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WOMEN
REMARKABLE
“...among letter from the editor
She Magazine’s One of the many things about me that drives my family crazy is my love for paint. I love to change
the color of paint in my house – quite often. Even so, my bedroom has been the same color for three years
now. I realize that may seem normal to most people; but, if you love paint and you love to change things up
very own regular like me, then you understand that the cactus green that once seemed so perfect is now living on borrowed
time. Truthfully, the thrill was over about a year ago, but I just haven’t been able to find the time to sever the
advertisers, we relationship.
It takes time to pick out just the right shade of paint. Like the cactus green that I’m about to
have over 70 replace, for example. I must have looked through a hundred shades of green before settling on that perfect
one. Now, I want to paint my room a shade of blue, but it’s not that simple. The color I’m looking for is a
women-owned sultry blue, bordering on a light teal with a hint of green undertones. Not enough that you would ever call
it green, though; I’ve done the green thing. The color I want is serene and warm. I can’t explain it; but, I knew
businesses! that when I saw it, I’d know that it was the perfect color.
After a painstaking process that took weeks, I finally did find my new color. A trip to the paint store
yielded a handful of paint samples. I’m ashamed to say that I took so many samples, I felt as if the store alarm
We salute these was going to sound when I walked through the exit doors. I was truly ashamed and consoled my conscience
by telling myself that I would return the samples once I found my color. (Okay, I haven’t returned them; but,
REMARKABLE I do intend to. Really!)
The thing is this; the more I looked at the samples, the harder it became to make a choice. Every
WOMEN who, color looked so pretty. I wanted to choose every one I looked at. While choosing the feature stories for
November’s issue, “REMARKABLE WOMEN,” I found myself under a similar stress.
through their Several months ago, after announcing this month’s theme, I began receiving a vast amount of letters
and e-mails in response to my request for “REMARKABLE WOMEN.” Every single letter represented a
advertising woman that I very much wanted to feature. As well as your recommendations, my head was filled with
women whom I know personally and wanted to tell you about. There is my own REMARKABLE mother; my
spiritual mentor, Ms. Bobby Croft, a strong woman of faith, a prayer warrior and confidant; my friend, Debby
support, make Jordan, who raised a family, worked as a teacher and served her church while taking care of her mother and
disabled sister; and the list continues. My life is enriched with so many REMARKABLE WOMEN that I could fill
this magazine an issue – or two – with them alone.
So, what’s an Editor to do? So many REMARKABLE WOMEN, so little room. With every inch of
possible and desk space covered in prospects, and every prospective woman looking as pretty as those paint chips, I began
to pull together the REMARKABLE WOMEN that you will read about in this issue. When I finally made my
fuel our decision for the paint, I put the unchosen samples in a box and refused to let myself look at them again for
fear I would change my mind and start the process over. Likewise, I put the letters of the stories of women
local that I could not tell in this issue in a folder so I wouldn’t be tempted to second-guess myself.
Just as my conscience gnawed at me when I took so many paint chips, that little police-of-the-soul
kept calling to me from the folder that held the stack of REMARKABLE WOMEN. I quieted that voice by
economy.” vowing to tell the stories of the other women in future issues of She – and I will do just that. Look for
them in the “IN EVERY ISSUE” features,“SHEROES” and “WOMEN AT WORK.” So, if you wrote to tell me
about a REMARKABLE WOMAN, hold that thought. She will not be forgotten.
You may be asking, “What was the criterion for being a REMARKABLE WOMAN?” For this issue,
I looked for women who make a difference in the lives of others – at home and in their communities.
NOVEMBER 2009
Sometimes, they made the difference quietly and behind the scenes. Sometimes, they did it boldly. But,
always, they made the difference unselfishly.
In this issue, I also wanted to recognize women entrepreneurs. As the owner of She Magazine, I
know first-hand the degree of true grit it takes to start and run a business. More women than ever before
are taking on this challenge and showing they have what it takes to succeed. I’m so very proud to tell you
that among She Magazine’s very own regular advertisers, we have over 70 women-owned businesses! We
salute these REMARKABLE WOMEN who, through their advertising support, make this magazine possible
and fuel our local economy. You see their ads almost every month in She. Now, you’ll see their faces in a
special section recognizing women-owned businesses, beginning on page 115.
November is also a month for counting our blessings and giving thanks. I would certainly be remiss
if I neglected to acknowledge the REMARKABLE WOMEN that make up the staff of She Magazine. I am
blessed with the greatest job on earth. Knowing that I serve the God of Mercy, Who holds from me that
which I do deserve, His wrath; and gives graciously to me what I do not deserve, His love; I still ask myself
quite often, “What did I ever do to deserve this?” For whatever reason – and one that I am not to ques-
tion – He has put me here and surrounded me with six REMARKABLY talented and devoted women. And,
as if that were not enough, He blessed this magazine (and me) with thousands of loyal readers. My heart is
overflowing with gratitude. Can it get any better than this?
Enjoy this issue . . . It’s a very REMARKABLE woman thing!
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1. J. Marshall Dent, MD is Board Certified in Family Practice & Obstetrics 10. Anna Pitts lives in Florence, SC. She is currently pursuing her career as a
and Gynecology and also holds an Advanced Certification in Menopausal School Library Media Specialist and loving every minute of the journey! Anna is
contributors
Medicine. He can be contacted at Complete Women’s Health Care in Florence. also a contributing writer for She Magazine.
2. Lea Pritchard Boone, PhD is the mother of Dalton (3) and wife to 11. Cookie Cawthon is wild about her family. She totally digs serving
Austin. Lea Pritchard-Boone is wife to Austin and mother to Dalton (4). A as a greeter at NewSpring Church every week, and she flat out loves reading,
Clinical Psychologist in private practice, she focuses primarily on treating chil- writing, speaking, teaching, and blogging www.cookiecawthon.com.
dren, adolescents and families.
3. Joe Griffin,, DMD graduated from the Medical University of SC in 12. Jumana Swindler, a resident of Florence, is the Director of
Charleston with an advanced dental degree. He has volunteered his time with
Marketing and Public Relations for McLeod Health. Her personal favorite
Mercy Medicine, the home for unwed mothers, prison ministry and Dentistry
pastimes, reflected in her writings, are RV'ing, movies,Theater, fishing,
from the Heart as well as producing a public service announcement with Sheriff
Kenney Boone titled, “Talk to Your Kids About Drugs”. This month, he is our reading and spending time with her son and family.
guest writer in THE BEAUTY BUZZ (page 134).
13. Allie Atkinson is a French teacher at Marion High School. She
4. Paige Thomas lives in Florence with her husband, Joey, and two Sheltie lives in Marion with her husband, Philip, and daughter, Abbie.
pups. She has three grown sons and four stepchildren. She also writes for She
Magazine.
8. Sherry Page Atkinson lives in Marion with her husband, Jimmy. Those 16. Liz Odom has always had a passion for photography and feels blessed
wishing to contact her may do so at the following address: 6526 South to be able to do what she loves on a regular basis. She has a four year art
Highway 41 or you may e-mail her at: sherrya@nethwy.com. degree from Anderson University, Anderson, SC and now lives in Florence
with her husband and two children with another one on the way. Drawing,
graphic arts, and music are other things that Liz loves.
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where she works with survivors and their families who continue to fight cancer and other
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Remarkable
I have a theory. My theory is that people who
by Melodie Griffin
are remarkable don’t usually have a clue that they are
remarkable. Their utter “remarkableness” seems
astounding to bystanders, but to themselves, it just seems
legs belonged to a son who would be called
like the norm. I have often heard heroes lauded and
“Moses” and desperate times called for cre-
hailed for their courage, only to respond with, “Shucks, I
ative measures. As you may know,
was just doing what anyone else would have done!”
Jochebed crafted a floating bassinet from
Right.What anyone else would have done.Anyone who is
papyrus and said “bon voyage.” Can you
remarkable, that is.
even imagine? Jochebed’s protective moth-
I wonder if the remarkable women in the Bible
er instinct sparked creativity that saved her son’s very life
knew that they were noteworthy at the time. Let’s glance
– a life that went on to rescue his people from slavery.
at a few of these girls to see what made them tick. As I
Creative women don’t always have a solution, but they
see it, a remarkable woman is…
trust God to empower them with innovative
BRAVE – Queen Esther knew all about brav- thoughts to get the job done.
ery, though I doubt she ever enrolled in an online course
PERSISTENT – “If it was easy,
to further her studies. The need for bravery was simply
everyone would do it. If at first you don’t suc-
thrust upon her. From an arranged marriage to the king
ceed, try try again.” How true. After all, I am
of Susa to her moment on the world’s stage when she
now on my 677th attempt at losing weight.
saved her people, the Jews, from complete annihilation –
But doggone it, I refuse to lie down and give
Esther was one brave chick. She never asked for this
up! I’m taking a lesson from a New
assignment, but she couldn’t stand back and do nothing.
Testament woman who was sick and
Brave women step up and do the right thing, even when
tired of being sick and tired. Her twelve
it is difficult.
year battle with a bleeding disorder
CREATIVE – Remember our soccer mom, pushed her toward Jesus. The crowds
Jochebed? No? You mean you didn’t name your firstborn
following the Messiah were thick and
daughter after her? Jochebed gave birth to a Hebrew boy
loud.Toes were trampled. Shoulders were shoved. It did-
at a time when the children of Israel were slaves in Egypt.
n’t matter to her. This moment might not pass by again, tion for this One who had revolutionized her tumultuous
The Pharaoh was nervous about the rising numbers of
so she pressed in. If I can just touch the hem of His robe world. Onlookers scoffed and whispered. The disciples
the Israelites and decided to have all newborn sons mur-
– just the hem – one touch – one touch! Healing came criticized. But she had her focal point. Eyes straight ahead
dered. I cannot even imagine Jochebed’s anguish, knowing
immediately with that one touch. Persistent women keep on the Lover of her soul, and there was no stopping her.
that the little legs kicking within her were
the victory in mind, even when people or circumstances Focused women gaze at the prize that lies ahead, not let-
destined for death if they
attempt to knock them down. ting anything veer them off course. Can you even imagine
belonged to a
FOCUSED – I have three children and all knowing that your act of bravery saved your people from
boy. Those
were born via C-section, but I am still grateful for the annihilation? Or how about the relief and joy that one
little
Lamaze/Childbirth classes that I took. In fact, I still use mother felt when she knew that the her wildly creative
one of the techniques when I am in pain or under stress. plan had floated her child to safety? Oh, the uncontain-
The instructor taught us to make use of a “focal point”. able praise that must have flowed from the woman who
We were to pick an object somewhere in the room touched Heaven with her faith! And as for the gal whose
and gaze intently at it – shutting out all distrac- focus remained clear in her mission for the Master – she
tions.This helped us to push (literally!) toward finished well. Very well. Maybe these women had an
the goal at hand. One particular woman in inkling that they were remarkable. But maybe, just maybe,
God’s Word had this technique down pat. they were so enraptured with the remarkable God of the
It was her intention to anoint the feet of universe that all else paled in comparison.They were sim-
Jesus with luxurious perfume. She was ply doing “what anyone else would have done.”
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DAVID SIDES
With
the announcement in February 2006 that B.C. Moore’s was closing after 80-plus years, it was
time to make some life-changing decisions. After twenty years of experience in Moore’s cor-
porate advertising offices (many of those years as advertising director), advertising was all I
knew.
God actually planted the seed for TrueBlue Advertising in the fall of 2005. Moore’s
Creative Director, Dale Davis, and I were traveling to Atlanta to meet with Pure Red
Creative, the graphic design team Moore’s employed for their photo shoots. At one point
during the long trip, Dale jokingly said, “You know, we could do the same thing these guys
are doing. They’re Pure Red. We’ll be TrueBlue.” We laughed, and the subject was dropped.
When we received the unexpected news about Moore’s closing, Dale reminded me of that
conversation. Of course, there are ad agencies in Columbia and Greenville and Charleston,
but Cheraw? Dale and I knew we had two choices: move to find employment or create our
own employment. It didn’t take long to ponder our options. Cheraw was home for both
our families, and this is where we wanted to live. With a combined total of thirty years’
experience managing the daily operation of our former employer’s multi-million dollar
advertising program, creating an ad agency was a natural transition.
From the beginning, God gave Dale and me a sense of peace about opening
TrueBlue Advertising. And, the more we thought about it, we agreed that the name
“TrueBlue” described the agency we aspired to become. If you haven’t looked up true blue David Sides (left) and his TrueBlue partner, Dale Davis.
in the dictionary lately, it’s someone that is genuine, faithful, honest and completely loyal to
a belief. So, with lots of prayer and a leap of faith,TrueBlue Advertising was created.
