Yosha how to approach girls on the street, directly & naturally

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Yosha’s
HOW TO APPROACH
GIRLS ON THE STREET
DIRECTLY & NATURALLY
Yosha how to approach girls on the street, directly & naturally
I Have a Confession To Make...
I have really bad night-game.
I find it hard even opening
at night. Me and my friends
regularly host nights at top
London nightclubs, which
is where we invite out girls
to - so I’m SURROUNDED
by girls on our table, who
I dance and have fun with.
But other hot girls in the
club that aren’t in our group?
I’m terrified of talking to
them. I just find the whole
environment completely
stifling. I’m intimidated by
much better looking, more
confident seeming guys,
and I always ASSUME hot
girls in a nightclub won’t be
interested in me. So just to
clarify - I’m like a complete
AFC when it comes to the
classic understanding of ‘THE
GAME’ - i.e, approaching
and attracting hot girls in a
nightclub environment.
But I am currently dating three
beautiful girls. Infact, I’m very
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confident that in a couple of I can guarantee you now

months time, I’ll have twice
that. By this time next year,
I’m VERY VERY confident
that I would have found a
girl of such high quality that
I’ll want to have a serious
monogamous relationship
with her.
“Eh? But I thought you said
your game was shit?”
- if you dedicate yourself
to doing what I say to do,
battle through all rejections,
correcting your mistakes
and persevering - you will
be in a position where you
can date as many hot girls as
you like, without using any
scripted openers, routines,
or gimmicks - just being
yourself.

Yup. Wanna know how?

Street game. And not just

“excuse me, I’m looking for
the nearest treehouse” kind
of street-game - I’m talking
about DIRECT street-game.

I’m talking about going up to

the hottest girls you can find
and letting them know straight
away that you’re interested
in them. I’m talking about not
really having a clue exactly what
you’re going to say when you
approach, but instead trusting
yourself to come up with what
is needed in the moment.
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Now. Sitting comfortably?
Gum? Ok, let’s begin.
Forget About
How You Think It
Should Be Done
Firstly, forget anything you’ve
ever experienced about
direct street game. I hear so
many people tell me “but I’ve
tried direct, and they just tell
you straight away they’ve got
a boyfriend”. They probably
do. ME. I got there first ;)
When I first started doing
direct, I got exactly the same
response. The difference
is I didn’t give up. I made a
firm decision that DIRECT
STREET GAME was what I
wanted to do. It’s how I’ve
decided to play the game.
So I put on my seatbelt, and
rode it out, till the bitter end.
So forget about any negative
experiences you’ve had
TRYING direct street game.
You were just doing it wrong.
I’m going to tell you how to
do it right.
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The Difference
Between Direct
and Indirect
When you approach a girl
indirectly on the street (ask
for directions, a female
opinion), you are HIDING
your true intentions (that
you are interesting in the
girl romantically/sexually).
Because of this, the girl
isn’t considering you as a
potential romantic interest,
so if you are dressed poorly,
have poor body language,
clearly don’t take care of
yourself, and generally sound
like an uncalibrated weirdo -
99% of the time she will stop
to answer your question, as
doing so isn’t conveying any
romantic or sexual interest
towards you. Girls are
generally nice, polite people
as long as you are nice and
polite to them.
Infact, it is impossible to get
rejected from going indirect.
You can’t reject someone
HONESTLY asking for a
female opinion - infact to do
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so would actually be quite
rude. People get rejected
when their intentions ARE
unintentionally coming
through, despite the indirect
verbal communication. So
now the girl can reject you,
because she is now rejecting
what she perceives to be your
COVERT advances. If you go
indirect, you need to be 100%
indirect, so as not to arouse
suspicion in the girl. If you
are going indirect, but they
can TELL that you really have
romantic/sexual intentions
towards them, it is perceives
as WEAK behaviour, because
you are clearly too scared of
saying what’s really on your
mind, for fear or rejection.
When you approach a girl
directly, you are forcing her
to make a second by second
decision whether or not she
can see you as a potential
date/boyfriend/sexual
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partner. She might reject
your straight away, she might
listen to you for a few seconds
then decide you’re not her
cup of tea, or you might be
talking to her for 10 minutes,
give you her number, then
when you call, decide not to
answer the phone then.
Approaching
Directly From a
Position of High
Value
If she perceives you as a HIGH
VALUE guy, approaching her
directly is VERY POWERFUL.
If she perceives you as low
value, it’s not.
Two people could approach
a hot girl, say exactly
the same thing, but get
complete different results.
Depending on what is being
communicated, you will
either be perceives as a high
value, confidence, exciting
man who isn’t afraid to say
what’s on is mind.... or not.
I’m going to teach you how to
come across as high value. It’s
the classic fake it before you
make it thing. Actually BEING
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high value is your ultimate
goal - but this takes time
and high value experiences.
Infact, alot of guys I have
shown this stuff to REALLY
ARE high value people. They
either don’t realise it, or they
just FORGET their value when
they are in the presence of
a hot girl. The only way to
combat this is to approach,
approach, approach untill
you are desensitised to it.
Eventually you won’t forget
your value, you won’t be
afraid any more. You’ll be
able to approach the hottest
girls, and act with the same
confidence as when you talk
to your best friend.
Afterall, isn’t confidence just
the absence of fear?
This Is How
Girls Want To Be
Approached
This is the stuff movies are
made of. Every girl I’ve ever
been with who I met using this
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approach has told me they

