It can be used during this step, but is typically drunk before any of the steps are started, and after all of them are completed. She will be sweating profusely, and it will help prevent dehydration. It can be any cold liquid she enjoys. I recommend water, fruit juice, sports drink, etc. I strongly discourage soda pop, diet soda pop, caffeinated energy drinks, fad drinks, etc. They will not quench her thirst, or replenish her body like water, juice, and sports drinks will. Instead of fads, think of what runners drink after working out. Item 9 is recommended to prevent you from rushing through the steps. Item 7, fan, is required because it will keep her from overheating, and allow her to have more orgasms than she could without it. This last step will be like an intense workout for her. Her heart will be beating rapidly. She will be breathing heavily, and sweating profusely. It will be like going on a fast five mile run in the middle of summer. If you don't have a fan to cool her off, there is no way she will be able to have five to ten multiple orgasms. The fan can be a ceiling fan, or floor fan. It doesn't really matter, but you will need something to blow a large amount of air on her to keep her from overheating. In order to thoroughly describe the technique, I will describe the following: The position. Thrusting. Rhythm. A simple, basic scenario. A timed scenario. Variations on thrusting and rhythm. This chapter may seem complicated at first, but, once you get the hang of it, you will realize it is actually pretty simple. It is similar to learning how to dance. It seems complicated at first, but you learn the steps, then you get the rhythm, then you put it all together with music, and you realize it is pretty simple. Try this technique a few times, and prove to yourself that it really works. Then start trying variations of it, and customizing it to your needs. The position. Basically, it is the missionary position with the woman putting one of her legs up in the air. Since most men are right handed, the woman will lie on her back, spread her legs, and put her right leg up so the man can use the vibrator with his right hand. The man, who is on his knees in front of the woman, holds himself up primarily with his legs and lower back. His left hand and the woman's right leg will also provide some assistance to hold him up, but they are there to provide balance more than support. Why is the woman's leg up in the air? It is up in the air for three reasons:

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It will help the man hold himself up. Most of the blood which was in her leg will, very soon, be going to her sexual organs. It allows the man to thrust at more of an upward angle, and stimulate her G-spot more intensely.

The vibrator will rest on top of the shaft of the man's penis, and up against the woman's clitoris. This is the same location which was described in the previous chapter. Once she has loosened up and you can thrust yourself all the way in, the ball of the vibrator will be between you and her. You won't be able to go absolutely all the way in. At that point, you will be putting pressure on the vibrator which will in turn put pressure on her clitoris. This is a good thing which will be deeply satisfying for her. However, don't put too much pressure on her clitoris. Try varying amounts of pressure to see what works best. Move your body around so you control how much weight/pressure you put on her. The goal is to turn your penis into a vibrating human dildo stimulating her vagina, while, at the same time, her clitoris is being stimulated directly with the vibrator. Remember the phrase, intercourse with extra stimulation that was referred to in the Foreword? I believe that is the key to fantastic female orgasms. That is what you are trying to accomplish - intercourse with extra stimulation. I encourage you to try a variety of positions such as the woman on top, doggie style, etc. If she prefers some other position, great. Give it a try, and see what happens. However, also be sure and try the missionary position or positions like it where the woman is lying down and completely relaxed. All the other positions will require effort on her part to hold herself up and move around. This will take away energy, blood, focus, etc. from her sexual organs, and, I believe, make her orgasms less intense and/or more difficult to achieve. On the other hand, if she really likes a different position, or if she needs to be in control, it may be worth the extra effort. Give it a try, and see what happens. My only point is to be sure and try the missionary position as described here, and see how it works. If it works, great. If something works better, by all means do that. While on the topic of alternate positions, there are also alternate scenarios. This technique does not require a man. The man could easily be replaced with a woman and a strap on dildo. If the woman wearing the strap on dildo cannot get in the position described above, she can just as easily sit down on the bed in front of the woman receiving the orgasms, and hold a dildo in one hand while she holds the vibrator in the other. There is nothing wrong with that. It should work about as well. Similarly, if a man has erection problems or premature ejaculation problems, he could wear a strap on dildo, and get in the position described above. If the man is not capable of holding himself up in the kneeling position, he also can sit down in front of the woman, and use a dildo in one hand and the vibrator in another. Thrusting. At the risk of being overly wordy, I will define thrusting. One complete thrusting motion consists of pushing your penis in her, and then pulling your penis out of