Since the beginning of this venture, God blessed us with a clear vision of what He wanted development of a corporate identity or a fully-integrated marketing campaign, we’re here
for TrueBlue. From the moment we peered through the mail slot at 236 Second Street, we to serve our clientele. We have recently launched TrueBlue Print, which allows us to pro-
knew we had found TrueBlue’s home. However, convincing our wives that this long-neglect- vide printing from a business card to a billboard.
ed building would eventually create “Ohhhhs!” and “Ahhhhs!” from our clients was a chal- Being a small design agency, we have the ability to be very flexible with time and
lenge. Time and time again, God’s faithfulness to transforming our dream to reality was noth- budget restraints. Dale and I believe everything must support the client’s brand identity and
ing short of amazing. work together for maximum effectiveness. After all, you never get a second chance to make
One story I enjoy sharing is how, through prayer, God provided two century-old a great first impression.
windows to hang in our office. When I first found the windows, they were covered in white As small-town business owners, we understand the importance of being a good
paint. Only after painstakingly scraping the painted panes was a light blue antique glass neighbor. Call it old-fashioned business practice, but we don’t see our clients simply as
revealed – the perfect color for a place named TrueBlue. Of course, we were on an clients. Every new client is a neighbor. Ultimately, our goal is to genuinely help everyone
extremely tight budget. The renovation of the sanctuary at Dale’s church led him to go that walks through our front door with their needs and provide the best of what we have
“dumpster diving” to retrieve the beautiful crown molding that graces our office. A discard- to offer. Throughout the process, we strive to establish a long-lasting relationship – some-
ed two-legged table waiting for the trash truck was used as the base for a wash tub, which thing that happens when value is provided and trust is established. Often, the smaller mar-
became our unique bathroom sink. After five long months of renovations,TrueBlue official- kets are overlooked and underserved. Dale and I believe the exact opposite should be tak-
ly opened its doors in December 2006. ing place.
During the time before our With each client, we provide a personal approach by listening and understanding
official opening, we were also busy individual goals, then executing their marketing plan through fulfillment, from concept to
completing various projects. Our delivery. We place our clients’ best interest as a priority, and we stand accountable to our
first big opportunity was working clients for the trust they place in TrueBlue.
with the Town of Cheraw in Being based in a rural Southern setting allows us to understand firsthand the chal-
launching the South Carolina Jazz lenges our clients face to succeed in rural America. However, small town does not equal
Festival in October 2006. From second rate. We believe that to survive in today’s business climate, each of our clients must
developing the festival’s website to remain competitive. And, through our expertise, we provide cutting-edge design and tech-
creating the pole banners lining nology with every project. Above all, we believe everyone has a story that connects them
the streets and designing the festi- to the world, and it’s our job to capture that story. Through branding, corporate identity,
val brochure and commemorative custom website design, print, direct mail, outdoor and electronic media, that message is com-
poster, that experience confirmed municated.
that a small rural ad agency can These past four years have definitely been the most challenging of our lives, and
develop a first class event that with the current economy, we have fully put our trust in God. Dale and I have recently been
rivals those of its big city neigh- reading a book by T. D. Jakes, and in one chapter, he states that God wrestles with each of
bors. us to discover what we are made of. Before, Dale and I wouldn’t have opted to lose well-
During the past four paying jobs and face the uncertainty of the past four years. But, now that we have survived,
years, our focus has spanned I honestly can say this has been a positive life-changing experience. After all, God is using
from retail and health care to this experience to transform Dale and me into the men He desires us to be.
non-profits, financial institutions
and local government in small- David Sides and his best friend and wife, Kathryn, have two incredible adult sons, Bartley and Davidson. They
to-medium municipalities across also have a beautiful daughter-in-law, Katy. David’s passions include seeking God’s will, reading
motivational books and every genre of music. David and Kathryn enjoy leisurely drives in their red
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Many
Women
Do Noble
Things
by Paige Thomas
My mom What is most amazing to me is that she did these things while raising
was a woman of many talents four children on her own. As I got older, my mom became my friend. I
and gifts. When I look at her knew she would always be there for me. I could call anytime and count on
college annuals, her listing in the her always. She also had a wonderful sense of humor, which I remember
directory consists of a paragraph of all most vividly in her last years when dementia took over some of her mem-
the things she accomplished, organizations ory. Most of us don’t come to appreciate all the things about our parents
in which she was involved and offices she held. until later in life. But, when I take the time to reflect on it, I stand amazed.
As a young wife, she was involved in the community As Christians, we often turn to the Bible for instruction as to how we
in Garden Clubs, Literary Clubs, Junior League, Scout should live. When we think of the description of an extraordinary woman, we
Mom, and she was named our Florence Woman of the Year in often read and quote Proverbs 31. As I read it again and began to write my
the 60s. thoughts and description of my mother, I realized that I was writing the 31st
She was a born entertainer and loved to have people in her home and have chapter of Proverbs in the 21st century.
parties – even wedding receptions at our house. She hosted receptions for her sister, I guess I’ve been thinking about our relationship a lot lately as I am in the phase
my sisters and me when we married, not to mention all the parties in between. She of my life when children grow up and leave home to be on their own. I’ve been reflect-
agreed to put our home on the Christmas Tour one year, and my sisters and I – gladly ing on what I perceive to be my successes and failures and the things I wish I had done
and begrudgingly – entertained as the “Three Little Women.” There were many times differently at times in their lives.
we were called to host for events at our home. She was proud of it, especially since Although my mom, in my eyes, was an amazing woman, things were not always
the design was partly her own. good between us. We went through our struggles, disagreements and heartaches.
As I spent time with her through the years, I remember hours of working in the yard, There were times when I guess we didn’t really like each other and maybe some of the
helping her carefully plant bulbs and plants. She loved flowers of every kind. When she choices we had made. I think that’s a journey we all take, whether as children or par-
entertained others in our home, she would cut a few from our yard or a neighbor’s and ents. I’ve been wondering what my children will remember most about me when I’m
make the prettiest arrangements. Maybe a natural talent – or one she learned from the gone and hoping that I can hold even half the special memories that I have of, and for,
Garden Club involvement – but she made beautiful and creative arrangements for all my mom.
seasons. Proverbs 31:25-28, “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at
In the middle of all her activities, I remember as a child that my mom always the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
took the time to teach me the little things – like how to catch fireflies or make mud She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
pies (and she allowed me to cook them in her oven). She was tolerant of my love for Her children arise and call her blessed.”
caterpillars and the fact that I was not a girly-girl, but much more into bugs and books. When my brother and sisters and I were trying to decide ten years ago what
My dresses had frogs and suspenders more than bows and lace. She could easily accom- we wanted to place on our mother’s headstone as our memory to her, we all agreed
modate my preferences as she sewed many of our clothes herself when we were chil- on those words, “Her children arise and call her blessed.” I only wish she knew. With
dren. She even managed to make psychedelic pants for my brother when the style hit four very different experiences between us, we all saw her as an extraordinary woman.
in the 70s. How I wish we still had some of those for nostalgia! Proverbs goes on to express in verse 29 that, “Many women do noble things, but you
In the years after the divorce of my parents, my mom discovered her talents surpass them all.”
in the business world. She began work as an Office Manager with my uncle and worked As I journey into a new phase of life, learning to have adult relationships with
in that position for twenty years. At the same time, she owned and managed a retail my children, my prayer is that God will lead and guide us. Unchartered territory can be
store, which remained in our family for almost forty-five years. I worked for her in both frightening and even stressful. There are many times when I wish I could pick up the
of those environments, and while employees remember her as being tough at times, she phone to call Mom and just talk. I know she would be there. For now, at this time in
had a sound business mind. She was fair, and she was able to look at the two different my life, I’m thankful that I have her example – and my memories.
work environments for what they were, making decisions with concern and care.
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by Ferebe Gasque
Thanksgiving has always been one of my very favorite days of the year. While
I’m always thankful for so many things,Thanksgiving Day holds so many precious mem-
ories in my life.
This Thanksgiving, I am particularly thankful for God’s blessings during this
transitional time in my life. I am so very grateful for the friends and experiences He
has given me to remind me of His love and provision . . . always . . . no matter what. I
could write a book. Perhaps one day I will. But, for now, I’ll try to contain myself to
just one page.
During this past year, I have reconnected with so many people from my past.
It has been such a thrill to relive so many happy memories. Just a few weeks ago, I
found my goddaughter whom I have not seen in twenty-nine years. When I was a vol-
unteer with the Foreign Mission Board in Suriname, South America, I lived next door
to a wonderful family. When the three year old was baptized, her mom asked me to
stand as Jenna’s godmother. She said I was the strongest Christian she knew. I was so
honored. About the same time, another little girl was born into the family. Much to my
amazement, Ferebe was given as her middle name. We stayed in touch for a couple of
years; but, time and busyness intervened and we never heard from each other again.
Through FaceBook, I have found Jenna. I do not know who is more excited, she or I.
My most recent blessing is my first grand-nephew, Duncan Brody Forbes, who
was born on October 6, 2009. Unfortunately, he lives in the Houston area. Thanks to They were very
the miracles of electronic media, however, I was able to see a picture of him shortly after active in Cottageville
his birth. I can hardly wait to meet him, but he has already stolen my heart. Baptist Church. Uncle Elli
Happy memories of Thanksgivings past fill my heart as I think of this month’s was the church treasurer
theme “Extraordinary Women.” Each year, our family would gather in Cottageville, a lit- and a deacon. Sister was
tle village in the low country of South Carolina. There were seven siblings in my moth- always at the helm of the
er’s close-knit family. Most years, all but the youngest sister would gather at the home Women’s Missionary Union
of the eldest sister to celebrate Thanksgiving and family. The youngest sister was mar- and worked with the children
ried to an Air Force officer. So, her family’s attendance was dictated by their location. and the youth.
Some of the family would gather on Wednesday evening. We always arrived on They both taught Sunday
Thursday morning after attending our annual Thanksgiving Morning service at First School and sang in the choir. Since
Baptist Church in Florence. There was always laughter and joy in Cottageville. The smells Cottageville was such a small town, visi-
of the turkey and other traditional dishes, watching Uncle Elli peel oranges in one long tors to the church for revivals and other
strip without lifting his knife, knowing that I would never be able to sit at the big table occasions always stayed at the Cone Bed and
unless I got married (and then only for the first year) - all those memories are so real I Breakfast.
could almost walk into the picture and be right at home. The thought of Miley’s biscuits While Ellison kept the home fires burn-
STILL makes my mouth water! ing by teaching in Walterboro and later working in
So, why does Thanksgiving make me think of extraordinary women? There were the Colleton County School District
so many of them in my mother’s family, led by my mother’s mother. However, on Administration, Ferebe worked first in Walterboro
Thanksgiving, I think most of my mother’s eldest sister, the one with whom I am honored and later in Columbia with the Department of Social
to share a name. This extraordinary woman was Ferebe Spears Cone. Services. She was in on the ground floor of the develop-
Neither time nor this page will allow me to explain the myriad things about her ment of the South Carolina Department of Public Welfare
that made her extraordinary. She was born in 1908 and I don’t think she ever slowed (later DSS) as well as the South Carolina State Retirement
down much until 2002, when she went to Heaven. Of course, she is probably organiz- System. When she was working in Columbia, she commuted
ing and training and encouraging others now, just in a new locale. every day (more than 100 miles each way) before the interstate
After having graduated from Lamar High School, Ferebe Spears moved to the system was developed. She retired in 1976, having been the first
other side of Darlington County where she attended Coker College. Though she com- statewide Director of Staff Development and Training for the
pleted her coursework in 1929, she worked for two years in order to pay for her diplo- Department of Social Services.
ma. She graduated in 1931. In the mid-1930s, she boarded a train and traveled to New She was honored through the years in many ways as a state
York City to pursue graduate studies in Social Work. Her amazing and extraordinary employee and as a leader in her church activities. She was also named
experiences had just begun. “Outstanding Alumni” from Coker College.
Returning home to South Carolina, she married Ellison Cone in September of The real reason Ferebe Spears Cone was an extraordinary
1941. The biblical directive of the two becoming one has never been more beautifully woman, however, is found in the legacy she leaves behind. Her family and
exemplified than through that union. Though they held different careers and had differ- her friends are so much richer for having had her as a part of their lives. She
ent responsibilities in life, to the world they were always “Ferebe-and-Ellison” and to the was loving and caring, yet she always demanded the best from herself and
family they were always “Sister-and-Elli.” They never had children of their own, so they from those she loved.
adopted all the nieces and nephews on both sides of the family. That was a great bless- She was the eldest child of her generation, I am the youngest in mine.
ing for all of us. My prayer is that I have been and will continue to be worthy of the name we share.
