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Dylan Plant
Tess Boone
Dance and Culture 1100
October 9, 2014
A Deeper Look
A million light years away you would see the Earth as a pure blue star. Zoom closer and
youll see a giant sphere compromised of blue, green, brown, and white coloring. Stand on top of
it and youll see an indescribable collage of each and every one of us. What a beautiful world!
I had the opportunity to interview my neighbors whom Ive known to be homosexual for
quite some time. Today, this is a very controversial topic which brings much attention to
Americans and the even to the world. Theyve always been good friends to me so I felt that
considering they are different this would be a great opportunity for me to learn from them.
Although Ive chatted with them here and there, the talk of their homosexuality has only been
mentioned once. It wasnt until October 6, 2014 that we really talked about this in depth. To say
the least this interview went well for me and I know it was good for them too. Let me share what
was I learned.
For the nature of this assignment, I will refer to these two men as Mike and Steve to keep
their real names anonymous. They honestly have no shame if I was to use their real names but
Ive decided to use these names instead. In doing so, I will be discussing about their history, their
experience being different, what it was like growing up in Utah, their core values, and what
they believe itll take for the world to be a better place.
Steve grew up with a very religious dad and a very open minded mom. He was attending
church regularly but always had questions. Though he was obligated to ask because of his

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curiosity, he was often silenced. It would get to the point where the bishop would tell his dad to
tell him to stop asking questions. Steve wasnt too fond of this and basically claimed that if he
couldnt ask questions then he didnt want to be part of the church. His mom always told him he
didnt need a building to talk to God so he decided to leave. Growing up through high school he
carried on with his life and tried to date many girls. Although he found them to be beautiful, he
never could form an emotional or intimate connection with them. It was at that point he realized
women werent for him. He then knew he was gay.
Mike grew up in Ogden where he lost his father at the age of 18. Most of his life he was
always around his aunt and grandmother and always preferred to hang out with girls. He never
felt sure about playing sports and he wonders if to this day those things had an influence on him.
Throughout his teen years he dated girls and even had girlfriends. He hid his homosexuality at
this time due to being embarrassed of it. He went on ahead and did get married but these feelings
didnt go away. Trying to get a divorce was difficult because his ex-wife then threatened to tell
his job at the Air force base about his homosexuality. Unfortunately she did tell them and he
ended up moving to Salt Lake City where he found a new job and met his partner, Steve.
Hearing there two stories collide; it made me ponder about the sincere interest in their
lives. Both did acquire to be with women but never felt it was enough. They claimed to have
never chosen this and validate their point through their life stories. Steve particularly said
something I never thought about before. He rhetorically asked, Who would want be part of a
group that is discriminated? This imposed to me that these two guys didnt choose to be
attracted to men. Their stories are authentic and validate their point quite clearly. At least in their
case they didnt choose to be gay.

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Growing up in Utah overall wasnt a terrible experience for these two as one might
assume (including myself). They honestly havent felt too much discrimination here. Although
theyve been treated fairly well, they do have friends who have been egged or ostracized from
their families. They do feel many people here are narrow minded but appreciated the
neighborhood they live in. When talking about the LDS church Steve mentioned that he felt
those who are born in the church are more tolerable than those who were converted to it. He feels
its because they grew up with it and were more prone to see the world. Those converted were
taught a one way path and there is no other way. This brought up their idea how people need to
take off their blinders. To say the least, theyve faced some tough times but havent had too bad
of an experience here.
It was interesting to me to find out the reason both of them left the LDS church had
nothing to do with being gay but rather were personal issues. Mike attended scouts with mostly
LDS kids and one catholic kid. When he saw the young catholic friend really being pushed to
join the church this made Mike feel uncomfortable. From there on he stopped going to church.
Steve grew up with a very LDS dad and an open minded mom. He would always ask questions
in church but was told to keep quite. When this carried on long enough along with much
suppression from his father he then decided at age 13 he didnt want to go to church anymore. It
was a relief to me to see they didnt have any harsh feelings towards the church. I assumed that
most gay guys would hate the church. They may disagree with some things but it doesnt make
them hate the church. They believe the only time to dislike somebody is when they are just plain
mea. I agree with them to accept and love as much as possible.
One thing that impressed me the most was their core values. Only several minutes into
this interview, these two men expressed themselves of what is important in life. They believe

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that everyone should be treated with respect and kindness. Its also important to them to try and
help the poor and less fortunate. Not only helping others but we should help ourselves by being
true to ourselves. All of this is what they feel God expects from everybody to do in their lives.
To say the least, these are things which I may self believe are important too. I may have other
beliefs along this but that doesnt matter. Its clear to see that so many people have similar core
values no matter who you are or where you are from.
The final question I asked these was this, What will it take for the world to be a better
place? Their biggest response was intolerance needs to be gone. We as people need to be more
understanding and more accepting of others. We shouldnt judge people others nor especially by
their cover. Discrimination needs to be gone and tolerance needs to be put in its place. They
even suggested that people need to Love thy Neighbor as mentioned in the bible to make this
all work. My absolute favorite thing that was said was, people need to stop drinking the
Haterade! I feel this alone sums it all up.
I now know that in order to understand the world, you must take a closer look whats
around you. From far away the Earth makes look like simple blue star but when you get closer
you can see what it truly beholds. There is more than meets eye. My assumptions were
challenged but nothing too drastic. Ive always believed to love and accept those who are
homosexual. I was surprised to learn from these two specifically how their identity of being gay
is only a small part of them. They feel like regular people which is how they are supposed to
feel. I may not love the idea of homosexuality but I do believe in loving everyone around us. We
may not agree with one another but I supposed the contrast of opinions is what makes the world
a colorful place. I guess thats why the world is a beautiful place after all. It just takes a deeper
look.