LOVED the way I approached.
They told me they’d never
been approached that way.

Listen guys - 99.99999% of

guys DON’T do this. Despite
what you’ve heard GIRLS
DON’T GET APPROACHED
LIKE THIS. Sure, guys try to
‘strike up conversation’ with
hot girls. But NOONE goes
straight up and does what I do.

If you do this right, you

can forget about DHVing.
Your approach is the
demonstration of high value.

So How Do You
Do It In A High
Value Way?
They are many things that
communicate high value
when you do a direct street
approach. Here are the main
ones that you need:
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1. Fashion &
Grooming
Before you take any pick-
up courses or spend ANY
money what so ever on
material or products - WORK
ON YOUR FASHION. The
fabrics that you decide to
adorn your body with say
more about you than you
probably know. I girl WILL
REJECT YOU, just because
you are wearing clothes that
communicate low value. This
isn’t so important for indirect
game - but for direct game it
is ESSENTIAL.

When you’re selling your

house, you are always advised
to spend a few thousand
pounds on making it look
more presentable, so people
will be more likely to buy it,
even if the things you are
buying won’t even be there
when you’ve moved, like
plants, furniture and curtains.
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The point is, potential buyers

(with little imagination) come
in and make a quick decision
based on the FEELING that
the house gives them. If
you spend a few thousand
making the house FEEL like
a home, they are far more
likely to buy it.

So don’t like your fashion be

the reason they girl rejects
you. Ask the girl later why she
didn’t stop and talk to you,
and she probably won’t know.