Ferebe Gasque loves the opportunity of sharing bits and pieces of her life with the readers of She Magazine.
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Sincerely Yours, Jumana A. Swindler
"And how about those awesome football games this time of year? The Swine
Flu has apparently had no adverse affect on Pigskin mania.You still get to shout 'Did'ya
senses. Fall for me is a time of reflection and anticipation, preparation for the weeks see that Bo' to all your guys friends, slap 'em on the back without fear of retribution and
ahead, filled with Holidays, family gatherings, warm fires, hot mugs full of all kinds of even drink a beer before five o'clock happy hour when the challenges are scheduled at
things, (and even a new sweater here and there.) And, it’s the one time of year when noon or 3 p.m."
turkey and dressing tastes better than ever before and is the occasion approved for "For heaven's sakes gal, have you seen the BCS Standings lately? Humph!" said Mallie.
wearing orange - - even if you’re not a Clemson or Tennessee fan. It’s certainly a time of BCS,ABC, CBS, or AARP…. I didn’t really care for his pessimism anymore. Drawing
year for RVing, one of my preferred pastimes for adventure and relaxation. from the images that November brings inspired me to remain upbeat – especially since
As I was waxing eloquently on this subject during lunch at work the other day, a recent RV visit to Virginia, which actually gave me the chance to visit sites of around
I heard a grunt from one of my colleagues.We’ll call him “Mallie” -- since he’s always a the old colonies. The significance of honoring the traditions in autumn rushed through
mal-content. my brain, remembering the Pilgrims – their fight for survival in a foreign land, their cel-
“What are you all chipper about,” Mallie said abruptly.“This is one of the most ebration of harvest despite meager times. In some ways, they are a metaphor for my
annoying seasons of the year.The leaves are everywhere, the yard is a pain to maintain, own family and ancestors who immigrated to America decades ago to start new lives.
fuel costs, wood costs and electric bills rise,” he said with that edge in his voice. They modeled the work ethic and the need to give thanks and praise for what was
“Look on the bright side, Mallie. Be glad this month that we have a home to received and by Whom it was given.
heat, our work hasn’t been interrupted by catastrophic conditions and we have electri- I recalled how the Pilgrims’ appreciation overshadowed the
cal power. You even have access to your checking account at six convenient robbing of their joy in being free to live and worship, even in
locations in Florence.” I think I must have sounded like a local bank com- times of hardship or discouragement. I visualized the Pilgrims
mercial. with the Indians and the opportunities for brother-
Then Mallie droned on. “It gets cold and hood, extended families and friendships. It
uncomfortable and the weather’s so unpre- brought with it a renewed excitement for the
dictable. What’s so great about all that?” Holidays well on their way - - the sharing of our
“Listen,” I responded. “We live in the own bounty with one another in need or in
South and the weather is always unpredictable. The plenty, the reveling in fellowship despite diversity
remarkable thing is that Hurricane Season is finally over or beliefs. “It’s such a good time of year,” I said out
without incident during the '09 coastal year.We can at long loud euphorically.
last move on to other national headlines and quit watch- “What’s up with you,” Mallie said flatly. “Just think
ing weather people on TV tossed to and fro on deserted of what’s ahead…. Putting up with my in-laws, grumpy
islands off the African coast. And, have you also noticed Uncle Charlie, all the kids out of school or coming
that the female weathercasters seem to be getting appro- home with their girlfriends, hauling loads of trash to a
priately older? Less and less of them appear to be con- packed dump, making sure the yard is spotless for the
stantly pregnant like they used to and Jim Cantore now fam, long lines for the holiday take out orders and all
wears thick glasses …..the whole Weather Channel clan the extra effort it takes to be nice to everybody
is rapidly catching up to our age. It's poetic justice. So, try even extra tips, or gift cards for folks just doing their
looking on the bright, sunny side, Mallie.” jobs as expected. Don’t you see it?”
I think I almost heard a “humbug” muttered “Yep,” I said, with one of my best grins
under his breath.“Some studies show people have more smeared across my face.“And, I am so grateful that
energy, they’re more active, are less sluggish and even I really do see it.”
sleep better this time of year,” I added. Poor Mallie and all the people who just
Mallie almost choked on one of the nuggets don’t get it. Have an extra portion of pecan pie
from his Chick-Fila Kids Meal. (In addition to being a later this month and just send the bill to Mallie.
downer, Mallie can be pretty cheap, too.) “Don’t go there
with me…Falling back to Standard Time. Oh yeah, sleep is Happy Thanksgiving everyone.
easy and that’s what makes it hard to come to work. It’s Psalm 139:14
dark in the morning; it’s dark at night. Dark, dark, dark…all
the time I even lose my sense of time these days.”
And I was losing my sense of patience. So I tried a differ-
ent tack - more towards the "maleness of Mallie" by dangling
the sports influence in front of his negative nose.
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In the movie, When Harry Met Sally, there’s a scene where Sally is cry- Additionally, our national culture is very focused on being part of a couple. The
ing over her ex-boyfriend’s impending marriage. Do you remember the line when she diet, health, fashion and beauty industries exist to sell us products to help us attract
wails,“But, I’m gonna be 40!”? It was funny to me in my twenties when the movie came someone. Then, there are lines from movies that set us up for emotional disaster – “You
out; but, since I turned 40 this past summer, it’s not so humorous. complete me.” The message is this; you can’t be happy unless you have found your soul
I moved to Florence in 1995; I was 24-years-old and mate.
focused on my career. To be honest, I was never I was truly enslaved for most of my thirties by this quest to “find someone.”
very interested in marriage or having a fam- I’ve done it all: online dating, joining civic groups to “get out there,” long distance rela-
ily until I turned thirty. By then, however, tionships, church singles groups, etc. It seemed like the more I did to try to find some-
I was dating the wrong men – guys who one, the lonelier I felt. All my friends got married. I threw bridal showers and stood up
told me they didn’t want a commit- at their weddings. I organized engagement parties and plastered a happy-for-you smile
ment, guys that I wouldn’t have been on my face. Eventually, I threw baby showers and attended first birthday parties – usu-
compatible with, guys that were still in ally without a date and always having to explain why I was still single. I felt like all my
love with other girls. When I did meet peers had passed me by and I was stuck in some adolescent nightmare where family
a nice man, I was so focused on getting holiday still referred to my parents, not my own family.
him to the altar that I would invariably run Don’t get me wrong; I could have been married ten times by now. But, have
him off with my intensity and desperation. you ever noticed the ones that want to marry you aren’t the ones you want?
This desperation was compound- When I was 36, I realized one day that I needed to make some decisions about
ed by the fact that Florence is a small, Southern my life. If I wanted to have children, I needed to get married, get pregnant and have
town where most people are married with them or look into adopting. A lot of my single friends struggle with this issue. I admit;
children and there isn’t really a defined sin- I’m lucky that I really never was that excited about having children. One of my friends
gles community. It always intrigues me told me, “People who don’t want children are mentally ill.”
that when I visit people in cities like I disagree. I think some women just don’t have a strong maternal instinct. Either way,
Las Vegas, San Francisco, Los I realized that I wasn’t that upset about not having children.
Angeles and New York, So, if I didn’t want children, I had to ask myself why I was in such a hurry to get
nobody asks me if I’m mar- married. The reason – I felt like I was single because there was something wrong with
ried or if I have children. me. I felt nobody had picked me because of some defect in me. I know I’m not alone
They’re just interested in in feeling like that because I’ve talked to countless women – and men – who have felt
getting to know me. In that way in singleness. I was convinced that if I could only get married, I would be happy.
Florence, however, I’m fre- Everything else in my life is great – wonderful, fulfilling career; I own my own home; I
quently asked to explain why I’m have money; I have retirement; I have great friends; I’m healthy. But, there’s still that one
single. People even go so far as to missing piece – no one to complete me.
ask me what’s wrong with me! Therefore, I felt worthless (a feeling that’s made worse when you live in a small
town where people’s primary focus is getting married and having children). And, it gets
much worse (in my experience) after age 35 because the worthlessness is compound-
ed by a feeling of hopelessness.
Nevertheless, I know a lot of really great single men and women and I never
look at them and think, “Wow, you’re actually a failure and a loser because you’re sin-
gle.” Furthermore, most of my friends report that they don’t think less of me for being
single. So, what’s the deal?
My BFF (Best Friend Forever) says you have to be happy first. That’s the con-
ventional wisdom. Be happy and you’ll attract the “right person.” I had to face the fact
that, at my age and living in Florence, I may never meet the right person. That’s a scary
thought, but once I accepted that maybe this was it – just me making a life for myself –
I realized it’s not so bad. In fact, it’s pretty good, especially when I stopped romanticiz-
ing marriage as a cure-all. I can do what I want, go where I want, spend what I want
and date whom I want.
Ask your married friends about the downsides of marriage. Ask Jenny Sanford
how great her life is right now. If marriage is the key to happiness, why is the divorce
rate 51% on first marriages? Not being negative but being realistic, no one thing can
cure your unhappiness – not the right job, not the right car, not the right weight and
not the right person.
I started to focus on having a great life, whether or not my last name ever
changed. Most of the time, I really love being single. Sometimes, I wish I could find that
special someone, but it’s also great to be able to walk away from someone who is not
so special.
I think we all know that there are worse things than being alone. Talk to some-
one who is in a bad marriage. Talk to someone who is isolated and lonely but can’t go
Mary R. Dittman, MBA, is an Instructor of meet Prince Charming because they’re already married to Prince Jerky.
Marketing and Director of the Internship Program Hang in there, single friends. There’s something worse than being single and
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University. She consults for a variety of local and
regional companies and is actively involved in the someone to come save you from yourself. There’s nothing wrong with you, so get out
Florence community. there and start living.
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Have you had a good laugh today? Pass these on to someone else who could use a break. When I am weak (in human strength), then am I (truly) strong (able, powerful in divine
- Love has been described as a three-ring circus. First comes the engagement ring, then the strength) (II Corinthians 12:10).
wedding ring. After that, the suffering. “No weapon formed against you shall prosper and every tongue that shall rise against
- One woman told another, “I’m a light eater. The minute it gets light, I start to eat.” you in judgment, you shall show to be in the wrong” (Isaiah 54:17). “He is able to do
- Little boy: “Dad, did you go to Sunday School every Sunday?” exceedingly and abundantly all that we ask or think” (Ephesians 3:20). “If we ask any-
Dad: “Yes, son, I surely did.” thing according to God’s will, He answers and hears us” (I John 5:14). Psalm 23:5
Little boy: “I bet it won’t do me any good either.” encourages us that “God prepares a table before us in the presence of our enemies. He
- A husband went to buy his wife a gift for her 50th birthday and picked up a cute music box anoints us with oil and our cup runs over.”
that played “Happy Birthday.” Thinking all played the same tune, he bought one and gave it In John 15:16, Jesus tells us, “You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I
to his wife. When she lifted the lid, out came the tune “The Old Gray Mare, She Ain’t What have appointed you that you might go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your
She Used To Be!” fruit may remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in My Name, He may give it to
- Two things cause unhappy marriages – men and women. you.”
- A husband sat down with the TV remote and yelled to his wife in the kitchen, “Honey, is God would also say to you today: (Jeremiah 33:3) “Call to Me and I will answer you
there anything you want to say before football season starts?” and show you great and mighty things, fenced in and hidden, which you do not know”
(do not recognize, have knowledge of and understand).
