The Female Submissive Anal Training Guide

by Sir N

Anal, The Big A, Ass Fucking call it what you will a large percentage of men love the
idea of it, often trying it once with many a girl proclaiming that Its herts and
Were never doing that again.
This was the case for me and KW during our vanilla period, when trying anal I rushed
it and caused some issue for some time.
When entering a D/s as Dom its within your power (and agreed limits) to do what
ever you want, often this meaning training your sub both physically and mentally.
So given my love for anal like most (In the UK 31 percent have tried it) one of my
main goals was to train my sub anally, but more importantly to do it the right way, so
we could both enjoy anal in the long term.

What To Do Before You Start Anal

Training
Discus It:
Most women dont like the idea of anal, some may even hate it due to a bad previous
experience, so explain your goals and gain consent from your submissive.

Understand the Mechanics.

Simple put an arse is are tight, after all thats why you want fuck it! This tightness
means building up to the porn star anal sex you desire takes time (Not days or weeks

but months in some cases). The anus is made up of two strong mussels which actually
have to to stretched slowly and incrementally to achieve results. If you go too fast you
risk tearing the anus, mean potentials long term problems for sub, that can even lead
to surgery in extreme cases.

Tool Up.
With anal play having the right equipment is critical, in my opinion it can be the
difference between success and failure so what do you need?

Flavoured Lube.
Best practice anal sex includes rimming (Licking the anus) as this helps relax your
partners outer anus. You can make this task a lot easier and enjoyable by using
flavoured lubes such as Drurexs Range, my favourite is Cherry or Strawberry.

Anal Relaxants.
Making the ass as stretchy as possible is key to anal training and sex and its worth
going beyond mental relaxation. For me and KW Pjurs Analyse Me Spray has made a
real difference. What It does is make the anal tissues stretchy and lowers sensitivity
making anal play more pleasurable for your partner. Ill explain later how to use it
best.

Anal Lubes
Now an import physical aspect about the anus is that unlike a pussy it doesnt produce
its own lube. Due to this fact choosing the right lube makes all the difference, for
anal sex and play its best to use silicone lubes like my favourite Pjurs Silicone Lube
called Back Door Glide. Silicone lubes work because unlike their water based
alternative they cant get absorbed in the skin, because if this you need a lot less.
Three important points about silicone lube: 1 its more expensive, however its well
worth it if you want regular anal fun. 2 you CANT use it with silicone sex toys as it
cause a reaction make it ineffective. So make sure you understand what the toys you
buy are made of, personally I find high grade rubber the best. 3 Some people have
allergies to silicone, so make sure you test it on different part of skin first.

Anal Toys (Butt Plugs, Beads and Dildos)

Now this part comes down to personal preference and what you sub/partner has used
previously. Personally my sub had never used any anal toys before, so I decided to
take the approach of you using various sizes of butt plugs.
If your dealing with a sub new to anal play and training I recommend a butt plug with
about a 3.5 circumference (its about the width of a large finger at its widest point).
Once you sub is comfortable with that size you buy larger or you can buy a butt plug
kit.
Hemroid/Piles Cream: Good anal training is a much about after care as any other facet
of BDSM. Once youve finish your scene make sure you apply some high
quality hemroid cream to your subs anus (Inside and out) to aid recovery.

How to Carry Out Anal Training

The above guide is for those in a non 24/7 D/s relationship where training may be less
extreme or regular.
Ive split the below training guide into two parts, first part details a single training
session. The second part details how to carry out multi session training

Training Session Guide:

Through all of the below steps I suggest stimulating your subs pussy or clit to help
associate a strong link between pleasure and anal play/sex.
1. Get Your Sub Relaxed. You want to get your sub as relaxed as possible, focus
on music and light. If it helps a single glass of wine can help relax a nervous
sub further, how ever dont let them get to drunk as they will be able to tell
when anal play goes from uncomfortable to painful.