If you don’t know ANYTHING

about fashion, then I would
strongly advice seeing a
professional who does.
I went to see Ollie from
PUATraining and the change
was staggering. You can
download his PDF from the
website (www.puatraining.
com) - on there you’ll see
he actually used me as a
casestudy). If you don’t
have any money, then start
paying attention to fashion
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magazines, or getting some
advice from any friends who
do have really good fashion
sense. As a general rule,
make sure your clothes are
WELL FITTED, and if you’re
unsure, keep the colours to
a minimum. If you like funky,
rocky kinda stuff, then go for
that kind of look. If you’re
more of a suave, gentleman
type of fello, then go for that
kind of look.
DON’T TRY AND DRESS IN
A WAY THAT DOESN’T SUIT
YOUR PERSONALITY.
2. Vibe
This is the hardest thing to
master, but with practice it
will come. I would describe
your vibe as the ‘general
feeling’, or the energy that
is coming from you. The
coolest guys I know just emit
a never ending supply of
positivity, self-contentment
and joy. We’ve all spoken
to people who aren’t really
saying anything to turn us off,
but there’s just SOMETHING
about him that communicates
an unhappiness, or a deep
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insecurity that is preventing
him from truly expressing
himself. His VIBE is just a bit
off. In RSD’s Blueprint, Tyler
says the ‘The Self is ALWAYS
Coming Through’. This is
your vibe. Having the right
vibe will get you laid. Naturals
don’t know game. They just
have an awesome vibe.
I’ve seen people approach,
and get blown up. And they’re
vibe is really.... serious. Not
perhaps very negative, but
there’s just something not
quite right. Watching him
talk to the girl, there’s just a
SERIOUSness to him.... I tell
him to smile, and he does,
but his VIBE is just kinda.....
serious. Then later in the
day he comes across a really
friendly, sexy girl who gives
him a really positive response,
which REMINDS HIM that he
IS actually a cool, high value
guy. From this point onwards,
every girl he approaches is
different. He’s not saying
anything different before...
but his vibe has changed. I
can see he is more positive
now. He’s happier. I can’t tell
you what it is he’s DOING that
is making come across this
way.... maybe a slight cheeky
smile after saying something...
maybe it’s a glint in his eye -
but its because he actually
feeling more confident with
what he’s doing.
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He’s ACTUALLY ENJOYING
talking to this girl.
THAT is the core of what I
want you to take from this.
You need to learn to ENJOY
this. Your vibe needs to
communicate that you are a
HAPPY person. If you aren’t
happy, then you need to
really focus on why this is. If
it’s your job, then you need
to take time away from pick
up and focus on your career,
if it’s your friends, then you
need to take time away from
pick-up and focus on finding
a better peer group. If it’s just
the fact that you’re single
and you wan’t a girlfriend -
then try and start ENJOYING
the process of learning how
to talk to girls. This alone will
improve your success rate
dramatically.
See your vibe as gift-wrapped
present that your giving the
girl. No girl wants to unwrap
it to find a yucky bundle of
hatred, anger and self-pity.
They want to find a shiny ball
of FUN and HAPPINESS.
Figure out a way to make
learning pick-up FUN.
3. Body Language
When you approach, you
need to use your body in a
confident way. Look at the
way you stand in the mirror
and compare it to the way
people like tom cruise stand.
The best way to improve your
posture and the way you
move your body is to pick
someone you admire, and
model the way they use their
body. I have modelled various
high value people I’ve come
across on my little journey,
not of them famous, but just
high value people with good
body language. Look at the
way they gesture with their
hands. Look at the way they
stand. Look at the way they
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talk to people. SERIOUSLY
do this. Personally I think
this is more beneficial than
spending money on any pick-
up material.
We all know that your
physiology follows your
psychology. When someone
is depressed, you can tell
by the way they are walking
and moving. If someone is
joyfull and happy, they have
a ‘spring in their step’. But
also a firm believer that your
psychology also follows your
physiology. If you move your
body in ‘the way a confident
person would move it’, I
believe you will start to feel
more confident. If you slouch
and act like a nervous, shy
person, I believe you actually
start to feel worse. So model
body language role models,
and start to work on how you
use your body.
As a rule I would suggest the
following the next time you