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her. Pushing in is the first half of it. Pulling out is the second half of it. Combined, they make up one complete thrust. The technique described in this book consists of two types of thrusting motions, which you will alternate between in phases. The teasing phase consists of multiple quick, shallow, teasing thrusts. The satisfying phase consists of one deep, satisfying thrust. The teasing thrust is quick and shallow. Typically, you push only the first half or less of your penis inside her, and then pull out. If you are an average male with a six inch penis, that means about three inches or less. A variation is to tease her with just the head of your penis. Like everything else in this book, start with my recommendation, then try different things, and, ultimately, do whatever works. During the teasing phase you will perform multiple teasing thrusts. Each complete in and out shallow thrust should take about one second. So, you should be able to do about ten shallow thrusts in about ten seconds. Typically, you will do something like five to fifteen shallow thrusts during the teasing phase. The satisfying thrust is a deep thrust which can be at the same rate as the teasing thrust, or it can be slower than them. Either way, you thrust deep into her, and hold it for a while. During the satisfying phase, you will perform only one satisfying thrust. It lasts for about ten seconds - two seconds to push in, six seconds to hold in, and two seconds to pull out. As always, you can try something different like half a second to push in, nine seconds to hold in, and half a second to pull out. Try variations, and do whatever works. Variations will be discussed in greater detail at the end of this chapter. The teasing thrusts are for building tension so she can have an orgasm. The satisfying thrust is for releasing tension, and giving her the orgasm. Generally, you never switch the two. However, if you perform a satisfying thrust and she does not orgasm, you are essentially teasing her. If you want to tease her during the satisfying thrust, then shorten its duration. If you want her to have an orgasm during the satisfying thrust, then lengthen its duration. However, if you lengthen it to fifteen seconds or so and she doesn't orgasm, it is time to go back to the teasing thrusts, and then try the satisfying thrust again. Rhythm. As you alternate between teasing and satisfying thrusts, you will find yourself in a rhythm. You will do so many teasing thrusts, at a certain depth, in a certain amount of time. Then you will do one satisfying thrust, at a certain rate, in a certain amount of time. Then you will tend to repeat what you just did. Keep doing that. It is good to get into a rhythm. She knows what to expect. Keep in mind, she will not have an orgasm during every satisfying thrust. You are not really trying to give her an orgasm during every satisfying thrust. However, you are trying to get her into a rhythm such that when she does have an orgasm, it is during a satisfying thrust. Even though she isn't having an orgasm during every satisfying thrust, you are conditioning her to have an orgasm during a future satisfying thrust. Think of it like this: 1. Ten teasing thrusts.

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One satisfying thrust. Now it is time for you to orgasm. I will give you fifteen seconds to orgasm. You didn't orgasm? Well, you need more teasing. Repeat above.

Every time she does not orgasm during a satisfying thrust, you are essentially teasing her more. Eventually, she will have an orgasm during a satisfying thrust, and then you repeat it all over again. Typically, you do not give her a break between orgasms, unless she really needs one. When using this technique the first few times, after every orgasm or every other orgasm, ask her if she is OK and if she wants to continue. After you have used this technique a few times and you are more familiar with what her body can handle, you typically only need to ask her when she is around the maximum number of orgasms she typically has. It is important to do this because you are putting a lot of stress on her body, and you don't want her to pass out, or have a heart attack on you. When she does have an orgasm during a satisfying thrust, do NOT pull out until she is done. If you are at second fourteen of the fifteen second satisfying thrust and she begins to orgasm, do NOT pull out just because you are at second fifteen of the fifteen second satisfying thrust. If she is not having an orgasm at the end of the fifteen seconds, then DO pull out, but if she is having an orgasm, then, of course, stay in. Stay in and do NOT pull out until she is done. Do not freeze up either. Just stay where you are, relax, and let the vibrator do the work. After she orgasms, you may be inclined to stop. DON'T. You are just getting started. Now the real fun starts, because you go back to the basic rhythm and do it all over again, and again, and again, etc. You can get into a rhythm and keep it exactly the same, or you can change it slightly as you go. I recommend the latter. Generally, your rhythm will be slow at the beginning, and it will gradually increase until she is finished. I recommend this way because it will build up tension. You want to surprise her a little. Give her an idea of where you are going and what you will be doing, but change it up somehow so she doesn't know for sure exactly what is coming next. For instance, thrust faster and faster, add an additional teasing thrust, hold the satisfying thrust a little longer/deeper/with more pressure, etc. Be a little mysterious. The unknown will put her a little on edge, and get her excited. That is good. You want to build on the rhythm. Build more tension so you can release it with a satisfying thrust, and give her an orgasm. Variations on the basic technique will be described at the end of this chapter. A simple, basic scenario. Let's get started and go through a simple, basic scenario. At this point, you have finished giving her two warm up orgasms. She has caught her breath, and is ready to continue. Insert just the tip of your penis inside her vagina. Position the vibrator (which you have wrapped up in a T-shirt) so that it is resting on the top of the shaft of your penis, and touching her clitoris at the same time. This point cannot be stressed enough, and bears repeating. Position the vibrator so that it is resting on the top of the shaft of your penis, and touching her clitoris at the same time. It is important to have it touching both so that her clitoris is stimulated at the same