Here we are already into November, the month we celebrate Thanksgiving. God is so worthy of our praise! “Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving”
Have you ever wondered about being at the first Thanksgiving occasion? Our forefa- (Psalm 95:2). “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving” (Psalm 100:4). “I will offer to You the
thers endured hardships and had strong faith and trust in God. They knew sacrifice of thanksgiving and will call on the name of the Lord” (Psalm 116:17).
from painful experiences about giving thanks in everything. What “Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circum-
about you and me today? Paul says in Philippians 4:11, “I stance and in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiv-
have learned to be content, whatever the circum- ing, continue to make your wants known to God. And,
stances.” In I Thessalonians 5:18, the Bible tells us, God’s peace, which transcends all understanding, shall
“In every thing, give thanks.” No matter what guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus
the circumstances may be, be thankful (Philippians 4:6-7).
and give thanks,“for this is the
will of God for you who Jesus is with you – and
Does this mean are in Christ Jesus.” in you – to help you
we are grateful for all the overcome and be victori-
sorrowful tragedies and dis- ous in your situations. There is
appointments that come in our unlimited power in praise and
lives? To be honest, none of us welcome thanksgiving. Because He lives and is in
hardships in life – even though we grow from control, let us – in everything – give thanks.
them. You and I would rather remain in our com- If you have never invited Jesus into your heart
fort zones. However, it is when we are overwhelmed and life or want to be sure of your salvation, you
in our circumstances that we come out of our comfort might pray something like this: Dear Heavenly Father,
zones and desperately seek Jesus. thank You for loving and creating me. I believe You sent
While God does not cause sickness or tragedies, we are to trust Your only Son, Jesus, to die on a cruel cross for my sins.
and give thanks in everything because He will be with us through I am sorry for my sins and ask You, Jesus, to forgive me.
it all. Joshua 1:5: “As I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I Come into my heart and save me. I want to commit my
will not fail you or forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5 also promises,“He life to You. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit that I may be
will never leave us, never fail us nor forsake us.” strong to live the Christian life and be a loving, bold witness
The only way to the mountaintop is through the valley, but for You. Help me, Jesus. In Your powerful Name, I pray.
we do not travel alone. Romans 8:28 assures us, “He works all things Amen.
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Have you ever noticed how friends open all kinds of doors in our lives – the They have changed my life here – and all for the better. Not to say that my
ones we’re often too afraid to open on our own? Those of us who find it sometimes “old” friends from home are off the list. They most certainly are not. I count on them
difficult to mingle comfortably, for example, can usually rely on our more outgoing to keep me grounded – old friends make the best mirrors for us to see who we have
friends to push us along in that general direction. I imagine it’s not unlike teaching been and who we are now. But these friends I know now are the diamonds. And they
pigeons to strut their stuff like peacocks do. I’m not a tail feathers displayer by nature mean more to me than almost anything (sorry, can’t have everything).
– more like a bobber and weaver, really, so the teaching task can be quite daunting, time- Mark Twain made a profound statement when he penned these words: "Grief
consuming and messy. can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide
I had the privilege this summer of attending a party for a young woman prepar- it with." Yes, I would say that is absolutely correct. Friends are for joy-sharing moments
ing to enter seminary school in Kentucky. Her family gathered around her in celebra- such as these: when our children accomplish a goal or step out on their own for the
tion of the calling she had answered, allowing a few extra friends (thankfully, me includ- first time as adults (consider just how difficult it was for the aforementioned parents to
ed) to share in their happiness. The food table literally groaned with offerings – from drive that ten hour return trip without their only child), our friends are there to remind
chicken bog to pepper slaw, from barbecue and buns to homemade mac ‘n’ cheese, from us of the joy; when we step out again for the first time in over 25 years on an actual
pig pickin’ cake to chocolate lush – and nary a crumb was consumed until prayers were date and we’re not sure if it’s joy or terror we feel, our friends are there to help us
said in blessing and in thanksgiving. There were babies and parents and grandparents choose the joy (and joy it certainly has become – more on that in a later article); when
and assorted relatives of all ages. It reminded me very much of home.Though the words we discover that a loved one is losing a life battle, our friends are there to share the joy
spoken were just a bit different (things like PEA-cans instead of pe-CONs, and sweat- that is found in cherishing simple memories; when we stumble and fall on our way to
ing like monkeys instead of like pigs), the love floating through the air in that home was living in Christ’s love, our friends remind us of the joy found in standing once again.
completely recognizable, regardless of which syllables were accented. The joy list is probably endless as it relates to our friends’ abilities to both
Sitting around the card table in the game room, we listened and laughed our- understand and help relieve our sadness and our losses and our everyday, plain old
selves silly as one of the relatives (though certainly not claimed by all in attendance) funks. No amount of concealer (speaking of which, am I the only one around here that
began to regale this northern transplant with strange southern stories of jack and jenny ends up concealing her whole face with that stuff?) or wardrobe changes or push-up
donkey parades with peacock feathers and tick-sucking egrets, while his (long-suffering?) bras or even peacock feathers can do for our image what a friend can do simply by shar-
wife serenely enjoyed her meal in another, much quieter corner of the same room. In ing the joy in a few moments of tear-stained, gut-wrenching, wrinkle-making, running to
fact, when someone at the table offered to switch seats with her so she could be near the bathroom and hoping you make it in time, honest laughter. It’s wonderful exercise.
her dear husband, she quickly responded that she was absolutely delighted to remain in And snorting helps clear the sinuses.
her peaceful little corner chair.You just had to be there to know exactly why this was So, in this month of gratitude, thank you, my friends. You know who you are.
both a wise and completely understandable choice. But in case you’re not sure, here’s a list of helpful hints: aerobic exercise and birthday
So, what’s the point of this information? Good question! Not too long ago, I surprises, razors, 45’s, hot choker donuts, rod and real, food for the road, pool floats,
would have declined that invitation to join in such a happy celebration.Actually, not long Sunday classes choosing pigs or chickens, and products that sparkle plenty. But you are
ago, I would not have even been invited in the first place, as I was much too busy not my southern friends anymore; you are simply, with-
being alone and lonely. Saying “no” was my standard out any qualifying adjectives, my friends. I love all
response to any and all social events. And y’all – especially that sparkly one (again,
then this small yet mighty band of new more on that later…maybe).
southern friends began to slowly apply a
much needed attitude make-over. They
started by encouraging me to simply use the
“yes” response more often. (This, of course,
served their purposes well; like saying “yes” to
pool floating time in the backyard – but that’s
another story.) I’m fairly certain they don’t look upon
their encouragements as heroic or awe-inspiring.
But I beg to differ.
I have gained the privilege of these few close friends
in the course of three years of southern living.
Marti Miller lives in Marion, SC and counts the blessings of friendships every day.
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Sunshine
state of mind by Cookie Cawthon
Fear is my thing. Most everybody has something that they will forever battle. So, it must be a pretty natural human reaction, but He never allows us to give way to it.
Mine is fear. I am afraid of being carjacked, kidnapped and raped, being stung by a bee, How many times have I told myself (and others) that God always wants us to choose what
returning a purchase to a less-than-friendly retail clerk, suspicious moles, hoity-toity social is best over what is good? It was best for me to defeat my fear today. It was best for
engagements, everything concerning my children, all water-dwelling creatures, the long- me to need Him so completely – rather than doing what I could have done on my own.
term effects of my vast consumption of aspartame, my girls’ opinions of me when they are I sat down after checking- in and flipped open my favorite book. On the
grown, shots, and looking foolish. The list is endless. So. It’s not at all surprising that I’m title page, I had written a quote from within the text, “…because I am His daughter.”
afraid of flying. Though it was used in a different context, it has a singular meaning for me today. Come
That was not always the case. I first flew to England thirteen years ago and actu- what may today, I will be okay BECAUSE I AM HIS DAUGHTER!”
ally kinda fell in love with it; fear was not my debility during the seeming invincibility of my I boarded and took what was an ideal seat – no window and no seatmate.
youth. I flew a few times after that and continued to enjoy it. Then there was a day when So I powered my I-pod and tried to blast the noises, the conversations, my thoughts, my
I was twenty-eight, pregnant with our first child, and had a husband flying across the coun- nausea. Didn’t work and I was informed that I wouldn’t be able to listen during take-off.
try to Las Vegas for a business meeting – September 11, 2001. In the confusion of that Had forgotten that. Then, we took an additional twenty minutes correcting the weight
day, I could not find out any information regarding his flight out of Atlanta, could not con- balance, which totally stressed me out. The thought of this plane taking off burdened by too
tact him, could not wrap my hormone-affected brain around what was going on. It was much weight further fueled my certainty of disaster. Good riddance, I thought, as they boot-
on that day that I absorbed the vulnerability of flight and have allowed it to sink deep into ed three stand-bys.
my bones. I just remember bursting in to a sob when the insurance lady at my obstetri- Then it was time.
cian’s office asked an innocuous, payment-related question about my husband… She got I closed my eyes and prepared for take-off – my least favorite part of this least
more than she bargained for on that one, for sure. favored activity. This irrational fear is so big in me that it is the only time that I genuine-
I next flew to Nassau on a business reward trip, and that was a riot to anyone ly fear that my body is totally going to override my mind. That I may lose control – and
looking on. I rigidly sat in my seat, clutching my Bible turned open to the first page of the every bit of food consumed over the past two days. I prayed that my fear would not over-
book of Joshua. Tears streamed down my face as I silently chanted God’s call to courage. whelm me. I was as afraid as I have ever been in my life. The discordant vibration began;
Freak! It’s hysterical to me to even remember, so I chuckle to wonder what Chris’ col- acceleration began. The squeaking and the creaking within the cabin is always unnerving.
leagues thought as I threatened to unravel. Freak! My poor husband! I could barely I clamped my eyes shut and continued to pray for safety. We raced down the runway and
enjoy our vacation knowing that I had to fly back home. then we flew. I kept my eyes closed for many minutes – still climbing. Still climbing. It
I shared a few moons back about our trip to San Francisco and that much-dread- was smoother than I expected. Loud but fairly smooth, and I began to recount my bless-
ed flight; it actually turned out to be a pleasant experience though not completely free of ings as I thanked Him for keeping me alive at least that far into the trip, thanked Him for
fear. Well, I flew again two days ago, and the anticipatory fear was back in a large way. I the noise, thanked Him for super nice Suzie – our flight attendant. And then…
documented the adventure, and these were my thoughts: I summoned the courage to open my eyes. I opened my eyes and turned to
I’m on a flight to Atlanta right now – actually my least favorite place to be – on glimpse out the window behind me, and WOW! It was exactly what I imagine Antarctica
a plane. It scares the sense out of me. I have teared up and let them spill over a few might look like – though I don’t know: pure white mountain ranges and glaciers floating in
times this morning. I am flying alone for the first time ever, meeting Chris in Jacksonville a perfect blue sea. And there was sunshine up there. Crisp, brilliant, unadulterated sun-
on a business trip. It’s so loud, but that’s good. It means that everything is working. I shine. And do you know what? Sunshine was exactly what I needed today! SUNSHINE!
even left a note on a napkin in my truck in case today is my day. It says, I watched out of the window for a while – just marveling at Him. Then it
“To my C’s- I love you more than anything on earth, and I love occurred to me. I would have missed the sunshine if I had driven. I would
Jesus like mad. Just wanted you to know ? .” Still may be my have missed the sunshine, and it was spectacular! I had to do it His
day yet – it’s early (12:00), but He has so reminded me of way, and I had to do the hard thing, but He gave me sunshine.
His love and care for me that maybe I’d be okay with Though flying is still not a fave, the view is!
it. I checked my computer this morning (as I More and more I am discovering the theme of my life – at least
obsessively do), and a dear friend had twittered during this season: Do the best thing, forsaking the good.
the exact same verse I quoted a gajillion times Do the hard thing and He delivers the sunshine. So maybe,
the last time I flew. I think it is Isaiah 26:3 – just maybe, remarkable women like
“You will keep him in perfect peace, whose Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks,
mind is stayed on You…” and Helen Keller share a
On the ground, it was a gloomy, history of choosing what is
grey day of dark cloud cover. Ominous
and foreboding. I have only ever
flown during perfect sunshiny
conditions. The wind and the
cloud density and the chance of best over what is good, choosing to
storm only compounded my do the hard thing and reaping the
anxieties. Everything in me sunshine. Just a thought. Not an
wanted to drive to easy one to stomach though, espe-
Jacksonville. To call Chris cially for a scaredy cat like me.
to say that I could not do Stay tuned as I fly to Kenya later
it. But I know so thor- this month (hee, hee, hee)…
oughly that God never
gives us permission to
pacify our fears. His
most frequent
reassurance is,
“Fear not.”
