Good morning to all the parents who came today and also thank you for choosing our

Brainy Montessori as your choice. To raise a child to be good son or daughter in the future
need full support from the parents and also good education background. We here could
support your child on giving a good quality of education but still during the child growth
parents play the most important role to help them on becoming a good human and child in the
challenging world ahead. As we gather here today I would like to give a short speech about
What does it take to be a good parent?
Firstly in parenting, parents should start with good education. Education plays
important roles in guiding children for their future, good education should cover several
aspects such as manners, physical, intellectual, social, psychology and emotion. All the
aspects listed are important to prepare the children towards the challenging world ahead.
Parents should not put the entire task on educating to the teachers or school management but
parents should also take part on educating the children. At home parents are the teachers and
should educate children on manners, psychology and emotion. Children learn using their
senses such as hear, watch and touch. Parents should show good manners in front of the
children and try to avoid any bad communication in front the children. The good manners
then lead to the good psychology and also good emotion of the children. A good psychology
is where the children able to think on their own, confident and also when they on a calm state.
Parents usually overlooked on this aspect and they show bad manners in front of the children
such as quarrelling, use indecent words and show negative behaviours. Children will think
that they are allows to do same actions because their parents also did it. Parents should aware
and try to avoid children against these five things or feeling that are being ashamed, scared,
low self-esteem, jealousy and angry. All the five negative feeling need to be monitor by the
parents during the children growth. Children should know that it is not good to have those
feelings towards another children or people. I our Brainy Montessori we teach the children to
be confident with themselves and not feel shame so that they could associate with other
children and also with the adults in good ways.
One of the negative feelings is low self-esteem feeling we as the parents should be
fair towards all our children because they will feel neglected by their parents. Then it will
become worst if they thought the unfairness happen because they lack of something. It does
happen to one of the children in this Montessori, she have a very low self-esteem because her
mother always scold her and she felt neglected because of her look. She always looks
unhappy and never feels confident when teacher ask her questions. Avoid your children to be
like this little girl and give a fair love and affection towards all your children. Feeling scared
and angry are two negative elements that usually encounter children. Parents behaviour such
as unwise treat when handling the children and also when they marriage having problems
could contributes to the negative behaviours. As parents we should act wisely because it
could cause scared feelings which then could continues to worst and disturb the children
emotion. When their emotion disturbed children tend to seclude themselves from the other
children and it could then gives bad impact to their social life. Only parents have the ability to
help this kind of children and avoid them to become worst throughout their growth. We as
parents should act as a wise adult that could show positive example for our children to
follow, try to put aside all the problems that we have far from the children. Nowadays we
could see many broken marriage and it effect the children especially with parents that
fighting for child custody. Children felt unsecured and most of the time they felt lonely, it
will affect their growth especially their education and also their emotion.
We have been focused on the manners, psychological and emotion aspect and now
parents must also know the importance of discipline. Children need discipline to enable them
to have good behaviour. Children behaviour is a reflection of the parents behaviour. Parents
should be strict towards children in certain circumstances, strict does not means we should
use violence but by using admonition. Correct the children wrong doings by telling them why
it is wrong and give advice that was strict in educating the children. Currently in our daily life
we could see children misbehave because parents never correct their wrong doings during the
child development. They will keep doing the wrong behaviours until they enter the school life
and it will give bad impact on their social life. Other children and teacher will avoid them and
they will be ignored by their friends and teacher because of the bad behaviours. As a parent
we surely did not want our children to be neglected by the teachers and their friends. Make a
move now and be strict in a good way in order to help our children to grow and develops in a
healthy life. We as the parents must take charge on helping them to understand the limit they
should follow in this confusing world. This is one way on showing the childrens our loves
for them by setting a limit or boundaries so they could explore and discover their passion
safely. Setting a limit does not mean we clip the children wings but it is more on setting a
simple mission in their life. Let the children gain independence when they do simple chores
such as clearing their toys away, dress up and helping in the kitchen. Dont forbid them when
they want to try doing the simple chores because it gives them responsibilities and it will
build their self-esteem. When they do the simple chores usually they might face difficulties,
let them experience the problems and let then find their own solutions. You might be surprise
on how they could solve the problems. If they feel frustrated because they could solve the
problems dont immediately rush to save them let them be for a period of time and with this
we are teaching them about self-reliance and resilience. Parents always battles and arguing
with their children about small matters such as what the children should wear or what they
should read and eat. Forget the arguments on small matters and focused on something
important such as how to behave with no hitting, rude talk, lying and be respectful towards
older people. By focusing in this important matter we are training them to be a good children
and good adult in the future.
Communication plays important role on relationship between children and parent.
They are certain parents that feel awkward to talk with their own children; they feel that when
they have good communication with the children it means that they are spoiling the children.
It is totally wrong communication is the important bridge between parents and children,
without good communication how would the children say or tell about their problems or other
important things for them. If there are no communication between children and parents,
children will feel lonely and they tend to find other people to share their problems and to
express their feelings. Usually children share problems among their friends, they always
discuss and share their interest on fashion, gossip, entertainment, sex and other attractive stuff
for them. It will become a problem when the sharing is between immature children they could
make a wrong move and they could involve in negative activity. Put aside your ego as a
parents a be friend with your children, even if you could not be friends with your children do
listen to their problem and try them to solve it. Even though parents act as friend to their
children but as a parents you should put or set clear boundaries. Boundaries mean making a
hierarchy in the family, children must respect parents as adult and as parents who they should
follow. Children should listen to their parents when they give instruction and parents must
remember that the instruction must be appropriate according to their age.