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time her vagina is stimulated. The goal is to turn your penis into a vibrating dildo stimulating her vagina, while, at the same time, the vibrator is stimulating her clitoris. Now, turn the vibrator on at low speed, and begin to thrust ever so slightly in and out at a slow pace. Only thrust in as far as it is comfortable. Do not force yourself in. Only go in an inch or less. During this initial loosening up period, you may be able to go in two to three inches or maybe not. Do not go in any farther than that. Just like thrusting will be more shallow than usual, the rhythm will also be slower than usual. Start out at a very slow pace. Something like: 1. 2. 3. Five teasing thrusts taking a total of about ten seconds, about one inch deep or less. One satisfying thrust for about five seconds, about two inches deep or less. Repeat.

Be gentle, take your time, and get her loosened up. It should take about five minutes or less. Do not be in a rush to thrust deep inside her. Tease her a bit. It is very common for her to have an orgasm at this time even though you are barely inside her. However, if she doesn't orgasm, that is OK too. Once she is loosened up, it is time to gradually speed up the thrusting rate, and increase the thrusting depth. Gradually increase thrusting from five thrusts in ten seconds about one inch deep, to around ten thrusts in fifteen seconds about two or three inches deep. Continue to alternate between teasing and satisfying thrusts. You can try thrusting at various speeds, but slow is best when first starting out. You will be thrusting faster than before, but still relatively slowly. You are just beginning. So keep it out of high gear for a while. Try something like: 1. 2. 3. Ten teasing thrusts in about fifteen seconds, about two inches deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about four inches deep. Repeat.

Do this for about five minutes as well. Gradually insert your penis in farther and farther during the deep satisfying thrust - not necessarily all the way in, but deeper and deeper in the hope of giving her an orgasm. If she loosens up quickly and you can go all the way in, fine, but NEVER force yourself in such that it is uncomfortable for her. At some point you will be able to go all the way in. As mentioned before, at that point, you will be putting pressure on the vibrator which will in turn put pressure on her clitoris. This is a good thing which will be deeply satisfying for her. Just like everything else where you start out slow and build the tension, follow the same approach regarding how much pressure you put on the vibrator. Start out with mild pressure, and increase it as you go. In the above example of: 1. 2. Ten teasing thrusts in about fifteen seconds, about two inches deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about four inches deep.

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That is just an example so you have some place to start. If some other rhythm works better, by all means do that instead. None of this is written in stone. They are merely guidelines. Play it by ear. For instance, if you have given her five of the ten teasing thrusts and you could swear she is about to orgasm, by all means, skip the remaining five teasing thrusts, and go straight to a satisfying thrust. If she orgasms, great. You were right. If not, no big deal, just go back to the basic rhythm of ten teasing thrusts followed by one satisfying thrust. Likewise, if, during the satisfying thrust, you have been in deep for five of the ten seconds and it is obvious she is nowhere near orgasm, skip the remaining five seconds, and go back to teasing thrusts. The key to all of this is to LISTEN TO HER. Listen to what she is telling you. It probably won't be with words. It will be with her body. Listen to her body and give her what she wants. By that I mean, when she is breathing heavier than usual, and moaning louder than usual, she is tense, and on the edge. Her breathing and moaning will both increase to a fever pitch. She will be on the edge and ready to orgasm. She is letting you know it is time to do a satisfying thrust, put her over the edge, and give her an orgasm. If she is just laying there bored out of her skull, she is telling you she needs some tension. Give her more teasing thrusts, and shorten the duration of the satisfying thrust to build the tension. By this time, she probably has had another orgasm or two for a total of three or four (including the warm up orgasms). She is probably sweating profusely. If you haven't turned the fan on already, you probably should turn it on now. At any time during this process, it doesn't hurt to ask her if she wants the fan turned on. Now it is time to increase the thrusting rate and depth again. At this point, you are hitting your stride. You are not going as fast as you can, but you are working your way up to it. This is a faster pace which you can maintain for a while. Something like: 1. 2. 3. Ten teasing thrusts in about ten seconds, about half the length of your penis deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about the full length of your penis deep. Repeat.