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TWIN
honorees top, left-right: Patressa Gardner, Donna Sullivan,Teresa Johnson
Ramey, Judit Sobel, Alberta Major • bottom, left-right: Alice
Morrow, Jill Heiden, Andrea Luppe, Octavia Williams-Blake
Recognizing women in our area for their accom- who utilize the college for training, workforce preparation Judit Sobel – Materials Team Leader for Magnet
plishments has gotten a little easier. The Tribute to Women and economic development. She has served on numerous Staging at GE Healthcare, Judit is a certified Supply Chain
and Industry (TWIN) Project (sponsored by the YWCA) is community boards. She was the recipient of the 2008 Professional. As a result of her creativity and transportation
now active in the Pee Dee. The goal for the YWCA has long Economic Development Ambassador of the Year for skills, she has saved hundreds of thousands of dollars for GE
been to “empower women and eliminate racism.” Although Florence County and a finalist for the SC Human Resource Healthcare during her twelve years with the company – an
the TWIN Project is new to the Pee Dee area, there is a sig- Person of the Year in 2003 and 2007. She received her accomplishment that is very much appreciated during these
nificant history of this recognition in other areas of the state. degree from Pennsylvania State University. tough economic times. She is involved with the GE
Thanks to the efforts of GE Healthcare and their HR Andrea Luppe – Process Engineer/Process Volunteers, and she is an active community leader. She
Manager, Darryl Davids, nine women in the Pee Dee were Team Leader with GE Healthcare. Although she has short obtained her BA in Business Administration and Economics
honored last year. This year, another nine were selected as tenure with GE, she has already excelled as both Process from the University of Maryland and her MBA from Oxford
honorees, and their accomplishments were celebrated at a Engineer and acting Maintenance and Facilities Manager, Brookes University, Oxford, United Kingdom.
lovely banquet at the SiMT Building at Florence-Darlington streamlining contract services resulting in net savings of a Donna Sullivan – Chief Quality Officer at
Technical College on Tuesday evening, October 13, with million dollars for the company. She, too, is active in the Carolinas Hospital System, Donna ensures compliance with
approximately 175 people in attendance. Former CBS News community through the GE Volunteers. Andrea is a graduate Regulatory, State, Federal and Joint Commission require-
Woman, Jane Robelot, was the speaker for the event and of Clemson University with a BS in Ceramic Engineering. ments. She received the 1998 Douglas Smith Quorum of
gave an inspiring talk about her own mentors (and even a She also holds an MBA Degree from Francis Marion Excellence Award. She has also been recognized on the
few detractors) as she moved from small-town radio jour- University. Carolinas Hospital System Wall of Fame, the Caring Hands
nalist to national news woman. Alberta Major – Alberta is employed with Award, the 2007 Clinical Manager of the Year and is a 2008
If you’re not familiar with the TWIN Project, it was Florence School District One and serves as a permanent Palmetto Gold Award Recipient. She received a BS in
undertaken to honor women who have – and are – making substitute teacher at Moore Intermediate School. Nursing from the Medical College of Georgia.
significant contributions in their professional lives and to Additionally, she tutors in the afterschool program and is the Octavia Williams-Blake – Director of
honor those companies that are recognizing and rewarding sponsor of SAVE (Students Against Violence Everywhere), an McLeod Occupational Health at McLeod Health. Under her
high achievement in women. These honorees, in turn, foster, organization at the school which was named Chapter of the leadership, McLeod Regional Medical Center and three of its
support and encourage achievement in other women. The Year for 2007-2008. She is active in her community and affiliate organizations received the 2006 and 2007 South
project is designed to honor women in all professional areas presently is on the Dean’s List at Coker College where she Carolina Safety Award. All six of the facilities within the McLeod
– educators, engineers, managers, health care providers, is pursuing a Degree in Elementary Education. Her gradua- Health organization received the South Carolina Safety Award
banking professionals, etc. Companies pay a sponsorship and tion date is scheduled for 2010. in 2008. She was elected to the Florence City Council in 2008
are invited to nominate honorees. Funds raised by the Alice Morrow – Alice is Club Director of the and continues to serve in that role, as well. She obtained her
TWIN Project are used for programs in the Pee Dee that Boys & Girls Clubs of the Pee Dee Area where she has been BA Degree from Columbia College and her J.D. Degree from
encompass the YWCA philosophy of eliminating racism and for the past three years. She has over 25 years’ experience the University of South Carolina School of Law.
empowering women. in social services working with individuals from age 6 to 101. These honorees will be charged with supporting
She received the 2009 South Carolina Award for Program other women over the next year by organizing workshops
This year’s honorees were:
Excellence in Health and Life Skills and is a 2009 state nom- and setting up service projects to help empower other
Patressa Gardner – Project Manager for the inee for the prestigious William S. White/Mott Foundation women in the community.
SC Advanced Technological Education National Resource Achievement Award for Innovations in Supporting Student Those of us who have served these first two years
Center at FDTC. In addition to her career in technical edu- Success. She is a graduate of Beal College. as members of the TWIN Honorary Board and proud of our
cation, her experience as the Quality Assurance and Safety Teresa Johnson Ramey – Teresa is participation in this project are: Dr. Carol Adams, Jodi
Coordinator in a manufacturing environment has provided Associate Vice President and Dean of Students at Francis Beauregard, Joan Billheimer, Libby Cooper, Darryl Davids,
her with impeccable skills to serve as a business and indus- Marion University. Since becoming Dean, she has revitalized Terry Dingle, Jill Heiden, Pam Little-McDaniel, Charlene
try liaison for the college. She is the recipient of the 2008 the University Programming Board, which is responsible for Lowery, Michele Pridgen and Libby Wiersema.
FDTC Outstanding Administrator of the Year Award. She providing cultural and social events for over 4,000 students. If you know women who should be honored, contact
earned a BS Degree in Economics from Francis Marion She created and implemented “Leadership FMU,” a leadership any of the honorees; Darryl Davids, HR Manager at GE
University and an MA Degree in Economics from Clemson development program which emphasizes integrity, character Healthcare; or any of the Board Members for more informa-
University. education and situational leadership. She received her BA tion. We can be proud of all the women who have been hon-
Jill Heiden – Vice President for Institutional Degree in Speech Communication from Western Kentucky ored. When you see them, congratulate them on their accom-
Advancement, Florence-Darlington Technical College, Jill is University and her MS in Instructional Development from plishments; they are outstanding leaders in the Pee Dee Area.
charged with developing and sustaining relationships with alum- Jacksonville State University. There are lots more out there, so let’s set about to honor
ni, donors, prospective donors and corporate representatives them in the future.
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A Remarkable Woman
DAVIS
My wife, Kim Davis, is a remarkable woman. God brought
us together on December 4th, 1987. I fell in love with her because
of her huge and loving heart. She is caring, loving and unselfish,
putting everybody ahead of herself. Kim has been my better half
for almost twenty years and is a wonderful mother to our son,
Brian.
Along with taking care of us and the house and going to
Brian’s ballgames, she has found the time to serve the Lord at
Marion Baptist in various ways. Kim’s faith is unwavering and the
most important thing in her life. As long as I have known her, she
has loved going to church and serving God through music. She
has been a Sunday School teacher in the Children’s Department,
Director of the Children’s Choir, served on the Handbells Choir
and is also a faithful member of the Adult Sanctuary Choir. She
loves working with children, and she loves using her God-given
musical talents to lift up praises to the Lord.
She also enjoys helping anyone in need, whether it is
kim someone in our family or a stranger. With a heart of gold, she has
the reputation of doing anything that is asked of her. Serving her
family means that she loves doing things for her family – cooking,
housework, just being there. That goes for her extended family
(my dad; her mom and dad, Perry and Karen; and the girls), as well.
She is such a special mom because she has shared the
love of Jesus with Brian since he was a baby. She loves spending
time with him and just doing simple things. Her view of mother-
hood, as portrayed in her sentiments below, is truly what makes
Kim a remarkable woman. - Doug Davis
God’s Child
(written by Kim for her son, Brian)
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A Remarkable Woman
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Margaret Waddell and her husband of 46 years, Dean, have three daughters, Cathy, Amy and Becky. She is retired from The King’s Academy, a private Christian school in Florence. Her hobbies
include her four grandchildren – Austin (16), Sarah Catherine (14), Mary Margaret Campbell (9) and Charles Dean Walls (6). She enjoys playing tennis and gardening. She is also a volunteer at
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A Remarkable Woman
HEWITT
by Brandie Hewitt Berghorn
My mom, Patricia Ann Hewitt, is a learned from basketball that she takes into her everyday
remarkable woman. She lives in Hartsville and life is to have discipline, work hard and remember that life
is 61-years-old. She was also born in Hartsville but is a game.
moved seventeen times before graduating from Hartsville All the while she was teaching and coaching, she
High. Afterwards, she attended Coker College when it and her husband of forty years, Robert Levan Hewitt,
was an all-girls school. managed to raise two children. Their son, Wayne
Her love of basketball began when she entered high Hewitt, is 37 and lives in Texas. I’m the youngest and
school. She played at HHS (61-65) and at Coker (65- I live in Hartsville. I taught and coached with Mom at
69). While in college, she decided that she would like to Hartsville High School. She also has five grandchil-
be a coach; however, her first love was teaching. dren, with one more on the way.
She started working at Hartsville High School in Even though she has won numerous awards,
1969 and taught there until she retired this past summer. my mom will tell you that her most prized achieve-
She also coaches basketball for HHS and will continue, ment in life is her family and the young ladies that she
although she no longer teaches. She was named SC High has taught and coached. She is our family’s rock when
School Coach of the Year three times. Mom won everything looks bleak. Everyone depends on her to
Converse National Coach of the Year in 1994 and be the tough one that will listen and be by their side.
National Teacher of the Year in 2001. She has been to the The one piece of advice that she gives her players is
state championships five times for basketball and was just to remember that dedication, determination and the
recently inducted into the South Carolina Coaches Hall of desire to be the best that they can be will help to
Fame in July 2009. make them successful in basketball and in life.
In 1997, she was one of the first inducted into She is a member of the Hartsville First
the Hall of Fame at Coker. She won the Distinguished Church of the Nazarene and has been going there for at
Achievement Award from Coker College in 2002. least thirty years. She is a Board Member and attends
Mom coached Shannon Johnson, who is in the regularly. I joke with her and tell her when the doors are
WNBA, and when Shannon went to the World Games in open, I can always find her at church.
China and to the Olympics in Greece, she took her coach My mom and I are best friends and we tell each
along for the ride. other everything. I can’t imagine my life without her. My
In 2006, Mom flew to St. Louis, Missouri, to daughter, Rylee, had to have surgery at Duke, and Mom
receive the National Sportsmanship Award presented by was with me through it all. When Rylee has to have the
the Citizenship Through Sports Alliance and the St. Louis next surgery, she’ll be with us again.
Sports Commission for exemplary contributions to the At the end of the day, the most important thing
highest ethical standards and citizenship through sports. to my mom is serving the Lord and being there for her
God and her obedience to Him is what helped family at all times.
Mom build a successful winning program. The things she Patricia Ann Hewitt is a remarkable woman!
Brandie Hewitt Berghorn and her husband, Jonathan, have two children, Zackary (2 ?) and Rylee (17 months). She teaches Physical Education and is the
Assistant Athletic Director at Hartsville High School. She loves to scrapbook, spend time with family and friends and make bows for her little girl.
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HEWITT
WHITEHEAD
jerry
“...this energetic
eighty-something-
year-old is still a
go-getter.”
A Remarkable Woman
by Ferebe Gasque
Jerrolyn Ward was born fifteen minutes after After she and her handsome man in uniform
her twin sister. She hasn’t missed out on much since, though. divorced, Jerry and their daughter moved back home to the
Known as “Jerry” to her friends, this energetic eighty-something-year-old is Florence area. Vicki wanted to be in a Brownie troop, but
still a go-getter. there was not one to be found with an opening for a cute
After growing up in Effingham and graduating from J. C. Lynch High little girl from Florida. So, being the devoted mother she
School, Jerry continued her education at the Florence Business School, later continues to be today, Jerry Whitehead started a new one.
known as the Carolina College of Commerce. After graduating, she went Brownie Troop 101 was formed and fifteen girls gathered every Saturday
morning. According to Jerry, that troop sold the most Girl Scout cookies
to work for the Wilcox Law Firm. After working there for a couple of
of any in the area.
years, she moved on to the South Carolina Highway Patrol, where “it was
Still involved as a volunteer with the American Red Cross, the now
nice working with good looking troopers!” she says.
single mom worked for twenty four years for Ed Young at Oakdale Country
Like most young people, Jerry wanted to spread her wings. That
Club. She says she did just about everything there. Judging from her life
experience led her to Charleston where she got a job with the power com- history, she probably could have!
pany. Once again, a good looking man in uniform caught her eye and she Today, she is retired and still energetic. She mentioned more than
married a Navy man, Jim Whitehead. As a Navy wife, she lived in Key West, once that she is really a party girl at heart. She wouldn’t give any details but
Florida, and in Norfolk,Virginia. In both places, she was involved with the had a twinkle in her eye at each comment in that regard.