2. Rimming: If you want anal expect to rim. Get your sub in your favoured
position (My preference is Face Down, Ass Up) Then apply some flavoured
lube to her anus and rim away, using your tong to penetrate where possible.
3. Apply Relaxing Spray. Relaxant Sprays can several minutes to work
effectively, so apply your spray of choice directly to arse hole and work it in as
part of step 4.
4. Thumb and Finger Play. With the spay applied start playing with your subs
arse, push on the hole to help get your sub comfortable with the pressure. Now
is also a great time to instruct you sub suck you while you play.
5. Butt Plug Training: This is ware anal training really starts. Once your subs arse
is fully felling the effects of the relaxant, its time to start plug training, follow
the below steps.
o Apply silicone lube to your subs arse and the butt plug
o Get your sub to tense and then relax their anus, just after th relax push
in the plug a little. This exercise really helps relax the anus further.
Also get your sub to breath deeply through each push.
o Repeat step 2 above till the plug is ether completely in or a far as the
sub can cope with.
o With plug at it maximum depth (Ether fully inserted to the based or at
the maximum depth your sub can cope with) leave it there for several
minutes. Aim to increase this time each anal training session
o If your sub very comfortable with a specific plug size I suggest
pushing them a little by fucking the arse at their at the plugs widest
point

So How Do You So Fuck a Girls Arse?

Personally I would only move onto anal sex until after your sub is comfortable with a
basic butt plug over several minutes, if shes still having difficulty wait till another
session.

How successful you are depends on your length and girth, so if youve small dick
your in luck, if you have a big dick its going to take longer to achieve results.
Personally I always have anal sex after training, however its also a slow process. As
with butt plugs make sure you use silicone lube before starting, if your anal training is
going well your sub arse should gape a little after removing the plug and when you
ask them to pull their cheeks apart.

6 Steps to Ass Fucking

1. Carry out anal training first, this will help get her as stretch and ready your
subs ass you.
2. Find the right position, the easiest for anal initially is with your sub on her
back holding her legs to raise her ass to your dick.
3. Now try the head of your cock first and take the same time as you would with
plug.
4. Only increase depth gradually, it takes time get full penetration. It may take
many session to get that full porn star anal you want.
5. Anal After Care: After a session (In non 24/7 D/s context) its best to leave 1-2
Day till you carry out further anal training. This is especially true once when
pushing your subs physical limits with large plugs and deeper anal sex.
6. In addition to the above point I also suggest applying hemroid(piles) cream to
your subs arse after most anal sessions. Unless there very comfortable with
that size plug/depth. This ether speeds up recover or ensure any damage done i
minimised.

Carrying Out Anal Training in the Long Run

So you had your first session, your submissive recovered well and your ready to go
further and carry out Anal Training over multiple session?
In my opinion you should only graduate to the next session when your sub is easily
coping with her current session.
For example you may need to repeat a session several times till your sub an easily
handle a specific size of butt plug.
So here you go my multi session guide to anal training for non 24/7 D/s relationships .

Session 1: Rimming and Finger Play. Get your sub used to you playing with
her arse my favourite way to this is to have her rub her pussy while on all
fours while I eat her ass out. I suggest repeating this session twice and judge
her feedback, although you should have already discussed anal play when
agreeing limits.
Session 2: As above, but try using the tip of a 3.5 (Circumference) butt plug.
Just pushing in the top in while monitoring your subs reaction. Leave a 2 day
gap for recovery.
Session 3: Follow session 1, but aim to get the plug inserted fully into your
subs arse, take your time doing this getting your sub to breath through it and

dont rush. Aim to leave plug fully for 2 minutes before removal. Repeat this
session till its in for 10 minutes. Leaving 1-2 days between session not
forgetting aftercare.
Session 4: As above, but try to start fuck her ass with the widest part of the
plug. Repeat session twice, again leaving recover days between sessions.
Session 5: As above, but when you remove the plug try pushing just the tip of
your cock head in her ass. After 10 minutes of plug play her ass should gap a
little, a good sign for further play.
Session 6: Follow all the steps as normal with a 3.5 plug, but after removal
graduate to a 4.5 plug, again as with a 3.5 plug it make take several repeats
of this session to get the plug fully inserted.
Session 7: Moving on from session 6, you should be able to achieve gentle ass
fucking with a little more depth.
Session 8: Going through all the steps, move up to 5.5 circumference butt
plug (Provide your sub can easily handle a 4.5 plug), taking your time and
sessions to achieve full insertion of the plug.
Session 9: If you sub can easily handle the 5.5 plug you should be able after a
full training session (Rimming, 3.5-5.5 training) be able to start achieve
deeper and in some cases slight harder ass fucking.

So there you have it my guide to anal training with a female submissive, have an
opinion, differing method please let me know in the comments and ill respond as best
I can.