approach a girl.
- Don’t slouch. Make sure
you’re standing up fairly
straight - I like to feel my
pecs against the insides of
my clothes, this reminds me
that my chest is out and i’m
standing up straight.
- Son’t shift around. Stand
solid, rooted to the ground.
Any movement should be as
an extended expressional
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gesture, rather than out of
nervousness or discomfort.
- Use your hands to gesture.
Make a point of using your
hands to express yourself
more. Also, if your hands are
already out of your pockets,
gesturing in the air, you only
need to gesture a little further
to kino the girl quite naturally
as part of a gesture.
4. Smile
Ok, this one is a new pick-up
technology I have recently
invented. I call it smiling. You
need to smile when you stop
a moving girl! If you don’t
smile, the chances are she
won’t stop. Who wants to
stop and talk to a miserable
person? I definitely don’t.
You don’t need a cartoon
grin, but as a general rule I
like to say: “The faster the
girl is moving, the bigger
the smile you need”. So if
she’s sprinting at fall speed,
you need to be laughing
hysterically. hehe (i’m only
half joking).
5. Eye Contact
You’ve all heard the term
laser eyes right? Well, when
you approach a girl directly
on the street, you need to be
looking at her directly in the
eyes. Don’t shift your eyes
away and look behind her, or
down or to the side as you
talk to her. You need to be
laser eying her. Imagine her
naked, on your bed. Imagine
all the things you could be
doing to her in just a day or
two. It’s not STARING.... its a
soft, yet focused eye contact
that lets her know that you
and her and the only things
that exist in the moment.
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6. Voice Tone,
Speed & Volume
This is one of the biggest
sticking points I had to deal
with. I have always talked to
fast. I don’t know why, but
it’s always been a problem
of mine. During a one-on-
one with Adam Lyons ages
ago, the first thing he told me
is that I need to slow down
how fast I talk, and it’s been
something that I’ve been
working on ever since.
When you approach a girl,
YOU ARE IN NO RUSH TO
SAY WHAT YOU WANT TO
SAY. The end of ‘the opener’
isn’t the goal. Getting her to
stop isn’t the goal. The goal
is to come across as high
value. So when you open,
just START TALKING, and
starting talking slowly.
Smoothly does it big man.
Just start talking slowly, and
you’ll be amazed how it
changes to whole interaction.
You’ll actually feel alot calmer
and more confident because
of this.
If you can sense that she isn’t
interested in THIS MOMENT,
i.e, she begins to slowly walk
off - DO NOT speed up in
order to FINISH what you
were saying in the hope that
by finishing what you have to
say is going to CONVINCE
her to stop. Remember, your
VALUE is what is going to
make her want to talk to you,
NOT what you have to say.
So if she starts walking off,
CARRY ON talking at exactly
the same pace as before.
Talking fast communicates
that you are the kind of
person that expects people
to interrupt you at any minute,
or that people generally
don’t listen to you, so you
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have to get what you have
to say out fast, before people
lost interest.
People who talk at a leisurely
pace, who add pauses into
their speech, communicate
that they are the kind of people
that people LISTEN TO.
Your goal should be to
pronounce your words
CLEARLY, and confidently,
and at a casual, relaxed
pace. If there’s a pause in the
conversation, practice NOT
filling it, and EXPECTING her
to fill it.
Regarding voice tone - If
you talk, you should feel the
vibration of your voice in
your lower throat and chest.
You’ll notice that as your tone
gets higher, the vibrations go
up to your mouth, your nose
and even further, depending
on how high you go. Raising
your voice tone is SEEKING
RAPPORT. Imagine how you
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walk talk to a gentle granny.
You would want to seem as
non threatening as possible,
so you would raise your voice
tone right up to sounds really
nice, friendly and agreeable.
When you approach, you want
to make a habit of keeping
your voice tone down to
a chest area. This is very
important. Going direct on a
girl with a lower voice range
will communicate extremely
high value as you are not
seeking rapport. If you say
the same thing to a girl, but
your raise your voice tone as
you say it, it will communicate
to the girl that you are WANT
HER APPROVAL for your
approach. Your saying “I like
you - is that ok?”, rather than
“I like you, and i don’t give a
fuck what you think of that.”
(don’t actually say this! haha)
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The Approach
Ok, here’s the juicy bit. How it’s actually done!