American Red Cross. She sometimes worked as paid staff and sometimes as The loves of her life, however, are her family. Her daughter, Vicki
a volunteer. She says today that the Red Cross experiences were the best Bazen, is married to Kenny, lives in Florence, and works at Pee Dee
jobs in the world. Cardiology Associates. Vicki and her husband have two daughters, Ashly
In Key West, she was in charge of Red Cross operations at the Naval Bazen and Kimberly Bazen-Caples. Kimberly and her husband, Ryan, have
Hospital and was instrumental in helping wounded soldiers returning from one son. Little Dean is Jerry’s great-grandson. She’s adjusting well to a lit-
combat. Also, while in Key West, she worked with the Police Department tle boy in the family after all the years of just little girls.
in the Detective Division and later for the City Manager and Mayor of that Over and over again, Jerry praised her daughter. She said with pride
in her voice and a tear in her eye,“Vicki is and always has been my number
city. No matter where Jerry was employed, however, she was always
one person in the whole world. She is my devoted daughter.” So, it seems
involved with the Red Cross.
we have not one “Shero” here, but two.
Ferebe Gasque is honored to be the Music Therapist at McLeod Hospice House, enjoys selling Pampered Chef Kitchen tools, and loves writing for She Magazine.
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DUBOSE JAMES
The Entrepreneur
wanda
“I know that I’m a wife, a mother and
a business owner. All the other stuff
just falls in line.”
Wanda James grew up in a small town on the to visit all the restaurants on a daily basis. Since they
Gulf Coast – Moss Point, Mississippi. Her elementary education began lived in Marion, they would travel from Marion to
at St. Peter’s Catholic School, which was destroyed by Hurricane Katrina Dillon and from Dillon to Florence and back to
in 2005. She attended Our Lady of Victories High School and furthered Marion. Interstate 95 was a daily travel route. After
her education at Southern University at Baton Rouge, Louisiana (where having a family discussion on the traveling they did
she met the love of her life), and received a B.S. Degree in Accounting. daily and the fact that the majority of the restaurants
Afterwards, she attended William Carey College in Hattiesburg, Mississippi, were in Florence, they decided to relocate to
where she received her MBA with a Field Emphasis in Marketing. Florence. Although they had three restaurants in
Then, the love story began. Florence, that move didn’t really solve their travel
McDonald’s has always had a special place in Wanda’s life time. After six years of the extensive travel, in
because that’s where her husband,Arnett James, proposed to her. In the February of this year, they decided they would sell the
parking lot at a McDonald’s, after a romantic dinner of hot, fresh French Marion and Dillon locations, giving them the opportu-
fries with an ice cream cone on the side, a state of shock ran through nity of buying another location in Florence
her. She thought,“Gosh, I’ve never been married before. Just what do I (McDonald’s at Five Points). Then, they had four
say?” Of course, the answer was a resounding, “Yes!” restaurants to continue to own and operate.
After Wanda and Arnett married and started their business Why McDonald’s? After researching all the
careers, they decided on researching all the food franchises out there. leading competitors of McDonald’s,Wanda and Arnett
They decided that McDonald’s would be the right one for them. The can put it plain and simple: “McDonald’s is a solid
reputation of the company was very sound, and leadership of the com- financial model.”
pany was very positive. While they earn just pennies on each prod-
In 1990, they started training, had their first child and they both uct they sell, they sell a lot of products. Their business thrives on a reli-
worked full-time jobs. Together, they worked around the clock. In order able, growing stream of customer traffic. Their customer growth is the
for both of them to understand the day-to-day operations of the busi- foundation of restaurant profitability. Providing compelling products at
ness, they had to work all shifts – open, lunch and close. They had to an affordable price in a clean, comfortable and friendly environment is
have the commitment, and they had to balance their priorities and what McDonald’s (and the James) is all about. It’s what McDonald’s has
demands. To accomplish their goals, they had to stay focused. There been about for 54 years, and it’s what draws customers to the restau-
would be times when Wanda was coming and Arnett would be going – rants.
or vice versa. Nonetheless, they stayed the course because they want- Wanda is a businesswoman, but she also thinks of herself as a
ed to be successful business owners, and they wanted be a part of one light of hope, an illumination that reflects people’s lives and dreams. She
of the world’s leading franchises. hopes that she empowers lives and builds confidence in others so that
In August 1995, Wanda and Arnett took over the McDonald’s they may live better and have better lives. She isn’t just selling burgers
located in Marion, SC, working around the clock, day in and day out. and fries; she and Arnett are Owners/Operators, and they are actively
Their first child grew up in McDonald’s until Wanda found one of the involved in their business on a daily basis.
best babysitters in the world who would come and sit with their child As she visits with local schools and churches throughout the
while they worked long hours. community, Wanda stresses that self-discipline starts in the home. “In
Three years later, Wanda and Arnett acquired their second order for you to be successful, you must stay focused. It’s about making
McDonald’s located in Florence. This new restaurant separated them good choices,” she proclaims.
because one had to drive to Florence to work and make sure that their In order for Wanda to incorporate raising a family with a
team was giving 100% total customer satisfaction. Wanda stayed in career, she has to prioritize the most important things that she can
Marion to make sure that the team there did the same. accomplish in a day. Her day starts at 5:00 A.M. with her daily exercise
Wanda says, “When you experience the magical moment of for an hour. That’s what she calls her “me time.” Then, she gets her son,
being an Owner/Operator of one of the world’s best fast-food franchis- Alex, ready for school. When she takes him to school, that’s her time to
es, you immediately get ‘ketchup’ in your veins and that spirit of waiting bond with him or have discussions or maybe review for a test.
on customers becomes electrifying.” With that being said, they acquired If you are as busy as Wanda, you really don’t have time to think
their third McDonald’s in 2000 in Dillon, SC; and in 2001, their fourth about what has to be done. You just do it. She knows that Rome was-
McDonald’s in another location in Florence. In 2006, they wanted to test n’t built in a day; some things have to wait. Wanda stresses,“I know that
their knowledge in construction, so they built their first McDonald’s, which I’m a wife, a mother and a business owner. All the other stuff just falls
is located in Florence on Celebration Boulevard and South Cashua. in line. I’ve been blessed to have wonderful people in my life to help me
– my parents, my mother-in-law, my baby- sitter and our Director of
Every day was a travel day for both of them because they had Operations, as well as our staff.” (continued...)
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Wanda DuBose James and her husband, Arnett, have two sons,
Arnett D. James, IV, a Sophomore at South Carolina State in Orangeburg, SC,
and Alex D. James, a sixth grader at Florence Christian.
Ricky Ford
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YARBOROUGH KELLEY
burnadene
The Entrepreneur
“Anytime.
Anywhere.
We are always
dancing!”
photo by Ricky Ford
Burnadene Yarborough Kelley is the Owner Burnadene the opportunity to share with them something she
of Kelley’s Fine Arts in Florence. In addition, she is the Director loves. She now teaches children of former students, and she
of the KFA Dance Company, which is celebrating their 21st year delights in getting to know and love them. She is most honored
in business. Her love for dance was from day one of classes at the that the parents entrust their children to her. Most of the KFA
age of six. By the second grade, she was quoted in her school staff were also KFA dancers or parents of KFA dancers, and they
annual saying, “I want to be a dance teacher.” understand the love and nurturing that Burnadene gave them and
Burnadene studied with local studios as much as possi- that she expects to be passed along. This makes for a strong bond
ble. In fact, she gave up most school extracurricular activities by and a wonderful support system. She calls it “growing your own
the eleventh grade in order to take more dance classes. She then staff!” She loves all of them like family and, in turn, they love KFA
attended Columbia College and graduated with a BA in Dance and as their own.
Elementary Education, which has really helped in developing her In regards to accomplishments, Burnadene says, “There
own curriculum and progression for each dance form. She con- are way too many awards to list; it would be not only impossible
tinues with conventions, classes and videos to stay knowledgeable but senseless.” She is always proud when her dance students win
in the newest dance techniques. a trophy or receive recognition, but the true success is when she
You never know from year to year what can happen in sees them feeling good about themselves through dance, not
the dance business or what might come up that requires much from a trophy.
attention. Burnadene is determined to find the solution and She’s read where so many people are trying to
adjust. define what dance is. “It’s simple; it’s an art form that
The success (21 years) has not been accomplished alone; involves physical activity while using your brain. But, most of all, it
it’s those precious dancers and the parents that have allowed should be fun,” she asserts.
Burnadene’s Philosophy: “Dance your way through it! It’s not that I don’t understand the serious circumstance of life, it’s just that, for me,
I choose to dance my way through it. Dance while you can!”
Her Career Advice: “Find something that you love, and then find a way to make it your career. Don’t spend your life dreading to go to work.”
In Burnadene’s future, she sees . . . dance and dancers. And, oh yeah, diapers.
What She Participates In: “Any and everything! I have a tendency to say yes. I especially had a great time this year working with the Florence
Little Theatre doing choreography for Peter Pan, thanks to Dwight Lindley and Scarlett Knight.”
Burnadene’s Influences: “My parents never made me feel silly about dance as a career option. Twenty years after graduating with a BA in Dance,
they are still cheering me on.”
Burnadene Kelley and her high school sweetheart and husband of twenty years,William George Kelley, reside in Olanta with their
three daughters, Alexis (16), Rebecca (13) and Georgeanna (10). They are expecting daughter number four around Christmas.
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A Remarkable Woman
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judy
In the Jewish faith, there is a concept known as tikkun olam,
which literally means “repairing the world.” It is the way in which humans
partner with God in order to address and correct the many inequities that
exist within the world. Humans have two responsibilities within this part-
nership: the contemplative performance of religious acts and participation
in social acts of tzedakah (charitable giving) and gemilut hasadim (acts of
kindness). Judy Kammer’s decades of volunteering and civic leadership find
its roots in her faith; “my volunteer work is a very small contribution
towards this end,” she shares.
Judy Kammer was born in London and lived there until she was
eight years-old at which time she moved to the United States and became
a citizen at age eleven. She completed her undergraduate and graduate
studies at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor and promptly began a
career dedicated to serving others. She was a high school English teacher,
a team leader for counselors at a women’s health clinic, a high school guid-
ance counselor, and now serves, as she has for the past fifteen years, as the
Medical Office Manager for Pee Dee Neurosurgical Services. Judy came
to Florence in 1980 with her husband, Dr. Kenneth S. Kammer, when
McLeod Regional Medical Center first added neurological surgery to its
menu of services.
Judy began giving her time when her children were young; she
volunteered in the activity center at McLeod Children’s Hospital, engaging
photo by Ricky Ford
patients in play therapy – including gardening and arts and crafts. Her role
in the activity center led to her involvement with the newly formed McLeod Judy has also served as the past Sunday School chair, board member, and
Foundation; she chaired the inaugural Children’s Miracle Network telethon in 1988. president of Beth Israel Congregation. She values being part of the only surviving
She has had the pleasure of watching this event explode over the years with support Jewish community in the Pee Dee area, and she desires to strengthen and grow her
from an army of dedicated volunteers and corporate sponsors – all cooperating to congregation, appreciating what a benefit working with the synagogue and the vari-
raise funds to provide much needed equipment to the Children’s Hospital. ous rabbis has been to her in raising her sons and learning more about her faith.
Over the years, Judy has volunteered with many community organizations Though Judy is often asked to collaborate and partner with different organ-
but insists that she has received much more in return than she has ever given. She izations, she prefers to commit to only a few at a time, allowing her to maximize her
is currently a board member for the McLeod Foundation; she chairs the Grants efforts without spreading herself too thinly. She wants to insure that there is time
Allocation Committee and serves on the Finance and Investment Committee and the to savor the grateful smiles from parents and children who have recovered from an
Executive Committee. Since its inception in 1985, the Foundation has raised $30 mil- illness due to their care at McLeod Children’s Hospital and to invest in younger vol-
lion towards improving health care in the area. Judy considers her association with unteers. She finds it so rewarding to observe and mentor others as they grow and
this organization to be a privilege and acknowledges it has had the greatest impact take on fulfilling challenges.
on her personal growth. Judy is also prudent about how she manages her time and commitments so
Judy is also currently a member of a new group with the Eastern Carolina that there is ample time to enjoy her family and her other pleasures:“gardening, read-
Community Foundation – Women in Philanthropy. This group seeks to enlighten and ing, kayaking and sailing in Charleston, walking our beautiful beaches and woods, see-
empower women with regards to philanthropic giving and to educate them about ing plays and symphony concerts, and a new love is watching The Metropolitan Opera
needs within their communities. She is also a member of The Coastal Conservation in high definition, shown in theaters in Columbia and Summerville.” She and her hus-
League and the Nature Conservancy of South Carolina; both groups work toward band have two grown, married sons. Dr. David Kammer is an emergency department
the preservation of natural resources. Judy attempts to promote preservation efforts resident in Charlotte and is married to Erika, a disability policy specialist. Jonathan
by educating government officials of environmental (and sometimes health) concerns. Kammer is a fifth-grade special needs support teacher at KIPP Charter School in
She is also a past member of the Florence 2010 Committee, which shaped Philadelphia and is married to Shannon, a pre-med student, math teacher, and mod-
the vision for the revitalization of Florence’s downtown, and she is currently part of ern dancer. While the Kammers somewhat patiently await the arrival of grandchil-
a committee working, in conjunction with the Downtown Development dren, Judy continues to pour her heart into service, knowing this truth from Margaret
Corporation, to bring chamber music to that area of the city. Judy and the other Mead – “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change
members are working diligently to promote the upcoming concert – the Aurora the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”
Musicalis Trio on November 22 at 4:00 (tickets may be purchased at Porter’s Gift
Shop and the Art Trail Gallery).