Do this for about ten to twenty minutes. By now, you should be going all the way in during the satisfying thrust, and putting mild to firm pressure on the vibrator. Now is the time to start experimenting with putting more and more pressure on the vibrator. Not necessarily all of your weight, but try to get a feel for the maximum amount of pressure which is enjoyable for her. Remember, you are trying to build tension in her and then release it. That is what orgasms are. Releasing the built up tension. So, build the tension. Then release the tension. You do that by using the vibrator, and alternating between the two types of thrusting motions. You tease her until she is ready to orgasm. Remember the strategy. Remember the roller coaster ride. Up, down. Tease, satisfy. Tease, satisfy.

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By this time, she probably has had another orgasm or two or more for a total of around five (including the warm up orgasms). Now it is time to increase the thrusting rate and depth again. You will be going as fast as you can. This is the fastest pace you can maintain for just a little while. Something like: 1. 2. 3. Ten teasing thrusts in about five seconds. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about the full length of your penis deep. Repeat.

Do this for about five minutes. By now, you should be going all the way in during the satisfying thrust, and putting firm to extra firm pressure on the vibrator. Just like you are thrusting as fast as you can during the teasing thrusts, you will also be thrusting as deep as you can during the satisfying thrust. Now is also the time to find out what is the maximum amount of pressure which is enjoyable for her when you hold in the satisfying thrust. Continue experimenting with putting more and more pressure on the vibrator. Try all of your weight only if it seems like she would enjoy it. If you already found the maximum pressure which is enjoyable for her in the previous step, then, obviously, don't do this. You probably do not want to bang into the vibrator as you go all the way in. Instead, you should ease into it. Once you thrust as deep as you can, relax the muscles which are holding you up, and balance your body weight such that it is putting more and more pressure on the vibrator. If you put too much weight on the vibrator, she will let you know, and you need to take some of your weight off. She will let you know it is too much weight by grimacing in pain, her orgasm is interrupted/ended abruptly, verbally telling you, etc. At this point, both of you will probably be sweating profusely. If one fan is not keeping you cool enough, you may want to consider using two fans, or getting a more powerful fan which you start on low and gradually increase the speed to high. You may also want to consider something like using a bottle of cool/cold water to splash on each other. Maybe even some ice cubes to really cool things down. Just keep in mind, the ice cubes may be too much of a shock when you are so hot. So don't try them the first few times you try this technique. If she wants to continue, but you can't keep up your fastest pace, then fall back to a slower pace and keep going. Sometimes each orgasm builds on the previous one. Sometimes they don't. It really doesn't matter. All that matters is you keep repeating the rhythm until she says she's had enough. Keep giving her orgasms until she just can't take it anymore. As much as she will enjoy the multiple orgasms, at some point, she will let you know she's had enough, and you need to stop. Don't push for seven if she's had only four, and she says she's had enough. When she says she's had enough, she's had enough. Respect her decision. The stimulation from the vibrator just becomes too intense, and you need to stop or else you will ruin the moment. Also, she might just be plain worn out. She only has so much energy. If she's had a few intense orgasms, all the moaning, screaming, and exertion is going to wear her out. She can't go on forever. When she is ready to quit, you need to quit. At this point you are basically done. You should have been able to get another orgasm or two or more for a grand total of something like five to ten orgasms.

