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Lisa Lawrence Mas!r of Arts in Digital Teaching and Learning Fai" In!gra#on Worksheet EDUC 526

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Unfortunately, my husband and I got into a pretty good argument this weekend. It seems as though we get into these types of ghts way to often anymore. Instead of our one time decision maker of WWJD, we tend to rely on What Would Lisa/Randy Do. So my decision is this, do I continue the ght because I am made and want to prove a point? Or, do I apologize, humble myself and return to the WWJD mentality and attempt to strengthen and mend my marriage?!

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Scripture:!

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Tradition:!

1 Cor 13:4-7 James 5:16 Ephesians 4:32 I have to say that I teared up when I the Corinthian passage popped on up my google search. We recited this verse to each other at our wedding and we actually have this tattooed on ourselves. So why then, do I forget this way to often. We are called to love one another, be patient and kind. If I abided by these Godly laws I dont think we would have even gotten into a ght. The James and Ephesian verses stress prayer and having a forgiving and tender heart. If I wasnt so stubborn, I could/ should be able to make a decision easily; pray, forgive, ask for forgiveness, be righteous and not right. However, my esh is saying, he is supposed to be the leader, why isnt he apologizing?

If I were to decide based off traditions, I have three traditions I am accustomed to when dealing with marital conict. My childhood tradition, I would ignore my husband for days and days; until we nally just moved on, without working it out or solving the issue. If I were to decide based off tradition from when we rst met and were married, if we even fought, I would just apologize; he would apologize. However, if recent years tradition took over, we would ght, sleep in separate beds for days, ignore each other, then nally move on without discussing it. Now I know what tradition is healthiest and most Godly. Unfortunately, I am not the Christian today I was 8+ years ago; today I am not the wife I was 8+ years ago either.

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If I were to use reasoning to decide this conict, I would have to weigh the pros and cons of the ght and the outcome. If I were to weigh these pros and cons based on the stability of my marriage (or sanctity of my marriage), the pros of just apologizing would be no or less days lost of getting along, a quick resolution, and an overall happier present day life. If I were to weigh the cons of apologizing, I would feel like the same thing keeps happening over and over without resolution, I would also feel again, like it is always me who apologizes and that I may look weak and vulnerable to future ghts.

For this argument, if I was to use the best past experience in resolving this issue, it would be to apologize hands down; suck it up, acknowledge my faults, dont point out my husbands faults no matter what, because he just gets mad. However, based on experience, if/when I do this, nothing gets really resolved. The ght goes away, but the issue is left unresolved. My best experience in solving issues, is honestly to use all three quadrants when solving a conict.!

I unfortunately do not always use all four quadrants when solving conict. I think I start off trying to solve problems and issues using a combination of the three, but tend to be too stubborn headed and rely solely on my reasoning; which is not necessarily good reasoning, it is just my reasoning. The !

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difference between scripture reasoning and tradition reasoning in simple; God. When using scripture, I rely on Gods word and law; the right and only way to life and living. When I rely on tradition, I rely on how I am accustomed to solving conict; whether right to wrong. When my faith is good and strong, and I am feeling connected and committed to my faith, i think I use the scripture quad rant as my leading force to solve resolution, with a combination of tradition, reason and experience to help justify or reassure my decision. I think my using these quadrants and this process to solve issues, I will be able to make a more well rounded, public school decision, to solve conict, Although deep down inside, I think I know using scripture to solve problems is always the sure re way to resolve conict, it is not always accepted in a public school forum. I think by having a godly, scripture based reasoning, combined with tradition, reason, and experience, I can and will make the best decisions possible for my students, myself staff and the law. As a teacher,

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as a child of God, I need to put Gods law as the leading force to solving problems, while entertaining tradition, reasoning and experience. Combined, these four will help me make the most just, fair and logical choices possible.!

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As for my marriage issue, I think if I started off my thinking about scripture before we started arguing, the ght never would have happened. But now, I need to reread and remember the importance of His scripture and the importance of love, kindness and forgiving. If I think about these, I really dont need any

other driving force to solve my conict; Gods way is THE way, in ALL ways.

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