Minor Assignment 1

Camille Fox
CIS-110 Jake Matig
4 December 2014

I always was a bit of a pushover when it came to solving problems with my

family and friends. Id rather be the one who loses out on the situation than seeing

everyone else upset about the outcome. This pushover side of me comes out when I
am with my friends not my family. When Im with my family I like to win the
arguments more often.
I am the eldest of two daughters and to say the least I will always be the firstborn. My younger sister may look older than me but my age in maturity tops her.
When I was about 7 I flushed my mothers ring down the toilet and my immediate
thought was to blame my younger helpless sister. This allowed me to win and her to
lose. Shortly after she was punished and I felt accomplished. No matter how much
we argued or tried to explain to our parents it was my fault they never believed her.
She had lost and I had won. I always insist on winning because I am almost always
right.
When my friends or my boyfriend and I argue I let them believe that they are
right. When I was younger I discovered that my argumentative side caused my
friends to stray. This conditioned me to let my friends win more often and me to
lose out in the argument. Just this past week over break I let my boyfriend win the
board game we were playing. I did this because it is easier to let him win than have
to deal with him if he looses. I do this with all of my friends because I discovered
that actually is much easier to let them feel as though they had won. It immediately
drops the conversation and argument.
My conflict style changes depending on if I am with my family or friends. I
think this is a natural change for most people because people are usually more
comfortable with their families. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule,
but for the most part I have witnessed people be more willing to say hurtful things

to win an argument with their families. That is how my family and I work anyhow,
especially with my sister and me. I will always be close with my friends but I do not
think I will ever be close enough to say some of the things I say to my family to them.