The girl is moving, so you need to stop her.

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Jog past her (on either side), and as you do, turning to face her
as you pass.

Make sure you have eye contact with her, so she can clearly
see that your intention is to speak to her. Make sure you EASE
into her field of vision so you don’t startle her.
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Remember to smile!
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If you look at my hands, you
can see they are infront of
me, and slightly to the sides,
in a kind of ‘PLEASE STOP’
posture. This is a subtle thing
that can sometimes make
the difference between her
stopping, and her walking
past. I always do it.
A very important thing to
point out here, is you HAVE
to stop DIRECTLY infront of
her. You need to give her
room to stop - if you jump
in too close, she’s likely to
continue straight past you.
The faster she’s moving, the
more space you need to give
her to stop. The reason you
need to get directly infront of
her, and not a bit to the side,
is what it is communicating.
Charity people don’t get
right infront of you. They
wouldn’d dare. Homeless
people asking for change
wouldn’t presume to stop
directly infront of you. Club
promoters don’t stop directly
in front of you. You see they
all EXPECT you to not want
to talk to them.
You on the other hand, are a
HIGH VALUE MAN. And you
are about to make a girls day.
So of course she’s going to
want to listen to you. So GET
RIGHT INFRONT OF HER.
BLOCK HER PATH. DO IT
YOU PUSSY!!! hahaha
Ok, now what you say to her.
There are varying degree’s
of DIRECT... obviously going
up to a girl and telling her
you would love to fuck her
would have less chance of
success that telling a girl she
‘caught you eye’, so I would
say it just comes down
to personal preference.
But I would recommend
a spirit of adventure and
experimentation. Try these
ones out:
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1) Hey you - I’m just on the

way home... but I just saw
you. I’d be kicking myself if I
didn’t come over and tell you
*enter a sincere compliment
here*. I’m Yosha.

2) Look at you - you look

fucking incredible. I had to
meet you.

3) Hey, sorry to bother you...

er... I’ve just ran away from
my friends... I saw you walk
past and I had to meet you.
Who the hell are you?!

I’d rather you not try and

remember too many ‘scripted
openers’... the spirit of the
opener should be IN THE
MOMENT. I’d rather you use
these ideas as templates for
making your own up. And I
want you to be honest with
the compliments. Make them
unique to the girl. And don’t
say “I like your dress. Say
YOU look amazing in that
dress. See the difference?
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Now - the TRANSITION.

This is very important. So

many people deliver their
direct opener, then kind of wait
for the girls response before
they move on. Remember
you want to communicate
that you don’t want her
approval, your just the kind
of man that isn’t afraid to go
for what he wants in life. You
want to deliver your opener,
then immediately transition
into a conversation.

How do you do this? Ok, this

is the part of the interaction
that is going to mess up the
most interactions. This is
actually the hard part that
takes the most practice. But
if you follow my advice, and
with enough practice, you
should be fine.

When you first start doing

this, you’ll probably be
bricking it, worrying about
what you’re gonna say after
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the opener. So you’ll go in,
say the opener, stand there
for a few seconds, and they
say something like “so what
are you up to?”. And that’s
fine. Well... it’s not fine. It’s
shit. But I mean it’s GOING TO
HAPPEN to you. And it’s just
because you CAN’T THINK
OF ANYTHING ELSE TO SAY.
You’ve started this direct
game journey, so congrats
for having the balls to go up
and do it. Now’s where the
real learning starts.
The more you approach,
the more desensitised your
become to approaching a girl
and saying something direct.
This is the first step; getting
rid of your AA.
Eventually, you’ll actually
really start to enjoy it as the
majority of responses will be
full of smiles. You’ll make their
day, which is cool in-of-itself.
As you become less afraid of
it, you’ll start to become a bit
more relaxed doing it. This is
where it can start to get fun.
When you are scared of a
given result, you using all of
your mental capacities to try
and find a way to avoid that
result. In this case, you’re
scanning your mind for that
‘next thing to say’, for fear of
that dreaded awkward pause.
I like to think of it like that
scene in Wallace And Gromit
(the one with the evil penguin)
where Gromit of on the train,
frantically laying down rail-
track infront of him so the
train doesn’t crash. So in
relation to this, you’re afraid
your going to reach back and
not be able to find a piece of
track...... CRAASH!!!
The problem is, the mindset,
the feeling of having to USE
YOUR BRAIN to try and
WORK OUT what to say, so
the complete opposite thing
you need to be doing. Infact,
it’s when you do this that
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you’re MOST LIKELY to run

out of things to say.

