How to Make Women Chase You

By Derek Vitalio

Derek, I know this girl likes me. She touches me, flirts with me, we have great
conversations together, and she sees me with other hot girls.

But I can never get her to agree to go somewhere else or meet for coffee or lunch or
anything. I should have had her in bed by now. What else do I need to be doing?

Sometimes an extremely hot woman so lives in the frame that SHE is the chooser
that, even if you do everything else RIGHT and have social proof from other girls,
she still won’t actively chase you.

Even if you touch her, have great conversations with her, and she sees you with
other hot girls, in her mind YOU should always be chasing HER.

You need a way to get her off her butt and start chasing YOU.

The perfect technique for this is called SCREENING and almost no seduction is
successful without it.

Screening simply refers to the idea of throwing tests at her that she has to pass in
order for her to win your approval.

For example, you could say to her, “You know I like you, but you’re not a stalker are
you? You’re not the type who checks her messages five times a day, will call me in
the middle of the night are you? Will I be safe around you?”

When screening a girl, you establish that YOU are the chooser and that SHE is the
chaser. She must work for and win your approval and acceptance of her.
You can screen a woman on just about anything, but what often works best is
screening her based on completely trivial qualities.

For example you could say to woman, “I can just tell you would be so much trouble
for me. I can see it in those eyes. You just look like a handful. How do I know you
won’t just drive me up the wall?”

Or you could say, “You look young for me. Hmm, what else do you have going for
you that would make up for that?”

The key is to sound playful and not too serious. Wear a smile on your face. If she
already likes you somewhat, she’ll start trying to prove her value to you.

You can also screen a girl for qualities that you’re seriously looking for. For example,
perhaps you want a bi-sexual girl that will eventually have threesomes with you. You
can tell a woman, “I only date bi-sexual women.”

Or tell her, “I only date highly creative and intelligent women. Are you creative?”

Or say, “Do you work out? I like to be with women who take care of themselves.”

The second step to screening is ACCEPTANCE.

You see, at some point after fighting for your approval, the girl has to feel that she’s
proven herself to you. She’ll only feel worthy of you if you ACCEPT her for passing
your tests.

So if you say, “I only date bi-sexual women,” and she starts telling you about how
she’s thought about being with a girl before, that shows she wants to win your
approval. That’s good behavior on her part.

Reward her for her good behavior.

You: “I only date bi-sexual women.”

Her: “Oh… you know, I’ve always wondered what it would be like to be with a girl.”

You: “Wow, so you don’t listen to all the stupid rules society places on women. See, I
knew you were cool. We can hang out then.” (squeeze her hands)

RAPID ACCEPTANCE is when you reward a woman right away for her good answer.
For example,

You: “What’s your favorite show on television?”

Her: “Desperate Housewives”

You: “Wow, I *love* that show. Oh my god, I can just imagine us ten years from now
fat as cows on the couch watching marathon reruns of it.” (hug her)

You can also use DELAYED ACCEPTANCE.

With delayed acceptance, you drag out the screening process and make her really
work for your approval. You leave her hanging in suspense for your acceptance.

For example, I met this cute girl at the bookstore the other day. After talking a bit I
found out that she was a fundamentalist Christian. I started to GRILL her about her
beliefs for 20 minutes straight, questioning everything she believed in.

Once I realized she wasn’t going to budge I said to her, “Wow, you know what… you
actually stuck up for yourself. That’s really amazing. I thought you would have
folded right away. Most of the girls I meet are really flaky… but you’re not like other
girls. You are SO awesome.” Then I gave her a hug.
At that moment when I hugged her and accepted her, after the heavy screening,
she was practically in love with me. She invited me to a party and gave me three
phone numbers to reach her at.

When I met her at the party, she introduced me to about twenty of her cute friends
and stuck to my side like glue. She had that starry look in her eyes whenever she
looked at me.

All this from a girl whose beliefs dictated I would probably rot in hell… all because I
made her work - and wait - for my delayed acceptance!

You can also delay acceptance by STACKING screening criteria, and giving her
acceptance only at the very end.

For example, you can give her five or sex screening tests she must pass all in rapid
fire succession – that she lives too far away, that you don’t want to get involved
with a girl unless she’s devoted to you, that you don’t normally date girls you meet
in clubs, that she’s probably the jealous type, that she will probably stalk you, and
so on.

Then, instead of giving acceptance on each individual point, reward all of her good
answers with a grand, universal acceptance at the very end once she’s jumped
through all of your hoops.

Tell her, “You know, when I first met you I thought you were just like all the other
girls. But you’re not like other girls. You’re x, y, and z. I’m so glad I met someone
like you… I feel like there’s a special connection between us.” Then hug her or
squeeze her hands. “Doesn’t that feel awesome when you meet somebody like
that?”