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You'll probably lose count anyway so don't really bother trying to remember if it was five, or eight, or ten, or whatever. Just have fun. A timed scenario. Below is a timed scenario you can try the first time out. It is a broad overview with some time estimates. It is merely a guideline. A place to start. It certainly is not meant to be followed exactly each and every time you use it. It is not meant to be your routine on a regular basis. You must mix it up, and try different things. Otherwise, even great sex will feel routine and get boring. Get the room to whatever temperature you feel comfortable. Keep in mind you will probably be naked during the massage so you might want it a little warmer than usual. As you give her orgasms, she will heat up, and you will want to cool her down. That is when the fan comes into play. You shouldn't need to use it during the warm up orgasms, but if she wants it, by all means use it. You probably will need to use the fan sometime around the first or second orgasm you give her during this chapter while you are thrusting in and out of her. Bottom line, give her the fan when she wants it because you do not want her to overheat and pass out on you. Make sure it is plugged in ahead of time and ready to go. If you have a ceiling fan over your bed, that is the best. Throughout this process monitor how she feels. Don't ask her every two seconds, but once in a while ask her how she is doing. Especially, as you get to the more intense orgasms. 8:00 Have her lie face down on the bed. Massage her back, arms, legs, etc. as outlined in chapter 6, Take Her Down. Not really sexual, just relaxing. 8:30 Get her motor running as discussed in the beginning of chapter 7, Warm Her Up. 8:35 Turn her over on her back. Give her two warm up orgasms as outlined in chapter 7, Warm Her Up. Each one should take five minutes plus recovery time of about three minutes. During this time, get your erection if you haven't already got one, and get your condom on if you are using one. Get the fan in position if you are using a portable floor fan instead of a ceiling fan. If the room is getting too hot, adjust the thermostat, and/or turn the fan on now. You can do these things while she is catching her breath. 8:50 Now the fireworks really get going. You should be able to give her another three, five, or maybe even more orgasms as described in this chapter. They will come surprisingly quick, one right after the other. You should definitely have the fan running by now, if you don't already. Depending upon what kind of shape she is in, it will all be over in about ten minutes, or it could go on for another half hour or more. 9:10

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All done. She is exhausted. Cuddle for a few minutes before falling blissfully asleep in each others arms. The hardest part to all of this for the man is not cuming. So what if you do? See chapter 10, Problems, for tips on how to handle it. Variations on thrusting and rhythm. There are so many combinations of the things you can vary that I could write an entire book on it alone. Instead, I will give you the basic things to consider, and leave it up to you to try them and whatever else you can come up with. Nobody knows your partner as well as you, so you are the one in the best position to come up with variations to try. Find out what works for her. This is the fun part. If she doesn't orgasm, that's OK. You will both have lots of fun finding out what works best. Hopefully you noticed some trends in the rhythm. It started slow with: 1. 2. Five teasing thrusts taking a total of about ten seconds, about one inch deep or less. One satisfying thrust for about five seconds, about two inches deep or less.

Built to: 1. 2. Ten teasing thrusts in about fifteen seconds, about two inches deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about four inches deep.

Then built to: 1. 2. Ten teasing thrusts in about ten seconds, about half the length of your penis deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about the full length of your penis deep.

And ended with a final burst of energy of: 1. 2. Ten teasing thrusts in about five seconds, about half the length of your penis deep. One satisfying thrust for about ten seconds, about the full length of your penis deep.

So, the trends were as follows: The teasing thrusts got quicker. The teasing thrusts got deeper. The satisfying thrust duration increased slightly. The satisfying thrust got deeper.

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Basically, the above trends can be summarized by stating simply that the intensity increased. Whatever you try, generally, that is the trend you want to create. However, not all aspects necessarily need to increase in intensity. For example, the duration of the satisfying thrust stayed constant at ten seconds most of the time. Also, the number of teasing thrusts stayed constant at ten most of the time. Sometimes, things can get too intense, and you need to reduce the intensity. Sometimes decreasing the intensity actually increases arousal, and will even result in an orgasm. For instance, decreasing how fast you thrust during the satisfying phase can actually be more arousing because you are teasing her. At the precise time she is anticipating an orgasm during a satisfying thrust, you surprise her by slowing down, and take longer to thrust into her. You make her wait just a little bit longer, and thus increase the intensity of her orgasm when it does occur. There is a caveat however. If you surprise her by decreasing the intensity in some way when she is expecting you to be doing it the same way as before or faster, you run the risk of surprising her too much and missing an orgasm. Once that happens, it can be much more difficult than usual to give her a subsequent orgasm. However, the upside to that is the subsequent orgasm tends to be more intense than it normally would have been. Save variations like above for later, after you have gained experience with the basic technique, and are more knowledgeable about what works for her.

Generally, the variables you can change are: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. How fast you thrust. How deep you thrust. How long you hold in the satisfying thrust. How long you take to thrust in/out during the satisfying thrust. How much pressure you put on the vibrator and thus her clitoris when you thrust all the way in during the satisfying thrust and hold it in.