Time is money that is a popular quote in our global and emerging life nowadays.
But as a parents do remember that your children also valuable as money, do spend time with
your children. Parents should make and create quality time with their children to make the
children feel vulnerable and appreciated. Make time for your children every day even in a
short period, ask them about their day make them feel that they are important to you.
Children always remember what their parents did even until they getting older, good time
with the parents will always remain as a good memory to them. Go for a vacation with your
family if you have extra time and money but still if you did not have time just spent the
precious family gathering at home with watching a movie, play game or do family activity.
During play time parents could let the children choose the activity and no need to worry
about the rules, play with fun and just follow the flow. Children will surely love it and they
will remember the good time even after some times. Read is a simple word but gives bigger
meaning to the children. Newborn and babies also the children love to listen to the sound of
their parents voice. Reading short story to the children and cuddled then is a good bonding
experience and it will help to embed reading interest on them. Every parent must have special
time with the children for at least ten to fifteen minutes without any interruptions. This one of
a great way to show how much we love them and how much important they are for us. Warm
memories will last forever in your children heart and memories, warm memories could be
simple family rituals such as bedtimes story and bedtime game. Try your best to do this type
of activities with your children every day. It will not only give time for a family gathering but
also could help build good communication with all family members.
We always heard about role model and we hope that our children will be a role model
at their school, but did we really show them a good role model. We as the parents must show
our children that we are a good role model for them to follow. Children will always look up
and observed our action without we realize about it. They learn through watching their
parents and we should always show appropriate behaviours. Action works much better than
words and it goes well with children. They always against our words and instruction and we
should not feel flustered and get angry with them. We should show them through action about
what we want them to do over and over again until one day they will follow the action
without we and they realize about it. It will come naturally without any objection from them.
Dont feel shy to fess up and admit our mistakes we when sometimes did because it is the
best way to show our children how and when we should apologize. We never thought that
environment will be one of the important elements that we should instil in our children heart.
The world that we are living on is important and the children should know it, always shows
the children how easy it is to care for the environment. Recycle, reuse and do not waste every
day, show the children how we could do all the simple and valuable action. Show the children
how easy it is to pick up a trash around the neighbourhood or when you go anywhere. Simple
action will lead to a bigger and greater impact towards the environment. Never ever lie to
your children, we always want our children to be truthful and as the adult and parents must
show them. Even if the truth might not be understandable by our children just say it, no lies
be truthful use that as a motto in educating the children. Do not argue about what your spouse
do on raising the children. Support them if it is still in the limit and boundary lines because
children will always watch what you do. If you arguing or criticizing your spouse approach,
children also might follow your negative action.
There are no parents that want to raise ungrateful children, all the parents in the world
want their children to be grateful. To enable our children to be a grateful we us the parents
should show how to become one. Being responsible citizens is one way on how to teach our
children to be grateful, involve all the family members in volunteering activity in the
community. Show your children about the excitement of volunteering activity and they will
keep on doing it until they getting older. Dont ever raise or let your child become spoiled
children. Children are vulnerable and precious to us but no children is the centre of the
universe. Children need to be teach accordingly and dont let them become spoiled by giving
them whatever they want. When we are doing activity together with the children talk about
how great to be a good person, parents could start doing it even when the children a young.
Gives example in the daily situation about a good person they meet or tell them story and ask
them about the good characters in the story. Children then could learn how to be good person
and the important of being a good person. Explanations are needed when we instil good
values to the children. Tell the children that if we being kind, generous, honest and respectful
towards others they will make people around them feel good especially their own parents.
Ask them whether they feel good when other people around them feel the same.
I already told you about to be fair towards all your children, here we are discussing
again about the topic but in different ways. Do you always says I love you to your children?
How many times in a day did you say it?. You dont have to use mushy words to show your
affections towards your children. With these three words you can always repeat it even for
thousand time and the children will love you for that. Love your child fairly and equally but
treat them uniquely. Each child has different personalities and they need different approaches.
As a parents we must know about the children uniqueness and try to love them for their
uniqueness never ever be unfair towards your children. Even though we love our children
very much but we still need to remember that our children will only be with you for a time. In
those fleeting years try your best on raising them to be a good people in the future. Savour the
moments because we never knew it will be over far too fast. Love your children, cherish and
enjoy the exhausting job as parents as long as you still have that precious time.
Before I end my speech I would like to share with all the parents here about a finding
from a teacher. She has sixteen years of teaching experience and during one of her lesson she
asks her students on giving her advice on being a mother. All her students wrote intensely
and the classroom become silent, some of the students were smiling when they wrote the
advice. There were ten things that the students said they remembered and loves most about
their mothers, students are also children to some parents and this is what your children
remembered about all of you as their parents. But here I will share only five list they gave to
the teacher. Firstly the students said they love when their mother or father come into bedroom
at night, tuck them and sing them a song or read them stories about when they were little.
Secondly children love when parents give them hugs and kisses and also when the parents sit
and talk with them privately. They also said that they like when their parents spend quality
time just with them alone and not with other brothers and sisters around. The students love
when their parents talk during dinner time on what they could do together on the weekend.
Never we thought that our children will say this but they did list this as one of the things they
remembered and that is discipline them, they feel when the parents discipline them you cared
about them. Just remember that whatever you do for your children could be one on many
things they will remembered and love about you as their beloved parents. Love your children
and be good parents to them as long as you have the time.

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