Not too long ago I screened my honey-hot hairdresser HARD. She worked out two
hours a day and it showed - she had the tightest legs in a mini-skirt I’ve ever seen.

I kept screening her and she kept trying to win my acceptance but I wouldn’t let her.
Whatever her answer was, I didn’t act overly impressed.
After my haircut was finished she talked with me in the sitting chairs for an extra 15
minutes trying to win me over. Finally, she told me what great massages she gives. I
told her that I didn’t believe it. She offered to prove it by giving me a massage at
her place in the nude.

It’s not that rapid acceptance is better than delayed acceptance of visa-versa. Both
work and compliment each other. Use them in combination.

The hotter the chick, the harder you may need to screen. On an extremely hot girl,
don’t be afraid to pummel her with screening criteria. Screen HARD.

So why does Screening and Acceptance work so powerfully on women?

When a girl begins to become attracted to you, the level of the hormone Dopamine
increases in her brain. Dopamine is an arousal hormone that produces a feeling or
euphoria, desire, and motivation. Dopamine motivates people to want to work for
and win a reward.

So a girl may like you and consequently have elevated levels of Dopamine, but
unless you create a structure that motivates her to win a reward, she may not act
on that attraction.

Likewise, extremely hot women are so used to being chased and never having to
work for a man’s interest that they may never have felt that dopamine rush of
euphoria and the excitement of the chase IN THEIR ENTIRE LIVES.

Some hot women have NEVER felt what we would call “infatuation” or “romantic
love”.

However, when you screen an attractive woman and screen her hard, you may be
the first man she has ever had to prove herself to. You may be the first man she
finds she has to win over and get acceptance by. You may be the first man to
release her Dopamine hormones and make her feel that sense of euphoria, desire,
and drive to win.

That’s why screening and acceptance typically works even more powerfully the
more beautiful the woman.

No when might screening and acceptance NOT work?

Let’s say you see an attractive girl across the room. You walk up to her and
immediately start screening her by saying, “Yeah, you’re pretty, but what else have
you got going for you?”

A lot of girls need acceptance no matter what the situation, and they’ll start trying
to immediately win your approval – even though they just met you two seconds
ago!

However, other women will not feel they have to prove themselves to a total
stranger with no value to them. They might say back to you, “Nothing. And who are
you to ask?”

Or let’s say you’re regarded as the class nerd – a total dork and everyone makes fun
of you. Your social status is near zero. Even if you screen a girl, she may think so
lowly of you she won’t feel she has anything to prove to you. If you tell her, “So are
you adventurous?” she might respond “No.”

You see, ideally, you want to have *some* SOCIAL VALUE to the girl BEFORE you
start screening her. If you have no social value to her, she won’t care about your
approval.

So the key is to build up your value first before you screen her. Building your value
could be as simple as having her see you with other girls, making her friends laugh,
or coming across as a cool guy that read her palm.
After she shows you two or three signs of interest or “green lights” – for example
touching you, initiating a conversation, making eye contact, or standing next to you
– THEN do you screen her.

Let’s summarize how the entire process would work in the real world.

You walk into a club. Your social status is a 6. You see a beautiful babe. Her social
status is a 9. You could try to screen her right away, but it would be a hit-or-miss
situation.

Your first job is to increase your social status and value to her. You might talk to
other girls in front of her. Or you might talk to her friends and make them laugh.
Soon your social status increases from a 6, to a 7, to an 8.

Once she starts giving you some signs of interest (smiles, touches, etc), start
screening her. Since you have social status to her at this point, she will respond by
trying to win your approval and gain your acceptance of her.

While you screen her, and while she tries to win you, the social dynamic is that you
have MORE status than she does. Now she’s a 7 and you’re a 9. The Dopamine
hormone will be flooding her brain at full throttle.

Once she passes your tests, ACCEPT her. Give her a hug, or hold her hands. Now
she’ll feel as if she’s EARNED you. Her social status raises back up to a 9. You’re
both 9s now, together.

9s sleep with other 9s.

Now, in the rare case you misread the situation and she doesn’t respond to your
screening, just pretend like you didn’t hear her answer. Pretend like nothing
happened. Just back off the screening and continue to build more social value for
yourself. Then, once you have more value in her eyes, screen her again.

Now imagine how long it can take you to learn this stuff ALL ON YOUR OWN.
Imagine how much time you’d waste figuring it all out by yourself.

Imagine you much of your life you’d have wasted if you did everything on your own
– if you built your own car from scratch out of scrap metal or if you grew your own
food in the backyard.

That’s why I wrote The Seduction Science System – so that you don’t have to
reinvent the wheel and learn everything the hard way like I had to. You can start
having success RIGHT AWAY.

And that’s why you need to learn the real SCIENCE of the seduction process, the
SCIENCE of triggering the arousal hormones like Dopamine in the woman’s brain.

You KNOW this is an aspect of your life you need to take care of. Get to it.