Generally, they can be changed by: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Increasing them. Decreasing them. Alternating between some low value and some high value. Alternating between increasing and decreasing them. Not changing them at all. Keeping them constant.

Below are some example variations. To avoid repetition, I did not list examples for all of the five above ways they can be changed, but you should get the idea. Below are some variations on how fast you thrust: 1. It doesn't always have to be a linear progression where you thrust faster and faster. Instead, try five teasing thrusts in ten seconds during the teasing phase, then five teasing thrusts in five seconds the next teasing

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phase, and continue to alternate between them. See which one she prefers. Maybe she prefers neither, and simply wants you to continue alternating between them. Instead of gradually increasing the thrusting pace, keep the pace constant and alter something else like the number of shallow thrusts. If increasing the pace doesn't seem to be working, try decreasing it for a few minutes, and then increasing it again.

Below are some variations on how deep you thrust: 1. 2. 3. 4. For the teasing phase, instead of gradually increasing the depth, try using just the head of your penis the entire time. For the teasing phase, instead of using up to half of your penis, try building up to using the entire length of your penis. Alternate between 1 and 2 above. For the satisfying phase, I don't think there is much of an option about using anything less than your entire penis unless it is really big, and she doesn't want all of it. Another reason might be she doesn't like pressure on the vibrator/her clitoris, but that is unlikely.

Below are some variations on how many times you shallow thrust for every deep thrust. 1. In the basic scenario described in this chapter, there were always ten teasing thrusts except for the initial five minutes. Instead, try increasing it all along the way. For instance, start at five, build to eight, then build to eleven, and end with fourteen. It doesn't always have to be a linear progression like above. Instead, try five teasing thrusts during the teasing phase, then ten teasing thrusts the next teasing phase, and continue to alternate between them. See which one she prefers. Maybe she prefers neither and simply wants you to continue alternating between them. She may have orgasms in rapid succession, and, thus, you will decrease the number of shallow thrusts for every deep thrust.

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Below are some variations on how long you hold in the satisfying thrust. 1. In the basic scenario described in this chapter, the duration of the satisfying thrust was always ten seconds except for the initial five minutes. Instead, try increasing it all along the way. For instance, start at five, build to eight, then build to eleven, and end with fourteen. During the satisfying thrust phase, try alternating between something low like holding in for five seconds, and something high like fifteen seconds. See which one she prefers. Maybe she prefers neither and simply wants you to continue alternating between them.

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As was mentioned earlier, during the satisfying phase you will perform only one thrust. It lasts for about ten seconds. Two seconds to push in, six seconds to hold in, and two seconds to pull out. Instead, try half a second to push in, nine seconds to hold in, and half a second to pull out. You could also try three seconds to push in, nine seconds to hold in, and three seconds to pull out. Try gradually increasing how long you take to thrust in/out each time. Start at one half of a second, and build to five seconds. Try gradually decreasing how long you take to thrust in/out each time. Start at five seconds, and gradually decrease to one half of a second. Try alternating between taking a long time to thrust in/out (e.g. fifteen seconds), and taking a short time to thrust in/out (e.g. five seconds).

Below are some variations on how much pressure you put on the vibrator and thus her clitoris when you thrust all the way in during the satisfying thrust, and hold it in. 1. Try alternating between a little bit of pressure, and a lot of pressure. See which one she likes best. Is it something in between? Maybe she prefers neither and simply wants you to continue alternating between them. Gradually increase pressure as was done in the basic scenario. If she stops having orgasms, but wants to continue, try decreasing the pressure for a few minutes, and then go back to increasing it again. Somewhere along the way she should have another orgasm.

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Hopefully, all these variations have not made things more confusing. If thinking about all of them has made it perplexing, then skip them for now. Simply try the basic technique and get that working first. Then come back to these later after you have more experience. Read this section again, and try just one or two of them. Continue trying one or two of them and before you know it, you will become outstanding at giving your partner multiple orgasms.

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Chapter 9 Time For Spooning


A human being is a part of a whole, called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty. Albert Einstein Typically, after an orgasm, a woman has a lot of energy. I believe it is because she is capable of having a lot more orgasms than just one or two. If all goes well and she has several intense multiple orgasms as described in this book, she will be more like a man. She will be more likely to just roll over, and go to sleep. She will still want to cuddle and talk and all that other stuff guys typically don't like to do, but she will be tired and it won't last very long at all. So, after you are done giving her the best sex she has ever had, bring her down gently, and spoon for a few minutes. Do not ruin the moment. Spend some time cuddling with her. It won't last long. She will be asleep before you know it.

