Relationships: If you slept with him “too soon”

Did you sleep with him “too soon”? Did he lose interest in you
afterward? It is NOT what you think. It is not because you slept with
him. It is because sleeping with him MEANT MORE to you than it did to
him.

Sex is a pleasant physical activity, but most men see it as nothing

more. Many women see it as barely short of a marriage proposal.
Many men see it as a sport. If you begin to act “married” after
sleeping with a man, he will almost certainly withdraw for you.

Men tend to run away from women who pursue them. The biggest
mistake many women make is trying to convince a man that he should
want a relationship with them. Men respond more positively (or more
negatively) to what you do than to what you say.

Men look for certain behaviors in women, even if they are not aware of
it, themselves. They look for what they see as “needy” behavior and
run away from it. If you start acting like you are already married, just
because you slept with him, he will almost certainly run away from
you.

Men look for women who are playful and independent, and they pursue
them. If you act “hard to get”, without completely rejecting a man, he
will almost certainly pursue you.

Did he stop calling you? It is not because you slept with him, or
because you did not sleep with him. It is not because of your looks or
social status. Maybe it is because of something that you did or said.
Or maybe it is his problem, not yours, and he is doing you a favor by
letting you know before you get too attached to him.

You do not have to be beautiful or rich or successful to attract a good

man to share your life. You do need a few skills to form a relationship
with the right man.

Men and women have different sets of emotional triggers. For a

woman, in most cases, sex means something more than physical
pleasure. Sleeping with a man creates a feeling of bonding.

For a man, on the other hand, bonding forms in a different way. Men
need to be engaged mentally and emotionally to form a bond with a
woman that leads to commitment. Physical pleasure is not enough.
The mistake that most women make is pursuing a man and trying to
convince him that he should want a relationship with her. Many
women do this after sleeping with a man, “too soon” or at any point in
the relationship.

Men like to pursue women. When a woman pursues a man, he sees

her as “needy”. He thinks that she will be too much work, so he
withdraws or even runs away.

Communicate to the man in your life that you do not “need” him to be
fulfilled as a person. Instead, let him know that you enjoy being with
him. Tell him that he adds something extra to your life.

Never scold a man, unless you are his mother. When you criticize a
man and tell him about his failings, he sees you as his mother. That
turns off all of his romantic feelings.

If you want a relationship with a man, you need to make him pursue
you. This does not mean pushing him away or saying negative things
about him. It means letting him know that you are worth pursuing.

If you slept with him, do not immediately start making plans as if you
were already married. Do not apologize, either. He should be thanking
you for giving of yourself before he has made the commitment that
you deserve.

Sleeping with a man does not make him want to make a commitment.
On the other hand, it does not make him not want to make a
commitment. He wants a woman for other reasons.

You can show a man that you are the only woman for him, and that he
is lucky that you agree to be with him. You just need a few simple
strategies. Make sure that you can use these strategies in a way that
feels natural and real too you.

Teasing is a good strategy. Men like to be teased, so long as you do it

with a smile and in a way that lets him know that you are having fun
with him. And make sure that it is fun for you.

Teasing is a good way to get a man interested in more than your body.
For example, if a man asks you for your phone number, ask him to pick
a number between one and ten, and then tell him whether that
number is part of your phone number. Draw it out, making him guess
at least three times.
Stop teasing him if he acts frustrated or angry. You do not want to give
him your number, anyway. He is demonstrating a lack of maturity.
Calmly tell him that you want to date a man, not a boy. Or just say it
to yourself. Then walk away.

If he does not pursue you, just keep walking away. Even if you did
manage to convince him to take you out on a date, he would not treat
you well. You deserve a man who will treat you well. You want to date
a man who sees you as valuable and worth pursuing.

Once you have a relationship, do not make the mistake of planning out
the rest of your life. When you have a good man who is treating you
well, you need to make plans together. If you inspire him to want to
spend the rest of his life with you, then the two of you can make plans
together.

You can inspire a man to pursue you. You can inspire him to make
plans for spending the rest of your lives together. He will see you as
the only woman who can share his life and he will feel that it is harder
to live without you than to make a commitment to you.

Men are inspired by smart, playful, independent women. This does not
mean that you should act like you do not need a man. It means that
you can be happy when he does not call, and you can do things that
you enjoy when he is not with you. It also means that both of you have
fun when you are together. The relationship should be fun, not work.

Men want women who do not fall apart emotionally. This does not
mean that you should not get upset when something bad happens. It
does mean that you should not “fly off the handle”. Learn to tell him
that you are upset, without blaming him.

If a man does something that upsets you, tell him that you feel upset.
Own your feelings. Do not tell him that he is to blame. For example, if
he forgets to call you or come by, tell him that you missed him, not
that he did something wrong. A real man will respond positively if you
own your own feelings.

If you inspire a man to pursue you, and you act playful with him, he will
want to do things that make you happy. If you criticize him, he will be
afraid of doing things that make you unhappy. That fear will drive him
away from you.

If you act playful and independent, but the man still does not pursue
you, or withdraws or runs away, then he is not the right man for you.
The sooner you find that out, the sooner you can walk away and find
the right man.