Tony Notes: Day One

meet Tony.
Knowledge is NOT power. Its potential power. EXECUTION trumps
knowledge every time.
Most folks arent fit and healthy. Most folks arent financially free. Most
folks dont have SPECTACULAR relationships. Im obsessed with the
few who do!
Regular school told you to sit down and SHUT UP! When youre
learning passively, youll be passive. (We were ACTIVELY learning,
getting into state, standing, yelling, talking, questioning, singing,
hugging, etc.) Much better atmosphere to LEARN!
Im not a Guru, but would be dumb not to see the similarities after
teaching millions in over a 100 countries around the world.
I can tell you that everything is 80% Psychology, and just 20%
mechanics.
This is how to produce results RIGHT NOW. Leaders live life on THEIR
TERMS.
HUNGER. Its the most important trait for successful people. I want you
to be one of the few that do, versus the many that talk.
So, what makes the difference in the quality in each persons life? Tony
grew up with 4 different dads. He had a lot of lack, and a tough
childhood, yet hes able to achieve. Do you know some people that get
EVERYTHING, and theyre still messed up? Then there are some

people that get punched in the face by life, and are SUCCESSFUL and
HAPPY!

your story.
Your BIOGRAPHY is not your DESTINY.
Theres a story of a 13 year-old mom. She had a child that was sexually
abused. That child got pregnant at 13 years old, like her mother, but

gave birth to a stillborn baby. This young lady was put in an institution
and then released. The young lady? OPRAH. Your biography is not your
destiny!
Theres not a force out there that controls your life. (You do!)
Do you remember the Melendez brothers? Very rich, had everything,
and as young adults they shot their parents in the face with a shotgun. A
cold-blooded murder. They claimed in the trial that they were abused,
but admitted to doing the killing. They had everything. How about
Lorena Bobbit? Do you remember her, and what she did?
Some of you need to have a God, experienceand LOVE is the only
way to really reach people. But there was a hell and damnation
preacher, walking in the desert. He saw an oasis of beautiful trees, of
watera beautiful place! The preacher met the farmer and declared,
What a blessing that the Lord has given you! The farmer nodded and
said, Yes. Im thankful for the miracle of the seed, the sun, the rain. I
have indeed been blessed. Then he said, But you should have seen it
(YELLING) WHEN GOD HAD IT ALL BY HIMSELF!!!"
Some will say that you are Broken, and need to get fixed. Thats Bullshit.
The fact is that you have PATTERNS and need to change them.
Were skipping to the real stuff. Its this, People dont REMEMBER who
they are!"
Its hard to love yourself, if youre not BEING YOURSELF!
You can tell how spiritual someone is by how comfortable they are with
themselves.
What is an EXTRAORDINARY Life? Life on YOUR terms! How is your
energy? How are your relationships?

 You have an Internal world and an External world. Were going to get
both to take it up a notch!
Master Skill: Master Science of Achievement. Cause and Effect. There
is a science to it. What is destroying your life is your STORY. Its up to
you to sew and to reap.
Socrates said, Learning is remembering."

energy.
One IMPORTANT FACTOR: ENERGY. Energy is the base. Physical
energy and Psychological energy! (Heres a biggie): The MORE energy
you expend, the MORE youll have! The more energy I get, the more I
have! Its like a turbocharger! Let me ask you, if you just sit around, do
you have more or less energy?!
We tried an energy experiment: I OWN YOU!!! Do you have more
energy than I??!!! Its an energy contest! (remember that?)
Remember back when you loved a car? You obsessed over it, and
finally GOT it! You were so excited! Then, one day, a scratch. Then
another, and another. Then, finally, one day you wake up, and its just a
fucking car.
Its the same way with our relationships! Remember when you were first
in love? Honey, can you get the trash? (singing) YES!!! Fast forward to 7
months, or 7 years later. Can you get the trash? (Angrily) Do I look like a
fucking janitor?
But in our relationship, I thought you would meet all of my needs all the
time, instantaneously, and forever!?"

language.
Im going to cuss. Ill use adult, language. Youve heard me drop the Fbomb several times already. Im going to be real. Theres a different
feeling when I say, bum, or, butt, than there is when I say, ASS!"
Read the Taboo Words book. It talks about this.
Were all starving for reality! Even reality TV isnt real. Our Bullshit
meters are so good these days.
Im going to use words that are as raw as necessary. (Note: theyre a
pattern interrupt, and add emphasis to what needs it.)

changing your life.

Freud was a genius, and an idiot.
People let CULTURE control them.
Sometimes you use language with yourself to soften impact. So you
dont have to change. Oh, thats too bad. versus Thats FUCKING
TERRIBLE! No, thats it! Its CHANGING NOW!!!

Most people end up managing pain, and settle for it.