Cookie Cawthon is just plumb crazy in Flo-town these days – loving her life and her man – chasing her dream, her cheerleader, and her gymnast.
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The Entrepreneur
cynthia
“I am waiting on the Lord to
see what He has in store.”
The dream of owning her own business first came to Cynthia as a young sories. Her husband said,“It’s time to go!”
girl who loved sewing clothes for her Barbie doll. She had a natural love for all Suppertime was just not the same, as cus-
kinds of sewing, including embroidery, cross-stitch, etc. She even sewed all her tomers called in for an appointment. So,
clothing as she got older and more experienced. she rented a space in her hometown of
Cynthia’s mother taught her the basics of sewing. She learned even Johnsonville to house the inventory and to
more in Home Economics class under Mrs. Genevieve Weaver; she taught her the be near home and school for her family’s benefit.
importance of paying attention to the small details like ironing as you sew. In 1986, CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT-person-
Cynthia also loved to read, so she purchased and read Simplicity How To Sew and alized fashion showings in the convenience of your
the Vogue Sewing Book and taught herself tailoring. home or office moved to a shop on Main Street in
By the time she was in high school, she knew she wanted to own her Johnsonville, SC.
own dress shop. She made plans to attend Winthrop University and major in Two beautiful ladies, Winnie Cox and Dean
Fashion Merchandising with a minor in Home Economics. Back then, you could Richardson, were working for her, and they worked
get a double major and study in Paris your senior year of college. Cynthia together for almost seventeen years. Although Dean
thought she would have many career options with this line of study since she retired and Winnie passed away as a result of lung
could also be qualified to teach fashion or Home Economics or pursue the dream cancer, in the beginning, they were instrumental in
of owning her own business and getting married and having children. implementing the business standards that are still in
Cynthia’s dream was put on hold when she met the love of her life, her place today with their fine Christian character.
husband,Terry Poston. They were engaged to be married by the time she finished Cynthia, a young business owner at age 24, and Dean
high school at age seventeen. Terry was a tobacco farmer and wanted a stay-at- and Winnie’s mature, guiding force helped to make
home wife. Cynthia agreed to marry him right out of high school at age eight- the venture a success.
een because she thought having a husband and family that loved her was more Again, it soon became apparent that a more
important than a college education. convenient location for her clients was necessary. In
After one year at home, Cynthia still dreamed of owning her own busi- 1998, after much prayer and seeking the Lord’s will, a
ness – a dress shop. She decided to attend Florence-Darlington Technical College prime real estate location was offered in the busy
and get the two-year Associate Degree in Fashion Merchandising/Marketing. It Five Points area of Florence in the SHOPS OF 7
was her only option in the Pee Dee area at the time since she wanted to com- OAKS. CYNTHIA-ladies fine apparel and accessories
mute from home, work on the farm and work three part-time jobs to pay for is presently located here at 1935 Hoffmeyer Road. The Lord blessed her with a
tuition, books, gas and other necessities. beautiful new store.
Cynthia graduated in 1980 – with honors. During her time at FDTC, The decision to open CYNTHIA SHOES came naturally. Over the years
she was exposed to a book by Stanley Marcus, Minding the Store, about the as a personal shopper (fashion stylist), she had recommended shoes from local
famous Neiman Marcus stores. Now, even more than before, Cynthia wanted to merchants to her clients. In May 2008, she realized that the best shoe stores had
own a fine apparel store with great customer service like she read about. closed, and the market was wide open for a fine shoe store. Cynthia proposed
Her husband had patiently waited for her to graduate but was anxious the idea to her husband, who wholeheartedly said, “Let’s do it! That is a great
to start their family. Soon, they had a beautiful baby boy,Travis, the following year idea!”
on October 14, 1981, four years after their marriage. She was so encouraged by his response because after twenty-five years
Nonetheless, Cynthia still dreamed of owning her own store; therefore, in the clothing business, she knew her husband believed in her to do this.
the idea of CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT came about so that she could still be Therefore, CYNTHIA-ladies fine shoes and accessories came to be and is now
at home with her, then, three-year-old old son and work part-time. At age 24, celebrating its first year in business. It is a natural complement to the clothing
the dream began with a $500 loan from her local bank, a market trip to the store.
Charlotte Merchandise Mart and a desire to work part-time and raise her son. From the many years of operating the clothing store that helped with
CYNTHIA BY APPOINTMENT-personalized fashion showings in the conven- the opening of the shoe store, Cynthia has relied on Proverbs 22:1,“A good name
ience of your home or office was established. is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and
Word-of-mouth advertising was tremendous! While Cynthia was at an gold.” She lives by the following beliefs: Faithfulness, God is faithful and He hears
appointment, the client would call a friend or relative while she was still there and answers prayer; Reputation, the clothing store name gave the shoe store a
and set up her next appointment. The client would tell her friends, “You’ve just solid name; Consistency in advertising. You have to keep the business name in
got to see the beautiful things Cynthia has, and she will accessorize and coordi- front of the public so when they are ready to buy (shop), they remember to shop
nate your wardrobe at the same time!” at CYNTHIA.
Unknowingly, Cynthia gathered lots of valuable information at these Cynthia’s recipe for success and how she remains successful comes from
appointments. She worked with her clients’ clothing and shoes. She learned their her trust in the following two Scriptures: Psalms 127:1,2,“Except the Lord build the
likes and dislikes and their lifestyle from their work and home, which was invalu- house, they labour in vain that build it; except the Lord keep the city, the watchman
able to Cynthia as the business grew. With this insight, she was able to carry jew- waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread
elry and accessories, in addition to clothing. Cynthia was a personal shopper for of sorrows for so he giveth his beloved sheep,” and Psalm 128:1,2: “Blessed is every-
her newfound clientele. one that feareth the Lord, that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labour of
Within two years, the business had outgrown its original space. thine hands, happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee.” (continued...)
Cynthia’s kitchen was her office with the dining room full of clothing and acces-
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The toughest part of owning her own business has
been balancing career and family. That really hit hard when Cynthia’s only son,
Travis, was killed in a tragic automobile accident in 2001. The reason for start-
ing the business was to allow time with Travis. Now, the dream took on a differ-
ent meaning. Through the painful grieving process, the Lord opened many oppor-
tunities to minister and witness at work for Cynthia. II Corinthians 12, verses 9
and 10 give her strength: “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee;
for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly, therefore will I rather
glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore, I
take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in dis-
tresses for Christ’s sake, for when I am weak, then am I strong.”
The most enjoyable part of owning her own business has been seeing
the smile on a client’s face when she looks in the mirror with the perfect outfit
on. Cynthia enjoys the challenge of matching the right outfit to the personality
and lifestyle that is flattering in color and silhouette for her clients. She’s happy
when a client knows she looks and feels her best! For Cynthia, achieving good
customer service is definitely the most enjoyable part of owning a business.
In regards to the future of CYNTHIA, she says, “I am waiting on the
Lord to see what He has in store. I rely on Isaiah 40:31,‘But they that wait upon
the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles,
they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.’”
Cynthia welcomed her fiftieth birthday this year and celebrates
25 years of fashion. CYNTHIA-ladies fine apparel and accessories was voted
“Best of the Pee Dee” – Best Women’s Boutique 2009. Cynthia sums it all up,“I
thank my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, for all things. God has blessed me and I
BROWN
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Emmie Lynch was born and raised in the Pee Dee. She is a graduate of the University of South Carolina and lives in Florence.
Her favorite things are writing, the outdoors and spending time with her family.
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“When we serve others with special needs and use our God-given
talents to help, I can guarantee joy and blessings beyond belief.”
Jody Jackson first met Rebecca Smith Besides being an integral part of Shepherd’s the opportunity to do this. In addition, Rebecca really
when she moved to Florence and attended senior Center, Rebecca is so much more in the community. enjoys people and opportunities to organize and develop
activities at Shepherd’s Center of the Pee Dee and She is a member of Central United Methodist Church groups that help all people. Every time she is able to
joined the Pee Dee Chapter of AARP. Rebecca was the where she presently teaches an adult Sunday school serve others, she feels that she is the one blessed. She
Inspirational Chairperson and provided short messages class on a regular basis and serves as a Circle Leader. In says, “It is difficult to describe the joy I feel when I am
at the beginning of monthly meetings. Jody says that addition, she chairs the Pee Dee Group of the Make-A- able to help anyone – children or older adults.”
Rebecca’s topics were always interesting; they had a Wish Foundation of South Carolina, an organization to Seeing and helping a child or young person with
message without being pushy. In nominating Rebecca serve children and young people with life-threatening ill- a life-threatening illness and being able to grant some-
for the REMARKABLE WOMEN issue, Jody proclaims, nesses from ages two and a half until they reach their thing that they want truly touches her heart. However,
“She inspires me to live up to what she believes I can eighteenth birthday. She helps interview children and as an older adult, she knows that people, as a group, have
do.” After learning Rebecca’s story, we were inspired to families who are recommended by physicians, social some very special needs. Organizations such as
share it with you. workers or their parents. Approximately twelve to fif- Shepherd’s Center bring people together with the pur-
Rebecca is the Volunteer Chairman of the teen wishes are granted in this area annually. pose of keeping them involved and active. She likes peo-
Florence Chapter of Shepherd’s Center of the Pee Dee. AARP and The Florence League of Women ple and the challenge of helping develop an organization
Shepherd’s Center is a faith-based, non-denominational Voters are organizations she joined to keep her aware of to promote continued learning activities, to promote
organization for persons fifty and older, associated with local and national issues that are important to older good use of time and providing fellowship, Bible Study
Shepherd’s Center of America. The group is one of thir- adults. Two educational groups that she works with are and opportunities to support various charities and proj-
teen Centers in South Carolina. They meet ten consec- Delta Kappa Gamma and Kappa Kappa Iota. Having ects in her community.
utive Thursdays during the winter, spring and fall. been an educator for thirty-eight years, serving as an Rebecca sums up her love of being involved and
Sessions consist of Adventures in Learning, Bible Study, Elementary Teacher, the first Elementary Guidance helping people: “I learned a long time ago that involving
Arts and Crafts, community projects, cards and hand- Counselor in Florence and then as an Elementary others will make a group stronger and helps us feel that
work. In addition, the Center sponsors a monthly Book Principal for fifteen years, these organizations give her this is our organization. We have grown because mem-
Club and trips. Reverend Tom Pietila introduced this current information about educational issues and fellow- bers tell friends and they come to enjoy the fun! If you
organization to the Florence community. It has been in ship with both active and retired educators. She is also walk into one of the sessions at Shepherd’s Center, you
existence for five years and continues to grow. The a member of The Daughters of the American Revolution would see smiles on the faces of those in attendance, and
membership is almost one hundred members from you would see people helping others and hear lots of
(DAR), which helps her to know the history of our
Florence and several towns in the Pee Dee. Members chatter. The trips we take are also fun and the group
country and current happenings related to our country.
represent some twenty to twenty-five churches in the enjoys each other in this different activity. When we serve
One of Rebecca’s basic beliefs is that we are to
community and offer the opportunity to meet people others with special needs and use our God-given talents
share all that we have with others – our time, talents and
they perhaps would have not known otherwise. That’s to help, I can guarantee joy and blessings beyond belief.”
resources. The organizations described above give her
why this organization is very important to Rebecca.