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Chapter 10 Problems
Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky. Rabindranath Tagore (Indian Poet, Philosopher) Problems aren't problems. They are opportunities - opportunities to experiment with your partner, and find out what makes her tick and what satisfies her. They are an enjoyable challenge to overcome. They are an absorbing puzzle to figure out. If you have a problem, it will most likely be one of two things. The technique doesn't work for her, or it works for her, but the man cums prematurely. What if it doesn't work for her? Try it again. Try altering what you did before. Try doing a bunch of different things before you give up. This technique really should work for you. Put it away for a while, and try it again later in a few days, weeks, whatever. If it still doesn't work, well, at least you tried. Hopefully, you learned something along the way. Hopefully, you found out something you didn't know before. Maybe your experience will lead you in a direction where you will find something that does work for you. Now may be the time to seek out a trained professional who can help improve your sex life. Is he premature? Immature? Both? Neither are a good, but only premature will be addressed here. Most men find it difficult to resist having an orgasm when having intercourse with a woman even when she is not having an intense, screaming orgasm. When she is having one, it makes it all that much more difficult. I used to be one of those guys. Below are three things which helped me overcome it: 1. 2. 3. Use a thicker condom and/or use multiple condoms. Masturbate about an hour or so before having sex. Practice, practice, practice. Have sex over, and over, and over again.

Basically, all three can be summed up as some way to desensitize yourself to the intense enjoyment of sex. I found the third one worked the best, and was the most enjoyable. Well, the most enjoyable for me, anyway. While you are working on improving your performance, be sure and have a dildo ready so you can still satisfy her, and make it enjoyable for her as well. Remember to use one made out of 100% silicone, or put a condom over it. What if she squirts? Consider yourself lucky.

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Chapter 11 The Dark Side Of The Force


There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self. Hindu Proverb Sex is a powerful thing. If you are a man and you take a woman who has never had an orgasm to suddenly having seven every time she has sex with you, you may find yourself with a great deal of control over her. Although it may be tempting to take advantage of her, don't. It usually ends badly for everyone. Don't use this technique to take advantage of someone. Instead, use it to make her life better. Help her to do it herself. Make her independent, not dependent on you. That way you will find who is best for you, and she will find who is best for her. Sex is a lot like money and drugs. No matter how much you have, you always want more. You think you could be happy with $100,000 a year and seven orgasms a night, but when you achieve that year after year, you eventually want more. The first time you achieve seven orgasms in an hour, you will think to yourself, That was fantastic. Sex could never get any better than that. I wish I could have seven orgasms every time. Well, be careful what you wish for, because after you regularly orgasm seven times, you will want more. Sex is like drugs in the sense that it takes more and more to satisfy you - to give you the same level of high you achieved the previous time. You get kinkier and kinkier. You need a faster and faster vibrator. You need to do more intense erotic, dangerous, outrageous, risky, exhibitionist, etc. things. Just be careful, and don't get too crazy. Start slow, and take your time. Think back to when you used to only achieve one orgasm on a good night. Appreciate the seven you now achieve on a regular basis, even after achieving it for the last five years. There is nothing wrong with wanting more, and aspiring to be a better lover, but, at the same time, be happy with seven if that is all you ever achieve. Continue to try new things. Try different combinations of different things. Whatever you achieve, enjoy it, and appreciate it while striving for more.

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Chapter 12 Closing Notes


A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song. Maya Angelou There is more to being happily married than just sex. A great sex life with your partner does not guarantee a successful marriage, but it sure helps. Be sure to do all the other things necessary to keep a marriage together. There are plenty of books already out there on that subject. I won't be writing one of those. The days of one or no orgasms should be over. With the technique described in this book, multiple intense orgasms should become the new normal. Of course, I can't guarantee that, but, for most of you, it should be. I wish you the best of luck on your journey through life. I sincerely hope the technique described in this book works as well for you as it has for me. Feel free to contact me through the website set up for this book and let me know how it goes for you. www.sex-at-14-multiple-orgasms-per-hour.com I cannot offer you any advice, but I would be interested in hearing what you have to say. I will end this book with a favorite poem of mine. Although it was written by a man, presumably for men, it applies to women too.

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IF..... by Rudyard Kipling IF you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, ' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

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