 Three Steps to Changing your life:

o 1. Become OBSESSED. Focus, energy on it! WHEREVER
FOCUS GOES, ENERGY FLOWS! RAS, or reticular activating
system determines what you notice. Remember when you got a
car, and then saw them everywhere? They were always there, you
just didnt notice because you werent focused. Get FOCUSED on
your change!
o 2. TAKE MASSIVE ACTION!!! Keep trying and trying. Effective
execution. Iterate, change tactics if you mustbut GO, GO, GO!!!
o 3. Grace. God. The Universe. Luck. Blessings. Sometimes you get
a break!
The more you acknowledge and appreciate the GRACEthe more you
will have. Knowledge of this accelerates the process!
There is a Science of achievement and an ART of fulfillment. You HAVE
to find your meaning. Success doesnt mean a damn thing without
fulfillment. In fact, Success without Fulfillment is the worst failure!
You need to have a sense of contribution. Humanity is caring about
others more than yourself.
You dont want to get to the place where you say, Is this all there is?"
If you SUCCEED, and youre unhappy >> then youre SCREWED!
Law of Familiarity: if youre around it too much, you will start to take it for
granted.

age and energy.

The base of all of this is ENERGY!!!
At a high level of energy; the game is at a different level!! Remember
Thanksgiving, and how sluggish you felt? "Lets get together and be
grateful and eat a decent amount of high quality, super healthy food!
Ummm, no. We stuff our faces into next week! You feel like sleeping. It
doesnt give you energy!
Energy comes from: movement. You can tell how old someone is by
how they move.
Age is cultural.
Someone says, Youre getting old. They are full of SHIT!!!
Tony decided to study extreme athleteswho were over 60 years old!
Sister Madonna, a 71-year old
triathlete. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna_Buder

If we want to do it, we can. The only failure is not to try, because putting forth the effort is success in
itself.

There was a 104 year old woman he talked to that held the world shotput record. For her age group, that is. In the 65+ year old category! She
talked fondly about her 2-week grueling trip through the Australian
outback. Tony assumed it was when she was much younger, maybe in
her 40sit was when she was 80 years old24 years before the
interview!

 ENERGY IS BASED ON YOUR PSYCHOLOGY, NOT YOUR

CHRONOLOGY!!!
Im 55 years old, and Im still a kid!
Im asking you to be a kid the next four days. What do adults do when
they see a puddle? They walk around it. What about kids? They jump in
it! Im asking you to JUMP IN THE PUDDLE!

influence.
LEADER. To be a leader, you need the SKILL of INFLUENCE. And, if
you do it (influence) with integrity, then youre a GREAT leader.
The NUMBER ONE skill in life is INFLUENCE. But(heres a biggie)
you have to influence YOURSELF.
You need to know HOW someone is influenced.
You need to get good at influencing yourself!

decisions.
Two forces affect decisions!
First: STATE youre in. Physiology. Moment to moment. You can learn to
change your state INSTANTLY, no bullshit.

 Change your power posture. HIGH POWER POSE. Use power,

movement, and SOUND.
Become aware of your state change. (Editors note: be mindful at all
times of your energy and focusif you notice its lagging, change your
state consciously)
Second: Your Blueprint! Thats our story of what we should be doing.
(Shoulding all over ourselves). Sometimes our, story, is complete
bullshit.

LOW LEVEL of energy equals a lower level of thought. Be in great state

when making decisions.
The word Lunatic, described people that thought they could go to the
moon.
We dont have new thoughts. Theyve been had before. Instead, you
have HABITS of thought.

emotions.
The Quality of your Emotions are the quality of your life.

 Its not money (everyone thinks it is). Your life is about relationships.
Have you ever been to a funeral when everyone is mourning, sad, and
cryingand then someone says something funny that the deceased
did? Everyone laughed! It may have been an inappropriate laughbut it
shows that your state and emotions can change instantly.
WHATEVER YOU FOCUS ON EXPANDS.
All people have their, Emotional Home. Do you know people who are:
o always worried?
o always mad?
o always cracking up?
o WHICH ARE YOU?
I have a HABIT of being there (in the emotional home).
Im moving to my FUN, ENERGETIC, and PLAYFUL home permanently!
Take your emotions to a new level. Be higher!
EMOTION IS CREATED BY MOTION!
What does a depressed person look like? How is their breathing?
Shallow or deep? How is their posture? Straight or slumped? How is
their face? Smiling, or sullen?
Experiment. Act like youre depressed. See how it feels, what youd
need to focus on. How your state is. Act like youre REALLY
Uninterested in meeting people.
STRESS is the adult term for FEAR. Follow the stress to find the fear.

 Experiment. Act like youre fearful. How do you use your body?
Experiment. You have to make a GREAT impression, or your entire
family dies. How do you use your body?
WHEN YOU USE MORE OF GODS GIFTS, YOU GET MORE OF
GODS GIFTS.
Experiment. Greet as if someone is your long lost friend or long lost
love. How are you feeling with that? Do you use more energy or less?
More face muscles, or less? Are you louder or quieter? Are you more or
less direct?
Were all after FEELINGS. I want extreme satisfaction. FULFILLMENT.
What do we all want? River of Sharing.
You came to this conference to either: increase good feelings, or reduce
the pain.
If your ultimate goal is accomplished, what would that do to you? How
would that make you feel?! Think about it RIGHT NOW. Feel that
feeling!
WHO makes you feel good? YOU do. You have that ability. (editors
note: But you let the environment or circumstances decide how you feel
instead most of the time).
We have a BLUEPRINT for what must happen for us to be HAPPY!
(editors note: thats bullshit, and we know it. We dont need permission
to feel happy).
Really go for what you want! More Joy! More ecstasy! More
contentment.
You think you need an EXCUSE to feel good.