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“There are very few people who have the years with the disease; but, during the formation of this arti- ing a trial of her own, “Sandra offered a piece
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of Sandra McCutcheon. Despite her hectic schedule and full-time job, Joyce goes on to say,“If you mention
Having three separate women write She Magazine Sandra still manages to spend time with her family and Sandra’s name to anyone in Lake City, there is
about one particular woman, Sandra, we couldn’t be more friends, rarely missing a grandchild’s event, friends in need only praise and admiration for her because of
delighted with the opportunity to meet such a remarkable of a shoulder or her very large extended family at Lake her compassion and love to all people.”
woman. A woman more “selfless, humble yet heroic, City First Baptist Church. Sandra would humbly say that she
energetic, radiant, optimistic and enduring” as Sandra was Sandra and Abbie Denny met nearly twenty-three doesn’t deserve the recognition her daughter
described by her sons, Wes and Ben McCutcheon, would years ago when they taught Kindergarten together at and very best friends,Abbie and Joyce, are giv-
overwhelm our search for the most remarkable woman. church. They had both recently lost their fathers; the loss- ing her. She would deny all allegations of being
From the outside looking in, life’s obstacles es were extremely difficult. But, with each other to lean such a thing as a “Shero.” However, her
appear only as small hills untraceable by any technologies on, it helped heal the open wounds. Abbie learned quick- daughter, Lisa, proclaims, “All who know her
such as Google Earth when placed in the pathway of ly that she would continue to need the support of her dear realize immediately that she is definitely a
Sandra. Through years of caring for her husband, Benjamin, friend, Sandra, because she lost her sister to breast cancer Shero.”
she managed to not only pull through, but do it with a wel- and then found out that she, herself, had colon cancer. When I first met Sandra, I couldn’t help to be
coming smile the size of the sun glowing through her day. “Sandra never left my side. She called me every day to taken in by her natural beauty. It made me wonder,“Could
Benjamin has had Parkinson’s disease for nearly 26 years. make sure I had something to eat and would often stop by a woman this beautiful on the outside really be that truly
Recently, he has had some complications, but Sandra refus- just to keep me company,” Abbie says of her very best beautiful on the inside?” It only took me minutes to
es to let this get them down. friend. Best friend doesn’t adequately describe the rela- answer my own question, “Yes!”
She begins her day caring for her husband at 6 tionship between Abbie and Sandra. In fact, Abbie says She was lovely. From the small conversations we
A.M. Because of her many daily chores and her caring Sandra feels more like a sister and was moved to tears had, I was immediately overwhelmed by her selflessness.
assistance to anyone who needs her, Sandra’s day never while trying to put words to how much she loves and She wouldn’t take the picture for She by herself, believing
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with the caring of Benjamin, she took on the task of caring Sandra later met Joyce Lamb while they were were pouring her way.
for her very own mother who suffered from Alzheimer’s. both employees at Dr. Lyn Denny’s. Joyce knew that she Remarkable is an understatement for a woman of
Sandra was devoted to having her mother comfortable loved Sandra for her kind words, smiling face and genuine Sandra’s magnitude. If we could all be a little more like her,
when the disease she had was so very uncomfortable. personality. She began noticing how truly genuine she was it seems like the world would be such a nicer place.
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blessings weren’t enough, she also took care of her brother everyone, not only at work but with whomever she came learn that when times are tough, we can look to the Lord
who had Lou Gehrig’s disease. He remarkably lived fifteen in contact with. Joyce remembers very well as she was fac- and our friends to help make our way through.
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Bath and Body Works has their holiday scents out now. Of course, they have ed while holding various choices in his lap. How thankful I am for his patient nature,
for awhile since stores are pressing to begin the holidays earlier and earlier each year. as I continuously pray for a look at the “big picture” in order to keep my strength
Somehow this year they at least managed to wait until after July fourth before clear- and sanity.
ing aisles and moving merchandise to make room for the trees and tinsel. I do wish Laughing, though not so small or easily unnoticed when around many of
they would bide their time a bit better; allow us to fully enjoy one holiday before mov- my friends, is another one I don’t know what I would do without major doses of,
ing onto another. But Bath and body Works is a bit different than regular holiday décor daily. It makes me so happy to be able to name more than ten people who are close
and beautiful scents and fragrances are quite a necessary part of ushering in my holi- to me that can produce a nice belly laugh on demand. I’m so glad my life includes
day spirits. laughter regularly.And I am truly appreciative of the presence of these things in my
Mama used to make the house smell so good during the holidays by taking world. How comforting it is to look around and see all the small parts and pieces
old fruit that she had frozen and sticking them into a steaming tea kettle on the stove that I wouldn’t want to live without.They make time so much sweeter.And the tem-
with cinnamon sticks and cloves. I never knew a bad orange could smell so good! And peratures seem to be bringing us weather that lends itself nicely to these aromas
Granny always had something cooking, whether it was a holiday or not, so her house flickering through my room now. I am so enjoying this cozy time. I am so looking
always smelled like comfort and joy. My aunt was one to have a fresh pot of coffee forward to re-visiting these smells and sites and sounds day after day for the next
going each time she entered the kitchen and I knew that she felt so comforted by that several months. I am so thankful to be aware of the rich details of a blessed life and
warm, rich smell, holding the cup as she drank it. In Camden there is always a pie wait- a grateful holiday spirit.
ing for the most opportune moment to slice and Russian Tea if I make mention of it
before I visit my grandparents there.
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W by Ouida K. Page
hen change comes to our lives, it always seems to be at an inconvenient
time. Maybe that’s because most of us just don’t like change anyway. Sometimes,
things just happen. For example, some women have lost their jobs because of the econo-
my, or they had to quit their job and move with their husband because he had to find a new
job in another state or town when he lost his job. Either way, they had to essentially start over
in the business world. This is always a very stressful period of time and may even be considered
a crisis. It is also a chance for this individual to grow spiritually, emotionally and maybe even edu-
cationally.
Growing can be hard – and even painful. This isn’t something we want to hear because it’s
very hard to grow and to have to change, especially if it wasn’t our idea to begin with. This type
of situation pulls on every fiber of our being and uses all of our personal resources, talents, gifts –
and our faith in God.
Going back to school today is very different from attending school ten, even twenty years
ago. Applying for a job is also vastly different. One of my degrees is a B.S. in Nursing. In the
past, I could take my résumé and go door-to-door to different hospitals or facil-
ities and interview and have a new job – or even a better paying job – in
approximately one week, ten days at the longest. Today, this is unheard of.
You have to apply online and the entire process is very different. You have to
wait and hope that you get a call from someone who probably doesn’t know you
and has never met you.
School, on the other hand, is all e-mail stuff. The exam you take may be sent to you
by e-mail, your term papers are sent to the professor via e-mail, and you search for library
books at on-line libraries, etc. Everyone uses PowerPoint for presentations in class. And, if your
professor cancels class, you’ll get the message via e-mail.
This is all vastly different, and the best way to be prepared for change is to try and keep up with as
many of the technological advances as possible. This helps you prepare for what comes next. If you hate your
current job, rather than just quit in this economy, I would devise a plan. Decide what job you want and figure out
all the details involved in procuring and securing that specific job. It would be excellent if you could get a copy of the
written job description so you will have a better idea of what you are getting yourself into. Also, figure out if you possess all
the required skill sets. You may need to take a college course to become more up-to-date and ready to compete with the mar-
ket and be prepared for other competitive factors.
Have you considered starting your own business or considered going back to school to make a complete career
change? Maybe it’s time to pursue a lifelong dream. People age physically, of course, but most people don’t feel that their minds
have changed or slowed down. In other words, if you’re in good physical condition, then it’s never too late to go back to school.
According to research, it may take some adults a little longer to learn new material, but they have so many other advantages
over younger students.
Focus on the positive gifts and characteristics that you possess. Just don’t give up. Be tenacious and consistent, and
you’ll accomplish whatever goals you set. Don’t let people rob you of your “second act” if that’s what you desire to achieve.
And, don’t let fear stop you and prevent your success.
Ouida K. Page is a Master’s Prepared Licensed Professional and National Board Certified Counselor. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Nursing
and is a member of Sigma Theta Tau (International Honor Society of Nursing). She has been in private practice in the Hartsville and
Florence areas for over 15 years, specializing in families and issues relating to children, adolescents and women of all ages.
You may contact her by e-mailing editor@shemagazine.com with “Ouida” as the subject matter.
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two years. That way, I’ll have two degrees in four years.
HIGH SCHOOL: Wilson High School SPARE TIME: When I’m not working, studying or at
DREAM JOB: My dream job is to be a News Anchor on my church (First Church of Our Lord Jesus Christ), I’m
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part of the Wilson High School Gospel Choir. Both of ing out with my friends; they are so funny; but, most of
these activities were a lot of fun and I’m still inspired by SCHOOL ACTIVITIES: Currently I’m in work-study all, they are loyal.
them. The News Team, especially, because this is when I at FDTC as an Administrative Assistant and was chosen
found out what I really wanted to do for a living. to be the Ambassador for the Fatherhood and Families BIGGEST LEARNING EXPERIENCE AS A
Engagement Program. This is a program designed to help COLLEGE STUDENT: That’s definitely learning to
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school, I was exhausted, so I didn’t start college right productive citizens by counseling, workshop classes, WPDE News Channel 15 on several occasions. She is a
away. I started FDTC during the spring of 08. I was GED preparation, job training and employment assis- wonderful person, and I love all the time I get to spend
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FURTHER EDUCATION PLANS: Because of the From working here, I’ve been blessed with the opportu- Christ. And, Michelle Obama – she is virtually a super-
program that I’m involved in called Student Support nity to have my own Internet radio show on www.scvil- woman!
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maturely” as my children tell me) for the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons. our Heavenly Father.
This year, though, for the first time in my life, those warm, fuzzy, festive feelings I know my DaDa wants me to enjoy this Thanksgiving. He wants me to
are absent. It’s not that I’ve lost my love for these special holidays, it’s still there. cook and hum in the kitchen. He wants me to smother those poor vegetables in
It’s just buried beneath an avalanche of pain and sad memories. cream of mushroom soup and cheese and all the ingredients needed to take them
This November will mark the one-year anniversary of the death of my from their natural state to a good ol’ Southern casserole. He wants me to love
DaDa. He went to be with the Lord the day before Thanksgiving last year. On on my mother and hug my children and remember him with laughter. Most of all,
Thanksgiving Day, I felt so much grief that I didn’t even think of it as Thanksgiving. he wants us to never, ever forget how much he loves us. That, I can do.
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Dr. Andrei Talantov is an Inpatient Physician (Hospitalist) at
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Andrei Talantov, MD
Diabetes Mellitus - How Do We Define It? Diabetic Amputations:
Diabetes mellitus is a condition in which a person has chronically raised blood • Amputations are 15 times more likely in people with diabetes
glucose concentration. It is caused by an insufficient level of the • There are approximately 80,000 lower extremity amputations per year
hormone insulin, which is produced by the pancreas. related to diabetes complications
• 50% of the patients have an amputation on their other extremity within
Diagnosis of Diabetes: 3-5 years
• The direct cost of amputations is over $600 million per year
• Fasting Blood Glucose > 125 on two occasions • The average cost per amputation $25,000-$40,000
• Random Glucose > 200 in patients with symptoms of diabetes
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What is the Prevalence and Impact of Diabetes in the United (2 - 6 times). Even more serious, the life expectancy in people with Type 1
States? diabetes is reduced by about 15 years, and by about 5 years in people with
Type 2 diabetes.
Prevalence and Incidence of Diabetes:
Economic Costs of Diabetes:
• There are more than 24 million people with diabetes in the country
• Approximately 90% of these people have Type 2 diabetes (adult onset) • $138 billion total costs
• More than 3 million new cases of diabetes were diagnosed in the last 2 years • Two-thirds of diabetes expenditures are related to complications
• Diabetes is the seventh leading cause of death in our nation • 25% of the total Medicare budget is devoted to the treatment of
(According to the Centers of Disease Control, 2008 data) diabetes and its complications (more than $30 billion a year)
The prevalence of diabetes is 13.7% among all men in the United Sates and The financial impact on people living with diabetes is great as well.The average
11.7% among women. Across the nation, age-standardized diabetes is out-of-pocket medical expense for people with diabetes is nearly three times
highest in Mississippi,West Virginia, Louisiana,Texas, South Carolina, Alabama, that of the general population. In addition, it is often difficult for people with
and Georgia (15.8 - 16.6% for men and 12.4 - 14.8% for women). Vermont, diabetes to obtain medical and life insurance.
Minnesota, Montana, and Colorado have the lowest prevalence
(11.0 - 12.2% for men and 7.3 - 8.4% for women). Prevention of Complications:
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