Instead, you have to be in

the moment. You have to LET
GO of everything you’ve ever
learnt about pick-up.

Just relax.

Observe.

Take everything in.

LISTEN to everything she’s

saying.

EVERYTHING around you

is a potential lead into a
conversation, including
yourself, and this crazy
situation you’ve just put the
both of you in.

Does she have an accent?

Has she got shopping bags?
Is she wearing anything that
you like? Is she tall? Short?
Did she smile when you
approached? Does she seem
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friendly? Does she remind
you of anyone? What’s the
weather like? Why did you
approach her? Are you crazy?
Is she crazy? Do you do this
all the time? Does she get
stopped all the time? Has she
always lived in London? Why
did she come to London?
All of that shouldn’t come from
your memory, but from THE
MOMENT. And the only way
to do that, is the be RELAXED
and CALM. Your focus needs
to be shifted from INWARDS
to OUTWARDS.
Notice how close I am to
her face. This was a direct
approach, so don’t be afraid
to invade her personal space
a bit.
Now just have a natural
conversation with her. Get
to know her. If your intention
for the conversation is to
find out about her, then you
will naturally qualify her. Let
her know about you - open
up to her and she will open
up to you.
But don’t forget, this was a
direct approach. Don’t let
her forget that. Throw in the
occasional direct comment to
keep the interaction spicey.
Then #close when you feel
like you have had a solid
interaction. The longer the
interaction, the more chance
the number won’t flake. If you
can, instant date. Girls never
flake after an instant date ;)
Finally - text her within 10
minutes of leaving her. You
want to keep the interaction
going continuously, otherwise
when you call or text in a few
days, the memory of the fun
you had together might have
faded and you might just be
‘some guy’ again.
That’s it - hope this helps
guys! Go out and practice
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it, and let me know how it

goes! Oh, before I end it, as a
final thought let’s just quickly
cover one more small thing
which is very relevant to
direct game:

Rejection
I have a second confession
for you guys. These photos
make me look like a pimp,
but that’s just showing you
guys when it goes right.
ALOT of the time, it just
doesn’t hit. The girl has a
boyfriend, is in a serious rush
to be somewhere or just isn’t
interested at all.

Some guys who teach this

stuff would have you believe
that they are perfect, but
unfortunately I’m only human.
I’m also a bit of a character
who isn’t going to ‘fit’ with
every girl I meet.

When I go out there I’m

being MYSELF. I’m not hiding
Yosha how to approach girls on the street, directly & naturally
behind any scripted stuff, I’m
just putting my personality
out there on the line, and I bet
there’s some girls out there
that just WONT go for that.
I’m also a bit goofy. I like to
have a laugh, all the time.
I hardly ever take anything
seriously. Some girls hate
this! If I approach one of
these girls, you can bet the
interaction won’t end up on
youtube!
My point is that getting good
at game is the first step. But
once you get to a certain
level where you start getting
some really cool results, it’s
just a process of meeting AS
MANY GIRLS AS YOU CAN,
so you can find the ones that
are really right for you. The
ones that love the kind of
person you are.
Look - somewhere out there
on the streets there is your
perfect 10. I don’t just mean
physically, I mean the one
who will totally LOVE you.
The one who will totally love
everything about you. She’s
out there man, and every
second you spend sitting at
your computer and not out on
the street is one less second
you could be spending with
the girl of your dreams.
I would love to hear of any
success stories from anyone
- feel free to contact me on
yosha@puatraining.com
MASSIVE thanks to Yad, one
of the trainers at PUATraining
who took me under his wing
when I first started doing day-
game all those months ago. If
it wasn’t for him I would never
have been able to write this
article! Love you dude!
All the best,
- Yosha
PUATRAINING