Overcoming Issues Of Jealousy And Trust

by Candice Garcia

It's inevitable in any relationship, the issue of jealousy and trust, that is. Perhaps you feel that
it has come too soon, for you've only been dating for a few months. But strong feelings bring
all your emotional nerve endings to the surface, which makes suspicions that much more
intense.

For some, jealousy is such an ugly emotion that most of us feel, in one way or another. Some
can justify the feeling, most simply can't. Some feel it and let it pass, though some are
consumed by it, ending up falling into a rage and refuse to forgive the other.

Jealousy happens in all relationships. To get jealous is human and usually occurs when we
want to protect what we think belong to us. No one for sure will tell you she/he hasn't been
jealous at one point in her/his life. Jealousy is also one of the reasons why people breakup.
But really there are ways to overcome the ugly emotion, if you really want to.

Many people believe that they only fall in love with people who share their views on trust.
Sadly, in real life, it doesn't always turn out that way. That's why you need to talk about it. If
you're having some issues of jealousy and trust, best thing to do is to look back. Look back
and see what are your expectations. You'll soon realize that maybe you have different views,
with that it doesn't make either of you wrong or right.

Be fair and ignore little things, these are just some of the things you should commit to
yourself to resolve the issues of jealousy and trust. Try to put yourself into his shoes, then
ask yourself... Do you like to be in that position? Do you like to be always interrogated
whenever he sees you with a guy friend? Of course not. Ignore things that are not worthy of
your attention. Have confidence about what you have in the relationship.

It takes much effort, not only on your part, but on your partner as well to have a great
relationship that you aspire. Love is an endless work. The more you want to grow, the more
you have to put forth an effort to make it work. Resolving the issues of jealousy and trust is
just one of those issues in a relationship that requires effort. But then again, you still got a
choice. A choice to let go when you're hurting too much, a choice to move on when things
aren't sweeter like before and a choice to give up when love isn't enough anymore.

I used to be jealous over my cats because my boyfriend tend to ignore me when my cats
starts to purr and smooch all over him. But then I realized, same thing goes when I'm in his
position. Bringing that realization to life has made me overcome my issues of jealousy and
trust. Perhaps that realization can help you too. Why are you jealous? And what is that you
fear anyway?