A Poorly Executed Attempt at Personal Realization By Parker Smith
Table of Contents
Abstract ii Chapter 1 1 Chapter 2 4 Chapter 3 7 Bibliography Index Interview Research
Abstract
It's seems futile to ask a teenager to write an essay describing who they think they are. How can I, a conflicted young adult, whose mind is a consistently tangled, libido-saturated, mess, even begin to simplify my sprouting philosophies and crude aspirations? How can I organize my mental turmoil in a way that I can record? Looking back on events that have allowed me to develop can begin this process. Using the philosophies of others can also help focus your own, and give you a better understanding of the world. Carful analysis with an open mind not only allows you to understand your own philosophies, but leads to understanding others as well.
Chapter One
Self-understanding begins with looking back at the events in your life. Analyzing how you have become who you are and the events that have shaped you as a person. There are certain events in ones life, that cause drastic changes in an instant. These moments jut from our timelines, each an obelisk that casts a shadow over our future. Whether we see these shadows as ominous, solemn or momentous, their presence is equally as impactful on our outlook on life.
For me, one of the most prominent events in my life happened in a car. It was Saint Patricks Day, the year was 2006. I sat in the back of the family Volvo, strategically placed there by my parents in order to quell sibling conflicts with my older sister Eli. So In the back of the car I sat, reading comics to pass the time. We were on our way to pick up my oldest sister Ashleigh on her way home from New Mexico and the usual dungenous mood of a long car ride was lightened with the thought of seeing my eldest Sister again. Ashleigh had a certain air about here that just made everything wonderful and pure. Unlike my more reserved sister Eli, Ashleigh emanated love and a sort of carefree understanding. Her strong infectious personality was coupled with an equally towering figure, which was topped with a cloud of golden curls which seemed to vaporously float around her head and follow her wherever she went. My drifting thoughts snapped back to the car as I heard someone was calling my mother on her work cellphone, which was highly unusual. My mother suddenly started making hysterical noises and writhing in the passenger seat, screaming into the phone like an injured animal. I remember thinking in that first moment that there was a bee in the car. All of us reacted with concerned confusion. This hysterical din was joined by the terrible phase SHES DEAD, repeated over and over. Everything felt so surreal in that terrible instant, and as it suddenly hit us that we would never see Ashleigh again, we held each other, each of us reduced to rubble. Those moments on the side of an overpass, huddled with my grieving disoriented family, will be imprinted into my brain for the rest of my life. The animalistic gurgle and cry of true grief is a sound so deeply riddled with emotion it is terrifying to listen to. The sounds coming from our throats were no longer simply just cries of pain, each wail seemed to claw its way out of the body, thrown into the air like a gaseous bile. I also realized in that moment that my stereotypical carefree childhood was over. My entire familys life had just been turned on its head in a split second.
This event was unfortunately the first in a series of tragedies for my family. In that same year, many members of my family as well as close family friends would also die. There was a point, after my mom had gotten diagnosed with cancer for the second time just months after my sisters death, where I accepted as a year old that apparently Life was a huge dick and had some sort of personal vendetta against my family, What an asshole, I thought.
Although these events were sickening, and took so much from my family, they also acted as a catalyst for my maturity, and shaped who I would become. My level of emotional sensitivity, ability to deeply empathize with others, and even philosophies on life, all stemmed in wake of these calamities. My confrontations with grief have allowed me to help others, and remain strong in times where its needed. It is an understatement any way I try and describe the grief that was caused; it did however make me into a stronger person.
Chapter 2
A large part in the development of personal philosophies is the analysis of outside sources, such as the worldviews of others. Building upon a carefully constructed and well- studied philosophical base comprised of the ideas of another is essential in the progression of ideas, and aids in the creation of a more accurate personal outlook. My worldview can be expressed using pieces from such philosophies as Egalitarianism and Existentialism.
...Equality does not mean an equal amount but equal opportunity... Do not make the mistake of identifying equality in liberty with the forced equality of the convict camp. True anarchist equality implies freedom, not quantity. It does not mean that every one must eat, drink, or wear the same things, do the same work, or live in the same manner. Far from it: the very reverse in fact... Individual needs and tastes differ, as appetites differ. It is equal opportunity to satisfy them that constitutes true equality... Far from leveling, such equality opens the door for the greatest possible variety of activity and development. For human character is diverse. This quote by Alexander Beckman exemplifies my views on Egalitarianism. Usually what first comes to mind when disusing this philosophy are its offshoots such as Communism, Anarchism and Socialism. While these doctrines are for the most part egalitarian, many of them, such as Communism, fail to factor in human individuality. This is why I prefer Egalitarianism in a non-monetary form, one that focuses on equal opportunity rather than simply making equality a financial issue. Another prime example of this is Lockes natural rights.
Existentialism can in part be used to explain some of my personal philosophies, but it carries a very heavy psychological burden often from the focus on melancholy and its objective, pessimistic life view. However, with a correct balance of Humor and the ability to humble oneself, it can be an extremely rewarding and accurate philosophy. Seeking what is true is not seeking what is desirable. This quote by Albert Camus is a great example of how I view Existentialism, and how important it is. To live a self-fulfilling life is essential to realize that the more things you find out about it, the less it makes sense. I do not live to fulfill desire, but to answer personal truths, even if doing so makes me unhappy. I may be depressed after reading a book by Camus, but Im satisfied on a deeper level than if I had just spent my time on Twilight. While this Philosophy can lead to important philosophical questions, it is important to have a sense of humor to counteract the dangers that taking life to seriously can pose. I took a test in Existentialism. I left all the answers blank and got 100. Woody Allan
Confronting lifes hardest most dismal truths with humor is one of the hardest, but most essential abilities to have. Taking yourself to seriously clouds ones ability to discover personal truths, and often leads to discontent, pretention and stagnation. For two prime personifications of this attitude toward life, you dont have to look further than such pop culture icons such as the Joker from Batman, or the Comedian from Watchmen. In addition, comedians such as George Carlin, Woody Allan or Louis CK, show just how absurd life as a whole is, and the importance of light hearted analysis.
Chapter 3
What good is all of this brooding over philosophies and overcoming of hardships if you cant pass on what youve learned and apply your skills for the betterment of the world? Right now, my struggles seem small. As I progress through high school, I will learn important life skills (And hopefully fix my procrastination problem, jfc). I anticipate my graduation so I can move on into the real world. I plan on attending a university, and while not entirely undecided, Im still having trouble figuring whether I should explore the fields of science and engineering or art (why not both?). Without a doubt I will travel the world, and expand my understanding, and who knows, my philosophies might be entirely different in three or four years. Like most humans, I search for a companion who I could share this journey with, and hopefully I will eventually find such a person. My biggest problem at the moment, however, is time. Currently, Im at constant battle with this force, which, like trying to deflect a meteorite with a baseball bat, is guaranteed to end terribly. If I dont learn to see time as a companion rather than an adversary, I will end up failing not only myself, but also those who I have set out to help. While I have the power to accomplish my goals, it is entirely possible I will die alone on a bench somewhere if I dont get my shit together.
Bibliography
Alexander Berkman What is Anarchism? pp. 164-5 woody allan, camus