 Culture has conditioned us to cover up pain. To temper happiness.

What do you want to wire yourself for more? Feeling good. Being happy.
All of the good feelings.
Give YOURSELF permission to celebrate!

Does stress use you, or do you use stress?!

When youre in a shitty state, are you:
o treating people better, or worse?
o a better lover, or worse?
o more resourceful, or less?
SNAP TO AN INSTANT STATE!
Some people are mentally old and dont enjoy life.
AGAIN: EMOTION is created by MOTION!
Celebration is the highest level of energy!

 Experiment: Celebrate like never before for 30 seconds! Okay, take it up

a notch! Celebrate twice as much!
Question: How do you grow a muscle? You USE it. (Editors note:
Control your emotions often, celebrate often, dont wait for cultural
permission to celebrate)
Passion and Faith not used begins to shrink. It doesnt grow.
What is life all about?

intervention.
Barbara from California.
Great business, started a non-profit, travels.
Blueprint requires that people need to improve.
Requires EVERYONE to do well.
World on its head when they got a call at 3am about 15-year old
daughter that got drunk.
Emotional, mind immediately went to what if she dies and gets raped.
Fear is that life isnt meaningful unless it goes a certain way.
That was not in my plan!"

 Successful people are much more fearful than others. Often scared of
not achieving.
***Fearful that Im not enough***
EVERYTHING SERVES A GREATER GOOD.
Find an empowered meaning in everything.

Tony, part deux.

***My Prayer: Lord, use me.***
Be proud because youve DONE SOMETHING!!! Do it, and make it
happen.
Story about Tonys youngest sonhe was using his name (as Tonys
kid) to get shit (that he hadnt earned). Special treatment.
o Drove Tony up the wall!
o Then he paused, and thought about it and came up with this:
Maybe he can teach ME something!"
o His son is the MASTER of Chill. He can chill out anytime,
anywhere. Tonyeh, not so much.
o He approached his son, I owe you an apology."
o You have a skill that I want to learn. Tony proceeds to learn from
his son.

o How do you chill? We trained on it, together.

o At the end, Tony says, Im so glad youre not me."
Stress comes from making things BIGGER than they are.
Failure comes from making things SMALLER than they are.
***Difference between WANTING to change the world, or HAVING to
change the world is significant.*** (Ooh, I needed to hear this)
Faith, with ACTION, is amazing.
Life can be PERFECT with all of its problems and troubles.

intervention 2.
Depressed Lady (I didnt write down her name, but we all remember
this!) with two sons. All on medication for ADHD.
ADULT(!) DHD.

 You can INFLUENCE others, not control them.

(No, God) I was wanting it (YELLING!!!) NOW!!!
Hold a standard. Express faith in them. (Referring to children).
State exercise. How are you standing? How is your breathing. Get
depressed. Now, how do feel when you have orgasm? More! More!
See massive differences in state. Also, broke the pattern of feeling sorry
for herself and going to emotional home. Now get depressed. Now
orgasmic.
Do you want to make God laugh? Tell Her your plans!
Son has very high IQ, and, cant stay focused in school, so
medicated.
ADD actually means that you had STD. Shitty Teacher Disorder.

 Im asking you to consider other options. I dont know it all. Seek to get
off of the meds.
MOOD >> Then Actions >> Then Self-Worth. Not the right way. (Editors
note: Self Worth >> Then Actions >> Then Mood)
How many people know someone who takes anti-depressants and
theyre still depressed? (Lots of hands up)
Her 9 Year-old said, I dont see you smile enough.

***Tony: Isnt it great that GOD showed up in your child?"

Tony How will you know when this works? Woman Ill know when it
works when Im focused. Tony Youre a woman."
You can live in a different world through your phone.
Tony is a DE-HYPNOTIST. Youre already hypnotized.
Tonys story about his 10-year high school reunion.
o His Moms observation: Youve always been an outsider."
o He wondered how do I fit in?
o He grew from 51 to 67.
o Wasnt popular.
***Its all perfect. Who I am is ENOUGH. Theres a higher purpose in it
all. THANK GOD that I wasnt stupid enough to give up!***
You dont need to be FIXED. But you do need to wake up!

 There IS more. Theres ALWAYS more.

Youre amazing JUST the way you are. (Played Bruno Mars song)
Editors Note: We are at our best when GOD is shown through us.
The Internet can be a weapon, or a gift. It depends on how it is used.
We are drowning in information; yet dying for wisdom.
Drugging just numbs, and doesnt fix the underlying issue.
(Get yourself and the boys off of the meds.) Applause.
Up next: What is a Breakthrough?!!